Tag: extramarital

Cheaters are using the ‘bell pepper code’ in supermarkets to find potential lovers

The key findings

* A shocking proposal was made in an online forum, suggesting people in unhappy relationships who are looking to have an affair should use the ‘bell pepper code’ to signal their availability.
* The forum post suggests people should place two bell peppers in their basket or trolley to grab the attention of potential lovers.

* The discussion has received a flurry of positive responses which is causing concern for couples, as one user points out they’ve “Never seen so much traffic on a forum topic!”

* The post on the IllicitEncounters.com ‘Flirt Forum’ is just one of many unconventional topics discussed.

In a bizarre new twist on food shopping, a growing number of people looking for extramarital fun are reportedly using bell peppers as a secret code to signal their availability in supermarkets.

The controversial discussion took place on extramarital dating site IllicitEncounters.com’s ‘Flirt Forum’, where one user came up with an outrageous idea to discreetly meet potential lovers in the most unlikely of places. “What if we start a secret code in the most mundane place of all – THE SUPERMARKET,” the poster suggested. “It’s perfect! No one would ever suspect that your weekly food shop could lead to something a lot more… sizzling.”

The plan, according to this member, is simple: if you’re looking for a little more excitement than what’s on your shopping list, you just place two bell peppers in your basket or trolley – but with a crucial twist: the stems must be facing downward. 

The idea quickly caught the attention of users on the forum, with one person declaring they had “Never seen so much traffic on a forum topic!”

One particularly practical member suggested that perhaps an additional step was needed: “Maybe we need to choose a specific part in the supermarket to wander off to when you’ve picked up your two peppers because otherwise it’d be too hard. Frozen aisles?”

The forum post gained a shockingly positive response from a flurry of members, with some declaring they’ll be testing the method, “This could make my food shop WAY more interesting. Upside down peppers it is! Definitely going to try this out.” Another user agreed, saying “I’d 100% do this! Would be so funny to see people eyeing up what everyone’s got in their trollies to check if they’re looking for an affair”.

Some people even posted their own suggestions on which vegetables to use. One user teased, “Surely you just need to seductively walk around with an aubergine,” whilst another said “Surely a big cucumber standing upright would be more appropriate?”

Expert comment from Jessica Leoni

Commenting on the discussion which took place on the extramarital dating site, spokesperson for IllicitEncounters.com Jessica Leoni, said “While we normally encourage discretion in these matters, we never thought we’d see the day where people would be checking out each other’s vegetables in the supermarket – and not in the way you’d expect! If this catches on, I suppose we can only hope everyone’s keeping their cool in the frozen food aisle.”

The secret to a happy marriage? Study reveals it’s a ‘sleep divorce’

The key findings

* 76% of people who admitted to cheating on their partner revealed they still share the same bed with them, suggesting the secret to marital bliss is actually a ‘sleep divorce’.

* Sexpert Jessica Leoni revealed that sleeping in the same bed as your spouse can lead to tension in a relationship, but many fear that staying in separate bedrooms is a sign of failure.

* Study conducted by IllicitEncounters.com, the UK’s largest extramarital dating site.

In a shocking new study, it seems the key to a long-lasting and happy marriage may not lie in romantic getaways or date nights, but in something far more unexpected – sleeping apart. 

The poll by IllicitEncounters.com, which surveyed 2,000 people (1,000 men and 1,000 women), has uncovered a growing trend among couples who are saying goodbye to the traditional shared bed and embracing a ‘sleep divorce’.

According to the findings, a staggering 76% of people who admitted to cheating on their partner are still sharing the same bed. In contrast, only 24% of those who cheat sleep in separate bedrooms. The numbers have sparked debate over whether sleeping together could be driving couples apart rather than bringing them closer.

A ‘sleep divorce’ isn’t as dramatic as it sounds. In fact, it’s a growing trend where couples intentionally choose to sleep apart to preserve their relationship. Far from being a sign of trouble, many couples who opt for sleep divorces say it actually strengthens their bond by removing the irritations that come with sharing a bed – like snoring, restless nights, or mismatched sleep patterns.

While the idea might seem unromantic, it’s becoming increasingly popular, even among celebrities. Stars like Bette Midler and Joe Swash have gone public about sleeping separately from their partners, praising the arrangement for the positive impact it’s had on their relationships. Whilst Cat Deeley and Patrick Kielty also revealed they sleep in separate bedrooms, prioritising sleep quality and personal space to keep their relationship strong.

Expert comment from Jessica Leoni

Jessica Leoni, a sex and relationships expert at IllicitEncounters.com, explained that many couples are increasingly realising that sharing a bed might be more of a habit than a necessity. “Many couples feel like they should share a bed because that’s what’s expected,” Leoni says. “But if one partner is tossing and turning or there’s emotional distance between them, it can make things worse. A ‘sleep divorce’ can sometimes reduce that tension, giving couples space to sleep better and reconnect.”

But what about couples who continue to share a bed despite being in an unhappy relationship? The study revealed a significant number of these individuals are cheating on their partners – yet they still choose to sleep in the same bed.

One participant in the poll, Sarah, confessed that even though she’d been unfaithful for over a year, she still shares the same bed with her husband. “It’s complicated,” she admitted. “On the surface, everything looks fine. We’ve got kids, a house, and a routine. But it’s all a facade. The truth is, we’re both miserable, but neither of us wants to admit it. 

Sharing a bed feels like one of the last things we’re holding onto, even though it’s really only for appearances. I’m cheating because I feel emotionally disconnected, but I guess we sleep together because we’re both too afraid of the alternative – it would make it all too real.”

Leoni believes that cases like Sarah’s are more common than people think. “Cheating often happens because one partner feels unfulfilled,” she explains. “But instead of addressing the root issue, many couples stay stuck in old patterns, like sharing a bed, to maintain the image of a ‘normal’ marriage. They’re afraid that sleeping separately will be seen as a sign of failure. But the truth is, a ‘sleep divorce’ could be exactly what’s needed to heal the relationship – or at least start the conversation.”

“I’m Not Sorry for Cheating: It’s a Better Alternative to Antidepressants”

The key findings

* Georgia, 51 from Maidenhead, claims having an affair saved her from the emotional and physical neglect in her marriage, improving her mental health and confidence.

* A study by the UK’s largest extramarital dating site reveals that 81% of participants found their mental health improved after cheating.

Expert comment from Jessica Leoni

* Sex and relationship expert at IllicitEncounters.com, Jessica Leoni reveals how over the past 20 years, the platform has helped people trapped in unfulfilling marriages find emotional and physical satisfaction.

In a society where loyalty in relationships is considered the highest virtue, Georgia*, 51, has boldly gone against the grain. After over 20 years of marriage and nearly a decade in a sexless relationship, she found a controversial but, in her words, life-saving solution – having an affair. And she’s not apologising for it.

Georgia, a mother of two grown children, says she had endured years of emotional and physical neglect in her marriage. “My husband and I grew apart over the years. He’s much older than me, and we slowly became more like housemates than a couple. We barely talk, and we’ve slept in separate bedrooms for as long as I can remember. This arrangement worked for a while, but after I turned 50, something shifted inside me.”

Feeling desperate and invisible in her own home, Georgia joined IllicitEncounters.com, the UK’s largest extramarital dating site where people in unhappy marriages seek connections outside their relationship. At first, she admits she thought she was just looking for physical satisfaction, but she soon realised her needs ran much deeper.

“Being in a sexless relationship for a decade affected my mental health. I was lonely, unseen, and unheard. I thought casual sex would fill the void, but it was emotional intimacy I craved too. When I met my lover through IllicitEncounters, everything changed. He noticed me. He made me feel alive again.”

The affair, Georgia says, was like an emotional life raft. “Having an affair has definitely improved my mental health. I was incredibly depressed before, often turning to alcohol and comfort foods to cope with my loneliness. But now, I feel validated. I have emotional intimacy, affection, and sex – all the things I was missing. I’m more forgiving of myself for acknowledging that I have needs, both physical and emotional.”

The positive impact of the affair on Georgia’s life has extended beyond the bedroom. Since beginning her secret romance, Georgia has cut back on drinking, started making healthier food choices, and even found the motivation to hit the gym. “My body shape has changed, my self-confidence has soared, and I love the way I feel about myself now. I no longer feel like I’m wasting my life.”

Georgia’s story is far from unique. In a recent poll conducted by IllicitEncounters.com involving 2,500 people, a staggering 81% of those who have had affairs said that cheating improved their mental health. For many, stepping outside their marriage wasn’t just about sexual fulfilment – it was about reclaiming a sense of self-worth and escaping the emotional isolation of an unhappy relationship.

Sex and relationships expert at IllicitEncounters.com, Jessica Leoni, commented on the study and Georgia’s story, “For over 20 years, IllicitEncounters has helped people trapped in unfulfilling marriages find emotional and physical satisfaction. The reality is that many individuals feel suffocated and unseen in their relationships. Having an affair, for some, is a way of seeking happiness and mental clarity. It can be an opportunity for personal growth, self-discovery, and even healing.”

Leoni goes on to explain that many users of the site view their affairs as an essential outlet to maintain their sanity in otherwise bleak circumstances. “The mental health benefits cannot be ignored. For some, having an affair is more effective than therapy or antidepressants in alleviating feelings of loneliness and depression. Not all affairs should be considered bad. In some cases they really are saving lives.”

Georgia doesn’t regret her decision to step outside her marriage. If anything, she’s more self-aware and in control of her own happiness than she’s been in years. “My affair opened my eyes to what I was missing, and it gave me the courage to focus on my well-being. It’s not just about sex – it’s about feeling valued and understood. I’m not sorry for it. In fact, I think more people in my situation should consider it.”

*Name has been changed

“I’m a sex and relationships expert and this is why people are opting for risky sex on public transport”

The key findings

* A new study has revealed 63% of married people have engaged in sexual encounters while on the move.

* The most popular modes of transport for intimacy include cars (68%), trains (15%), buses (11%), ferries (4%) and planes (2%).

Expert comment from Jessica Leoni

* Sexpert Jessica Leoni explains that the “excitement and adrenaline” that comes with public sex is the reason why it’s become so popular.

* Study conducted by IllicitEncounters.com, the UK’s largest extramarital dating site

Public, high-stakes intimacy seems to be soaring to new heights – literally.  

According to new data from IllicitEncounters.com, 1 in 50 people have joined the notorious Mile High Club.

It’s not just everyday people indulging in these high-flying affairs – celebrities have also been open about their mid-air exploits including pop star Lily Allen who spoke publicly about joining the Mile High Club with Liam Gallagher in 2009 – whilst Gallagher was still married to his wife at the time, Nicole Appleton. 

The survey, which polled 2,000 members, revealed that a staggering 63% have engaged in sexual encounters while on the move.

With 2% of people opting for fun in the clouds, the data shows that the desire for thrills extends across various modes of transport. The most popular spots for illicit intimacy include cars (68%), trains (15%), buses (11%), and even ferries (4%).

Sarah, a frequent flyer and member of IllicitEncounters.com who took part in the survey, revealed how she ended up joining the Mile High Club – but not with her husband. “It was a business trip, and we hit it off at the airport lounge. By the time we boarded, we were already flirting. A couple of drinks later, and before I knew it, we were sneaking off to the bathroom together.”

Despite the obvious risk, Sarah wasn’t fazed. “The whole thing was thrilling – it felt like an escape from reality. I know it’s not something I’d ever do at home, but in the air, everything feels different.”

So, what makes public sex so alluring? According to Jessica Leoni, leading sex and relationships expert at IllicitEncounters.com, it’s all about the rush.

“People are drawn to public sex for the sheer excitement and adrenaline,” Leoni explains. “The fear of getting caught heightens the experience, making it more thrilling and memorable. For some, the forbidden nature of it adds an extra layer of intensity.”

She adds, “There’s also something about the environment that feels detached from reality. When people are outside their usual routine, especially on holiday or business trips, they’re more likely to act on impulses they might suppress at home.”

While these escapades might sound thrilling, they don’t come without serious risk. Getting caught in public can result in more than just embarrassment – though having sex outdoors isn’t explicitly illegal in all cases, various laws could lead to an arrest. Yet for some, the gamble only adds to the thrill.

“I had a baby with my lover like Dave Grohl and Kyle Walker – it’s always the ‘other woman’ who suffers most’’

* Melissa, 50 from the West Midlands had a relationship with a married man she met on IllicitEncounters.com in 2015 and the following year she discovered she was pregnant with his baby.

* Similar to Dave Grohl and Kyle Walker, her lover decided to stay with his wife, leaving Melissa to bring up their child as a single mother.

* She reveals that she’s still suffering from the emotional scars of the situation after he abandoned her for a comfortable life with his wife.

Celebrities like Dave Grohl and Kyle Walker have made headlines recently for fathering children with their lovers and choosing to stay married. But what about the women left behind – the mistresses who end up raising these secret babies alone?

Melissa*, a single mother, knows this pain all too well. Her story is eerily similar to those of the women tangled up in these celebrity affairs. She’s lived the emotional rollercoaster, faced the heartbreak, and, just like Grohl and Walker’s lovers, was ultimately abandoned.

It all began innocently enough for Melissa In 2015, she joined IllicitEncounters.com a website for people seeking affairs. “I actually wasn’t married, but I didn’t want anything serious. I already had a three-year-old daughter and wasn’t looking for a relationship,” she explains. 

But then she met George* a married man with grown kids, and everything changed. Their affair started hot and heavy, meeting regularly and even getting so comfortable that George began visiting her home. “He became a father figure to my daughter,” Melissa recalls. “It felt like we had something real.”

Then came the bombshell that flipped her world upside down. In December 2016, Melissa was feeling unwell and visited the hospital, only to be told she was 17 weeks pregnant. “I was in total shock – I had a contraceptive implant, so I didn’t think it was even possible!” she says.

At first, Melissa was set on having an abortion, but George insisted they keep the baby. “He turned up on my doorstep, moved in, and told his wife everything,” she reveals. His family was stunned, “They couldn’t believe it,” she adds.

It seemed like George was ready to commit to their new life, but it didn’t last.

Despite the initial excitement, things started falling apart. One day, Melissa came home to find all of George’s things gone. “He’d packed up and went back to his wife. I was devastated,” she says. “He promised he’d support me and the baby, but then had the audacity to ask me to keep being his mistress. I couldn’t believe it.”

George’s daughter even tried to stop him from going to the birth of their child by hiding his car keys. Though he eventually made it to the hospital just in time for the birth, George jetted off on holiday the next day, leaving Melissa alone with their newborn.

After his dramatic exit, Melissa was left to raise their daughter as a single mother. George did show up occasionally, taking their daughter to his family home, but his support came with strings attached. “He still wanted to sleep with me,” Melissa says. “I wasn’t going to be his mistress anymore.”

Like many women in her position, Melissa felt abandoned while George returned to his comfortable life. 

After some time, Melissa finally found happiness again with a man she met on IllicitEncounters.com who wasn’t married. But, George wasn’t happy about her moving on. “He actually took me to court, trying to get full custody of our daughter!” she says. “He didn’t win, thank God, but it was a nightmare.”

These days, Melissa and George are on better terms for the sake of their daughter. “We exchange Christmas presents and try to get along,” she admits. But the emotional scars from the affair still linger. “In the end, it’s always the ‘other woman’ who suffers the most. George went back to his wife, but I was left to pick up the pieces.”

Melissa’s story mirrors the recent headlines surrounding Dave Grohl and Kyle Walker. Both men fathered children with other women, only to return to their wives, leaving their lovers behind. 

Melissa’s experience sheds light on the hidden pain that often goes unnoticed – the emotional wreckage left behind when a man chooses his marriage over the affair, leaving the ‘other woman’ to deal with the fallout, often with a child in her arms.

*Names have been changed

Like Dave Grohl and Kyle Walker’s lovers, women having affairs fear pregnancy drama

The key findings

* News that Foo Fighters’ Dave Grohl cheated on his wife and fathered a baby with his lover has sent shockwaves worldwide.

* In both the case of Grohl and Manchester City footballer Kyle Walker, the men have decided to stay with their wives, abandoning their lovers.

* 45% of women admit that they have had a pregnancy scare whilst having an affair, and 83% of those feared being ditched by their lover if they were having a baby.

* Study conducted by IllicitEncounters.com, the UK’s largest extramarital dating site

Celebrities like Dave Grohl and Kyle Walker have made headlines for fathering secret children during their extramarital affairs, sending shockwaves through their marriages and their public lives. But while the world watches these high-profile dramas unfold, many women caught up in affairs are facing a very similar, terrifying reality – the dreaded pregnancy scare.

Affairs can be thrilling and full of passion, but the fear of an unplanned pregnancy can turn that excitement into a nightmare. In a recent poll from affairs site IllicitEncounters.com involving 2,000 women, 45% of female members admitted to having a pregnancy scare during their affair. Many of them found themselves panicking over the possibility that they could be carrying their lover’s child, just like the situations that have rocked the lives of Grohl and Walker.

For many women involved in affairs, the fear of becoming pregnant by their lover is all too real. While the media focuses on the chaos caused when famous men like Dave Grohl and Kyle Walker father children with their mistresses, what’s often missed is the emotional turmoil for the ‘other woman’.

One member currently using IllicitEncounters.com, who wanted to remain anonymous, shared her anxiety during a scare: “I missed my period, and my heart sank because I hadn’t had sex with my husband for months. The thought of being pregnant with my lover’s baby and having to explain that to my husband was horrifying. It was weeks of stress until I found out it was a false alarm, but I genuinely thought my world was about to explode.”

Of the women who experienced a pregnancy scare, 83% feared their lover would abandon them if they fell pregnant. Just like in the cases of Walker and Grohl, the man is often torn between his family and his mistress, and many choose to return to the safety of their marriage.

Expert comment from Jessica Leoni

Jessica Leoni, sex and relationships expert at IllicitEncounters.com said ‘The fear of falling pregnant during an affair is very real – many women in these situations have found themselves wondering what they would do if that scare turned into a baby. Would they be left alone to raise a child while their lover returns to his wife? 

In both the cases of Dave Grohl and Kyle Walker’s drama, it’s the mother of the child born outside of the marriage who is abandoned, while the men continue to play happy families with their wives – so this really is a legitimate fear.”

Study reveals nearly everyone is guilty of mentally cheating during sex

The key findings

* Following the hotly anticipated release of Gillian Anderson’s new book Want, IllicitEncounters.com has unveiled a revealing study on sexual fantasies.

* New research shows that a whopping 90% of people have thought about someone else whilst having sex with their partners at some stage of their relationship.

* Men are more likely to fantasise about celebrities, whilst women are thinking about ex partners – and surprisingly, farmers.

* Scenarios at work are the biggest turn on for men, and sun-soaked beaches are the number one location for female fantasies.

A shocking new study has uncovered that nearly everyone is guilty of mentally straying during sex. 

The research was conducted by extramarital dating site IllicitEncounters.com following the release of actress Gillian Anderson’s highly anticipated book, Want – a collection of steamy sexual fantasies compiled by actress Gillian Anderson, which has sparked fresh conversations about the hidden depths of human desire.

Polling 2,000 participants – evenly split between men and women – IllicitEncounters.com, which will be celebrating its 20th birthday in October, revealed that a staggering 90% of people have fantasised about someone other than their partner while getting intimate at some point in their relationship. 

In fact, 86% of men and an astonishing 97% of women admit to letting their imaginations wander to someone other than their partner while having sex.

For men, celebrities dominate the fantasy world, with 19% admitting to thinking about famous faces. Ex-partners and coworkers also feature prominently, at 16% and 15% respectively. 

Women, however, are more likely to fantasise about exes (22%) and coworkers (19%), but the real surprise? Farmers make an unexpected appearance, ranking fourth among women’s most fantasised about figures. This curious attraction may be tied to the ongoing public fascination with Jeremy Clarkson, who was recently crowned the UK’s sexiest man for the second year running by female users of IllicitEncounters.com.

When it comes to the settings for these fantasies, men imagine steamy scenarios at work (25%), in a park (18%), or even on a plane (12%). Hotels also make an appearance, and some fantasise about romantic rendezvous in lifts and even police stations. 

For women, it’s all about sun-soaked beaches (23%), work-related trysts (19%), and hotel escapades (15%). Clearly a fan of the outdoors when it comes to getting intimate, fields, parks and forests are also featured in the most popular fantasy locations.

Surprisingly, the vast majority of people – 89% – don’t view fantasising about someone else as cheating, and only 11% see it as a form of infidelity.

Expert comment from Jessica Leoni

Jessica Leoni, sex and relationships expert at IllicitEncounters.com, commented on the results of the study, “Mental fantasies are a natural part of human sexuality. While they might seem like a form of cheating to some, for most, they’re simply a way to explore desires and enhance sexual experiences. 

It’s important to communicate with your partner and understand each other’s boundaries and expectations, but now there’s confirmation – if you’re thinking about someone else during sex… it’s normal!”

“I’m a domme – people pay me to make them suffer but my long-term partner has no idea”

The key findings

* Jennifer, 30 from Brighton, has been in a committed relationship for 11 years, but leads a double life as a dominatrix, fulfilling her clients’ extreme desires without her partner’s knowledge.

* She caters to successful, high-powered men, including doctors and executives she meets on extramarital dating site IllicitEncounters.com. 

* Jennifer’s partner remains completely unaware of her secret life, which she believes is the only way to fulfil her unique sexual needs while maintaining her relationship.

On the surface, Jennifer, 30 from Brighton, seems to have it all – a long-term relationship of 11 years and a stable, normal life. But behind closed doors, she’s living a double life that would shock her partner to the core. By day, she’s just your average girlfriend, but by night, she transforms into a ruthless dominatrix, making powerful men pay to be humiliated and degraded – all while her partner remains blissfully unaware.

Jennifer’s journey into the world of domination started six years ago when she realised her relationship was falling flat in the bedroom. “I figured out that I need a domme/sub dynamic instead of a regular relationship,” she spills. “Right now, I juggle around three regular subs at a time.”

And these aren’t just any men – they’re high-flying professionals with big bank accounts and even bigger secrets. “I’ve never met a submissive on IllicitEncounters.com whose wife has a clue about his kink,” Jennifer reveals, referencing the affair website where she meets her clients. These men, often doctors, lawyers, and financial execs, are desperate to be dominated in ways their wives could never imagine.

For Jennifer, the thrill isn’t just in the whips and chains – it’s in the power play. “The real satisfaction comes from the power exchange, not the physical acts,” she explains. “When we’re in session, these men worship me like a queen. The power rush I get knowing they’ll do anything I say is intoxicating. They love being humiliated, and I love being in control.”

But here’s the kicker – her partner has no idea what she’s really into. “He’d be horrified if he found out about my secret life,” Jennifer admits. “But this is the only way I can satisfy my cravings. My subs and I get to indulge in our twisted dynamic, and it doesn’t interfere with my home life.”

And if you think these men just want a quick thrill, think again. Some are shelling out serious cash to bow down to Jennifer. “I’ve had subs pay as little as £30 just for a chat,” she says. “Others send me ‘tributes’ – that’s cash or gifts to show their appreciation. One guy even offered £300 a month for regular sessions, but I had to turn him down. And when I’m under the weather or on my period? Some of them send money to cheer me up!”

Jennifer’s story exposes a hidden world where powerful men submit to their darkest desires in secret. A recent survey conducted by IllicitEncounters.com found that only 34% of 1,600 people polled feel comfortable discussing their sexual fantasies with their partners. And for those who do, a staggering 29% end up having a negative effect on their relationship.

Expert comment from Jessica Leoni

Sex and relationships expert Jessica Leoni isn’t surprised by the secrecy. “Kink-shaming is clearly a big issue in some relationships. It’s alarming how many people can’t be honest about their desires with their partners. Even worse, when they do open up, it often backfires and hurts the dynamic between two people who should be able to be open about everything.

Stories like Jennifer’s are quite unique, but it’s great to know that people feel like they can be their true selves when using IllicitEncounters.com.”

1 in 4 women use Ring doorbell to catch cheating partners, study reveals

The key findings

* New research has been released following news that a Premier League footballer was caught cheating on his wife after she reviewed their Ring doorbell footage.

* 65% of women have caught their partner cheating thanks to technology.

* Ring doorbells are now the number one way women are busting their partner’s affair (24%).

* 38% of women suspicious of their partner’s shenanigans have gifted them gadgets that make it easier to discreetly keep tabs on them.

* Study conducted by IllicitEncounters.com, the UK’s largest extramarital dating site

In a world driven by technology and AI, keeping secrets under wraps has become more challenging than ever – especially for those cheating on their partners.

It turns out the pursuit of secret affairs has become a high-stakes game, with an ever-increasing chance of being exposed, and it’s all thanks to tech. 

New research by extramarital dating site IllicitEncounters.com found women are turning into digital detectives, with 65% saying they busted their partner’s affair by using technology.

38% of women even admitted to gifting their partners gadgets that could help them keep an eye on what they’re getting up to.

The study which involved 1,500 members of the website was conducted following news that a Premier League footballer was caught cheating on his wife after she went through footage recorded on their Ring doorbell.

The poll found that Ring doorbells are the top way women are discovering their partner’s affair (24%). Alexa is also a top choice (18%) followed by Whatsapp and social media alerts popping up on lock screens (13%) which are a big give away when it comes to exposing cheats.

There are more novel and much more sophisticated ways people are getting caught out these days too – Fitness watches (8%) and Find My Phone location tracking (7%) also made it on the list of how cheats are being busted by their wives. 

On the other hand, old-school methods like checking browser history (11%), emails (9%) and call logs (5%) are still trusty ways women are discovering their partners are love rats.

And 2% of people even admitted to using AI voice cloning (2%) to discover whether partners are being unfaithful.

Jasmine, 37 from Somerset, a member of IllicitEncounters, shared her story on the topic saying, “ I never imagined I’d discover my husband’s affair through our Ring doorbell. I was checking the footage to see if a package had arrived, but instead, I saw him sneaking a woman into our home while I was out. 

My heart sank as I watched them walk in, laughing and holding hands, like they’d done this before. The betrayal was right there in front of me, undeniable and painful. 

Rather than tell my husband what I saw, my immediate reaction was to have a revenge affair. I don’t feel particularly guilty about it because ultimately if he does find out, I’ve got video evidence of what he’s been up to.”

Fiona, 37 from Windsor, another member of the extramarital dating site who took part in the study said, “I found out my partner was cheating on me one weekend when I went to visit my mum in Cornwall, and it was all thanks to Alexa. I’d had my suspicions about what he was getting up to, so as soon as I got home I took a peek at the voice history log.

That’s when I found out he’d asked Alexa to play our ‘sexy’ playlist we’d put together – a bit weird because as far as I knew, it was something we’d only listen to when things got steamy between us. I discovered you can actually listen to Alexa recordings, and when he asked to play that specific playlist I heard a woman laugh in the background.

When I brought it up, he unsurprisingly came clean about it straightaway – I mean he couldn’t really deny it, the proof was there!”

Expert comment from Jessica Leoni

Sex and relationships expert for IllicitEncounters.com, Jessica Leoni, commented on the study, “Technology has advanced in ways we could never have imagined over the past few years, and in some cases it’s made it super easy to catch cheaters in the act – though I have to say, it doesn’t appear to be having an effect on the number of people having affairs as the figure continues to rise.

The Premier League footballer caught out by his Ring doorbell scored an embarrassing own-goal, but the results of our study show he’s not the only one. It’s also a bit of a modern-day cautionary tale: if you’re going to break the rules, don’t forget the cameras are always watching!”

Results

Have you ever caught your partner using technology?

Yes – 65%

No – 35%

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How have you used technology to discover your partner was cheating?

Ring doorbell – 24%

Alexa – 18%

Phone notifications- 13%

Checking browser history – 11%

Checking emails – 9%

Fitness watch – 8%

Find My Phone location tracking – 7%

Call history – 5%

AI voice cloning – 2%

Other – 3%

Experts warn of infidelity surge as temperatures set to rise during ‘cheatwave’

The key findings

* Rising temperatures are set to cause a wave of infidelity in the UK.

* Hot weather leads to an increase in feel-good chemicals in the body, leading to boosted libidos.

* The ‘cheatwave’ is causing people to take more risks and wanting to try something new, with activity on extramarital dating site IllicitEncounters.com set to soar.

Expert comment from Jessica Leoni

As the mercury rises, so too could the risk of infidelity. According to sex and relationship expert at IllicitEncounters.com, Jessica Leoni, warmer temperatures are sparking a cheating frenzy across the UK. 

It’s not just the thermometers that are rising; the heat can also turn up the heat in our love lives, often leading to risky behaviour. Leoni explains that hot weather increases levels of feel-good chemicals like dopamine and serotonin. This boost can lower inhibitions and heighten arousal, making people more likely to engage in infidelity.

“Heatwaves can act like a powerful aphrodisiac,” says the sexpert. “They lower our self-control and make us more likely to give in to temptations.”

It’s a phenomenon that the UK’s leading married dating site sees when temperatures soar. Last year, IllicitEncounters.com reported a 64% increase in activity during the June heatwave, and this year they are bracing for a repeat performance.

“We’re already seeing increased engagement on our website as temperatures creep up” Leoni warns. “It’s a clear sign that the ‘cheatwave’ effect is kicking in again.”

About the research

In a poll of 800 new members on the extramarital dating site, 76% cited the weather as playing a role in their decision to sign up, and 69% agreed that higher temperatures made them more likely to take risks and try something new.

Several factors contribute to this steamy ‘cheatwave’ trend. Hot weather means more social events, more revealing clothing, and more opportunities to meet new people. Leoni points out that these factors combined with the physiological effects of heat can create a perfect storm for infidelity.

“Cities are especially prone to this phenomenon,” she explains. “The vibrant social scenes and the sheer number of people increase the chances of flirty encounters. However, rural areas aren’t immune – any place where people are more active and social during hot weather can see a spike in cheating.”