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Brits Reveal the Final Straw That Drove Them to Cheat – And It’s Not What You’d Expect

The key findings

* 72% of cheaters say they never planned to stray – a single trigger tipped them over the edge

* Top reason? Feeling invisible at home – emotional neglect beats lack of sex

* 1 in 5 started an affair within just two weeks of their relationship’s breaking point

* Study conducted by IllicitEncounters.com, the UK’s largest extramarital dating site

Silent treatment is driving Brits into the arms of someone else – with nearly three-quarters of cheaters saying a single event tipped them over the edge, according to a racy new poll.

The survey of 1,500 members of IllicitEncounters.com – the UK’s leading affairs site – found 72% of users never planned to cheat, but a single trigger pushed them into an affair.

Top of the list? Feeling invisible at home, with 48% saying emotional neglect was the final straw. One respondent said: “I could have set fire to my hair at the dinner table and my partner wouldn’t have noticed.”

Not far behind were those stuck in a sex rut – 44% admitted they hadn’t had a roll in the hay for months, while 39% said things went cold after the kids flew the nest, leaving them living with a stranger.

33% said their partner forgetting an anniversary pushed them over the edge, 28% caught their partner flirting on social media before deciding enough was enough, and a quarter of respondents said constant passive-aggressive jabs wore them down.

And once they hit that breaking point, 18% admitted they kicked off the affair within just two weeks – no messing about.

Expert comment from Jessica Leoni

Jessica Leoni, sex and relationships expert at IllicitEncounters.com, said: “It’s not always about the steamy affair or wild lust – sometimes, it’s just about wanting to feel seen. When your partner forgets your anniversary or only speaks in sighs and sarcasm, it chips away at how valued you feel.”

She added: “Affairs don’t start with fireworks – they start with silence. And when home life feels like a cold shoulder, it’s no surprise people go looking for warmth elsewhere.”

Results
Most common affair triggers

“Felt invisible at home” – 48%
“Hadn’t had sex in months” – 44%
“Our kids left home and we became strangers” – 39%
“Partner forgot our anniversary” – 33%
“Caught them flirting on social media” – 28%
“Constant passive-aggressive comments” – 25%

Further Reading

For more on this topic, explore married dating on Illicit Encounters.

What are ‘Invisible Affairs’? The New Infidelity Trend Experts Are Warning Couples About in 2025

The key findings

* 32% of cheaters say their most recent affair never became physical.

* ‘Invisible affairs’ take place entirely online – making them ideal for people who aren’t necessarily looking for a physical connection but feel the need to be “seen, heard and desired”.

 * 78% of people having ‘invisible affairs’ say they turned to virtual relationships because of a lack of emotional connection at home.

* Study conducted by IllicitEncounters.com, the UK’s largest extramarital dating site

A new type of affair is on the rise in 2025 – and it’s one you might never see coming.

According to a new survey of 1,600 married users on IllicitEncounters.com – the UK’s leading dating site for affairs – 32% say their most recent affair never actually became physical.

Dubbed ‘invisible affairs’, these relationships are defined by the complete absence of physical contact, yet they can still spark deep emotional and sexual connections. Unlike traditional infidelity, they leave behind no telltale signs – no lipstick-stained collars, no unexplained receipts, and no need for physical cover stories. For many, this is the exact appeal: discretion, safety, and emotional intimacy without the risk of being caught in the real world.

The ways in which people are conducting these affairs are varied, but all remain digital. The majority – 74% – said they maintain their virtual relationships through regular phone calls, while 65% admitted to exchanging flirty messages or sexting. Nearly half – 47% – send intimate photos and videos, and 26% have engaged in virtual sex via video calls.

So what’s behind the rise of invisible affairs? Emotional dissatisfaction seems to be the biggest driving force. A striking 78% of those engaged in these virtual relationships said they were seeking emotional support they felt was missing in their current relationship. 

Meanwhile, 67% reported feeling less guilt because there was no physical cheating involved, and 61% said they preferred this type of affair simply because it’s easier to hide. Another 43% admitted they were attracted to the thrill and excitement of digital intimacy, while 38% said they wanted to maintain physical loyalty to their spouse.

One anonymous member, a 42-year-old accountant from Surrey, described how her virtual relationship developed with a man she met on IllicitEncounters.com. “We’ve never met in person – but we talk every night. It started as innocent flirting, and it’s developed into one of the most emotionally intense relationships I’ve ever had. I’ve always felt invisible in my marriage and I increasingly got the sense that my husband just wasn’t interested in anything I had to say or how I felt. Keeping my affair online doesn’t feel like I’m cheating on my husband in the traditional sense, and I don’t think I’ll stop any time soon.”

Expert comment from Jessica Leoni

Jessica Leoni, sex and relationships expert and spokesperson for IllicitEncounters.com, says the shift reflects how digital intimacy is redefining modern relationships. “Invisible affairs aren’t about avoiding connection – they’re about creating it in a new way,” she explains. “For many, these relationships offer a much-needed sense of being seen, heard, and desired, especially when that’s lacking at home.”

She adds: “They may not involve meeting in person, but the feelings involved can be just as powerful. These kinds of affairs highlight how modern infidelity is evolving – and how emotional needs often come before physical ones.”

Results

How are cheaters maintaining ‘invisible affairs’?

Phone calls 74%

Flirty messages/sexting 65%

Sending intimate photos/videos 47%

Virtual sex via video calls 26%

Why are people turning to ‘invisible affairs’?

Emotional unfulfillment in primary relationship 78%

Feel less guilty 67%

Thrill and excitement 61%

Want to maintain physical loyalty to partner 43%

Further Reading

For more on this topic, explore discreet dating on Illicit Encounters.

Postnup Boom: How Cheaters Are Increasingly Locking Down Assets Before Getting Caught

The key findings

* 41% of people having affairs say they’d consider signing a postnuptial agreement to protect themselves if their infidelity is discovered.
* 22% have already consulted a solicitor since beginning their affair — citing fear of divorce fallout, revenge, or loss of children’s inheritance.
* High-earning professionals like lawyers, surgeons, and tech entrepreneurs are leading the surge in postnups as strategic pre-divorce safeguards.
* Study conducted by IllicitEncounters.com, the UK’s largest extramarital dating site.

A growing number of unfaithful Brits are quietly protecting their wealth in case their secrets come to light. 

According to a new poll of 2,500 married members by IllicitEncounters, the UK’s leading married dating site, 41% say they would consider signing a postnuptial agreement – not as a romantic gesture, but as a financial safeguard in case their affair is discovered.

Of those considering it, 22% revealed they’ve already consulted a solicitor since starting their affair, exploring how to ringfence their assets and avoid a costly divorce. 

The motivations behind the postnup boom are striking. The majority of those surveyed – 67% – say they want to protect their wealth from being divided up in court. Another 44% say their primary concern is securing their children’s inheritance, while 31% admit they’re bracing for revenge – expecting their spouse to retaliate financially if the affair comes to light.

Certain professions are leading the charge. Lawyers were the most likely to be exploring postnups, making up 19% of those considering the move. They were followed by consultants (16%), surgeons (14%), and tech entrepreneurs (12%) – all high-pressure, high-income roles where reputation and financial stability are often tightly intertwined.

Expert comment from Jessica Leoni

Jessica Leoni, sex and relationships expert at IllicitEncounters, says the data points to a major shift in how modern affairs are playing out. “This isn’t just a legal trend – it’s a warning sign,” she said. “Affairs are no longer just emotional or sexual gambles. They’re strategic risks – and people are planning for the consequences before they even get caught. 

Postnups used to be rare, even taboo. But now they’re part of the cheater’s toolkit. Love may be unpredictable, but divorce can be expensive – and for many, protecting their wealth comes before protecting their marriage.”

One anonymous member put it bluntly: “If I get caught, I’ll lose my house and half my business. A postnup won’t protect my relationship – but it might just protect everything else.”

As extramarital relationships become more common among ambitious professionals, the rise in postnuptial agreements suggests that even betrayal now comes with a back-up plan.

Further Reading

For more on this topic, explore discreet dating on Illicit Encounters.

Revealed: What Brits Will – and Won’t – Forgive When It Comes to Cheating

The key findings

* 71% of Brits say they would never fully forgive a partner for cheating.

* Only 12% believe a relationship can recover completely after infidelity.

* A drunken kiss is the most forgivable form of betrayal, with 89% saying they could overlook it.

* Poll conducted by IllicitEncounters.com, the UK’s leading married dating site.

Can someone who cheats on their partner ever be trusted again? That’s the question at the heart of Netflix’s Cheat: Unfinished Business, which reunites eight ex-couples torn apart by infidelity to see if forgiveness – and even love – can be salvaged. But a new poll suggests the odds aren’t good.

A new poll involving 2,500 people (split evenly between men and women) by IllicitEncounters.com, the UK’s leading married dating site, has revealed that 71% of its members would end their relationship immediately if their partner was unfaithful. 

Despite their own involvement in affairs, only 12% of respondents said they believed couples can “fully recover” from cheating once the trust has been broken. Interestingly, the poll found that men were slightly more open to reconciliation than women: 38% of male respondents said they had previously forgiven a cheating partner and stayed together, compared to just 17% of women.

When it came to what kind of cheating people might actually forgive, the results were striking. A drunken kiss was seen as the most forgivable form of betrayal, with 89% saying they could potentially overlook it. Sexting followed at 66%, while just over half (51%) saying they could move past a partner secretly using dating apps. 

More subtle betrayals – like “micro-cheating” (flirty messaging, liking provocative posts, or maintaining ambiguous friendships) – were forgivable for 39%. But forgiveness dropped off sharply when it came to physical or emotional intimacy: only 23% said they could get over a one-night stand, and just 17% said the same for emotional cheating. Full sexual intimacy saw forgiveness plummet to just 9%, while paying for sex was seen as the most unacceptable breach – with only 3% saying they could ever look past it.

The idea of revenge after betrayal proved to be a divisive topic, with one in four people (24%) admitting they would consider “cheating back” if they found out their partner had strayed. 

The results also show a generational divide: Gen Z were the most likely to forgive infidelity (39%), followed by Baby Boomers (25%), Gen X (19%) and Millennials (17%). 

Geography played a role too – the Welsh were revealed as the least forgiving nation (36%), while the Scots topped the charts for being open to giving cheaters another shot (55%).

Expert comment from Jessica Leoni

Jessica Leoni, spokesperson for IllicitEncounters.com, said: “You might expect our members to be more open-minded about infidelity – but the opposite is true. What this poll shows is that even among people who stray, betrayal cuts deep. Trust is complex, and once broken, it’s rarely rebuilt. Netflix’s Cheat: Unfinished Business tackles exactly this issue – and our results show just how unlikely it is for couples to come back from that kind of rupture.”

Types of infidelity people are most likely to forgive:
Drunken kiss – 89%
Sexting – 66%
Secret use of dating apps – 51%
Micro-cheating – 39%
One-night-stand – 23%
Emotional cheating – 17%
Sexual intimacy – 9%
Paying for sex – 3%

Ages most likely to forgive infidelity
Gen Z – 39%
Baby Boomers – 25%
Gen X – 19%
Millennials – 17%

Country most likely to forgive infidelity
Scotland – 45%
England – 27%
Northern Ireland – 18%
Wales – 10%

Further Reading

For more on this topic, explore affair dating on Illicit Encounters.

Amanda Holden voted UK’s “sexiest woman” in 2025’s surprise-filled poll

The key findings

* Amanda Holden tops the first annual “UK’s Sexiest Woman” poll.

* Lily Allen, Stacey Solomon and Angela Rayner join her in the Top 5, alongside a mix of TV stars and unexpected political picks.

* 2,000 men rated 50 of the UK’s most famous and culturally relevant women on sex appeal.

* Poll conducted by IllicitEncounters.com, the UK’s largest extramarital dating site.

TV royalty Amanda Holden has been crowned the UK’s sexiest woman, topping IllicitEncounters.com’s first-ever poll dedicated to female public figures turning heads in 2025.

In the site’s inaugural Sexiest Woman poll, 2,000 male members were asked to rate 50 of the most talked-about women in British public life – from TV favourites and pop stars to politicians and presenters – on a scale of 1 to 10 based on their sex appeal.

Amanda Holden took the crown ahead of the release of Netflix’s controversial new reality show, Cheat: Unfinished Business, thanks to her cheeky confidence and age-defying presence. She was closely followed by pop provocateur Lily Allen (2nd), while Stacey Solomon (3rd) proved her down-to-earth warmth and Essex charm has huge appeal.

One of the biggest surprises was Angela Rayner, the Deputy Prime Minister, who claimed 4th place – upending political stereotypes and showing that no-nonsense sass and a killer blowdry are irresistible in 2025.

Meanwhile, This Morning’s Cat Deeley and TV it-girl Maya Jama made strong showings at 5th and 6th respectively. In the survey which asked men who (if given the chance) they would choose to have an affair with, Holly Willoughby, Zara McDermott and Carol Vorderman rounded out the Top 10.

GB News presenter, Ellie Costello, landed just outside the Top 10 in 11th place – narrowly missing out on a top-tier finish. Meanwhile, Eastenders star, Patsy Palmer, made a surprise re-entry into public affection after her stay in the Big Brother house, coming in strong at 13th.

Fashion icon Alexa Chung (17th) and actress-activist Jameela Jamil (19th) also featured high on the list, showing that brains and bold opinions never go unnoticed. 

Female politicians didn’t go unnoticed, with Suella Braverman taking 12th place while Chancellor of the Exchequer, Rachel Reeves, found herself at 48th. 

Meghan Markle’s sparkle appears to be fading as she landed in last place at 50th. Meanwhile, Princess Kate fared slightly better than her sister-in-law, coming in at 27th.

The results come hot on the heels of last week’s ‘UK’s Sexiest Man’ results, which saw Piers Morgan rocket from 40th to 1st place, proving that controversy, confidence and charisma are firmly back in fashion.

Expert comment from Jessica Leoni

Jessica Leoni, spokesperson for IllicitEncounters.com, said: “This year’s list proves that men’s tastes are evolving – and fast. Whether it’s Amanda Holden’s glam power or Angela Rayner’s political punch, what’s clear is that confidence and individuality are the new sexy. We’ve seen the same with Piers Morgan on the men’s list – there’s a growing appetite for personality over polish.”

UK’s Sexiest Woman 2025 Top 10

  1. Amanda Holden
  2. Lily Allen
  3. Stacey Solomon
  4. Angela Rayner
  5. Cat Deeley
  6. Maya Jama
  7. Katie Piper
  8. Holly Willoughby
  9. Zara McDermott
  10. Carol Vorderman

Piers Morgan voted UK’s “sexiest man” – knocking Jeremy Clarkson off the top spot

The key findings

* Piers Morgan stormed to first place in UK’s Sexiest Man 2025 poll after ranking 40th last year.

* Jeremy Clarkson loses out after his two-year reign, whilst Danny Dyer, Dermot O’Leary and Jonathan Ross round off the Top 5.

*  2,000 women rate 50 of the most famous and culturally relevant men from across public life on a scale of 1 to 10, based on their sex appeal.

* Poll conducted by IllicitEncounters.com, the UK’s largest extramarital dating site.

Controversial broadcaster Piers Morgan has been named the UK’s “sexiest man” in a new poll of 2,000 women – dethroning two-time champion Jeremy Clarkson, who slips to second place in this year’s rankings.

The annual survey, conducted by IllicitEncounters.com, the UK’s leading dating site for married people, asks its female members to rate 50 of the most famous and culturally relevant men from across public life on a scale of 1 to 10, based on their sex appeal.

It marks a major comeback for Morgan, who languished in 40th place just last year. But whether you love him or loathe him, there’s no denying that his signature no-nonsense style, quick wit and unshakeable self-belief have struck a surprising chord with women in 2025.

Joining Morgan and Clarkson in the top three is new entry cockney actor Danny Dyer, whose blend of bad-boy charm and blunt East End charisma seems to have appeal with female voters. Meanwhile, TV favourite Dermot O’Leary enjoyed a strong rise in this year’s rankings, jumping from 10th to 4th, closely followed by chat show veteran Jonathan Ross, who leapt a remarkable 18 places to claim 5th.

In the survey which asked women who (if given the chance) they would choose to have an affair with, Sunday Brunch presenter Tim Lovejoy made his debut landing 6th, but perhaps one of the biggest surprises of this year’s poll is the appearance of Tory Shadow Secretary of State for Justice, Robert Jenrick in 7th place. 

Comedian Bob Mortimer took 8th place, whilst presenter Ben Shephard landed 9th, and funny-man Romesh Ranganathan will undoubtedly be disappointed, having dropped three places this year (10th).

The results weren’t without a few eyebrow-raising exits from last year’s top spots. Hollywood actor Tom Holland fell from 2nd to 17th, Cillian Murphy dropped from 5th to 20th, and Idris Elba slipped to 25th after ranking 6th in 2024. Even Prince William, who had previously enjoyed a surge in popularity, tumbled from 3rd to 31st, while his brother Prince Harry failed to make the Top 50 altogether.

New entries included McFly’s Danny Jones, who courted controversy in March after being caught kissing Maura Higgins at the Brit Awards, with the headline-grabbing moment helping him land in 12th place. Post Office campaigner Alan Bates also made a shock entry into the Top 50, coming in at 41st.

Politics had an unusually strong showing this year. Nigel Farage, one of the UK’s most polarising public figures, soared from 39th to 11th. Even Boris Johnson saw a modest rise, climbing two places to 28th.

Sporting stars also featured throughout the list. England defender Kyle Walker impressed at 13th, Arsenal manager Mikel Arteta held steady at 14th, and David Beckham, despite being a regular on “sexiest man” lists in decades past, dropped eight places to 19th.

The full list spanned celebrities, politicians, athletes and other public figures – proving once again that sex appeal is about far more than good looks. From quiet confidence to outspoken charisma, the qualities that turn heads in 2025 are refreshingly varied.

Expert comment from Jessica Leoni

Jessica Leoni, spokesperson for IllicitEncounters.com, said: “We were expecting surprises this year, but even we were taken aback when Piers Morgan soared to the top of the table. His unapologetic style clearly taps into something deeper for a lot of women – confidence, conviction, and not being afraid to ruffle feathers.”

UK’s Sexiest Man 2025 Top 10

  1. Piers Morgan
  2. Jeremy Clarkson
  3. Danny Dyer
  4. Dermot O’Leary
  5. Jonathan Ross
  6. Tim Lovejoy
  7. Robert Jenrick
  8. Bob Mortimer
  9. Ben Shephard
  10. Romesh Ranganathan

Further Reading

For more on this topic, explore affair dating on Illicit Encounters.

Easter Break Sparks Surge in Secret Affairs Among Britain’s School Staff

The key findings

* Affairs site IllicitEncounters.com saw a 39% spike in sign-ups from school employees ahead of the Easter break.

* Teachers top the list of school staff who have signed up for ‘extra-curricular activities’ (36%), followed by caretakers (21%) and teaching assistants (16%).

* 87% of school workers admit that they plan to cheat while their partners are stuck at work.

* Survey conducted by IllicitEncounters.com, the UK’s largest extramarital dating site.

With schools closed for the Easter holidays, a surprising trend has emerged among overworked school staff  – and it doesn’t involve lesson planning and marking homework.

IllicitEncounters.com, the UK’s leading affairs site, reported a 39% spike in new registrations from school employees last week in the lead-up to the Easter break. 

The site conducted a poll of 600 randomly selected members who joined between the 31st March and the 6th April, and found that 83% work in education. 

The data reveals that teachers account for 36% of the new school staff signups, followed by caretakers (21%), teaching assistants (16%), dinner ladies (12%), school admin employees (9%), and headteachers (4%).

According to the site’s poll, a whopping 87% of these school-based members admitted they are planning to meet lovers while their partners are at work, taking advantage of the unique freedom the break offers. In fact, 64% said school holidays were the only time they could arrange daytime meetups without raising suspicion.

Expert comment from Jessica Leoni

Jessica Leoni, sex and relationships expert at IllicitEncounters.com, says, “School holidays are often some of the busiest times of the year for our site, especially among teachers and other staff. The school breaks create a rare window of opportunity for affairs to flourish. While partners are stuck in the 9 to 5 grind, school staff have the freedom to explore without interruption.

What’s interesting is the emotional honesty we see in people joining the site. Many are in long-term, loving relationships, but there’s a sexual void they’ve quietly carried for years.”

One such member is Amy*, who works in a school in Yorkshire. Married for over a decade to a man suffering from long-term health issues, she describes her relationship as “perfect – except for the complete lack of sex.” After spending years suppressing her desires, she turned to IllicitEncounters last year. 

“I was secretly miserable,” she said. “My husband has ED and it’s been that way for years. There’s loads of support out there for men going through that – how to protect their self-esteem, how to help them emotionally – but almost nothing about how to cope if you’re the wife. It felt like I didn’t exist in the conversation.”

Amy admits that she’ll be using the school Easter break to meet with members of the affairs site. “Holidays are ideal,” she explains. “No one’s suspicious if I’m out during the day. Everyone assumes I’m just enjoying my time off.”

She insists her affair isn’t a betrayal, but a release. “I don’t want romance – I’ve got that at home. What I needed was a physical outlet, a chance to feel like a woman again. This site made that possible. It’s safe, private, and surprisingly empowering.”

*Name has been changed

Breakdown of school staff sign-ups

Teachers – 36%
Caretakers – 21%
Teaching assistants – 16%
Dinnerladies – 12%
School admin staff – 9%
Headteachers – 4%
Other – 2%

Further Reading

For more on this topic, explore discreet dating on Illicit Encounters.

Dating Site Launches ‘Anti-Guilt’ Perfume to Help Cheaters Feel Less Remorse

The key findings

* IllicitEncounters.com has developed a unisex scent scientifically formulated to reduce affair guilt by 67%.

* Created by a renowned British neurochemist, the perfume uses pheromone technology to activate confidence and suppress anxiety.

* More than 2,000 bottles sold within the first 48 hours.

* The fragrance is available exclusively to members of IllicitEncounters.com.

IllicitEncounters.com, the UK’s leading dating site for married people has unveiled a new perfume exclusively for its members: “Eau de Innocence”, the first-ever pheromone unisex scent scientifically designed to suppress post-affair guilt.

The fragrance, priced at £99.99 per 100ml bottle, is formulated using a unique blend of dopamine-enhancing compounds and cortisol blockers to reduce stress and anxiety after an illicit encounter, allowing users to return home feeling confident and composed.

With an alluring scent featuring warm vanilla, smoky oud, and zesty bergamot, the affairs site claims the perfume creates ‘an irresistible aura of confidence and control’.

Expert comment from Jessica Leoni

IllicitEncounters.com spokesperson Jessica Leoni explains: “We know from our members that the biggest challenge of having an affair isn’t the affair itself – it’s the guilt that can come afterwards. Our ‘anti-guilt’ fragrance is designed to counteract that feeling, allowing people to enjoy their encounters without emotional baggage.”

Developed over four years in collaboration with renowned British neurochemist Dr. Noah Candish, the fragrance is infused with a synthetic version of a pheromone found in naturally dominant, high-status individuals. In a controlled study of 200 IllicitEncounters.com members, 67% reported feeling significantly less post-affair guilt after using the fragrance, thanks to its unique formula that

  • Lower levels of cortisol, the stress hormone associated with guilt and anxiety
  • Enhance dopamine production, increasing feelings of pleasure and self-assurance
  • Activate ‘power pheromones’, similar to those found in confident, successful leaders

Dr. Candish explains: “Guilt is a biochemical response triggered by a hormonal imbalance. By manipulating the wearer’s neurochemical state through scent, we’ve developed a product that enhances self-confidence while muting anxiety. The result? A guilt-free, worry-free return home after a passionate affair.”

Within 48 hours of launch, more than 2,000 bottles of “Eau de Innocence” were sold, with stock expected to run out before the weekend.

“We anticipated strong demand, but this has exceeded all expectations,” says Leoni. “The success of this fragrance proves that people aren’t looking for permission to cheat – they just want to enjoy themselves without unnecessary emotional turmoil.”

Eau de Innocence is available exclusively to members of IllicitEncounters.com.

Further Reading

For more on this topic, explore discreet dating on Illicit Encounters.

“I spent 32 years in a loveless marriage – now I only date married men who know how to spoil me”

* After decades in a passionless marriage, Lisa, 55, discovered a world of excitement, luxury, and desire when she began dating married men through IllicitEncounters.com.
* Powerful, high-achieving lovers shower her with extravagant dates, lavish gifts, and unwavering attention.
* Lisa admits she has no intention of being in a traditional relationship again, preferring the freedom that comes with dating married men, and avoiding “the boring stuff” faced by monogamous couples.

After 32 years in a marriage that had lost all passion, Lisa* knew she needed more. The intimacy had faded, the spark was gone, and life had become routine. That’s when she made a decision that would change everything – she joined a dating site for married people.

Eighteen years ago, she discovered IllicitEncounters.com, and what started as curiosity quickly became a gateway to a world of powerful, high-achieving men who know exactly how to treat a woman.

“The men I meet are nothing like my ex-husband,” Lisa says. “They are accomplished, confident, and they understand how to make a woman feel special. They’re generous – not just financially, but with their time, attention, and effort. It’s a level of chivalry that seems to have disappeared in most relationships.”

Since joining, she has had affairs with 16 men, all of whom are successful, driven, and commanding in their own right. From investment bankers to pilots, senior military officers, and even diplomats, these men don’t just whisper sweet nothings – they plan extravagant dates, give lavish gifts, and make her feel desired in a way her husband never did.

Lisa has dined at Michelin-starred restaurants and sipped champagne on private yachts. One lover gifted her designer handbags, while others have showered her with expensive perfumes and high-end lingerie. 

“It’s about the effort these men put in. The planning, the gestures, the desire to impress me – it’s intoxicating. I don’t need their money, but I do love how they spoil me.”

She’s had champagne picnics, private cabin getaways, and luxury shopping trips. Every man brings something different to the table, but the one thing they all have in common?

“They are alpha males. Confident, direct, and incredibly successful. They know what they want, and they know how to get it. That’s what makes them irresistible.”

Now, she feels sexier, stronger, and more confident than ever – and she loves the attention she gets from the men she meets on IllicitEncounters.com.

“Gallantry is a lost art, but not with these men. I expect good manners, intelligence, and a strong belief in themselves. That’s what makes an affair work – it’s about mutual admiration and energy.”

Lisa has no desire to be in a traditional, monogamous partnership again. “Every married couple I know is miserable. The women feel ignored, the men feel trapped. Meanwhile, I get to have the passion, the excitement, the amazing dates – without any of the boring stuff.”

And with nearly two decades of incredible affairs behind her, she has no plans of stopping anytime soon.

“Meeting married men has given me everything I was missing in my marriage – passion, adventure, and a renewed sense of self,” she says. “It’s not just about the affairs; it’s about living life to the fullest.”

*Name has been changed

Further Reading

For more on this topic, explore married dating on Illicit Encounters.

Irish accent crowned the sexiest in the UK – but it’s not good news for West Country folk

The key findings

* The Irish accent has emerged victorious as the UK’s sexiest accent, winning the hearts of both men (29%) and women (32%).
* Unfortunately, people from the West Country have less to celebrate today, as their distinctive drawl was voted the least attractive across the board.
* Study conducted by IllicitEncounters.com, the UK’s largest extramarital dating site.

As the Irish prepare to paint the town green in celebration of St. Patrick’s Day, they can now add “sexiest accent in the UK” to their list of reasons to toast.

In a revealing new poll conducted by IllicitEncounters.com, the UK’s largest extramarital dating site, the Irish accent has been crowned the nation’s most irresistible. And let’s be honest, who can resist the lilt of an Irish brogue?

In the battle for the UK’s sexiest male accent, Irish men claimed the top spot with a resounding 32% of women’s votes – leaving other contenders in their wake. The ever-charismatic Cockney accent followed closely behind, garnering 26%, while the rugged Scottish brogue secured third place with 17%.

Further down the list, the Welsh accent charmed 8% of voters, while Geordies rounded up 6%. But it’s the West Country folk who’ll be feeling the sting of rejection, with their distinctive drawl taking the unfortunate title of least attractive accent – scoring a mere 1%.

But it’s not just Irish men who are winning hearts – the women are equally captivating. When men were asked to vote for the UK’s sexiest female accent, Irish topped the charts again, with 29% of the vote. The melodic Scottish tones claimed second place with 25%, and the soft, sweet Welsh accent came in third with 19%.

Sadly, the West Country accent once again found itself at the bottom, tied with the Brummie accent, both scraping just 1% of the votes. 

Expert comment from Jessica Leoni

Jessica Leoni, sex and relationships expert at IllicitEncounters.com who conducted the poll, wasn’t surprised by the results and explained why the Irish voice has such undeniable appeal:

“The Irish accent’s popularity makes perfect sense – it’s musical, warm, and playful, while still managing to sound incredibly seductive. It’s the kind of voice that can make you feel instantly at ease, yet also leave you completely captivated. 

On the other hand, accents like the West Country’s, while full of character, just don’t seem to carry that same romantic allure. They have their own kind of charm, but it seems they’re more likely to remind people of cosy countryside life than fiery passion.”

Results
Sexiest Male Accents (Female Vote):

  1. Irish – 32%
  2. London (Cockney) – 26%
  3. Scottish – 17%
  4. Welsh – 8%
  5. Geordie – 6%
  6. Yorkshire – 3%
  7. Mancunian – 3%
  8. Brummie – 2%
  9. Scouse – 2%
  10. West Country – 1%

Sexiest Female Accents (Male Vote):

  1. Irish – 29%
  2. Scottish – 25%
  3. Welsh – 19%
  4. London (Cockney) – 11%
  5. Geordie – 7%
  6. Scouse – 3%
  7. Yorkshire – 2%
  8. Mancunian – 2%
  9. Brummie – 1%
  10. West Country – 1%

Further Reading

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