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Letters to Sara

Quiet after hotel date

Hi guys

I would like your opinion. So I met a guy on here, he was lovely(or so it seemed at the time). After lots of chatting and meeting up for a first date at a wine bar, We decided on a hotel for the second date as we wanted more privacy.

We had the hotel date and one thing led to another...
That went so well, we both wanted it to work etc etc.
this was on a Tuesday. Communication between us dropped. He wasn't as responsive and when he was, it was a bit distant and rushed I'll message later just in the middle of something, etc etc

He travelled for business to Asia on The Friday of the same week and ladies and gentlemen, I have not heard from him since then and it's almost 12 days now.
I have messaged him twice (4 days apart) and he has seen my messages, but not replied. I have stopped messaging.

So my question is this- though I now know (much to my dismay!) that he was lying all along, why did he have to do that?!
He has hidden his profile, so there is no way of finding out if he is chatting to others on here.
How do I deal with this? The worst part of this whole scenario is not knowing what he is thinking. Surely he should have said something instead of just leaving in that manner. This has to be worst than ghosting- going quiet after a hotel date without a word is surely one of the worst things that can happen on here.

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Comments (72)

Thefuturesbright - 18 Mar, 2020 - 08:32AM

Hi there. I’ve not used this site for a while and just read your letter. This happened to me but obviously it was a woman as I’m a bloke. It bloody knocks the stuffing out of you doesn’t it. There are a lot of charlatans about and I’m sorry you met one but rest assured life does move on and the nature of this site means some rhino skin should be held in reserve. I’m pondering resubscribing but can’t quite make that decision. Life on this site can be hard if you are seeking honesty. Take care , from a rather old fella that survives and enjoys the ups and downs of life

1367060-Deleted - 06 Mar, 2020 - 08:42AM

It is a very difficult thing to deal with. Find some time to focus on you. If someone can not treat you with respect and honesty then they are not worth your time. Allow yourself to be sad and heal but then move on.
You are the better person, and far more than him.
And yes a similar thing happened to me. We met through this site and had what I thought was a fantastic relationship for a year but then I found out he was still on here. I asked him the question why...and he didn’t communicate again. He disappeared from my life as quick as he came into it.
I can’t explain how I felt but I know I will never let myself get that involved again.
You will get through it, the question may always be in your mind but hopefully someone else will be putting a smile on your face.

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shoey666 - 01 Mar, 2020 - 03:27PM

It has happened to m as a guy, well not full sex but sex acts! It hurts but it's not worth fretting over, just move on, his loss not yours.

There are some good reasons it may have happened though, but without more information they may not apply - maybe his wife found out or may be the guilt was too much and he was filled with shame and regret and just wants to block it out and go back to his life realising this is not for him, the first is understandable, the second he could just say sorry, it's not yo I just can't do this.

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OnedayinMay - 29 Feb, 2020 - 03:23PM

@SunshineForever:- You will never know and I will never care.

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SunshineForever - 28 Feb, 2020 - 04:55PM

@OnedayinMay; if you find no women reply to your emails anymore...you’ll know they’ve read your insensitive comments on here and are giving you a wide berth!!

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Butterfly600 - 27 Feb, 2020 - 07:27PM

There are some quite vicious people here , on the plus side it does give one an insight into the true nature of the person , rather than I’m more monty python than adel , and being rather modern 😁

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sex me up - 27 Feb, 2020 - 05:17PM

why is he is just not that into you mean. its about right ,just because you have sex does not mean they are the one you want to have affair with...maybe sorry the sex was too average or a lie about change of heart or work commitments would be kinder?Get over move on

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OnedayinMay - 26 Feb, 2020 - 08:24PM

@Sweet Proposal: - I didn't say I thought the man did the right thing - I said he probably thinks that he did - read before you judge.

He's been a bad man just as women are when they do the same thing, or message men then block to prevent a reply. The twisted little power games people play...

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Sweet proposal - 26 Feb, 2020 - 08:09PM

@onedayinmay it’s unfortunate that this is the way you reason and not only that, you can even voice it. If you have nothing kind to say to someone who’s hurting, just pretend you didn’t see the letter.
I’m sure other women have seen your comment and have made a mental note never to respond to your advances as you could potentially treat them in the same the writer was treated. People are on here to compliment their lives, not to be taken for granted.
Yourself and another female poster who’s username starts with a T may get on well together!

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OnedayinMay - 26 Feb, 2020 - 04:44PM

@SunshineForever : - This is a dating site, that's all it's for. Men and women will do anything, say anything and behave as selfishly as they like to try and get what they want then leave it behind them as quickly as they can with the minimum of complication or effort if they find that it's not. It's also not the worst thing that can happen to someone here.

@ComeDanceWithMe : - Since I thought 'probably' I'd suggest that he wanted the minimum possible complication after going AWOL and that the reader's letter are evidence of the kind of emotional complications he was avoiding.

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ComeDanceWithMe - 26 Feb, 2020 - 01:29PM

Guys on here lie all the time. So do women probably. You may have to accept that you've been dropped and ghosted and that he was too gutless to do the thing politely and correctly which would be to say thanks but no thanks.

Unsure why in relation to the comment below he might have concluded he'd done the right thing!

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SunshineForever - 25 Feb, 2020 - 05:52PM

@OnedayinMay; What an unhelpful and mean comment you make, particularly the second line. That really was unnecessary.

For some people it helps by talking about certain experiences especially when they might not be able to with outside of here.

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OnedayinMay - 23 Feb, 2020 - 10:25PM

He's just not that into you.

And if he's still here and reading this, then he's probably telling himself he did the right thing.

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Blue. Eyed. Babe - 22 Feb, 2020 - 12:39AM

Hi, I've been single for four years and I am also on another site.
This has happened to me a couple of times . The guy persues you..texting ....chatting...writes in detail how he sees the meeting will develope. You meet, it's appears wonderful, then after ....all is quiet.
I put it down to the fact he just wants to sleep with and have as many conquests as possible. He wants it, he gets it ....the hunt is over ......time to move on ....🤔
Men are hard wired into fucking as many females as possible, single married .whatever.
And nothing is personal to them, no emotions it's just business, a means to an end !!!!! 😊🤭
Also if he's married with a family , he is never going to choose you over them for several reasons.
So.......enjoy the time you spend with the guy you've connected with no matter how briefly.
Enjoy it for what it is, it can be beautiful.
Love Sue 💖

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Secondhand Rose - 18 Feb, 2020 - 07:52PM

@ sweet proposal
Don't worry too much about "Tantalising"
No-one, reading her messages will be in any doubt about where she's coming from.
That's why I don't often add my 2pennyworth to these letters; they're far more revealing than any profile, ever could be!!

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Goodkitty - 18 Feb, 2020 - 10:58AM

PS. I’m revisiting this after reading a few comments : “the sex didn’t float his boat”.
It takes two for sex, and he is 50% responsible for that . My Chanel no 5 man was totally inadequate, so maybe this guy felt he was not up to it . Such a shame we don’t know who he is . I am feeling a little sorry for him now that he may be feeling a right idiot . Do hope he recognises himself in this story . In the words of Elsa, let it go love. Xxxx

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1363798-Deleted - 18 Feb, 2020 - 09:38AM

Firstly, I am sorry this happened to you. Why he acted like this is pure guesswork and speculation. Maybe he is someone who likes the chase, and one offs.

Maybe he just spotted something in you he did not like, or had second thoughts about what he was doing, who knows? It is though time for you to move on, we men are not all like that. If I struck up a relationship that went that far I would be one happy bunny and looking forward to the next encounter.

Maybe some guys like to, and can bed hop, I fir one don’t want to, and it is so difficult to find someone on this site I doubt many men can anyway.

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Lost touch - 17 Feb, 2020 - 09:50PM

You dont think he's been quarantined somewhere do you, where in Asia was he going?

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Sweet proposal - 17 Feb, 2020 - 02:44PM

@tanterlizing you’re too immature for your age. Stops being a bully. If you can’t be sympathetic stay on your own and remain sad! Stop being a bully!

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Sophistikat - 17 Feb, 2020 - 01:26PM

Im so sorry to hear about the way hed treated you but i think deep down you know the anseer your self..
There is no excuse for his behaviour ..im sure its happened to a lot of women on here ..its happened to me ive also been ghosted and false profiles
Its so difficult please dont blame your self stop anylysing it .
And get back out in the field ..
Be you be who you are ..he dosent deserve you xxx

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Sweet proposal - 16 Feb, 2020 - 09:45PM

Tantalising - 10 Feb, 2020 - 02:04PM

Me thinks there are too many gullible members after all choices can be made so go with it or don't Funnily enough I am a female member and quite often fall on the side of a male point of view

@tantalising, if you have nothing nice and uplifting to say to this person who is obviously in pain, then just pretend you didn’t see this letter and move on. I think your comment is kind of insensitive, given the writer’s already wounded emotions. BE KIND or say nothing.

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Tantalising - 16 Feb, 2020 - 11:30AM

Come on get real You both wanted the hotel date End of. Does he owe you anything after just 2 dates No I don't think so

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Goodkitty - 15 Feb, 2020 - 08:08PM

Try and let this one go , even though it’s difficult . Sometimes users are playing a game . Happened to me. Then he sent a pack of lies saying his wife had detected Chanel no 5 on him . I don’t even use that . Don’t fall for that one ladies !!!!

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X20TWO - 15 Feb, 2020 - 06:58PM

Not nice. He should tell you he doesn't want to see you again and why. It might hurt your ego a bit, but at least you can move on quickly. I suggest going on a date. It'll help you forget quicker. x

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rarity23 - 15 Feb, 2020 - 12:00AM

Oh dear, I feel really feel for you women reading this letter, especially if it was your first venture in affairs.
After a while you get a feel for who the genuine people are, it just needs careful profile reading, to match what you are looking for.
Take a bit more time to get to know your partner in crime, before jumping into bed next time !!
Thankfully not all of us guys treat women like that.

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1363424-Deleted - 14 Feb, 2020 - 11:38PM

It's probably what you don't want to hear but let go. This site is not for romantic relationships so enjoy it for what it is and accept that it's a brief moment in time.

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YessirYessir - 13 Feb, 2020 - 10:08PM

Aww sorry to hear this , Get over him and find someone else xxx

Man in Somerset - 12 Feb, 2020 - 08:26PM

I feel for you.
In our dishonesty on this site, we should at least be honest with those we choose to be our partners in crime with.
He was wrong not to be honest with you.
Good luck next time, maybe you'll find a decent guy that doesn't give us all a bad name.

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daveuk2014 - 12 Feb, 2020 - 08:11PM

He may be a bad choice for you. He didnt have had guts to tell you that he didnt want to continue. Rather than playing your emotions, move on thinki9ng it is his lost.
This is a grown up adult's place

ExoticOrchid - 12 Feb, 2020 - 10:43AM

affair to remember - 10 Feb, 2020 - 01:57PM
" it sounds to me as if the sex did not float his boat enough,"

Fair enough but surely he could have made some kind of excuse and let her know he's not going to be around instead of ghosting her like this.

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Caramel969 - 11 Feb, 2020 - 04:19PM

Unfortunately he’s used you and was lying all along. You put it behind you and forget him. Don’t waste your time or energy he’s not worth it.

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Tantalising - 10 Feb, 2020 - 02:04PM

Me thinks there are too many gullible members after all choices can be made so go with it or don't Funnily enough I am a female member and quite often fall on the side of a male point of view

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affair to remember - 10 Feb, 2020 - 01:57PM

sorry but it sounds to me as if the sex did not float his boat enough, average is not good going to cut it for an affair for most men(or a lot of us women)was he really all thateither?move on

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LukeRabbit - 10 Feb, 2020 - 10:48AM

What a pity to toy with somebody's feelings in such a way. I believe you should always be honest and up front about everything in life. Sometimes we have to be a bit insincere to stay employed or avoid conflict but whenever possible authenticity is one of the most attractive features a person can have, far longer lasting than physical attributes.
Clearly not worth your tears and I'm sure you will find someone who is genuine (even if we are on a married dating site!) Hope you're feeling better x

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Gymfit8 - 09 Feb, 2020 - 03:26PM

Not nice treatment, forget him......

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1362652-Deleted - 09 Feb, 2020 - 12:01AM

It appears he has used you for his own means and must be seeing someone else. Dont give him another thought, its not nice what he did but he is never going to explain why so stop wondering and dont let him hurt you any longer.

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Epee - 08 Feb, 2020 - 11:52AM

Unfortunately a lot of ladies on here are like that to.
Just time wasters, I have a theory that there are a lot of men and women on here,
Sitting at home masturbating over the imaginary affair their having.
And then when it comes to reality they can not handle it,
Just because a lot is conducted on line, is no excuse for being rude, impolite or dishonest.
Just develop a thicker skin and chalk it up to experience and sad people.

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1361226-Deleted - 08 Feb, 2020 - 08:45AM

I think he has lied and manipulated you for his own advantage and sadly to say used you , maybe change your profile to say you absolutely won’t be jumping into bed with anyone certainly for a long time and that may put off any potential users trying to take advantage , maybe tell him too he is the discussions of the I.E letters page too to get your own back

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Gemini Lady30 - 07 Feb, 2020 - 10:19PM

I feel for you!! Ghosting after a hotel meet must be the lowest of the lows!!

Ive had an 8mth affair which ended with him ghosting me.....i sent several messages which he read but just ignored. Its unkind, cruel, callous and above all cowardly! It feels like you're discarded like a piece of rubbish. These pathetic people need to man up and grow a pair. As i said in my profile....if you are adult enough to have an affair then you should be adult enough to end it properly!
One thing lying to your spouse/partner, but why cant guys be honest with a lover? It doesnt take much to give your lover an explanation!

Move on.....i have.....bigger and better people out there.....its finding them thats the challenge 😊 xx

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1361831-Deleted - 07 Feb, 2020 - 09:07PM

Shame but he sounds like a rat! Best not to waste your time, energy and no doubt loveliness on someone who treats women like that.

Cerberus 36 - 07 Feb, 2020 - 03:05PM

I’ve had meetings where I’ve had perfectly ok sex but not something I’d want to repeat, as I say it was ok but not wow.
I do at least mention that If this happens for either party and if it’s not quite right for me or him then to say. I always follow up with a message explaining that it’s not for me.

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Sweet proposal - 07 Feb, 2020 - 02:58PM

I’m sorry, but @altostratus, I hope you were joking when you made that comment.

She should be thankful she even got to meet someone?! What’s there to be thankful for??? The poster’s pain at being treated as a lady of the night is palpable. She clearly didn’t want a lying, emotionally unintelligent scum bag and you’re saying she should be thankful she met him?
You need to hold yourself to much higher standards!!!!

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Winterdayz47 - 07 Feb, 2020 - 02:01PM

Sadly it's time for thicker skin. And more importantly as the Rolling Stones put it so well, "you can't always get what you want, so get what you need"
Ultimately we're all here for the five seconds of final orgasm.. If we're lucky.. Or half an hour if you found the gold in the rough. Live for that moment, everything else is fake.

Gilthoniel - 07 Feb, 2020 - 12:35PM

What a despicable piece of sh*t. I'm so sorry you've had this experience. I have one rule and it's this. After a meet whether or not it goes like your first OR second date, let him contact you first. And if you wait and he does not then he truly is not worth bothering with. If he is stuck somewhere in the Far East due to the Coronavirus then eventually the truth will out.

You deserve so much better than this.

Zoombar - 07 Feb, 2020 - 11:57AM

Second date in a hotel? Well he got what he wanted with no real effort and moved on...

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Midnightincantation - 07 Feb, 2020 - 01:08AM

Sorry to say . he is a married man..just wanted a leg over..

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ASearchingsoul - 06 Feb, 2020 - 09:43PM

Liar liars pants are on fire many fib who say they want long term they can’t handle it....cowards

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ASearchingsoul - 06 Feb, 2020 - 09:41PM

Did his name start with a W?? LMAO

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ASearchingsoul - 06 Feb, 2020 - 09:39PM

Been there done that....

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1362157-Deleted - 06 Feb, 2020 - 09:22PM

This happened to me too. He really pushed things forwards, seemed crazy about me in more than a physical sense and then cut me dead after the hotel, saying he was too busy to meet. A couple of days later I messaged him to wish him a Happy Christmas and he replies saying he has no idea who I am! Six months later, he resurfaces, saying his wife found out and he's getting divorced (I found him on Facebook and the divorce bit was true.) He then tries to rekindle things with me - as if! He'd even told me that he and his wife had an open relationship. What a pathetic scumbag.

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Tamsin8 - 06 Feb, 2020 - 04:02PM

This says more about him than you. He is certainly lacking in manners. He is probably the sort of man who needs to see a prostitute rather than build up an illicit relationship with a woman from this site. Don't give him the satisfaction of contacting him again, DELETE/BLOCK. Some very good advice on here. Take your time choosing a potential partner. If he is worth it he will wait a while. Just wondering how many members of this site end up blocking people because of their crass and ignorant comments on here.... I always feel sorry for the poor wives and partners of some of the odd characters on here....

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Sweet proposal - 06 Feb, 2020 - 12:54PM

Oh dear... this is just so cruel.
Poster I’m so sorry! Perhaps he is too much of a coward to actually say how he feels. He’s not a man, waste no more time on him. A true man who has chosen to be on here will be honest with you.
Get him out of your system anyway you can. Block his number, block him on here, delete his contact details.

He has treated you like a prostitute and that is vile! People need to have more respect.
Get a mani or/and pedicure and feel like a hottie. Then come back here and find a better man, many of which abound.

Always remember my darling—- it’s not you, it’s him. Love you lots XX

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1353111-Deleted - 06 Feb, 2020 - 12:00PM

Unfortunately, he lied to increase his chances of having a one night stand or nsa sex. Wrong but not uncommon. Brush it off as life experience. It reflects very badly on him. Sorry it happened at all.

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1360627-Deleted - 06 Feb, 2020 - 08:38AM

I'm sorry this happened to you, and I'm sure that you have run through more than a few scenarios about what might have happened. At this point, though, does any of it matter? From his behaviour he's either an emotional cripple or a snake, neither of which is good news.

My advice is this: don't beat yourself up as I'm sure you did nothing wrong. And don't waste time trying to get into this person's head as they are clearly not worth the candle. It's a sad fact that these things happen, but hopefully the next one will be genuine and worthwhile.

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Iamgoingsupernova - 06 Feb, 2020 - 08:11AM

Unfortunately this happens more often than we would like. It's not a behaviour only displayed by men, but women too in my experience. It's difficult to guess the exact reason, could be this was his intention from the start, could be guilt pangs, or maybe reality didn't match up to his fantasy. In either case, there's nothing else to do but chin up and move on! Plenty of fish and all that!

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Altostratus - 06 Feb, 2020 - 07:49AM

There's nothing you can do. Women do it to men all the time, but at the stage where you've not even met. Thank your lucky stars that you actually got to meet someone in the first place.

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Borderline847 - 06 Feb, 2020 - 12:07AM

I am afraid it is the nature of the beast. It happens a lot!! Chalk it down to experience.
Forget about him and move on.

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Floriana - 05 Feb, 2020 - 11:54PM

Oh dear, i’m so sorry for you!! It’s a horrible situation when you thought it was going well!
I fear it is guilt on his part...either that, or he’s a cad...... and a serial one-night stander!
Put it behind you...get back out there girl!
We need a thick skin to do this, but trust me, there are some lovely, genuine guys here.

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1360412-Deleted - 05 Feb, 2020 - 10:26PM

I guess you will never know his reasons, but, whatever they are, he should at least have the curtesy to let you know.

I may simply be that, whilst your tryst together was special, it also woke him up to just what he was doing, to just what he was putting at risk, and maybe he has panicked.

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Dreamtime - 05 Feb, 2020 - 09:39PM

The way you deal with this is to accept this happened. And stop wondering about it. Move on knowing that he wanted different things to you and you're not the first or last person this happens to.. Don't waste your time worrying.

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takenononsense - 05 Feb, 2020 - 09:15PM

He's a big C! Disgraceful behaviour to say the least. I know no one should expect much (if anything at all) from anyone here, but chivalry and respect are a must! A bit of honesty too! That's stupid behaviour that denotes a total lack of character!

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Fanciful - 05 Feb, 2020 - 07:43PM

I ask myself if I would be ok if it was just a one off. If not I don’t go there. He may have meant it at the time and then got cold feet. Some people are not brave enough to say anything. It’s hard so my advice is to learn from it and do things differently next time :)

Fanciful - 05 Feb, 2020 - 07:43PM

I ask myself if I would be ok if it was just a one off. If not I don’t go there. He may have meant it at the time and then got cold feet. Some people are not brave enough to say anything. It’s hard so my advice is to learn from it and do things differently next time :)

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SunshineForever - 05 Feb, 2020 - 06:34PM

If he had did that to me...I’d certainly not want to hear from him now. As to what he’s thinking? I’d not care...he didn’t respond after you sent two messages...so I’d leave it at that. He’s made his decision and you need to leave be and move on. There are better men around than him. Good luck with your search and sorry to hear you’ve had a bad experience.

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ExoticOrchid - 05 Feb, 2020 - 05:39PM

Perhaps he's in Wuhan and is caught in the lock down or perhaps he's actually caught the virus and is in quarantine?

Seriously though this kind of ghosting is quite common here, the lowest form of ghosting there is in my personal opinion. Also, it is usually done by men who claim to be looking for "just one lady" and/or "not into bed hopping or notches on the bedpost" … I know it is an awful situation for you and the best thing you can do would be to block him and delete all his details from your phone and email. Chin up and remember that Gloria Gaynor song!

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Louisav123 - 05 Feb, 2020 - 05:11PM

I really feel.for you it's almost like he has you like a prostitute without the money,!! I think it's hard to tell.with most of these guys as sex is just sex with men though I would like to think that most of these guys have respect and genuinely meant one women unless stated I hope u are ok.xc

Sportster1200L - 05 Feb, 2020 - 04:39PM

He probably was (and probably still is) looking for one night stands unfortunately.
Not all men are this shallow fortunately.

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1343650-Scheduled For Deletion - 05 Feb, 2020 - 04:37PM

Oh sweetie I feel for you. Move on. Not all men are like that

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Dayveed - 05 Feb, 2020 - 04:18PM

OMG!!!! Someone lying on an illicit affairs site. Engage brain cells and take note. We are all here ‘cos we are liars, to ourselves and our families. Why on Earth is it a constant source of amazement to people on here after meeting someone that they have or are lying? I’ll be honest with you for a second, I’m after a shag ... after that, well I’d be lying if I said I didn’t want another ... but then maybe that too is a lie ... ask Derren Brown for advise.

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Cerberus 36 - 05 Feb, 2020 - 04:12PM

I wonder if this is his first foray it could be that the reality of infidelity has overwhelmed him and now feels he’s a terrible person. Whatever the reason, it’s a disgrace that he’s left things in this way, pure cowardice.

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1358179-Scheduled For Deletion - 05 Feb, 2020 - 03:56PM

Christ, that's awful - I'm so sorry. Lots of possible reasons why he'd have done that but none of them have anything to do with who you are and what decisions you made. You deal with it by disregarding what he may or may not be thinking. I don't know you or anything about you so when I say you deserve much more than this, I mean that anyone deserves much more than this. What an arsehole.

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tea_coffee_me_ - 05 Feb, 2020 - 03:49PM

Sigh :-(

As per my many many other messages/replies.
Do not expect to be on a date, meeting unless face to face.

Enjoy the time that you have with that person, as if it will be your last, as one day it will be AND THERE MAY BE NO NOTICE GIVEN.

There are many on here who just want a notch to the bedpost, boost to ego, and move on.
Yes many say they are looking for long term, and they fib!

... or your time together was not what he was looking for ...
it is NOT easy to find that compatibility, someone else you WILL BE ideal for...

Deep breath, a glass of wine, hot chocolate etc and ... move on ... he is NOT worthy of your time.
Manners maketh the man...

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