Author: Jessica Leoni

Jessica Leoni is a sex and relationships expert and the lead spokesperson for IllicitEncounters.com, the UK's largest and longest-running extramarital dating site with more than one million members. She comments regularly in the national press on infidelity, affairs, and the shifting landscape of modern marriage, drawing on original research from the site's member surveys. For interview requests, expert quotes and data on request, journalists can contact [email protected].

Has your partner joined the gym recently? They could be cheating on you!

The key findings

* ‘I’m going to the gym’ – is the number one excuse loverats are using right now to cheat on their spouse!

* Second top excuse for men lately is going to the ‘pub with a friend’ and for women it’s going for a ‘walk’

* 73% of adulterers believe their affair has helped them lose weight

* 89% of adulterers found it hard to come up with excuses to cheat during national lockdowns

* Study conducted by IllicitEncounters.com, the UK’s leading dating site for married people
 

Expert comment from Jessica Leoni

Could your partner be pumping more than just iron? Adulterers pretend they are going to the gym so that they can enjoy secret affairs!
 
According to new research released today by IllicitEncounters, the UK’s leading married dating site, the number one alibi for cheating right now is going to the gym. 
 
800 members of the site, split equally by male and female respondents, were surveyed on their recent affair exploits. The survey found the top go-to excuses adulterers have been using to cheat in the last month now lockdown restrictions are easing.
 
In the last month 52% of men and 38% of women have used the gym as an excuse to cheat on their spouse.
 
Most gym fanatics got their fitness fix doing home workouts during lockdowns however cheats felt the burn with gyms closed as it ruined their affair alibis. Now that gyms are open it’s no surprise that loverats choose ‘I’m going to the gym’ as the number one excuse to cheat.
 
And for those who suspect that spouses are suspicious when their partners aren’t getting any slimmer from exercising, 73% of affair seekers believe cheating has actually helped them lose weight! Making it the perfect cover up. 
 
Second top excuse for men is ‘pub with a friend’ (15%) followed by a ‘walk’ in third place (13%) and ‘working late’ (12%) in fourth. Fifth most popular excuse is ‘golf’ (4%).
 
Second top excuse for women is going for a ‘walk’ (27%), followed by ‘coffee with a friend’ in third place (20%) and going to an ‘outdoor exercise class’ in fourth (5%). Fifth most popular excuse for women is ‘sunbathing’ (3%) – although it is expected this excuse will garner more momentum as the weather gets hotter.
 
89% of those polled agreed that national lockdown restrictions made it difficult for them to come up with excuses to cheat.
 
Georgia, 42, London, said ‘I’m in a less than satisfying marriage and I have had affairs in the past. I lost my confidence during the pandemic and put on quite a bit of weight.
 
As soon as my local gym opened I joined. It’s a great excuse to have an affair. My husband never questions me. He thinks it’s great I want to lose weight. What’s brilliant is I’ve lost 10 pounds in the last 4 weeks and I’d go as far as saying that it’s all down to the affair, maybe I’ll cancel my gym membership.’
 
Jessica Leoni, sex and relationship expert at IllicitEncounters.com, said “Sexercise over exercise? It’s just a different type of workout! Adulterers can don their activewear, slip outside the house, and their spouse is none the wiser. 
 
It’s interesting to note men chose going to the pub as an excuse, whereas women opted for going for a coffee – some gender biases here over stereotypical male vs female behaviours. It seems it’s more believable that a man may want to venture to the pub for a pint, and women think it’s a more plausible excuse to use a coffee meet up as an alibi. 
 
Lots of men and women use going for a ‘walk’ as an excuse – perhaps as this has been the easiest excuse to continue using since all the lockdown restrictions.
 
Golf featured as a male only alibi, although I do wonder how many men forget to pick up the golf clubs when they leave the house.
 
Sunbathing also only seems to feature as an excuse for women. If your husband tells you he wants to go sunbathing, it’s safe to say he’s probably telling the truth.”

Top Excuses Men

Gym 52%

Pub with a friend 15%

Walk 13%

Working late 12%

Golf 4%

Other 4%

Top Excuses Women

Gym 38%

Walk 27%

Coffee with a friend 20%

Other 7%

Outdoor exercise class 5%

Sunbathing 3%

Has an affair helped you lose weight?

73% Yes

27% No

Was it hard finding excuses to cheat during national lockdown restrictions?

89% Yes

11% No

NOTES TO EDITOR
IllicitEncounters.com is the UK’s leading dating website for married people and the leading authority on infidelity. With over 1,000,000 genuine UK users since 2004, you’re sure to find your perfect match.

Established in 2004, we have been providing a meeting place for like-minded married and attached people for nearly 12 years. Our members have one thing in common – they are all looking for a little romance outside their current relationship. Whether that’s the occasional bit of flirtatious chat, a regular coffee date, or a full-blown affair, that’s up to them.

Check out what our users are saying to each other in our live Lockdown Forum: www.illicitencounters.com/lockdown/pr
Username: pr
Password: openthel0ck4me

About the research

We’re always more than happy to talk about IllicitEncounters.com – please contact Christian Grant through the details below – but we’re not willing to speak publicly about SaraHartley.net at this moment in time.

Email: [email protected]

Mobile: 07824 353986

Twitter: @cheatsafer

Flirty Forties – The best time to have sex!

The key findings

* The best time to have sex is in your 40’s, even if you’re having less of it!
* Quality trumps quantity over sexual satisfaction, with only 12% of people voting sex in your 20’s as the best – even though it’s the time people have the most sex
* Study conducted by IllicitEncounters.com, the UK’s leading dating website for married people
 

Life truly does begin in your forties, your sex life at least!
 
IllicitEncounters.com, the UK’s leading dating website for married people, surveyed 2000 members and found that 41% of people agree that the best time to have sex is in your forties!
 
Top reasons given for this were, ‘feeling comfortable in your own skin’, ‘knowing exactly what turns me on’ and being ‘open to adventure’ in the bedroom.

Expert comment from Jessica Leoni

Although the public voted their 40’s to be the best time to have sex, they were not having a lot of it, with only 13% of people stating this decade as the one they had the most sexual liaisons. Clearly quality trumps quantity when it comes to sexual satisfaction.
 
The next best age is 30 with 28% of the vote. Followed by the frisky 50’s with an honourable 17%.
 
Sex in your 20s scored shockingly low, with only 12% of respondents agreeing that their 20s were the best age to get busy with it, only 60’s (1.5%)  and over 70’s (0.5%) fared worse.
 
Twenty year olds hit the peak of their sexual liaisons when it comes to the amount of sex they’re having with a whopping (43%) agreeing that their 20s were when they had the most notches on the bedpost.
 
500 members in the sample were also asked what makes a good sexual partner and the top five reasons given were ‘confidence’, ‘communication’, ‘foreplay’, ‘experience’ and ‘open mindedness’. 
 
Jessica Leoni, sex and relationship expert at IllicitEncounters.com, said “People are having mind blowing sex in their 40s! Why? They had their peak of promiscuity in their 20s, often succumbing to substandard sex while learning the ropes, quite literally, experimenting in some bondage play perhaps – before concluding that wow, ropes and whips do not excite me. 

In their 30s they begin to transition from having lots of sexual partners, to having less, but better quality sex – beginning to understand what sort of pleasures delight them.

Then BAM you’ve hit your 40s! You are fully aware of what tickles your fancy and are at a stage where you have stopped caring about what other people think. You’re more confident in yourself and your body and are unabashed when it comes to communicating about your fantasies and fetishes. This confidence partnered with being wiser about who you choose to be intimate with – guarantees for much more satisfying sex.
 
Nobody wants to go back to fooling around in their twenties, it’s awkward, insecure and lacks experience.”

What is the best age to have sex? 
40s 41%
30s 28%
50s 17%
20s 12%
60s 1.5%
70+ 0.5%
 

When did you have the most sex in your life?

20s 43%

30s 35%

40s 13%

50s 6%

60s 2.5%

70+ 0.5%
 

What makes a good sexual partner?
Confidence

Communication

Foreplay

Experience

Open mindedness

NOTES TO EDITOR
IllicitEncounters.com is the UK’s leading dating website for married people and the leading authority on infidelity. With over 1,000,000 genuine UK users since 2004, you’re sure to find your perfect match.

Established in 2004, we have been providing a meeting place for like-minded married and attached people for nearly 12 years. Our members have one thing in common – they are all looking for a little romance outside their current relationship. Whether that’s the occasional bit of flirtatious chat, a regular coffee date, or a full-blown affair, that’s up to them.

Check out what our users are saying to each other in our live Lockdown Forum: www.illicitencounters.com/lockdown/pr
Username: pr
Password: openthel0ck4me

About the research

We’re always more than happy to talk about IllicitEncounters.com – please contact Christian Grant through the details below – but we’re not willing to speak publicly about SaraHartley.net at this moment in time.

Email: [email protected]

Mobile: 07824 353986

Twitter: @cheatsafer

Doctors and Bartenders are Hot, Coppers are Not – Sexiest Professions Revealed!

The key findings

* Doctors have been voted the sexiest profession in annual survey

* Bartenders and CEOs rounded off the top 3, followed by footballers and firemen

* Sexy policeman fantasy quashed, as policemen receive a mere 1% of the vote

* Government officials rank second to last with only 3% of women finding them sexy

* Results come from a study conducted by IllicitEncounters.com, the UK’s leading dating website for married people 

A doctor, a CEO and a football player walk into a bar, aren’t you spoiled for choice.

IllicitEncounters.com, the UK’s leading dating website for married people, surveyed 2000 women to discover which male profession is the sexiest in 2021. 

Expert comment from Jessica Leoni

Sex and relationships expert for IllicitEncounters.com, Jessica Leoni has compiled and commented on the results below:

Doctors scrub up well with nearly a quarter (24%) of women voting this profession as the sexiest of all. 

Those who enter the field of medicine tend to be compassionate, skilled and very clever – qualities that women find attractive in a man. Add to that an earning potential of five times the average salary – hard to resist. No doubt doctors have won the hearts of many in the last year with how well they have handled the challenges of Covid-19.

Bartenders, who prescribe a very different kind of tonic, sent pulses racing with 19% of the vote. You might be spilling more than a drink at the bar with lonely patrons spilling their hearts out, bartenders are often free therapy for those in need. Good looks and a listening ear are a recipe for attraction. The masses have largely missed the public house bartender with all the lockdown restrictions – so it’s great to see them come in second sexiest overall. 

CEO’s take third place with 15% of the vote, suggesting business men are quite the catch.

Fame and fortune fares well with footballers scoring a handsome 9%, and 4th overal sexiest profession. Football has caused quite a stir recently with the controversial European Super League, though evidently this has not dampened a footballers sex appeal. 

The fireman fantasy is well and truly alive, in fifth place, as 8% of women have the hots for a sexy firefighter.

Teachers come in 6th place (6%), followed by builders in 7th place (5%).

Suprisingly personal trainers score low in the list, coming in 8th place with only 4% of women voting this profession as sexy. Perhaps women feel intimidated by the excessive fitness that comes with a chisled physique.

Government officials rank second to last in 9th place with only 3% of the vote. Suggesting politics is not that sexy afteral.

Contrary to popular belief, policemen are not that desirable, coming in 10th and last place with a mere 1% of the vote. With overall confidence in the police dropping year on year since 2017, as reported by the ONS*, it appears less women find this particular man in uniform appealing. 

Results

Sexiest Professions 2021

Doctor 24%

Bartender 19%

CEO 15%

Footballer 9%

Fireman 8%

Other 6%

Teacher 6%

Builder 5%

Personal trainer 4%

Government official 3%

Policeman 1%
 

*https://www.ethnicity-facts-figures.service.gov.uk/crime-justice-and-the-law/policing/confidence-in-the-local-police/latest#full-page-history
 

NOTES TO EDITOR
IllicitEncounters.com is the UK’s leading dating website for married people and the leading authority on infidelity. With over 1,000,000 genuine UK users since 2004, you’re sure to find your perfect match.

Established in 2004, we have been providing a meeting place for like-minded married and attached people for nearly 12 years. Our members have one thing in common – they are all looking for a little romance outside their current relationship. Whether that’s the occasional bit of flirtatious chat, a regular coffee date, or a full-blown affair, that’s up to them.

Check out what our users are saying to each other in our live Lockdown Forum: www.illicitencounters.com/lockdown/pr
Username: pr
Password: openthel0ck4me

About the research

We’re always more than happy to talk about IllicitEncounters.com – please contact Christian Grant through the details below – but we’re not willing to speak publicly about SaraHartley.net at this moment in time.

Email: [email protected]

Mobile: 07824 353986

Twitter: @cheatsafer

UK’s Sexiest Over 60’s Men 2021 Revealed

The key findings

* Sean Bean tops annual list of UK’s sexiest men over 60
* Followed by Pierce Brosnan and Denzel Washington
* Harrison Ford is the oldest sexy over 60 at 78 years old
* 53% of women agree men look better with age, 82% prefer to date someone older than them
* Poll comes from 1000 members on IllicitEncounters.com the UK’s leading married dating site 


It’s said that men age like fine wine, and the proof is in the pudding!
 
IllicitEncounters.com, the UK’s leading dating site for married people, polled 1000 women to find out who they find sexy over 60, and here are the results.
 
Spokesperson for IllicitEncounters.com, Jessica Leoni has compiled and commented on the results below:

Shaun Mark “Sean” Bean, an English actor, has been voted the number one sexiest celebrity man over the age of 60 2021, with 19% of the vote. At 61 years old Sean is the second youngest in the poll. Sean has played a variety of goodies and baddies on screen, such as Ned Stark in Game of Thrones (2011), or more recently Mr. Wilford in Snowpiercer (2021) – his fan base is diverse. Sean is a vision of traditional masculinity, rugged and strong, with the impression he is powerful and brave – it is no surprise women find him irresistible. 
 
Brosnan, Pierce Brosnan, internationally acclaimed James Bond star, wins second sexiest (16%). At 67 years old Pierce is the epitome of class, scrubbing up exceptionally well in a suit. Pierce has timeless good looks, he is very suave in an old fashioned way – of course women would be attracted to this traditionally handsome man.
 
The dashing Denzel Washington, a Hollywood icon, claims 3rd sexiest (13%) at 66 years old. Famous for movies such as Malcom X (1992) and The Equalizer (2014). Denzel has boyishly striking features, and seems to have not aged a day in the last decade. With his chiseled physique, and seductive charm, of course women are pining for him.
 
Fourth place goes to Tom Hanks (9%), star of classics such as Forest Gump (1994) and The Green Mile (1999). This American heartthrob holds up very well at 64 years old. Let’s just say, Forest if you have to run, run right this way…
 
In fifth place is English musician Sting, at 69 years old (8%), ex lead singer of the band Police, best known for their signature number one hit written and performed by Sting Every Breath You Take (1983) – a song which went on to be recognized as the most played song on the radio of all time in 2019 by Broadcast Music, Inc.
 
6th place goes to good old Arnie (7%), 73 year old Austrian-American actor Arnold Schwarzenegger, notorious for his role in the Terminator (1984) franchise. Currently the Republican governor of California, clearly this politician has brains as well as beauty. 
 
Liam Neeson, at 68 year old, takes 7th place (5%); Northern Irish actor, known for movies such as Schindler’s List (1993) and Taken (2008). Shortly followed by 65 year old, American actor, Bruce Willis in 8th place (4%) star of critically acclaimed films such as Die Hard (1998), The Sixth Sense (1999) and Looper (2012).
 
Hunky Harrison Ford, American Actor and environmental activist, comes in 9th sexiest overall (3%), at 78 he is the oldest celebrity to make it in the top 10.
 
Last but not least is 60 year old, actor and stand up comedian, Damon Wayans (1%). The youngest in the poll. Damon is known for his stint on Saturday Night Live (1985), as well as multiple television shows including My Wife and Kids (2005).
 
53% of those polled agree that men get better looking with age, and a further 82% of women said they prefer to date someone older than themselves.

Sexy Over 60’s

Sean Bean 61 –  19%

Pierce Brosnan 67 – 16%

Other 15%

Denzel Washington 66 – 13%

Tom Hanks 64 – 9% 

Sting 69 – 8%

Arnold Schwarzenegger 73 – 7%

Liam Neeson 68 – 5%

Bruce Willis 65 – 4%

Harrison Ford 78 – 3%

Damon Wayans 60 – 1%

NOTES TO EDITOR
IllicitEncounters.com is the UK’s leading dating website for married people and the leading authority on infidelity. With over 1,000,000 genuine UK users since 2004, you’re sure to find your perfect match.

Established in 2004, we have been providing a meeting place for like-minded married and attached people for nearly 12 years. Our members have one thing in common – they are all looking for a little romance outside their current relationship. Whether that’s the occasional bit of flirtatious chat, a regular coffee date, or a full-blown affair, that’s up to them.

Check out what our users are saying to each other in our live Lockdown Forum: www.illicitencounters.com/lockdown/pr
Username: pr
Password: openthel0ck4me

About the research

We’re always more than happy to talk about IllicitEncounters.com – please contact Christian Grant through the details below – but we’re not willing to speak publicly about SaraHartley.net at this moment in time.

Email: [email protected]

Mobile: 07824 353986

Twitter: @cheatsafer

Forget the R rate it’s all about the A rate

The key findings

* The A rate, or Adultery rate, has been on a steady increase, as extramarital dating site predicts affair explosion!

* 26% increase of adulterers seeking affairs in the first 2 weeks of March alone

* The A rate has spiked since the over 50’s have already been vaccinated

* 84% of vaccinated love rats have broken lockdown restrictions to have sex 

* 88% of marriages are in peril as a result of lockdown

* Study conducted by IllicitEncounters.com, the UK’s leading dating website for married people

There’s a new epidemic taking the country by storm. The Adultery rate, or the A rate, has been on a steady increase since January as the R rate has been going down. 

IllicitEncounters.com the UK’s leading dating site for married people, has had a 26% increase in registrations in the first 2 weeks of March alone. 
 

With case numbers at an all-time low compared to the start of the year, more and more married people are choosing now to cheat on their partners. With numbers of adulterers increasing at the same rate as vaccinations. Naturally as more people get vaccinated the figure is bound to go up. As the R rate continues to go down, we’re seeing a massive extramarital explosion of case numbers – when it comes to adultery.
 

Inoculation significantly increases a person’s likelihood of breaking lockdown restrictions for sex. Out of a sample of 1000 members that have already received their first or second dose of the vaccine, 84% of these have admitted to breaking lockdown restrictions to have an affair. Spouses have become fed up with their partners, and are looking to escape dull or unsatisfying marriages. No doubt the pandemic has had an impact on relationships.
 

Of a further sample of 1000 members who are yet to receive the covid-19 vaccine, 35% have broken lockdown restrictions to have an affair.
 

19% said they have wanted to but haven’t had the chance, while the remaining 46% said they plan to break lockdown to cheat as soon as they have been vaccinated. 
 

Collectively, the sample of 2000 were asked whether covid restrictions have had a negative impact on their marriages, with 88% agreeing that the lockdown has put their marriage in peril. Relationships have taken a beating, couples have had enough of each other, if there were cracks already, it can be safe to assume they are craters now.

Samantha, a member using the site said “I had my first dose of the vaccine in February, so has my husband, and as far as we’re concerned that’s us safe. Our elderly parents have all been vaccinated too – so we have no qualms about spreading the virus if we’re only seeing family who can’t get sick.

Most of the men I’m speaking to have already been vaccinated. There is no harm in meeting up for some no strings attached fun. If it’s only us that exist in this vaccinated bubble then there’s no way anyone can get seriously ill – isn’t that the point?’

Expert comment from Jessica Leoni

Jessica Leoni, sex and relationships expert at IllicitEncounters.com said, ‘People cheat because of marital issues, stress, financial burdens, lack of intimacy, the list goes on. What we have found as a result of the pandemic is couples have suffered more than normal, it’s been a stressful year. Anything from not being able to socialise, dealing with loss of earnings, down to entertaining and home-schooling kids – things couples did not contend with pre-covid. I predict a massive explosion of affairs coming out of this.

Lacking touch and affection is enough to send anyone insane, but that on top of social isolation? No wonder people are jumping at the chance to be intimate after having their vaccine. Forget about the R rate, people should be worried about the A rate and what that means for the married population.’

NOTES TO EDITOR
IllicitEncounters.com is the UK’s leading dating website for married people and the leading authority on infidelity. With over 1,000,000 genuine UK users since 2004, you’re sure to find your perfect match.

Established in 2004, we have been providing a meeting place for like-minded married and attached people for nearly 12 years. Our members have one thing in common – they are all looking for a little romance outside their current relationship. Whether that’s the occasional bit of flirtatious chat, a regular coffee date, or a full-blown affair, that’s up to them.

Check out what our users are saying to each other in our live Lockdown Forum: www.illicitencounters.com/lockdown/pr
Username: pr
Password: openthel0ck4me

About the research

We’re always more than happy to talk about IllicitEncounters.com – please contact Christian Grant through the details below – but we’re not willing to speak publicly about SaraHartley.net at this moment in time.

Email: [email protected]

Mobile: 07824 353986

Twitter: @cheatsafer

The Verdict is Out: You CAN Laugh Someone into Bed

The key findings

* 5 out of 6 women agree that a sense of humour is vital when choosing a lover 

* Men aren’t fussed if a woman is funny, but want women to laugh at their jokes!

* 9 out of 10 women would sleep with someone they found physically attractive, if they could make them laugh

* More than a quarter of women would go home with a man they didn’t even fancy, as long as they were funny

*Study conducted by IllicitEncounters.com, the UK’s leading dating site for married people

The abbreviation LMPO, or laughing my pants off, should be taken more literally than previously considered. Turns out you can laugh someone into bed, actually!

IllicitEncounters.com, the UK’s leading dating site for married people, surveyed 600 women and 600 men to find out about what they think when it comes to attraction and humour.

91% of women agree that if they find you physically attractive, if you could make them laugh, they’d go home with you. 

A further 26% said they would sleep with a man who made them laugh, even if they were not that physically attracted to them.

84% of women agree a sense of humour plays a crucial part in choosing a lover.

On the flipside, men aren’t really that bothered about women making jokes – with less than half (48%) stating a woman that’s funny is important to them when looking for a lover.

Having said that, 70% of men agree that they find a woman more attractive if she laughs at their jokes, suggesting that men prefer to have an audience rather than being on the receiving end of a gag. 

The female respondents were also asked to rank certain qualities in order of importance when looking for a lover, ‘good looks’ came on top, followed by ‘sense of humour’ and ‘confidence’.

Surprisingly ‘intelligence’ didn’t score very high, coming in at fourth place. Perhaps, reason being, if somebody is funny they are already presumed to be more intelligent. Researchers in Austria previously uncovered that the funnier you are the higher your IQ is compared to less comical people, particularly if the humor is dark*, stating that ‘Humour processing is a complex information processing task that is dependent on cognitive and emotional aspects…’ Evidently wit and intellect go hand in hand.

Turns out money doesn’t talk, as women voted ‘wealth’ as the least important quality when looking for a lover.

Expert comment from Jessica Leoni

Jessica Leoni, sex and relationship expert at IllicitEncounters.com, said “All jokes aside, laughter naturally creates chemistry with the opposite sex. There’s nothing like a rush of endorphins and oxytocin, rewarding the brain and making you feel more connected to somebody. After all, isn’t it a connection that we crave? Making us feel more bonded to someone, and thus more attracted to them.

It’s no surprise that men prefer to take on the role of a jester, rather than an audience. Good news for women though – just act like a giggling cackle of hyenas and you’re bound to snatch your man-prey!”

Ranked in order of importance for women

Good looks 

Sense of humour 

Confidence

Intelligence  

Wealth 

* ‘Cognitive and emotional demands of black humour processing: the role of intelligence, aggressiveness and mood’, 18 January 2017

NOTES TO EDITOR
IllicitEncounters.com is the UK’s leading dating website for married people and the leading authority on infidelity. With over 1,000,000 genuine UK users since 2004, you’re sure to find your perfect match.

Established in 2004, we have been providing a meeting place for like-minded married and attached people for nearly 12 years. Our members have one thing in common – they are all looking for a little romance outside their current relationship. Whether that’s the occasional bit of flirtatious chat, a regular coffee date, or a full-blown affair, that’s up to them.

Check out what our users are saying to each other in our live Lockdown Forum: www.illicitencounters.com/lockdown/pr
Username: pr
Password: openthel0ck4me

About the research

We’re always more than happy to talk about IllicitEncounters.com – please contact Christian Grant through the details below – but we’re not willing to speak publicly about SaraHartley.net at this moment in time.

Email: [email protected]

Mobile: 07824 353986

Twitter: @cheatsafer

It turns out brunettes have more fun than blondes

The key findings

* A shocking 1 in 3 women who cheat are brunettes
* 2 in 5 men agree brunettes make the best lovers
* Ironically, more than half of men think that blondes are the most attractive, compared to any other hair colour
* Study conducted by IllicitEncounters.com the UK’s leading dating site for married people

Contrary to popular belief, it’s really brunettes that have more fun, not blondes!

Out of a sample of 2000 female users on IllicitEncounters.com, the UK’s leading dating site for married people, more brunettes than any other hair colour are looking to cheat!

33% of women in the sample are naturally brunette.

Compared to 28% who are blonde, followed by 25% with black hair, and 9% with grey hair.

Red heads are the most faithful with only 5% looking to have an affair.

The study also found that, from a sample of 200 women, 19% admit to dying their natural hair colour blonde, compared to just 15% of women dying their hair any other colour, suggesting that women believe blonde is desirable. Some iconic blondes include Marilyn Monroe and Grace Kelly.

They’re not wrong, out of 800 men surveyed, more than half of men (51%) find blondes to be the most attractive.

Red heads came in second most attractive, with 18%, followed by women with naturally black hair with 15%.

Brunettes didn’t even make the top three, landing in fourth place with 14%, followed by women with grey hair (2%).

Despite being less attracted to brunettes, a whopping 41% believe brunettes are better in bed than any other hair colour. 

Reasons given for this were that brunettes are more ‘adventurous’, and ‘open minded’ in between the sheets. Famous brunettes include Angelina Jolie, Elizabeth Hurley, and Kate Middleton – The Duchess of Cambridge . 

Blondes come in at 26%, with men stating that blondes are ‘enthusiastic’, and ‘eager to please’. Famous blondes include Scarlett Johansson, Carey Mulligan, and Kate Winslet.

Women with black hair come in at 18%, and are deemed to be ‘dominant’, and ‘kinky’. Famous celebrities with black hair include Kim Kardashian, Jennifer Connelly and Rihanna.

Followed by red heads (12%), with whom getting intimate is described as ‘passionate’ and ‘sensual’. Famous redheads include Julianne Moore, Emma Stone, and Nicole Kidman. 

Bad news for silver vixens, as grey haired women rank last at only 3%, with men describing them as ‘experienced’, but ‘demanding’. Famous grey haired women include Meryl Streep, Nichelle Nichols, and Jamie Lee Curtis.

62% of men said they have a preference of hair colour, however as much as 37% said they tend to date someone that isn’t their type when it comes to this preference.

Freddie, a male member using the site said “I prefer blondes, but I always seem to end up with a brunette. I’m physically more attracted to a blonde, but the connection always feels a bit superficial. Brunettes have more substance, better chat, and keep me more on my toes. Looks can only get you so far.”

Expert comment from Jessica Leoni

Jessica Leoni, sex and relationship expert at IllicitEncounters.com said “Brunettes everywhere are having the last laugh! Not only are they killing it in the bedroom, men agree that brunettes are adventurous and open minded, two qualities that support evidence that more brunettes have affairs than any other hair colour. 

No doubt blondes get more attention, as over half of men find them to be the most attractive. Maybe this fact contributes to them making less exciting lovers, if blondes expect men to fancy them, perhaps they don’t bother so much with flirting, which is needed to let sparks fly, and in order to create a build up to mindblowing sex!

Shame that silver beauties are judged so harshly. If a grey haired lady wants to appease a man, it may be worth getting the hair dye out – the question is, do you opt for bleach, or colour? ”

Results

Hair colour of women on the site
Brunettes 33%
Blondes 28%
Black hair 25%
Grey hair 9%
Red heads 5%

Most Attractive as voted by men
Blondes 51%
Red heads 18%
Black hair 15%
Brunette 14%
Grey hair 2%

Best in bed as voted by men
Brunettes 41%
Blondes 26%
Black hair 18%
Red heads 12%
Grey hair 3%

NOTES TO EDITOR

IllicitEncounters.com is the UK’s leading dating website for married people and the leading authority on infidelity. With over 1,000,000 genuine UK users since 2004, you’re sure to find your perfect match.

Established in 2004, we have been providing a meeting place for like-minded married and attached people for nearly 12 years. Our members have one thing in common – they are all looking for a little romance outside their current relationship. Whether that’s the occasional bit of flirtatious chat, a regular coffee date, or a full-blown affair, that’s up to them.

About the research

We’re always more than happy to talk about IllicitEncounters.com – please contact Christian Grant through the details below – but we’re not willing to speak publicly about SaraHartley.net at this moment in time.

Email: [email protected]

Mobile: 07824 353986

Twitter: @cheatsafer

Beware of Red Tuesday – top day of the year to be dumped is today

The key findings


* The Tuesday before Valentine’s day is the day you’re most likely to get dumped – compared to any other day of the year!
* 36% of people have broken up with their partner in the week leading up to Valentine’s Day
* 2 out of 3 of those broke up with their partner on Red Tuesda
* The number one most popular way to dump someone is by text!
* Results come from new survey by IllicitEncounters.com, the UK’s leading dating website for married people


It’s the week of love, but not for everyone.

Beware, as Red Tuesday, only six days before Valentine’s day – is the day you’re most likely to get dumped! As if this year couldn’t get any worse.

36% of people have broken up with their significant other in the week leading up to Valentine’s day. A staggering 2 out of 3 of those have ditched their partners on Red Tuesday (67%).

Results come from a new survey of 2000 members of IllicitEncounters.com, the UK’s leading dating website for married people.

A further 28% ended things in the week leading up to the big day.

5% actually called it quits on Valentines day itself – savage. 

Whilst some of us are preparing gifts and declarations of love – others are scheming on how to escape their relationships.

The most popular way to throw in the towel was by text message 32%, followed by a phone call 24%. 

Only 20% of people broke the news to their partners in person.

A whopping 16% ditch their partner via social media, turns out you only really need 140 characters to break someone’s heart.

6% of people didn’t even deliver the news themselves. Opting instead to get a friend or relative to do it on their behalf – don’t shoot the messenger.

Best to avoid the postman today, as a shocking 2% send a letter to break the news that they no longer want to be together.

Covid-19 is going to make this year’s Red Tuesday that much worse, with stay at home orders, couples who live together will struggle to move on. 

No doubt the pandemic has had an impact on many relationship breakdowns in the course of the last year, with a previous poll of 1500 married affair-seekers, indicating 82% agree their relationship with their spouse has suffered due to the covid restrictions.*

Expert comment from Jessica Leoni


Jessica Leoni, sex and relationships expert at IllicitEncounters.com, said ‘Ohh, he did you dirty girl! What a way to seal the deal. 

As many of us revel in the romance of the week ahead, today tons of people are going to be trying to mend their broken hearts, giving a whole new meaning to lovesick.

Sometimes you’ve got to be cruel to be kind. If people are dishing out break-ups just before Valentines day, it’s best to leave the table gracefully. 

Red Tuesday is spurred on by guilt, fear, and perhaps a little pity for the other half. If you’re not quite as loved up as you think you should be, leading up to the most romantic day of the year, then there’s no surprise why you might want to cut ties. 

My advice to the jilted lovers, don’t be too hard on yourself. Valentines day puts a lot of pressure on couples, and if your relationship is already on the rocks, V-day is only going to rock the boat.”


Method of breaking up

Text Message 32%
Phone call 24%
In person 20%
Via social media 16%
Through a friend or family member 6%
By post 2%


* Poll by IllicitEncounters.com, 14th January 2021
 

NOTES TO EDITOR

IllicitEncounters.com is the UK’s leading dating website for married people and the leading authority on infidelity. With over 1,000,000 genuine UK users since 2004, you’re sure to find your perfect match.

Established in 2004, we have been providing a meeting place for like-minded married and attached people for nearly 12 years. Our members have one thing in common – they are all looking for a little romance outside their current relationship. Whether that’s the occasional bit of flirtatious chat, a regular coffee date, or a full-blown affair, that’s up to them.

About the research

We’re always more than happy to talk about IllicitEncounters.com – please contact Christian Grant through the details below – but we’re not willing to speak publicly about SaraHartley.net at this moment in time.

Email: [email protected]

Mobile: 07824 353986

Twitter: @cheatsafer

The ideal number of sexual partners has been revealed, and 13 is the magic number

The key findings

* Men and women both agree that 13 is the optimal number of people you should sleep with!
* 18 partners and over, is when someone’s past sexual escapades become a turn off
* 2 out of 3 women lie about their magic number, compared to only 1 out of 8 men
*  Only 31% of us actually want to know about our partners sexual history
* Results come from new survey by IllicitEncounters.com, the UK’s leading dating website for married people

For those of you who thought 13 was an unlucky number, turns out it isn’t! 

Men and women agree that 13 is the ideal number of sexual partners one should have.

IllicitEncounters.com surveyed 1000 men and 1000 women to find out how many sexual partners they’d want their new lover to have. With over half indicating 13 as the optimal number (52%).

67% of women lie about their magic number compared to a mere 13% of men. It could be that women are more cautious in sharing their intimate exploits to appear more conservative to the opposite sex.

73% of the respondents agreed that 18 or more is the number of sexual partners somebody has had, when they become a turn off. A warning sign that perhaps someone is prone to bed-hopping and difficult to please.

A whopping 77% of men said that they would sleep with someone on the first date if there was chemistry, compared to only 39% of women, it seems women are much more selective, and likely to hold out if they are interested in a potential match.

Interesting to note, more men (59%) then women (46%) find that a high number of sexual partners makes someone less desirable, suggesting there is still a social stigma regarding perceptions of promiscuity between genders.

Only a total of 31% of men and women want to know their partner’s sexual history, indicating that people would rather not know then have to deal with their feelings about the matter, especially if they do not like the answer.

Members of IllicitEncounters.com comment below:

Sofia, 33, London
 “When a man has a long list of sexual encounters it’s a red flag. I’d be wary that he’s a womaniser, and would not trust his intentions.”

Henry, 56, Devon
“I think variety in partners teaches you a lot about love making. Taking you on an adventure, and giving you experience – a perfect combination for incredible sex.”

Grace, 40, Surrey
“I’d feel awkward sleeping with a man who has had less partners than me. I’d be worried that they don’t know what they’re doing.”

Sonia, 38, Bristol
 “There’s nothing sexy about a man having casual sex. It leads me to believe they value quantity over quality.”

Hayley, 46, Suffolk
“As long as you’re practising safe sex, boundaries are set and expectations are met – then why not?”

Expert comment from Jessica Leoni

Jessica Leoni, sex and relationship expert at IllicitEncounters.com said “A high number of sexual partners is a turn off for many. Nobody wants to be just another notch on the bedpost. 

Equally, you don’t want to date someone who’s barely had any experience, it’s a recipe for an awkward fumble.

13 partners is the ideal number – and guarantees that somebody is going to be experienced, adventurous, and open minded inbetween the sheets.”

NOTES TO EDITOR

IllicitEncounters.com is the UK’s leading dating website for married people and the leading authority on infidelity. With over 1,000,000 genuine UK users since 2004, you’re sure to find your perfect match.

Established in 2004, we have been providing a meeting place for like-minded married and attached people for nearly 12 years. Our members have one thing in common – they are all looking for a little romance outside their current relationship. Whether that’s the occasional bit of flirtatious chat, a regular coffee date, or a full-blown affair, that’s up to them.

About the research

We’re always more than happy to talk about IllicitEncounters.com – please contact Christian Grant through the details below – but we’re not willing to speak publicly about SaraHartley.net at this moment in time.

Email: [email protected]

Mobile: 07824 353986

Twitter: @cheatsafer

If Your Partner Spends Big This Christmas, They Could Be Cheating On You

The key findings

 * 81% of adulterers admit to spending big on Christmas
* Jewellery is the number one gift for women
* Top gift for men are new gadgets or tech
* Results come from recent survey of 600 adulterers on IllicitEncounters.com, the UK’s leading married-dating website
 
Want to know if your husbands been naughty or nice this year? You can tell by what present they give you this Christmas. The more lavish the gift, the higher the chances are they’re cheating on you!
 
A staggering 81% of cheaters admit to spending big on Christmas because they feel guilty for their affair. Only 9% of adulterers go all out on expensive gifts because they enjoy it. 
 
A recent survey conducted with 600 members of married-dating website IllicitEncounters.com has revealed the most popular gifts bought by cheaters this festive season.
 
Jewellery (33%) topped the list of most popular items bought by cheating husbands, followed by gadgets/tech (19%), and fragrances (15%).
 
Cheating wives favoured new gadgets/tech, with 37% getting their spouse a new tech toy. Designer brand underwear also made the list with 23% indicating they bought their husbands posh briefs, followed by fragrances (13%).
 
The average price spent on spouses by love rats in 2020 is £625. 

Men (6%) are more likely than women (1%) to spend under £100 on their spouse this Christmas.

Alexander, a member using IllicitEncounters.com said ‘I love my wife, I’m just not in love with her anymore. She is a wonderful partner and a fantastic mum, and I often feel a guilt-trip coming on for having an affair. I’ve spent over a grand on her alone this Christmas – as a token of my affection – to show my appreciation for the great job she does for our family. Perhaps it does ease the guilt a little.’

Helen, another member on the site said ‘I’m getting my fella the playstation 5. Honestly, it isn’t even guilt for me – we do alright financially, and I want to give him a nice present. With him spending more time playing video games, it’ll also be easier for me to sneak away and see my lover. Kill two birds with one stone, merry christmas!’

Expert comment from Jessica Leoni

Spokesperson for IllicitEncounters.com Jessica Leoni explains:

‘It seems guilty pockets are pretty deep! With adulterers spending in excess of £600 to quell their sins. I’d be pretty worried if I was presented with the new Playstation 5 or the latest iPhone 12 this year as gadgets/tech both make it in the top 2 for men and women.

Naturally cheats spend big during Christmas from adulterous guilt – it’s a sure fire way to rid those guilty feelings.’

Top Gifts Given by Men
Jewellery (33%)
Gadgets/Tech(19%)
Fragrances (15%)
Handbags/Accessories (13%)
Designer Fashion (10%)
Gifts under £100 (6%)
Other (4%)

Top Gifts Given by Women
Gadgets/Tech (37%)
Designer Underwear (23%)
Fragrances (13%)
Grooming Gifts (10%)
Designer Clothing (8%)
Other (5%)
Jewellery (3%)
Gifts under £100 (1%)

NOTES TO EDITOR

IllicitEncounters.com is the UK’s leading dating website for married people and the leading authority on infidelity. With over 1,000,000 genuine UK users since 2004, you’re sure to find your perfect match.

Established in 2004, we have been providing a meeting place for like-minded married and attached people for nearly 12 years. Our members have one thing in common – they are all looking for a little romance outside their current relationship. Whether that’s the occasional bit of flirtatious chat, a regular coffee date, or a full-blown affair, that’s up to them.

Check out what our users are saying to each other in our live lockdown forum: www.illicitencounters.com/lockdown/pr

Username: pr
Password: openthel0ck4me

About the research

We’re always more than happy to talk about IllicitEncounters.com – please contact Christian Grant through the details below – but we’re not willing to speak publicly about SaraHartley.net at this moment in time.

 Email: [email protected]

Mobile: 07824 353986

 Twitter: @cheatsafer