* 71% surge in people seeking an affair expected on Friday 17th July – making it the biggest cheating day of the summer
* School holidays create the perfect opportunity, with parents using gym trips, shopping and “working late” as their favourite alibis
* More than a third admit they’ll use a solo hobby as cover to meet an affair partner on Friday
* Study conducted by IllicitEncounters.com, the UK’s largest extramarital dating site.

The Last Window Before the Chaos

As schools close their gates for the summer holidays this week, Britain’s cheaters are preparing for what has become the biggest affair day of the year.

New data from IllicitEncounters.com, the UK’s largest dating site for married people, predicts a 71% surge in people actively seeking an affair tomorrow – an annual phenomenon dubbed ‘Frisky Friday’.

The annual spike comes as millions of families prepare for six weeks of disrupted routines, childcare and holidays together. For those already leading double lives, it’s seen as the last opportunity to meet an affair partner before family life takes over.

Britain’s Cheaters Have Their Alibis Ready

And Britain’s cheating class already has its excuses lined up.

A poll of 1,900 IllicitEncounters members found the most popular alibi is a solo hobby, with 38% planning to blame a trip to the gym, a round of golf or a shopping trip if questioned about their whereabouts.

Almost a third (29%) say they’ll tell their partner they’re working late or dealing with work commitments, while 17% plan to disappear under the guise of running errands or attending appointments.

Just over one in ten (11%) will simply claim they’re meeting friends, while the remaining 5% admit they’ll come up with another excuse entirely.

Emma*, 39, says she’s already planned her Frisky Friday. “Once the kids are off, every minute is accounted for,” she said. “My partner works from home, the house is full, and there’s no space to breathe. If I’m going to see the man I’ve been talking to, it has to be before the chaos starts. I’ll tell my husband I’m going to the gym — he never questions it.”

Expert Comment from Jessica Leoni

Jessica Leoni, spokesperson for IllicitEncounters.com, said: “Frisky Friday has become something of a phenomenon because it arrives at exactly the point where opportunity is about to disappear.

“Once the school holidays begin, couples spend far more time together, children are around constantly and routines completely change. For many people having affairs, this Friday represents the last realistic chance to meet someone before September.

“It’s remarkable how organised people become. The gym membership suddenly gets plenty of use, shopping trips take much longer than usual and work somehow becomes incredibly busy.”

She added: “Every summer we see exactly the same pattern. Activity spikes dramatically just before schools break up and then falls away during the holidays, before climbing again when normal life resumes.”

* Name has been changed to protect identity

Results

Excuses people will be using on Frisky Friday to meet their lovers:

38% will use their ‘solo hobbies’ (e.g. gym, golf, shopping) 

29% will rely on ‘working late’/’work commitments’.

17% will be ‘running errands’ or have scheduled appointments 

11% will be meeting up with friends

5% – Other

Further Reading

• Illicit Encounters’ 12 Top Tips for Keeping an Affair Secret
• The Double Life: Managing Guilt While Seeking Happiness

* 44% of festival-goers say festivals make them feel “more open to temptation”
* Festivals create a “psychological bubble” – anonymity, alcohol, music and the holiday-from-real-life effect combine to make them Britain’s biggest infidelity hotspot
* 73% say they’d cheat at a festival if they knew they wouldn’t get caught
* Study conducted by IllicitEncounters.com, the UK’s largest extramarital dating site

The Perfect Storm for Infidelity

With a packed summer festival calendar ahead of us, new data suggests Britain’s festival fields are about to become the country’s biggest infidelity hotspot.

A poll of 2,000 festival-going adults conducted by IllicitEncounters.com, the UK’s largest extramarital dating site, has found that 1 in 4 Brits openly admit they have cheated – or would cheat – on their partner at a summer festival. And the conditions, it seems, are almost perfectly engineered for it.

Nearly half (44%) of festival-goers say the festival environment makes them feel more open to temptation than they would be in everyday life. It isn’t hard to see why. Festivals create a “psychological bubble” – a world set apart from real life, governed by different rules, where normal consequences feel temporarily suspended. The combination of anonymity, alcohol, music, warm weather and thousands of strangers packed into a field produces something that feels less like the UK and more like a holiday.

21% put it even more plainly: festivals feel like a no-rules zone. What happens in the campsite, stays in the campsite.

The Numbers Behind the Temptation

The most common form of infidelity is a kiss – 24% of respondents admit they’ve locked lips with someone who wasn’t their partner at a festival, often blaming the atmosphere rather than any genuine dissatisfaction at home. But the most striking finding is this: 73% say they would cheat at a festival if they knew they wouldn’t get caught. Nearly three quarters of Britain’s festival-going population, in other words, are one consequence-free moment away from straying.

With Latitude descending on Henham Park in Suffolk from 23rd-26th July, Wilderness kicking off in Oxfordshire from 30th July-2nd August, and a string of further events still to come this summer, the next few weeks represent peak temptation season for Britain’s coupled-up festival fans.

“Nobody Knows Who You Are”: One Festival-Goer’s Story

Lisa*, 31, attended Glastonbury last year with a group of friends – without her long-term partner. “The moment you’re through the gates it feels like a completely different world,” she says. “Nobody knows who you are. Nobody knows if you’re in a relationship. There’s music everywhere, everyone’s in a good mood, and by the second night you’ve completely stopped thinking about normal life. I kissed someone on the Friday. I didn’t feel guilty until I was on the motorway home.”

Jessica Leoni, spokesperson for IllicitEncounters.com, said: “Festivals are essentially a perfect storm for infidelity – and the numbers back that up. It’s not that festival-goers are more dishonest than anyone else. It’s that festivals systematically remove all the usual barriers: you’re away from home, away from your routine, away from anyone who knows you. Add alcohol and a crowd of happy strangers and the ‘holiday from real life’ effect kicks in almost immediately. 

* Name has been changed to protect identity

Results
Based on a poll involving 2,000 festival-goers:
44% say festivals make them feel “more open to temptation”
21% say festivals feel like a “no-rules zone”
24% admit they’ve kissed someone who wasn’t their partner at a festival
73% say they would cheat at a festival if they knew they wouldn’t get caught

Further Reading

• Why Do People Cheat? The Real Reasons Behind Infidelity
• The Thrill of the Secret: Why Forbidden Attraction Feels So Intense

* 37% of married women say a big England win makes their partner harder to live with in the hours afterwards 

* Female messaging on IllicitEncounters.com rose 41% in the 12 hours after full-time

* Nearly 1 in 4 (24%) say the reward for winning is simply another fortnight of being ignored — now with a 1am Monday kick-off attached

The Win That Made the Living Room Lonelier

For 83 minutes on Wednesday, England supporters went through it. DR Congo were ahead inside seven minutes, the Three Lions were second best, and the 5pm kick-off that half the country had knocked off work early for was curdling into a long evening. Then Harry Kane scored twice, a jittery night became a 2-1 win, and the nation exhaled as one. England are into the last 16.

For a sizeable minority of partners watching it unfold at home, though, that exhale never came — because the person on the sofa next to them hadn’t looked their way since five o’clock. According to IllicitEncounters.com, the UK’s largest extramarital dating site, the comeback that thrilled the country made the living room lonelier than ever.

What the Data Shows

A poll of 2,000 married women found 37% say a big England win makes their partner harder to live with in the immediate aftermath. A nail-biting comeback, members say, only sharpens it: an hour and a half of a partner living and dying with every touch, then celebrations that pour into the group chat rather than the room. The mood shows in the site’s own traffic too — female messaging rose 41% in the 12 hours after full-time, with a first spike late into the night and a second this morning at 9am.

And winning, of course, settles nothing at home. England’s prize is a last-16 tie against hosts Mexico on Monday kicking off in the small hours, UK time. For anyone who spent Wednesday evening as a football widow, the reward for the comeback is a middle-of-the-night vigil on Monday — and, if Kane keeps scoring, potentially another fortnight of them.

One ‘football widow’ from the website who suffered as a result of the 2-1 win said, “When Congo scored he had his head in his hands before I’d even sat down. For an hour he snapped at the telly, the ref, and me if I dared speak. Then Kane scored and he was up hugging the dog, screaming, straight on the phone to his brother. Two hours of him — and not one word actually to me. And now apparently we’re all staying up till God knows when on Monday for Mexico.”

Jessica Leoni, sex and relationships expert at IllicitEncounters.com, said, “A comeback like that is the worst possible night if you’re the one who isn’t bothered about the football. You get the anxious version of him for an hour — every Congo touch is the end of the world — and then the euphoric version who’s too busy hugging strangers and texting the group chat to remember you’re in the room. 

Kane rescued England; nobody rescued the evening at home. And the cruel bit is that winning just books another one. A last-16 tie in the middle of the night against Mexico isn’t a treat for everyone — for a lot of women it’s simply the reason they’re quietly talking to someone else while he’s shouting at the screen.”

Further Reading

• Roommates With Rings: How Marriages Turn Platonic Without Anyone Noticing
• The Lonely Marriage: When You Feel Alone Together

* Ahead of England’s knockout tie, IllicitEncounters.com has priced up the night’s real domestic outcomes as a bookmaker-style ‘Affair Odds Board’
* Based on a poll of 2,000 married women, the odds-on favourite of any England night is him asleep on the sofa by 10pm (4/6)
* The rank outsider of the night: an actual, undivided conversation with you, a 50/1 shot
* Win or lose, the site’s data shows the same pattern — which is why messaging from women spikes after every England result, whatever the score

The Odds Board Nobody Else Is Publishing

England play DR Congo tomorrow evening for a place in the World Cup’s last 16. The bookmakers have priced up the football. IllicitEncounters.com, the UK’s largest extramarital dating site, has priced up everything else — the things that actually play out in the living room while the match is on.

Drawing on a poll of 2,000 married women, the site has published an ‘Affair Odds Board’: a tongue-in-cheek but data-backed run-down of how an England night really unfolds at home. The odds-on favourite of the entire evening isn’t a goal or a red card — it’s him asleep on the sofa by 10pm, a 4/6 banker.

Why the Joke Is Only Half a Joke

It is, the site insists, only half a joke. The same poll found that for a large minority of women a big match night ends in feeling completely ignored — and IE’s own platform data shows messaging from female members rising sharply after every England result, win or lose. The Odds Board simply puts numbers on the thing those women say they feel: that on a match night, they are the longest shot in the house.

One female member who took part in the poll, Rachel*, 41, said ‘If you’d offered me odds on him noticing I’d gone up to bed on the night of the Ghana match, I’d have taken anything. He surfaced about midnight, and asked where his dinner was. I’d eaten mine alone three hours earlier. An actual conversation? You’d get longer than 50/1 in our house.”

Expert Comment from IllicitEncounters.com

Commenting on the ‘Affair Odds Board’, sex and relationships expert at IllicitEncounters.com said, “We did this with a smile, but every line on that board came out of what our members actually tell us. The favourite is always the same — he’s asleep, or he’s in the group chat, or he’s watching the same goal for the tenth time — and the 50/1 outsider is always the partner getting any real attention. 

Football isn’t the problem; being treated like furniture for the evening is. That’s why our messaging goes up whatever the score. The match has two results. So does the night at home — and the one in the living room is the one nobody prices up.”

* Name has been changed to protect identify

Further Reading

• 63% of Married Britons Say They Are Lonelier Inside Their Marriage Than They Ever Were Single
• Roommates With Rings: How Marriages Turn Platonic Without Anyone Noticing

A professional wedding planner with fourteen years’ experience reveals the infidelity she sees behind the scenes on her clients’ big days — and the four-year affair of her own that began in the back room of a venue while her client read her vows in the next room. As Britain enters peak wedding season, she is one of a growing number of married women who say the fairy-tale industry sells a story they no longer believe.

* A professional wedding planner with fourteen years’ experience describes the affairs, infidelity and quiet heartbreak she witnesses behind the scenes at her clients’ weddings.

* Sarah, 41, says she has watched four marriages reach the point of no return before the speeches were even read — and has spent the last four years conducting an affair of her own, which began at a wedding she was coordinating.

* The planner says her marriage had been “empty for years” before she joined a married dating site in 2021. She has no plans to leave her husband, and no plans to leave the partner she has now been seeing for two years.

She has sourced flowers for 200 brides, calmed 200 panicking grooms, and cried at more first dances than she can count. She has also watched four marriages reach the point of no return before the speeches were read — and has spent the last four years conducting her own affair, one that began in the back room of a wedding venue while her client said her vows in the next room.

Sarah, 41, has worked as a wedding planner for fourteen years. She joined IllicitEncounters.com, the UK’s largest dating site for married people, in 2021.

What the Guests Don’t See

“People assume weddings are the most romantic environment imaginable,” she says. “And sometimes they are. But I see what the guests don’t. I see the groom disappear with a bridesmaid for twenty minutes during the drinks reception. I see the mother of the bride crying in the loos — and not happy tears. I see the best man who can barely look at the bride. After enough weddings, you stop being surprised.”

Sarah’s own affair began at a wedding she was coordinating in the Cotswolds. The best man — a friend of the groom — sought her out during the reception on the pretext of a seating problem. They swapped numbers. Three weeks later they met for dinner. He was married. So was she.

“I know how it sounds. I spend my working life helping people celebrate their commitment to each other, and in my own life I was — and still am — doing the opposite. But my marriage had been empty for years before I joined Illicit Encounters. The job doesn’t cure you of romance. It just shows you how rarely the fairy tale survives contact with reality.”

“I’ve Handed Out the Confetti Knowing the Marriage Was Already Over”

The four marriages she watched fail did not collapse in a dramatic scene. They ended quietly, in a way only someone working the room would catch. “It’s never a confrontation. It’s a look. A phone left unlocked on a table. A conversation overheard in a corridor. The celebration carries on, because nobody knows what else to do — but I’ve handed out the confetti knowing the marriage was already over in everything but name. By the time the speeches were read, two people in that room knew it and the other hundred didn’t.”

She is clear-eyed about the contradiction in her position. “My clients hire me to make their day perfect, and I give everything to that. What I do in my own life is separate. I don’t think being on Illicit Encounters makes me a hypocrite, any more than a marriage counsellor whose own marriage has failed is a hypocrite. You can believe in something completely and still know how complicated it is to live.”

Sarah has been with her partner for just over two years. She has no plans to leave her husband, and no plans to leave the site. “I’ve seen the alternative up close. I’ve watched people blow up their whole lives for someone they met at a wedding and be divorced inside three years. What I have works. It isn’t conventional — but then nothing I’ve seen in this industry is.”

Why Wedding Season Drives a Surge in Sign-Ups

Sarah is not unusual among IllicitEncounters.com’s female members. The site reports that registrations from women rise consistently across the British wedding season, which runs from May to September and peaks in the high-summer weeks now under way. Among female members surveyed by IE, a significant share say a wedding — their own, or one they attended — was the moment they first confronted the gap between the relationship they were celebrating and the one they were actually living.

Jessica Leoni, sex and relationships expert and IllicitEncounters.com spokesperson, said, “Sarah’s story is unusual in its detail but not in its shape. Weddings are the most concentrated dose of romantic expectation in British life, and that is exactly why they so often surface the truth about a marriage rather than hide it. We see the same pattern in our sign-up data every summer: weddings don’t make unhappy people happy, they make unhappy people aware. What’s striking about Sarah is her honesty about the contradiction. She doesn’t claim to be a victim and she doesn’t pretend to be proud. She’s describing something a great many married women recognise but very few will say out loud.”

Further Reading

• The Double Life: Managing Guilt While Seeking Happiness
• The Lonely Marriage: When You Feel Alone Together

* Richard Tice and Kemi Badenoch are officially the UK’s sexiest politicians for 2026
* Reform UK’s Deputy Leader dethrones Nigel Farage, who drops to second after two consecutive wins
* Reform UK has overtaken Labour to become the sexiest party (38%), followed by the Conservatives (31%), and Labour (22%).
* The results come from an annual survey of members on IllicitEncounters.com, the UK’s leading dating website for married people

There’s a new king in Westminster – and he’s been causing trouble in all the right ways.

Richard Tice Dethrones Farage at the Top

Richard Tice has been crowned the UK’s sexiest male politician, claiming 23% of the vote in IllicitEncounters.com’s annual Sexiest Politicians poll. The Reform UK Deputy Leader and self-made multimillionaire – has dethroned his own boss, with Farage slipping to second place on 22% after two consecutive years at the top. 

The biggest surprise on the male list is Conservative Chris Philp storming into third place with 14%. Labour MP Alex Ballinger lands in fourth place (10%), while Liberal Democrat Bobby Dean makes a debut new entry at fifth (8%).

Perhaps most strikingly, Prime Minister Keir Starmer’s ratings were so low this year, he was absorbed into the ‘Other’ category – a brutal result for a sitting Prime Minister.

Kemi Badenoch Tops the Female List for the First Time

Among female politicians, Kemi Badenoch storms to the top for the first time, claiming a whopping 24% of the vote. She is joined by a strong Conservative showing, with Katie Lam making a striking debut in second place (16%) – displacing last year’s winner Angela Rayner, who drops out of the top ten entirely. Reform’s Suella Braverman makes a striking entry at third (14%), whilst Sarah Pochin (13%) and Dr Rosena Allin-Khan (10%) round out the top five. 

Crunching the numbers across both lists, Reform UK emerges as the sexiest party overall with 38% of the combined vote. The Conservatives take second place with 31%, while Labour claim third with 22%.

Expert Comment from Jessica Leoni

Jessica Leoni, spokesperson for IllicitEncounters.com, said: “Nigel Farage has been dethroned – but only by the man sitting next to him in the Reform shadow cabinet, and only just. Our members clearly have a type, and that type is a self-made, straight-talking man who isn’t afraid to cause a scene. Chris Philp’s surge into third is the real eyebrow-raiser – quiet and under the radar he may have seemed, but our members have clearly been paying close attention.

“As for Kemi Badenoch – she’s sharp, she’s confident and she gives absolutely nothing away. Apparently that’s a very attractive quality. Reform’s dominance of this year’s poll tells its own story. Whether it translates to votes at the ballot box remains to be seen, but our members have certainly made their position clear.”

Sexiest Male Politicians 2026
Richard Tice, Reform UK – 23%
Nigel Farage, Reform UK – 22%
Chris Philp, Conservative – 14%
Alex Ballinger, Labour – 10%
Bobby Dean, Liberal Democrats – 8%
Dan Aldridge, Labour – 7%
Darren Jones, Labour – 5%
Robert Jenrick, Reform UK – 4%
Gordon McKee, Labour – 2%
Steve Barclay, Conservative – 1%
Other – 4%

Sexiest Female Politicians 2026
Kemi Badenoch, Conservative – 24%
Katie Lam, Conservative – 16%
Suella Braverman, Reform UK – 14%
Sarah Pochin, Reform UK – 13%
Dr Rosena Allin-Khan, Labour – 10%
Joy Morrissey, Conservative – 7%
Shabana Mahmood, Labour – 5%
Sarah Green, Liberal Democrats – 3%
Lisa Nandy, Labour – 3%
Natalie Fleet, Labour – 2%
Other – 3%

Further Reading

• Who Cheats More: Men or Women?
• What Women Really Want From an Affair

* 67% of cheating British men say they are already planning to use the 2026 World Cup as cover for time spent with an affair partner
* The late North American kick-offs hand British cheaters a five-hour evening alibi – double the window of the 2022 Qatar tournament
* The single biggest day for British infidelity in twenty years is forecast to fall the day after England’s first knockout match
* Data compiled by IllicitEncounters.com, the UK’s largest extramarital dating site

The 2026 FIFA World Cup kicks off today – and for millions of British wives, the real question isn’t whether England will win. It’s whether their husband is actually at the pub.

Why 2026 Is the Cheater’s World Cup

Twenty years of British infidelity data compiled by IllicitEncounters.com points to one prediction above all others: the 2026 tournament will be the busiest summer of cheating Britain has seen this century. And the reason isn’t the football. It’s the clock.

With the majority of late-stage and knockout fixtures kicking off between 8pm and 1am UK time, “watching the match with the lads” becomes a five-hour alibi that’s almost impossible to argue with – double the alibi window of the 2022 Qatar tournament, where matches played out at lunchtime. A survey of 1,247 active UK members found that 74% of cheating men have already planned around a specific fixture – the highest pre-tournament intent figure recorded in twenty years of British infidelity data.

And the cities most at risk? Cross-referencing British marital infidelity data with pubs-per-capita, the forecast cheating hotspots for 2026 are Newcastle, Liverpool, Manchester, Sheffield and Leeds – cities that have over-indexed in tournament-period infidelity across the past three World Cups.

The wives, it turns out, are already onto them. 74% of women in committed relationships say they expect their partner to lie about his whereabouts during at least one fixture this summer. “I’ve already worked out he’s going to be ‘at the pub’ more in June than every other month of the year combined,” says Tracey*, 38.

What History Tells Us — And What’s Coming

The closest historical comparison is the 2014 Brazil tournament – the last time matches played out across the UK’s late evening window – when admitted infidelity across British relationships rose by 47%. The 2022 Qatar tournament, with its daytime kick-offs, registered no comparable spike. Based on the 2014 pattern, researchers are forecasting the single biggest day for British infidelity in twenty years to fall the day after England’s first knockout match.

Mark*, 41, isn’t hiding it. “I’ve already planned the group stage around it. My wife isn’t a football fan. Every fixture is a five-hour pass. By the end of the group stages, no questions will be asked if I’m out from seven until midnight.”

Expert Comment from Jessica Leoni

Jessica Leoni, spokesperson for IllicitEncounters.com, said: “This isn’t really a forecast about football. It is a forecast about the most reliable lie in the British marriage. ‘I’m watching the match with the lads’ has been getting British men out of their houses for decades – but the 2026 World Cup gives them a five-hour window that no previous tournament has matched. 

The matches will start when the children go to bed and finish when the pubs close. There is no other event in the British calendar that delivers that. For the first time in any tournament we’ve tracked, our data shows that women are not just suspecting it – they are anticipating it.”

*Names have been changed

THE TIME-ZONE TRAP: WHY 2026 IS STRUCTURALLY DIFFERENT

Tournament	Host	Typical UK kick-off window	Average “pub window” length
2014	Brazil	5pm – 1am	5 hours
2018	Russia	1pm – 7pm	3 hours
2022	Qatar	10am – 9pm	2.5 hours
2026	USA / Canada / Mexico	5pm – 4am	5 hours

WHAT BRITISH HUSBANDS ARE PLANNING — BY TOURNAMENT STAGE

Date	Match / Stage	What the data predicts
11 June	Tournament opens	An estimated 62% of already-cheating British men report planning a “first alibi” night within the opening 72 hours of the tournament
Group stage 1	England’s first match	Forecast: 2 in 3 married British men out for “the match” will be home after midnight; 1 in 5 of those will not have spent the evening watching the football
Group stage 2	England’s second match	Predicted highest single-day rise in marital-discovery incidents during the group stages
Round of 16	England’s first knockout	Forecast peak: the single biggest day for British infidelity in twenty years, based on patterns from the 2018 Sweden quarter-final
Quarter-final	England match (if reached)	Sustained five-day cheating surge predicted regardless of result — both celebration alibi and drowning-of-sorrows alibi function identically
Tournament close	19 July	Predicted “Sunday after the final” — the day British wives most commonly report initiating conversations about suspected infidelity

Further Reading

• Who Cheats More: Men or Women?
• Illicit Encounters’ 12 Top Tips for Keeping an Affair Secret

* The majority of married Britons say they feel lonelier inside their marriage than they ever did when they were single
* “Being ignored” – not a bad sex life – is the number one reason members cite for having an affair
* On average, members report having fewer than three meaningful conversations a week with their spouse
* Study conducted by IllicitEncounters.com, the UK’s largest extramarital dating site

Married – and Lonelier Than Ever

Being married is supposed to be the antidote to loneliness. For millions of Britons, the data suggests it’s doing the opposite.

A survey of 2,400 married people conducted by IllicitEncounters.com, the UK’s largest extramarital dating site, has found that 63% say they feel lonelier inside their marriage than they ever did when they were single. Not occasionally. Consistently, quietly, every day.

It’s Not the Sex – It’s Being Ignored

The findings challenge the most common assumptions about why people seek affairs. When asked what drove them to join the site, just 19% cited a bad sex life as the primary reason. The most common answer, given by 67%, was simply being ignored – not spoken to, not asked about their day, not treated as a person with thoughts worth hearing.

On average, members report having just 2.4 meaningful conversations per week with their spouse. Not arguments – those are plentiful. Actual conversations: ones where they felt genuinely listened to, engaged with, valued.

“I Feel More Known by My Hairdresser”

“I live with my husband,” says Rachel*, 44, from Leeds. “We eat together, sleep in the same bed, watch the same television. And I cannot tell you the last time he asked me how I was and actually waited for the answer. I feel more known by my hairdresser than I do by the man I’ve been married to for fourteen years.”

For 58% of members, the affair partner has become something they describe with striking consistency: the only person who actually listens. Not the most exciting person. Not the best-looking. The one who asks questions and remembers the answers.

Which Age Groups Feel It Most

The data reveals a clear age pattern. Members aged 45–54 report the highest levels of in-marriage loneliness, with 71% in this bracket saying they feel lonelier now than when they were single – the highest of any age group. The 35–44 bracket follows closely at 66%, while even younger members aged 25–34 report surprising levels of marital isolation at 54%.

Where in Britain Feels It Most

In-marriage loneliness is felt most acutely in the North East, where 54% of members report feeling lonelier married than single, followed by the East Midlands (51%) and Yorkshire & Humber (49%). London members report the lowest levels at 21% – suggesting larger social networks and busier lifestyles outside the home may provide more of a buffer.

Jessica Leoni, sex and relationships expert at IllicitEncounters.com, said: “When the country talks about loneliness it pictures an older person eating dinner alone – it never pictures a 44-year-old woman sitting three feet from her husband on the sofa, more invisible than she’s ever felt in her life. That’s the loneliness our members describe most: not no sex, but no conversation. You can be married, surrounded, and still completely unheard. People don’t come to us for an affair. They come to be spoken to.”

*Name has been changed

Results
Do you feel lonelier now, inside your marriage, than you did when you were single?
Yes – 63%
No – 14%
About the same – 23%

Loneliest Marriages by Region (Respondents who feel lonelier now than when single)

• North East – 54%
• East Midlands – 51%
• Yorkshire & Humber – 49%
• North West – 47%
• Wales – 45%
• West Midlands – 44%
• South West – 32%
• Scotland – 31%
• East of England – 29%
• South East – 27%
• Northern Ireland – 25%
• London – 21%

Further Reading

• The Lonely Marriage: When You Feel Alone Together
• Why So Many People Stay in Marriages That Make Them Miserable