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Study reveals nearly everyone is guilty of mentally cheating during sex

* Following the hotly anticipated release of Gillian Anderson’s new book Want, IllicitEncounters.com has unveiled a revealing study on sexual fantasies.

* New research shows that a whopping 90% of people have thought about someone else whilst having sex with their partners at some stage of their relationship.

* Men are more likely to fantasise about celebrities, whilst women are thinking about ex partners – and surprisingly, farmers.

* Scenarios at work are the biggest turn on for men, and sun-soaked beaches are the number one location for female fantasies.

A shocking new study has uncovered that nearly everyone is guilty of mentally straying during sex. 

The research was conducted by extramarital dating site IllicitEncounters.com following the release of actress Gillian Anderson’s highly anticipated book, Want – a collection of steamy sexual fantasies compiled by actress Gillian Anderson, which has sparked fresh conversations about the hidden depths of human desire.

Polling 2,000 participants – evenly split between men and women – IllicitEncounters.com, which will be celebrating its 20th birthday in October, revealed that a staggering 90% of people have fantasised about someone other than their partner while getting intimate at some point in their relationship. 

In fact, 86% of men and an astonishing 97% of women admit to letting their imaginations wander to someone other than their partner while having sex.

For men, celebrities dominate the fantasy world, with 19% admitting to thinking about famous faces. Ex-partners and coworkers also feature prominently, at 16% and 15% respectively. 

Women, however, are more likely to fantasise about exes (22%) and coworkers (19%), but the real surprise? Farmers make an unexpected appearance, ranking fourth among women’s most fantasised about figures. This curious attraction may be tied to the ongoing public fascination with Jeremy Clarkson, who was recently crowned the UK’s sexiest man for the second year running by female users of IllicitEncounters.com.

When it comes to the settings for these fantasies, men imagine steamy scenarios at work (25%), in a park (18%), or even on a plane (12%). Hotels also make an appearance, and some fantasise about romantic rendezvous in lifts and even police stations. 

For women, it’s all about sun-soaked beaches (23%), work-related trysts (19%), and hotel escapades (15%). Clearly a fan of the outdoors when it comes to getting intimate, fields, parks and forests are also featured in the most popular fantasy locations.

Surprisingly, the vast majority of people – 89% – don’t view fantasising about someone else as cheating, and only 11% see it as a form of infidelity.

Jessica Leoni, sex and relationships expert at IllicitEncounters.com, commented on the results of the study, “Mental fantasies are a natural part of human sexuality. While they might seem like a form of cheating to some, for most, they’re simply a way to explore desires and enhance sexual experiences. 

It’s important to communicate with your partner and understand each other’s boundaries and expectations, but now there’s confirmation – if you’re thinking about someone else during sex… it’s normal!”

Married people are unhappier in their marriages as a result of the cost of living crisis and many are turning to open relationships

* The majority of married people (78%) revealed they are unhappier in their marriages as a result of the cost of living crisis.

* 1 in 3 people considering divorce say that the high costs involved are an obstacle, which has led spouses to find a cheaper alternative.

* Open marriages are becoming increasingly popular, allowing couples to satisfy their emotional and physical needs while remaining legally bound – avoiding the burden of divorce.

* Study conducted by IllicitEncounters.com, the UK’s largest extramarital dating site

As the cost of living crisis tightens its grip on households, marriages find themselves navigating uncharted waters, with financial challenges placing massive strain on relationships. 

With divorce rates at their lowest since 1971, you might think that couples in the UK are doing a great job of maintaining a solid relationship despite the financial woes they’re experiencing. 

But, it turns out distinctive trends are emerging – couples are increasingly turning to open relationships as an unexpected lifeline to weather the economic storm, or they’re using infidelity as a coping mechanism.

A study by extramarital dating site IllicitEncounters.com revealed that a staggering 78% of spouses are unhappier in their marriages due to the cost of living crisis. 

Polling 1,500 of its members, one in three married people who are contemplating divorce see the prohibitive costs associated with the process as a significant obstacle, preventing them from pursuing the traditional route to separation.

As a result, a new trend has emerged – infidelity as a coping mechanism. For some couples, engaging in extramarital affairs has become a means of making their relationships more bearable when divorce seems financially unattainable. 

However, an even more shocking development is the rising number of couples turning to open relationships as a cheaper alternative to traditional divorce.

18% of those polled who are considering divorce but are unable to afford it have opted for open relationships with their spouses, openly seeing other people with their partner’s blessing.

Dominic from Newcastle who took part in the survey said, “We’d been on rocky ground for over a year – we’d tried marriage counselling but it just made us more hostile towards each other. 

Divorce seemed inevitable, but the costs were a roadblock and that’s when IllicitEncounters.com became our unexpected lifeboat.

Although the love might not be there anymore, we do still respect one another and we both want each other to be happy. So, knowing that we wouldn’t be able to face the financial strain of divorce at the moment, we mutually agreed that we should see other people.

It’s had such a huge positive effect on us mentally and emotionally.”

Jessica Leoni, spokesperson for IllicitEncounters.com said, “Despite divorce rates reaching their lowest point since 1971, the decline isn’t necessarily an indication of marital bliss – it actually conceals dissatisfaction in relationships that stems from economic challenges.

We’re seeing more and more couples on the site who, rather than ending their marriages, have chosen transparency and openness about seeing other people as a way to satisfy their emotional and physical needs while remaining legally bound – avoiding the financial and emotional burden of divorce.

It turns out consensual non-monogamy is the secret to a long-lasting marriage!”

Red Tuesday: You’re more likely to be dumped today than any other time of the year, expert warns

* The Tuesday before Valentine’s Day is the most popular time for people to get dumped.
* 37% of people revealed they’ve dumped their partner in the week leading up to Valentine’s Day.
* Of those, 52% admitted to ditching their partner on the Tuesday before Valentine’s Day, also known as ‘Red Tuesday’.
* The go-to method for breaking up is via WhatsApp messages (33%), followed by face-to-face dumping (21%) and breaking the news on a phone call (17%).
* Study conducted by IllicitEncounters.com, the UK’s largest extramarital dating site.

With Valentine’s Day just around the corner, it’s usually a time filled with romance and anticipation for couples. You might be expecting a fancy gift or dinner at a snazzy restaurant, but actually, new research reveals that you could fall victim to ‘Red Tuesday’ instead.

Today is the day that people are most likely to be dumped. Yes, really. 

According to a survey by IllicitEncounters.com, the UK’s largest extramarital dating site, the Tuesday before Valentine’s Day, known as ‘Red Tuesday’, could see your relationship crashing down just before the most romantic day of the year.

The website polled 1,500 of its members, and incredibly, 37% admitted to breaking up with their partner in the run up to Valentine’s Day.

Of those, a whopping 52% said they dumped their other half on ‘Red Tuesday’.

45% revealed that they dumped their partner in the week leading up to the most romantic day of the year, and 5% had the guts to end their relationship on Valentine’s Day itself!

So, what’s the most popular method when it comes to throwing in the towel? 33% of people went down the WhatsApp message route, whilst 21% mustered up the courage to break the bad news face-to-face. 8% didn’t even bother letting their partner know the relationship was over, and simply ghosted them – ouch!

Jessica Leoni, sex and relationships expert and spokesperson at IllicitEncounters.com, commented on the ‘Red Tuesday’ phenomenon, saying, “It’s a bit of a “V-Day pressure cooker” situation. As we get closer to the day of romance and roses, there’s this expectation to have this epic, Instagram-worthy love story. Suddenly, people find themselves questioning if their current relationship is measuring up to the grand gestures they see all over social media.

And let’s not forget the gift-giving stress that comes with celebrating Valentine’s Day. If one person is expecting a romantic masterpiece and ends up with a last-minute box of chocolates, it can lead to some serious disappointment.”

Leoni even suggested that people don’t give into the hype of Valentine’s Day, saying “I actually recommend that couples AVOID celebrating Valentine’s Day if you really want your love to thrive. Don’t give in to the commercialisation of the day, because you’re just adding extra strain to relationships, especially if they’re already on unsteady ground.”

Results
Ways people have dumped their partner around Valentine’s Day

WhatsApp message 33%
Face to face 21%
Phone call 17%
Social media 14%
Ghosting 8%
Through a friend 5%
Other 2%

8th January is the day people are most likely to start having an affair

* Dubbed Blue Monday for relationships, the 8th January is the day that people turn to infidelity as a result of cracks revealed during the festive period.
* Registrations on married dating site IllicitEncounters.com are forecast to be up 36% by the end of this week, forcing the company to employ extra staff to deal with the influx of new users.
* 71% of people say that getting a divorce or ending an unhappy relationship is a top priority in 2024, along with having more sex (56%).
* Survey conducted by IllicitEncounters.com, the UK’s largest extramarital dating site.

As the festive glitter settles and we embrace the start of 2024, it’s a time for setting goals with New Year’s resolutions – and having an affair is apparently high on the list for many people.

Today has officially been declared the moment when people are most likely to have an affair. The 8th January, dubbed Blue Monday for relationships, shares the spotlight with Divorce Day which lands on the first working Monday of the year. 

During the Christmas and New Year festivities, families are forced to spend more time together than any other period – a dangerous situation for already rocky relationships. The result: people are now considering whether the grass is greener outside of their marriage.

Extramarital dating site IllicitEncounters.com has revealed that registrations are forecast to be up 36% by the end of this week. In fact, there’s been such a demand that the website has reportedly had to employ more staff to deal with the uptick in new members.

To coincide with Blue Monday, the website polled 750 of people who registered within the last week, asking what their New Year’s resolutions for 2024 are, and it turns out that people aren’t just planning on eating well and exercising more this year. 

Surprisingly, the top resolution is getting a divorce or ending an unhappy relationship, with 71% declaring enough is enough. Whilst for more than half (56%) of those polled, the top priority for 2024 is to have more sex.

One member who joined the extramarital dating site this week, Juliette from Gloucester said, “This year, I’m putting ME first – the ultimate act of self-care! I’ve been with my husband for seven years, but I feel increasingly underappreciated and unhappy within our relationship. Nothing highlights that more than Christmas time, when I end up doing all the prep and he just sits on the sofa. I just feel like we’ve got to the point where we’d rather spend more time apart than together. 

So, my plan for 2024 is to grab the bull by the horns and make regaining my freedom a top priority by finally getting a divorce.”

Jessica Leoni, a spokesperson for IllicitEncounters.com and dating expert commented, “The festive period is one of the biggest annual hurdles couples have to face. With offices closed and the kids at home, the period from Christmas to New Year forces families to spend an intense amount of time together. As a result, it can shine a light on any relationship cracks, intensifying feelings of isolation or unfulfillment within a marriage.

Combine that with the fact that the start of a new year often prompts people to reflect on their lives, reassess their happiness, and contemplate change. For some, this introspection may lead to the realisation that their current relationships aren’t up to scratch.

It’s the perfect recipe for starting an affair – a spotlight on a faltering marriage + hopes for change and increased happiness = seeking new connections, new adventures and making potentially life-changing decisions. Is it any wonder divorce lawyers and extramarital dating sites are so hugely popular at this time of the year?”

Frome crowned the UK’s new adultery capital as the town’s housing crisis causes an ‘avalanche’ of affairs while couples struggle with huge rent rises during the cost of living crisis – while Blackpool is declared the most faithful town

* The posh Somerset market town – recently declared the ‘best place to live in the South West’ – tops the new cheating map listing the UK’s 400 top places for extra-marital affairs

* Frome has 1,309 people having affairs – 7.32% of the town’s population

* The award will be added to Frome’s mantelpiece, having also recently been recognised as the best place to live, the most stylish town and one of the most welcoming places in the UK

* Cheating in Frome is out of control with a massive 131% rise in adultery since 2022 as rising rents leave couples looking for a cheaper alternative to divorce 

* Figures are featured in the new Infidelity Index cheating table compiled by IllicitEncounters.com, the UK’s leading affairs site

The cheating capital of the UK is swanky Frome in Somerset, according to a new map of the country’s top 400 infidelity hotspots.

The picturesque market town – recently declared the ‘best place to live in the South West’ – has now officially been named the area people are most likely to cheat on their partner.

Frome has 1,309 people who are having affairs, which makes up 7.32% of the town’s population – a ‘Frome-nomenal’ 131% increase on 2022’s data of just 566 affairs.

The spike in affairs has been linked to the housing crisis that was officially declared by the town last month – with couples struggling to keep up with soaring rental rates paired with the cost of living crisis, people are looking for a cheaper alternative to divorce.

The most faithful town is Blackpool with just 0.38% of the town’s population having affairs (570 cheats).

The interactive Infidelity Index allows users to search a town, city or postcode to discover how many people are having affairs in any locality.

This year’s table from IllicitEncounters.com, the UK’s leading dating site for married people, shows that cheating has risen by 7% nationally since the start of the year as the cost of living crisis takes its toll on relationships. 

It is the highest annual rise in the 20 years since the dating site was founded.

Click here to find your local figure – based on data from one million postcodes – 

www.infidelityindex.co.uk
 

In second place is Weybridge with 946 cheats (5.95% of the population), followed by Wilmslow in third place with 1,484 cheats (5.77% of the population), Fulwood is fourth with 1,684 cheats (5.73% of the population) and Egham comes fifth with 422 cheats (5.72%).

Caerphilly is Wales’ hotbed for infidelity, coming 8th in the table with 1,998 people cheating on their partners (5.31% of the town’s population).

Motherwell has been declared Scotland’s most unfaithful town taking 10th place, with 1,447 cheats (5.14% of the town’s population).

Northern Ireland, on the other hand, is the most faithful country in the UK with its top town for cheating taking 157th place with 541 cheats in Newtownards (just 2.35% of the town’s population).

IllicitEncounters.com spokeswoman Jessica Leoni said “Frome is the new cheating capital of the UK. There’s been an avalanche of affairs, as no doubt couples are bearing the brunt of the cost of living crisis, and that reflects in these statistics. 

High mortgage repayments, rising rent, sky-high energy bills, an increase in food prices – with all of this financial strain is it any wonder that relationships are being so badly affected?

On top of that, divorce is a costly and drawn-out process – a headache no one wants to deal with unless absolutely necessary. Having an affair is a cheaper and more accessible alternative, so it’s not surprising that numbers have shot up this year.”

More than 1.5 million people have registered with IllicitEncounters since it started in 2003.

The average income of men on the site is £56,000 a year – with most working in professional jobs – while the female average is £48,000 a year.

The UK’s top 20 cheating hotspots
 

1. Frome, Somerset – 1,309 cheats (7.32% of the town’s population)

2. Weybridge, Surrey – 946 cheats (5.95%)

3. Wilmslow, Cheshire – 1,484 cheats (5.77%)

4. Fulwood, Lancashire – 1,684 cheats (5.73%)

5. Egham, Surrey – 422 cheats (5.72%)

6. Stratford-upon-Avon, Warwickshire – 1,288 cheats (5.53%)

7. Beaconsfield, Buckinghamshire – 526 cheats (5.35%)

8. Caerphilly, Caerphilly – 1,998 cheats (5.31%)

9. Leatherhead, Surrey – 589 cheats (5.21%)

10. Motherwell, North Lanarkshire – 1,447 cheats (5.14%)

11. Henley-on-Thames, Oxfordshire – 847 cheats (5.11%)

12. Redhill, Surrey – 1382 cheats (4.89%)

13. Beverley, East Riding of Yorkshire – 1,222 cheats (4.87%)

14. Arnold, Nottinghamshire – 1,946 cheats (4.87%)

15. Newton Abbot, Devon – 1,019 cheats (4.86%)

16. Kidsgrove, Staffordshire – 1,040 cheats (4.82%)

17. Chorley, Lancashire – 1,430 cheats (4.82%)

18. Farnham, Surrey – 1,007 cheats (4.80%)

19. Warwick, Warwickshire – 1,226 (4.77%)

20. Cambuslang, South Lanarkshire – 1,043 cheats (4.71%)

The UK’s top 10 most faithful towns
 

1. Blackpool, Lancashire – 570 cheats (0.38% of the town’s population)

2. Brentwood, Essex – 296 cheats (0.39%)

3. Wigan, Greater Manchester – 965 cheats (0.40%)

4. Craigavon, Craigavon – 229 cheats (0.43%)

5. Hartlepool, County Durham – 339 cheats (0.47%)

6. Ballymena, Ballymena – 103 cheats (0.49%)

7. Barry, Angus – 222 cheats (0.50%)

8. Bournemouth, Dorset – 780 cheats (0.51%)

9. Paignton, Devon – 272 cheats (0.51%)

10. Washington, Tyne and Wear – 296 cheats (0.54%)

Boom in infidelity linked to introduction of no-fault divorce

 * Spike in number of people using no-fault divorce as an excuse to cheat on partners 

* 51% of men are more relaxed about having an affair since divorce law changed in 2022

* Study conducted by IllicitEncounters.com, the UK’s largest extramarital dating site

 

Once a messy matter with a focus on finger-pointing, divorce has recently had a makeover. In the past, couples would throw each other under the bus, airing their dirty laundry in public during courtroom showdowns. Now, it’s a completely different story.

Back in April 2022, the ‘Divorce, Dissolution and Separation Act 2020’ (aka, the no-fault divorce law) was introduced in the UK, allowing couples to call it quits without having to play the blame game. But, it seems no-fault divorce is having an unexpected effect by opening the door to infidelity like never before.

According to recent data from IllicitEncounters.com, more cheaters than ever are using no-fault divorce as a get-out-of-jail-free card, with the married dating site reportedly seeing a massive 87% increase in membership since the laws changed.

Adultery was one of the five reasons you had to cite for splitting up before no-fault divorce came into force – but now you don’t need to provide a reason for divorce nor show evidence of cheating, making it a win-win situation for loverats.

When IllicitEncounters.com polled 2,000 of its members, the results showed men in particular are making the most of the new divorce laws, with 51% saying they feel more relaxed about having an affair now, compared to 32% of women.

Interestingly, people aged between 35-44 were most likely to be up for an affair now that no-fault divorce is a thing.

Paul, 41, from Bristol who took part in the poll said, “Back in the day, cheating was a red line I wouldn’t have even considered crossing. There was definitely an element of fear or guilt that stopped me, but when issues in my marriage spiralled out of control, everything changed. Divorce had been on my mind for a good few years, but it just seemed way too messy, and knowing my wife, she’d never have agreed to it.

When the laws changed around divorce, that’s when my thoughts on infidelity took a U-turn. No-fault divorce almost gives me a safety net that makes me think ‘Why not?’. I’m basically being given the chance for an easier exit from my unhappy marriage! 

I joined IllicitEncounters knowing that I don’t have to worry about my actions anymore and having met one incredible woman in particular, I’m seriously considering using the new law to my advantage.”

When asked to comment on the results of the study, Jessica Leoni, sex and relationship expert at IllicitEncounters.com, said “The introduction of the no-fault divorce law has completely changed the way we view marriages. Despite being brought in to reduce the hostility and emotional turmoil linked to divorce, we’re now seeing a shift in mindset, with people seeing infidelity as less risky.

The new exit strategy for troubled marriages is undoubtedly helping individuals go down paths they’d perhaps never considered when it comes to cheating. The previous fear of blame that would deter couples from divorce has gone, and it appears society is making the most of it.”

Stresses of cost of living crisis causing marriage breakdowns 

* 78% of people admit to being unhappier in their relationship as a result of the cost of living crisis

* 53% of people have considered divorce because of current financial turmoil

* Study conducted by IllicitEncounters.com, the UK’s largest extramarital dating site
 

After the surprise increase in the UK’s interest rates at the end of March and continuing rise in inflation, a new survey conducted by IllicitEncounters.com shows that financial woes aren’t the only thing we should be concerned about – marriages are increasingly at risk too.

More and more people are undeniably feeling the pinch during the current cost of living crisis, and it appears that relationships are suffering as a result.

The extramarital dating site surveyed 2000 members, asking if they are unhappier in their relationship as a result of the cost of living crisis. A whopping 78% of members agreed that it did indeed have an effect, suggesting that marriages are increasingly coming under pressure in the current financial climate.

Of those who declared they’re unhappier because of the gloomy economic situation, more than half (53%) have considered divorce due to marital tension as a result of the cost of living crisis.

However, divorce for many isn’t an option. The costly and drawn-out process is a headache no one wants to deal with unless absolutely necessary, so seeking an affair appears to be the cheaper and more accessible alternative.

Jeremy, a member on IllictEncounters.com said “The atmosphere at home over the past year was so bad that I just couldn’t stand being around my wife. I’d look for any excuse to stay away from her because I was so fed up with the arguments about how we were going to pay our bills that month. Obviously, with that amount of tension at home intimacy was the last thing on her mind, and since I wasn’t getting any at home I felt forced to find a release elsewhere.”

Lucy, another member on the site, said “I’d felt really isolated since the cost of living crisis came around. With my husband working non-stop trying to earn enough to cover the increased mortgage we’re paying, I’ve barely seen him. When we do finally get some time together, let’s just say that his performance is well below par – I’m lucky to get two minutes out of him but most of the time he doesn’t get aroused at all! Can you blame me for looking elsewhere?!”

IllictEncounters.com sex and relationships expert Jessica Leoni said “It’s no surprise that people are wanting to find a bit of happiness in what are pretty bleak times. With relationships bearing the brunt of the cost of living crisis, people are wanting to find ways to get those dopamine levels up again. Constant bickering about bills, turning the heating down or having shorter showers isn’t exactly sexy and definitely won’t get your engine revving.

We’ve actually seen a huge rise in new registrations over the past year. Taking that into account, as well as the figures released in the survey, it really just highlights how the current financial situation in the UK is having an impact on relationships, and the increased need to seek solace in the arms of others.”


Results

Are you unhappier in your relationship as a result of the cost of living crisis?

Yes – 78%
No – 19%
Unsure – 3%

Have you considered divorce as a result of the cost of living crisis?

Yes – 53%
No – 34%
Unsure – 13%

Married to a Conservative? They’re probably Cheating on you!

* More than half of all married cheats are Conservative voters

* Labour supporters are the second biggest love-rats with nearly two-thirds of them women

* Out of the top 6 political cheats, those that vote Green are the most faithful 

* Study conducted by IllicitEncounters.com, the UK’s leading dating site for extramarital affairs

If affairs are good enough for Boris, they’re good enough for his voters right? The public should have known that he is not to be trusted a long time ago,  judging by all the sordid affairs and betrayals in Boris’ private life. 

IllicitEncounters.com, a website dedicated to married men and women seeking affairs, surveyed 2000 members (split equally by gender) to shed light on the correlation between political affiliation and infidelity. 

Conservative voters are hands down the biggest love-rats in Britain. An astonishing 57% of adulterers align their political views with this right-wing party. There is little difference between men and women in the poll, though there were slightly more male conservative voters (53%) than females (47%). We have contacted the Conservative’s press office regarding the findings but they are yet to respond to a request for comment.

The second most unfaithful are Labour supporters (19%), with nearly two-thirds of these women (63%) compared to men (37%).

Liberal Democrats make up 9% of adulterers, with women (62%) taking the lead compared to men (38%).

Fourth place is the Scottish National Party supporters with 7% overall (made up of 59% men, 41% women), followed by the DUP 3.5% (made up of 56% men, 44% women).

Lastly, a meagre 0.5% of adulterers associate with the Green Party, making them the least likely to cheat in the top 6, (made up of men 20%, women 80%). 

Jessica Leoni, sex and relationships expert for IllicitEncounters.com, said “From party gate to infidelity. Juicy scandals are ripe in our currently elected government, who seem to think they’re above the law, setting the bar rather low for what is permissible behaviour in society. 

Conservative? Perhaps it’s simply in your nature to cheat. Personally, I think it’s because they think they can get away with it, like Matt Hancock sneaking around at work.

Lies, betrayals and debauchery are ripe. Politicians behaving badly, it’s rather like a reality TV show, we simply cannot get enough of.

It’s not just party-gate that happens behind closed doors, affairs do too! As if things couldn’t get any worse for the tories. Want your partner to be faithful? Marry Green!”

Affairs by Political Affiliation 

Conservative 57%

Men: 53%

Women: 47%


Labour 19%

Men: 37%

Women: 63%

Liberal Democrats 9%

Men: 38%

Women: 62%

Scottish National Party 7%

Men: 59%

Women: 41%

DUP 3.5%

Men: 56%

Women: 44%

The Green Party 0.5%

Men: 20%

Women: 80%

Other 4%

Men: 51%

Women: 49%

NOTES TO EDITOR
IllicitEncounters.com is the UK’s leading dating website for married people and the leading authority on infidelity. With over 1,000,000 genuine UK users since 2004, you’re sure to find your perfect match.

Established in 2004, we have been providing a meeting place for like-minded married and attached people for nearly 12 years. Our members have one thing in common – they are all looking for a little romance outside their current relationship. Whether that’s the occasional bit of flirtatious chat, a regular coffee date, or a full-blown affair, that’s up to them.

We’re always more than happy to talk about IllicitEncounters.com – please contact Christian Grant through the details below – but we’re not willing to speak publicly about SaraHartley.net at this moment in time.

Email: presspr@illicitencounters.co.uk
 

Mobile: 07824 353986

Twitter: @cheatsafer

The Grass isn’t Greener: Married Men Cheat with Exes and Regret Splitting Up!

* 34% of married men regret breaking up with their ex!

* ‘I miss them’ number one reason for cheating with an ex-missus, followed by the claim that the sex is better and it’s an easy lay!

* 24% of male love-rats have cheated on their current spouse with an ex

* Results are from a new survey of 800 men by IllicitEncounters.com, the UK’s leading dating website for married people

The grass is always greener on the other side… not!

The USA celebrates National Ex-Spouse Day tomorrow (Thursday, April 14th), would you believe it? In jest of this farcical holiday, IllicitEncounters.com, the UK’s leading website for extramarital affairs, surveyed 800 married men (married in the last 3 years) who have supposedly moved on, to find out what they truly think about their exes! Do men who are cheating on their wives cheat with an ex? Still, miss their ex? Regret breaking up?

It’s every woman’s fear that they won’t live up to their partner’s ex. Turns out you are right to be worried as 34% of adulterous men actually regret splitting up with their ex-partner. With nearly a quarter (24%) admitting to being unfaithful to their current partners with an ex. Over half of those who had not cheated with an ex said they would if they were given half the chance (52%). These stats suggest the doors are never truly closed on an old flame even if you marry somebody else. 

The respondents who had cheated with an ex gave reasons as to what motivated them. The number one reason male love-rats cheat with an ex is that they miss them (39%). The second most popular claim is that the sex is better with their ex than with their current spouse (26%) followed by, it’s an easy lay that requires minimal effort (19%). A further 8% admit to cheating on their partner with an ex as a way of fulfilling a sexual fantasy or kink.

We also asked the respondents if it’s possible to be just friends with an ex and an overwhelming 73% of the adulterous men agree that it is absolutely impossible. 

Furthermore, we asked the men if they were ever caught slipping by calling their current wives by an ex’s name and a staggering 39% said yes! Probably the last thing you want to do if you’re having an affair with your ex.

Jessica Leoni, sex and relationships expert at IllicitEncounters.com, said “It’s risky business marrying a man that’s already been in a serious relationship or worse, a divorcee. A man with an ex-missus is a man with baggage and a shocking amount haven’t gotten over their ex. 

Why do men regret breaking up with their exes? Perhaps it’s taken marrying someone else to find the grass only looked greener from the other side. 

Either way, it’s easy to slip under the covers with an ex when things aren’t going so well at home, old habits. They know to satisfy you, how to push the right buttons.

If both parties are game it can be a very safe and fulfilling affair, but if one person wants to get back together then you’re treading dangerous territory. Oh and be careful to not call your spouse by your ex’s name, especially when having sex, that’s a big no-no!”

Case Study

Pete, 43, London

‘My ex Georgie and I were never a good match. We fought constantly, couldn’t agree on a damn thing. I was happy with my new wife Sam for a time. We’re more compatible, but the chemistry isn’t there the same way it was with Georgie.

Six months ago I hooked up with Georgie. We bumped into each other at a mutual friends’ and one thing led to another. It’s happened a handful of times since. We have fantastic sex and I miss her very much. I hate that it’s so good. We’re like magnets that are drawn to each other. I do sometimes wonder about getting back together.’

Top reasons for cheating with an ex

I miss them 39%

The sex is better than with my current partner 26%

It’s minimal effort/easy to rekindle sex with an ex 19%

It’s a sexual fantasy/kink cheating with an ex 8%

Other 8%

NOTES TO EDITOR
IllicitEncounters.com is the UK’s leading dating website for married people and the leading authority on infidelity. With over 1,000,000 genuine UK users since 2004, you’re sure to find your perfect match.

Established in 2004, we have been providing a meeting place for like-minded married and attached people for nearly 12 years. Our members have one thing in common – they are all looking for a little romance outside their current relationship. Whether that’s the occasional bit of flirtatious chat, a regular coffee date, or a full-blown affair, that’s up to them.

We’re always more than happy to talk about IllicitEncounters.com – please contact Christian Grant through the details below – but we’re not willing to speak publicly about SaraHartley.net at this moment in time.

Email: presspr@illicitencounters.co.uk
 

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Cheating Could Cause a Second Spike!

* 41% of adulterers set to book sex-getaways from the 4th of July
* 16% of love rats have no qualms about meeting more than one household for affairs
* Over half of those surveyed are not socially distancing when meeting lovers
* Study conducted by IllicitEncounters.com the UK’s largest extramarital dating site

Can you expect cheaters to stick to the rules? Love rats across the UK shun guidelines for intimacy – amidst the pandemic. A British legal firm has seen a 42% increase in divorce inquiries* since restrictions began, indicating that marriages are becoming unbearable in lockdown, these relationship breakdowns are making the need to cheat prevalent.

With lockdown restrictions easing this weekend, IllicitEncounters.com predicts cheating may cause a second spike.

600 members of the site were surveyed regarding how they are managing their affairs, and their feelings about dating during the covid-19 outbreak.

82% of adulterers admit to feeling less lonely since the lockdown restrictions have eased.

54% admit they have not been socially distancing when meeting.

A whopping 41% of adulterers are looking to book a staycation in the UK with their mistress or histress.
16% of adulterers admit they have no qualms about meeting more than one household for affairs.

33% of affair seekers already have a date planned for next week when restaurants and pubs are open.

72% of affair seekers are aware they are breaking guidelines to cheat.

83% think the reward of having an affair far outweighs the risk of contracting covid-19.

22% of cheats have self administered coronavirus tests to check they are in the clear before seeing their lovers.

England’s Chief Medical Officer, Christ Whitty has recently warned that “If people hear a distorted version of what’s being said, that says ‘this is all fine now, it’s gone away’ and start behaving in ways that they normally would have before this virus happened, yes, we will get an uptick for sure.”

Not everyone seems to be clear on what you should and shouldn’t do in the current climate. With many affair seekers choosing to cheat at this time, adultery could possibly contribute to a spike in coronavirus cases.

Gabrielle, a female member using IllicitEncounters.com said “I’ve been really well behaved during this lockdown, and feel it’s finally time to reward myself with a holiday in the countryside with a married man I’ve been seeing. I’m separated so I don’t need an excuse, and he’s just told his wife he’s visiting family in the area. I like dating married men because I don’t want the commitment of a full time relationship”

Emma, another female on the site said “My situation is different in the sense that I live with the person I’m cheating with. I’m in a long distance relationship with my partner who lives in Canada, and we’ve had no way of seeing each other for over 4 months. Me and my housemate really got on, and being cooped up inside all this time, well, things happen. I don’t regret it, I’ve been starved of intimacy so it’s been really great to have a physical relationship again. I still love my partner in Canada, and plan to reunite with him as soon as I can. I’ll obviously be keeping this affair a secret, the last thing I want to do is hurt him.”

Jessica Leoni, sex and relationships expert at IllicitEncounters.com said “It’s interesting to see how affair seekers have continued to keep the spark alive in their relationship. I am delighted to hear that those who are lonely or disheartened at home are able to get some fulfillment from talking to their lovers, communication is truly important right now. Although, we do advise to listen to government guidelines on our website and if meets are unavoidable to adhere to social distancing – we must all practice staying safe.

Lockdown has caused many of us to make sacrifices, and despite the stigma associated with affairs – they are just as much a relationship as any other, and a lot of our members have been lacking that connection for a very long time.”

*Co-op Legal Services 2020

NOTES TO EDITOR
IllicitEncounters.com is the UK’s leading dating website for married people and the leading authority on infidelity. With over 1,000,000 genuine UK users since 2004, you’re sure to find your perfect match.

Established in 2004, we have been providing a meeting place for like-minded married and attached people for nearly 12 years. Our members have one thing in common – they are all looking for a little romance outside their current relationship. Whether that’s the occasional bit of flirtatious chat, a regular coffee date, or a full-blown affair, that’s up to them.

Check out what our users are saying to eachother in our live lockdown forum: www.illicitencounters.com/lockdown/pr
Username: pr
Password: openthel0ck4me

We’re always more than happy to talk about IllicitEncounters.com – please contact Christian Grant through the details below – but we’re not willing to speak publicly about SaraHartley.net at this moment in time.

Email: presspr@illicitencounters.co.uk

Mobile: 07824 353986

Twitter: @cheatsafer