When should you end it?
So, you have been seeing your perfect affair partner for a few months and then you notice that what was once a steamy affair with both parties being really into it, is now just like your relationship with your OH with you trying your best to keep them interested and constantly wondering if you are actually ‘one of many’ after-all.
Yes, they show up for their ‘once per week’ as promised, but whereas before they would stay a while, they are out the door straight away due to ‘work commitments’!
Is now the time to part ways? This is exactly what is missing, necessitating the need for an affair in the first place!
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Alexis162 - 27 Sep, 2023 - 10:26PM
It’s just companionship you want and some sex talk rubbish about life then go home no need to be clingy as we both know we need to go back to our lives
Alexis162 - 27 Sep, 2023 - 10:26PM
It’s just companionship you want and some sex talk rubbish about life then go home no need to be clingy as we both know we need to go back to our lives
Alexis162 - 27 Sep, 2023 - 10:26PM
It’s just companionship you want and some sex talk rubbish about life then go home no need to be clingy as we both know we need to go back to our lives
Paula99 - 21 Sep, 2023 - 09:23PM
Letsjusthavefun…
I agree with you in some ways but I don’t think it’s cut and dried as we think 😁
Let'sjusthavefun - 21 Sep, 2023 - 12:16AM
I've seen plenty of profiles saying they don't want to rock the boat in there current marriage or relationship or whatever it maybe.. so when you engage into an affair you both know that it will end at some point 👉 you both know the real reason why we are here is for the Sex and companionship, so why moan when either party gets up and leaves for work commitments harsh as it is this is what we signed up for right..??
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Seeking.something.exciting - 14 Sep, 2023 - 02:17AM
If it’s becoming like the norm then it should definitely end. We’re all on here for the same thing, to find that something that is missing at home. If you have to try and keep things interesting then it’s not fun, it should be mutual to want to have that bit of fun without it turning into a chore or a bore!
Paula99 - 12 Sep, 2023 - 05:07PM
Sometimes things need to come an end …
If the relationship isn’t working for one/either of you then the result is inevitable…these types of relationships are designed to end whether it’s amicable or it’s destructive… we hope it’s not the latter but I do know of affairs that have come to a horrible conclusion and I know of others that are still going on after a decade…😁
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leggysheila - 07 Sep, 2023 - 11:25PM
I keep my encounter's short more on a one night stand basis XXX
Caroline Red - 01 Sep, 2023 - 06:44AM
@Funguy77 and @ExoticOrchid. Guys, get a room. The sexual tension is killing us!
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ExoticOrchid - 25 Aug, 2023 - 08:48AM
P911 - 12:50AM
Only if they are worth it though ... 🤔
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Petruchio911 - 25 Aug, 2023 - 12:50AM
Ooooh EO you are playing hard to get.
Treat em mean to keep em keen.
Mwah mwah
P911
1616928 - 25 Aug, 2023 - 12:23AM
Hey
ExoticOrchid - 24 Aug, 2023 - 06:04PM
Hedone - 04:05PM
I'm such a lucky girl, aren't I! 🥴
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Hedone - 24 Aug, 2023 - 04:05PM
EO
Private messages and public poems, I feel like I’m missing out here. Another of the species ‘what a catch’
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Enigma.. - 24 Aug, 2023 - 11:40AM
@Funguy77
14 years!?!
Are you serious?
Ps… playing catch up here lol 😉❤️
ExoticOrchid - 24 Aug, 2023 - 10:43AM
F77 - 11:44PM
In your dreams honey ... and no, I don't need more private messages from you or public "poems" thank you ... !
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Petruchio911 - 24 Aug, 2023 - 12:01AM
EO
open wide.....then rinse and spit.......never swallow.
Phil Mc Cavity
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Bumbercatch77 - 23 Aug, 2023 - 11:09PM
A word of warning. Don’t fall in love.
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ExoticOrchid - 23 Aug, 2023 - 10:15PM
P911 - 06:57PM
I'd rather pull my own tooth out with pliers!!! 🤣
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ExoticOrchid - 23 Aug, 2023 - 10:05PM
Funguy77 ... your comments here say more about you ... I don't use bad language and I'm never rude to anyone ... I wouldn't bother to "bait" you either honey ... have Fun Guy!!!
TheBoredHousewife - 23 Aug, 2023 - 08:26PM
ExoticOrchid - 23 Aug, 2023 - 04:19PM
Would certainly seem like it!
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Petruchio911 - 23 Aug, 2023 - 06:57PM
Flippin Heck.......
EO i think yoi have pulled.!
Lucky you?
P911
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1616665 - 23 Aug, 2023 - 06:51PM
@funguy77
The exit doors 🚪 over there on the right !
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1616665 - 23 Aug, 2023 - 06:47PM
Get out straight away!!
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Funguy77 - 23 Aug, 2023 - 05:13PM
@ ExoticOrchid
In a twist of fate.
oh honey, you see,
We ran off together, just you and me.
Wedding bells chimed with joy and glee,
But now you're on a site, seeking company?
ExoticOrchid, a name so rare,
He spins tales like a whimsical flair.
"Adultery site?" I hear you inquire,
Seems like his stories caught on fire!
He says a lot, that's plain to see,
A master of words, as wild as can be.
So don't take it all too seriously, dear,
For laughter's the cure, let's make that clear!
😄😂😄😂
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Funguy77 - 23 Aug, 2023 - 05:02PM
Guys remember these forums are meant to be fun and light hearted. Please don’t use bad language and none of us on here have the right to judge any other user.
Be nice to others xx
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Funguy77 - 23 Aug, 2023 - 04:52PM
@ ExoticOrchid - 23 Aug, 2023 - 04:31PM
Nope I total got your point just not taking the bate
Or do you have a different set of morals as your divorced and on the same site as the rest of us .. No Yes
Nice chat
ExoticOrchid - 23 Aug, 2023 - 04:31PM
Funguy77 - 23 Aug, 2023 - 04:29PM
You totally missed the point I made honey!
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Funguy77 - 23 Aug, 2023 - 04:29PM
@ ExoticOrchid - 23 Aug, 2023 - 04:18PM
Yes as I don’t fancy anyone at work lol
It’s been 14 years give us a break 😗
ExoticOrchid - 23 Aug, 2023 - 04:19PM
TheBoredHousewife - 23 Aug, 2023 - 04:07PM
He says a lot of things I reckon!
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ExoticOrchid - 23 Aug, 2023 - 04:18PM
Funguy77 - 23 Aug, 2023 - 03:56PM
"we ran off together and got married 😃 xx"
So good you are now on an adultery site looking for another affair???
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Funguy77 - 23 Aug, 2023 - 04:13PM
@ TheBoredHousewife - 23 Aug, 2023 - 04:07PM
About 20 years I would say . I never have my correct DOB on there’s things. Iv only had 4 in all that time and I ran off with my now wife lol not advocating it but it has made my sex life more intense but each to there own . I still talk to three of them including my ex wife x
TheBoredHousewife - 23 Aug, 2023 - 04:07PM
Funguy77 - 23 Aug, 2023 - 03:56PM
Are you saying you’ve been having affairs since age 18?
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boav91 - 23 Aug, 2023 - 03:57PM
By the way there is evidence to show that longer gaps can build anticipation and keep that excitement going whereas regular meets just become another routine eventually. Can't believe I am advocating for less not more :(
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Funguy77 - 23 Aug, 2023 - 03:56PM
Some of these comments make it sound boring and routine. Spontaneity is part of the appeal. 27 years on and off having life enhancing affairs I don’t regret any one of them we ran off together and got married 😃 xx
boav91 - 23 Aug, 2023 - 03:55PM
Mine ended when they moved 3000 miles away. I hope it was not something I said :O. They were living here for a while from the US and moved back home.
Fortunately we never met up where there was a kitchen and I dont think we know each others address which is weird but reading the comment good too. I guess but then at least no bunnies in pots!!!
WE both knew the situation and our wider lives and could be open. The problem is always knowing what you actually want from this and both be honest about what you are getting. If it does not meet both peoples needs then it needs to end. I am back here because my water legs are not good at crossing 3000 miles of ocean.
It ended due to distance not lack of trust or desire so I would still trust them to be discreet as I would hope. would be too.
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JamesJack - 23 Aug, 2023 - 03:47PM
If ‘ a steamy affair with both parties being really into it’ is what you want, and it ceases to be that, and you have checked in with your affair and there aren’t any circumstances that may be precluding their involvement, then I would suggest it is time up.
You can’t keep a kettle on the boil for ever…. Maybe once per week is just too much routine? Maybe neither of you are hungry enough to keep eating from the same menu? In any case, move on. You already have one partner that you are carrying this feeling with.
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truthwithinalie - 23 Aug, 2023 - 02:49PM
You should be open as you can and end it if it just becomes a routine shag - not worth the risk for something that just a bodily function.
Funguy77 - 23 Aug, 2023 - 02:47PM
You should end it when you come home and find there’s a pot on the boil and the bunny is missing 🫣
Petruchio911 - 19 Aug, 2023 - 03:00PM
EO
"Honey, more a nightmare acrually ... 😱"
dont fight it embrace your inner accountant
P911
Hedone - 15 Aug, 2023 - 04:12PM
Enigma
I disagree somewhat, you can be on social media without exposing your name, family photos etc. it’s all about having your settings up to the hilt and watching what you post, who can friend you etc.
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ExoticOrchid - 15 Aug, 2023 - 02:50PM
AO - 12:07PM
Honey, more a nightmare acrually ... 😱
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AdorableOne - 15 Aug, 2023 - 12:07PM
Still dreaming about me ExoticOrchid?? :p
Scary Storytime. One time my then mistress spotted my parents and sent me a pic of them walking down the street. Just so happened that my parents were shopping 40miles away from their home and my mistress was 20miles away from her home.. just happened to be in the same place at the same time!
The chances of that are so remote its unthinkable and my mistress had only ever seen a couple of pictures of them, that I'd sent from xmas gatherings that kind of thing.
Could have gone a different way, if we hadn't had complete trust in each other. I don't think it makes any difference whether single or married, there are some strange people around and you need to be mindful for at least the first few months.
I've had addresses of IEs but they have given them to me for that moment in time and part of the "affair code" for me, is never mess in someones relationship, keep things private, integrity should be the norm, regardless of how the relationship ends.
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Dotty Green - 15 Aug, 2023 - 09:46AM
Enigma.. - 15 Aug, 2023 - 07:05AM
I agree it is very easy to find out about someone - even a simple reverse google image on a photo.
Once I get to know someone I obv share a few things - and form those things I am sure if someone googled me I would come up.
I think it is human nature to be nosey about your potential IE, but I think we have to remember there are people out there who are less than scrupulous and we do need to be careful... someone asking for sexy explicit photos almost immediately is a def no now from me, whilst I like an early pw exchange, now it is only after a few messages are exchanged I am not giving it to you in the first message.
I think it is like if you met someone in a bar you would not suddenly spurt our your full name, occupation, address, flash them your boobs - so just be the same as that online. If they do not respect that then move on ... Next...
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Enigma.. - 15 Aug, 2023 - 07:05AM
I had a similar experience earlier this year.
My potential Ie and I were chatting on the phone when he mentioned, by accident, my surname.
I hadn’t mentioned my surname to him and don’t ever to anyone else that may be a potential Ie or became one.
After that I began to wonder how he had found out? He insisted that I had told him. I hadn’t.
I was also more wary about what I was typing and saying when we communicated after that day.
A week went past and I just felt that my trust in him had gone.
There were a couple of other red flags as well.
At the end of the week I made up my mind I had to get “out”.
I ended up having to block him not only on the site but on WhatsApp, telegram and elsewhere.
Word to the wise people…. If you are on Facebook, Instagram, twitter etc… be aware that someone can screenshot your family photos and discover your surname if they choose to.
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Legs&Eyes - 12 Aug, 2023 - 07:38PM
I think it's possible to totally disclose who you are, what you are, where you are - it absolutely depends on the trust, discretion and overall connection between the 2 involved...
I would hate for trust to become an issue - yes Im single, but my personal values are about honesty, my career is about working in that space and my overall character is just one of honest exchanges. Bullshit is not in my character and I'm very direct, but Im very aware of my reasons for being here... its an unusual story, it entirely explains my reasoning... but the intentions for me are about building a strong connection for whatever duration it exists, and to a certain extent that relies (for me) on my feeling trusted, and to be able to trust.
If I felt I needed to keep my wits about me, and be in self-protect mode - then its not the right IE connection for me.
But I get that we are all very different, with different drivers....
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TheBoredHousewife - 12 Aug, 2023 - 06:09PM
If I don’t give my surname or my professional details, I wouldn’t expect him to give his.
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ExoticOrchid - 12 Aug, 2023 - 05:57PM
WillKr - 11:16AM
This from a MARRIED woman ... take note Adorable One!!!
Proves my point yet its single women who get bad press!!!
To answer your question ... if you don't feel comfortable with the way things are going, do take care and look for the exit sign. I have never asked anyone's surname or address or work details.
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Funguy77 - 12 Aug, 2023 - 11:52AM
@ WillKr - 12 Aug, 2023 - 11:16AM
In situations like this you also need to selfish and self protection mode
Best of luck
WillKr - 12 Aug, 2023 - 11:16AM
Funguy
You never truly know what someone may do, particularly if the relationship is ended by me. She’s a totally open book but I’m not.
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Hedone - 12 Aug, 2023 - 11:13AM
Willkr
Boils down to how long you’ve known her and whether you trust her. I would say you don’t, do get out of it and move on
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Funguy77 - 12 Aug, 2023 - 11:06AM
@ WillKr - 12 Aug, 2023 - 10:14AM
Sounds strange although you may just be overthinking it . But you definitely can’t be too careful. It’s not a game we are playing so what does your heart tell you and your head
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Paula99 - 12 Aug, 2023 - 10:22AM
Cuckold…
As you have recently discovered everyone reads and interprets in different ways ..
Welcome 🤗
WillKr - 12 Aug, 2023 - 10:14AM
Hi all
Something that bothers me is if my affair starts asking me what is my surname, details of the business I own and precisely the village I live in.
I’m going to end my current affair as she persists in these questions.
She is unhappily married, potentially willing to divorce him for me but I said from day one that discretion is primary and I’m not wanting to disturb my marriage.
Am I overly secretive in this regard?
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Enigma.. - 12 Aug, 2023 - 06:54AM
@Cuckold
Yes there are a lot of strong people on the threads.
But our personalities and circumstances all differ.
As do our opinions.
Welcome and please feel free to join in 😃😉
1615683 - 11 Aug, 2023 - 05:32PM
Is this chat forum available to anyone to join? I've scrolled through a few topics and it seems mostly the same names I see. They all seem very authoritative!
I just wondered as I don't want to intrude on a private club or anything
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Enigma.. - 11 Aug, 2023 - 04:48PM
@Caroline Red
So why are you on this site?
I’m sooooooooo interested to know?
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Secret_Desires - 11 Aug, 2023 - 04:39PM
@ClassyLady - this is my personal opinion and I don’t mean any disrespect at all but if if you’re going into “an affair” and thinking “sh1t… I’ve got more too lose than you” that for me is the wrong mentally.
Everyone’s interpretation of an affair is different but you shouldn’t be thinking about losing anything. Yes there are risks when it comes to an IE and maybe it’s easier to chat to someone who’s attached but it’s all about respecting each other’s boundaries and finding that middle ground regardless of your marital status.
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ExoticOrchid - 11 Aug, 2023 - 11:26AM
Legs&Eyes - 11 Aug, 2023 - 09:48AM
You know how "single bashing" does the rounds on the Forum every so often ... haha!
Let's see if Admin prints this!!!
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ClassyLady77 - 11 Aug, 2023 - 11:22AM
For me I won’t meet a single man as I want a level playing field. I’ve got a lot to loose and single men don’t. Also I know a lot of men who’ve had their marriages end due to them meeting a single women and she told their Mrs.. Single men probably won’t be that bad but I’m not prepared to take that risk
@Funguy77 cheating for first time can be hard but when it’s right there is no nerves. Maybe move on
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Legs&Eyes - 11 Aug, 2023 - 09:48AM
Ooh did someone mention ‘singles should be on single-sites’???? 🤔
🤣🤣🤣
Nope. It’s feel-good Friday, get back in the broom-cupboard Legs!!!
🤷🏻♀️
Funguy77 - 11 Aug, 2023 - 08:46AM
@ ClassyLady77 - 11 Aug, 2023 - 04:50AM
I still don’t understand why it’s an issue for some of the IE is married or single.
Thank you regarding my possible new lady it’s still very new but I do have my fingers crossed 🤞 we have had lots of chat face times and a drink out in town but she seems nervous . Buy the way I wrote a short story about it in the ( all going well untill forum )
Ps I am a big softie at heart ❤️
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Funguy77 - 11 Aug, 2023 - 08:39AM
@ Caroline Red - 11 Aug, 2023 - 04:47AM
Hay I’m not naive about the way the world works . But having an affair is not always about being untrustworthy lots of us on here are here through circumstance and I’ll still bet there’s a very high percentage on here wanting to stay clean and safe . Me personally we had an agreement that we would not have more than us due to the factors I just mentioned and to be able to give each other the time and attention we both deserve and seek .
Remember guys and girls please be kind on here and when dealing with people out in the real world x
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Paula99 - 11 Aug, 2023 - 08:26AM
It’s good to respect others opinions as we are all guilty of ‘getting the wrong end of the stick ‘ at times..
As much as we post our 😊 faces and emojis 👍..it will never replace real facial expressions or eye contact or ‘real’ smiles ..
Happy posting everyone…🤗
ClassyLady77 - 11 Aug, 2023 - 04:50AM
Time to end.. 🤔 that’s tricky one. Can you find better?
I met someone recently who said he was married but turns out he was single.. 🤦♀️ men 🤥 . They say whatever they think you want to hear to get sex.
I won’t meet single men as I want my man to be on same page and have same risks.. single men should stick to single sights. Maybe they think women on here are more desperate and so guaranteed more.. 🤔
@FunGuy77 I still have sec with OH, I am honest about it. Should I not be on here? 🤔 Good luck with your new lady.. 🤞🏻 😘
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Caroline Red - 11 Aug, 2023 - 04:47AM
SHOCK NEWS: people on a site for people who cheat on their OHs also cheat on the people they're cheating with. To summarise this conversation. At what point ladies and gentlemen did you assume that dating a cheater would mean they suddenly changed who they are and became honest and loyal to you. Treat this site for what it is and enjoy the fact you're meeting people who are just as manipulative, cunning and deceptive as you are. Loyalty is nobody's middle name on here.
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Sandypops - 11 Aug, 2023 - 01:00AM
I agree with so many of the comments on here about the fact that we are chatting with people who have real feelings.
It's pretty soul-destroying that there seem to be so many disingenuous people on the site - I'm sure I must have a flashing arrow pointing them in my direction 🤦🏻♀️
But I'm hoping I can stick with it long enough to find my perfect ie (as I'm on the cusp of just giving up on that wish and just doing nsa or giving up completely)
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Enigma.. - 10 Aug, 2023 - 06:31PM
I’d like to point out that I wasn’t getting at single people, here, on the site.
I know that there are genuine females and males on this site who have reasons for preferring to be on a married dating site.
My point is/was why other “non singletons” lie about their marital status?!?
Even worse why continue to see another woman/man when they are not what they are looking for.
Apparently there are people, on this site, that will hang onto someone until, perhaps, a better offer comes along.
Then discover that the grass is not always greener on the other side of the fence 🙄😏.
They attempt to crawl back to their original choice when it doesn’t work out with their new choice.
People need to realise you are dealing with real feelings etc… here.
It’s not bloomin chess.
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ExoticOrchid - 10 Aug, 2023 - 04:59PM
EB - 04:41PM
Yes, it does ... therefore those who make insulting comments about single people should be told. Simples.
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ExoticOrchid - 10 Aug, 2023 - 11:38AM
Dotty Green - 09 Aug, 2023 - 12:13PM
"ExoticOrchid - 08 Aug, 2023 - 12:27PM
One of the ladies of whom I speak -"
Indeed DG ... people's personalities [both male and female] and behaviour have no bearing on whether they are married or single ... as we know full well there are several married women who are totally obssessed with their married IEs the way I, as a single, have never been!
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Funguy77 - 10 Aug, 2023 - 11:12AM
Apologies for poor spelling and grammar that was done in a hurry xx
Funguy77 - 10 Aug, 2023 - 11:02AM
@ Enigma.. - 10 Aug, 2023 - 06:59AM
Agreed. This has recently happened to me . I meet my IE on another well known site but she is also on this one . Been seeing her for 2 months totally clicked with her new her life was a little complicated ( there’s that word again ) finally had our moments then she dropped the bombshell that not only is she sleeping with OH but has someone else and feels soooooo guilty for cheating. So I ask how and why you feel bad ? Then comes a crushing blow well I fell really bad for what’s said next but some may not care. She said no no I don’t feel bad for my husband but for the other guy ! ! It’s like a total F-U .not sure why I reacted the way I did but I said buy and blocked after she said with real feelings she wants to stay friends.. gutted I blocked her and deleted from my life . It’s been some time now think I have meet a really nice girl from hear but she also seems a little distant but I do think she’s rather special. Fingers crossed but still chatting to othe
Enigma.. - 10 Aug, 2023 - 06:59AM
When should you end it? 🤔
When you find out that HE isn’t actually divorced but still very much married.
ANNND… He’s already seeing someone else off the site but she’s not really what he’s looking for.
Luckily “the situation” hadn’t gotten as far as a meet.
This happened last year and I can see the funny side now but it’s made me avoid anyone with separated or divorced as their marital status.
Gent’s word of advice. Don’t message when you are drunk and decide to confess all 😂🙄🤷🏼♀️.
If your Ie is not what you are looking for, this applies to both males and females, don’t get involved as it’ll only end one way.
No further comment .
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Emerald Dream - 09 Aug, 2023 - 11:55PM
That kind of arrangement isn't an affair, it's more like an FB situation.If that doesn't suit you then you move on ..But I'd make sure to discuss it first in case the I.E .doesn't realise they were falling short of your expectations .
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Emerald Dream - 09 Aug, 2023 - 11:55PM
That kind of arrangement isn't an affair, it's more like an FB situation.If that doesn't suit you then you move on ..But I'd make sure to discuss it first in case the I.E .doesn't realise they were falling short of your expectations .
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Funguy77 - 09 Aug, 2023 - 12:37PM
We are all here for a good time not all of us are looking for just sex but companionship. Remember to be kind to one another and bring some joy and laughter to others it will make you feel good at the same time xx
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Dotty Green - 09 Aug, 2023 - 12:13PM
TheBoredHousewife - 08 Aug, 2023 - 02:17PM
Totally happened to me with Number 1.... was not a level playing field so just didn't work. But I do understand how some make it work - just not for me - but I would not be disparaging about any single person on here - they have their reasons.
ExoticOrchid - 08 Aug, 2023 - 12:27PM
One of the ladies of whom I speak - just happy being single with a little lust and passion on the side, without the hassle of a full time relationship. It just works for some xxx
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Legs&Eyes - 08 Aug, 2023 - 10:18PM
AdorableOne - 08 Aug, 2023 - 04:46PM
You did, very much. And I hold many conversations and trust me - lots of my contacts enjoy those conversations very, very much....
I sit here reading the forum week after week - some things I disagree with, lots of things I hugely and totally agree with - but I stay quiet, I rarely comment on anything..
But very occasionally something 'gets my goat', as my dear nan used to say.... Today, you were that thing.
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AdorableOne - 08 Aug, 2023 - 04:46PM
Glad I made you laugh. Shame you can't hold a conversation without repeatedly trying to turn it into a one-upmanship contest. I never implied you didn't do well on here either
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Funguy77 - 08 Aug, 2023 - 04:15PM
I have laughed so hard pee came out 😂
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Legs&Eyes - 08 Aug, 2023 - 03:46PM
Apologies everyone...
I'm going back into the corner to play with my soft toys, as I've sharpened my gels in here enough now today....
Happy Tuesday all!
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Legs&Eyes - 08 Aug, 2023 - 03:37PM
AdorableOne - 08 Aug, 2023 - 12:28PM
You are hilarious. It's pretty clear to many of us here exactly what you meant and in the tone you meant it.
And as for 'high earners dating', done it.
But I worked in the south at the time. And I do well on here thanks.. so hence I'm happy here - plus I LOVE this forum as it repeatedly reminds me of the types that I'm happy to stay well clear of. So don't worry - I'll not be getting in your way.. After all, as you say, lots of lovely married ladies out there for you, us singles will go where we are wanted!
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Hedone - 08 Aug, 2023 - 03:29PM
Oh how this has made me chuckle. Married, single, separated, there’s plenty of loons in here regardless of their marital status
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Funguy77 - 08 Aug, 2023 - 02:35PM
Bob the Mailman
A couple of guys are at the bar. First guy says to his buddy, "My wife just admitted to me that she's been having an affair with Bob the mailman."
"What?" says his buddy. "That fat ugly f@@er I see every morning outside your house?"
"That's right," says the first guy.
"Jesus," says his buddy. "Why would Bob the mailman want to f@@k that?"
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Funguy77 - 08 Aug, 2023 - 02:19PM
Who needs the tv when there’s this gold happening on IE
Have a chuckle at the inspiration you have given me
In the curious town of IE, lived the sage Oscar, dishing quirky dating advice. He warned against single women, fearing pranks and penguins. Alex dared to date Lily, a part-time magician, turning life into a sideshow.
Mark, the joker, believed single women craved "finger-snapping" subservience. A prank unfolded, with Lily's help. Alex sprinted at Lily's snap, leaving IE in stitches.
As IE chuckled, Oscar's wisdom prevailed: "Embrace the fun, my friends, in the unpredictable realm of love!"
TheBoredHousewife - 08 Aug, 2023 - 02:17PM
ExoticOrchid - 08 Aug, 2023 - 12:27PM
And Admin also didn’t approve my post about married people might become single over the course of an IE relationship, making matters more complicated than going with a singleton! 😜
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AdorableOne - 08 Aug, 2023 - 01:58PM
I didn't say single women have no standards and why would you lose your job?
You can date whoever you wish, I was just putting forward that its not for me
Paula99 - 08 Aug, 2023 - 12:35PM
AdorableOne…
You are confusing single women with women that have no standards ?
As far as having nothing to loose…..their jobs ..their self respect ..their mental capacity…?
There are a few single women on here that are dating married guys but it doesn’t mean they are here to destroy OP marriages or does it mean they should be at any mans beckon call just because they choose to be single ..
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AdorableOne - 08 Aug, 2023 - 12:28PM
@Legs&Eyes
Obviously its a generalisation, its a forum post, doesn't mean all singles nor did I make any comments in reference to earnings... thats getting a bit personal no, you don't know how much I earn, which is obviously enough to be able to afford to be on here :p
"perhaps you havent met a modern, assertive, sassy female who makes her own choices for her own pleasurable purposes - not cos she goes running to anyone!" - I've met and dated plenty, thank you for your offer though
Question if I may, I'm curious. If you are worried about your anonymity and reputation why not just use a high earners dating app, what is it that makes IE so appealing, doesn't it make it more complicated?
ExoticOrchid - 08 Aug, 2023 - 12:27PM
I see that Admin has seen fit NOT to print the comment I made yesterday in reply to "Adorable[not!]One" ... it wasn't even rude, just along the lines of:
Wow you have made some extremely insulting comments about single women here!!!
I had also thanked Dotty Green for her comment.
I can now add Legs&Eyes to that for her comment.
All you married men are VERY safe with some of us single women here ... as per my profile ... DON'T FLATTER YOURSELVES!
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Legs&Eyes - 08 Aug, 2023 - 09:28AM
@Enigma
Hello fellow sassy lassie!
I think there are a few of us here...
For me sometimes the bulls**t just gets TOO LOUD... and I bite back like a strong tigress always does...
So you could argue I'm a big pussy-cat. I just have bite! Lol..
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Enigma.. - 08 Aug, 2023 - 08:46AM
@Legs&Eyes
Wow… another sassy (as we say in Scotland) lassie.
Well said.
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Legs&Eyes - 07 Aug, 2023 - 10:49PM
@Beckysharp
Lol... has any self-respecting female with views, attitude and opinions actually done that anytime time since falling over her flapper dress in the 1920's???
@FunGuy77
I used to take lots of shit... tonnes of the stuff... then I learnt! I just learnt very well! Haha....
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Beckysharp - 07 Aug, 2023 - 09:46PM
Well said legs&eyes
We all have our own thoughts on whether we prefer married/single etc
But the idea a single woman is hanging around until a married man clicks his fingers?! Hilarious 😂
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Funguy77 - 07 Aug, 2023 - 09:41PM
@legs&eyes
Holly crap where you been all my life . Take no s@@t xx😍
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Legs&Eyes - 07 Aug, 2023 - 09:26PM
AdorableOne -07 Aug, 2023 - 01:28PM
Sorry - but you are generalising and your view is not accurate of all singles.
Firstly some of us singles have quite a lot to lose - my professional world, anonymity and reputation is not to be f**ked with by a careless male.
As for blackmail - what could I want from a guy I wonder when I have chosen to remain single for the sake of my career - certainly not his money (I have my own), my sanity is intact if it isnt messed with, and my career - pays for all I need! God forbid - I may earn more than you!
And I wont respond to any click of fingers to 'come running'.. perhaps you havent met a modern, assertive, sassy female who makes her own choices for her own pleasurable purposes - not cos she goes running to anyone!
So. I feel I need to add balance to your quite skewed views of single females.
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TheBoredHousewife - 07 Aug, 2023 - 03:59PM
Funguy77 - 07 Aug, 2023 - 03:41PM
The Tower of London is a great attraction in these parts 😊
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Funguy77 - 07 Aug, 2023 - 03:41PM
@theboredhousewife
I’m a traveler don’t mind travel for the right reasons 😜
TheBoredHousewife - 07 Aug, 2023 - 03:32PM
Funguy77 - 07 Aug, 2023 - 02:46PM
Honey, I don’t travel well. You gonna take the overnight train down? 🚝💺
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TheBoredHousewife - 07 Aug, 2023 - 02:36PM
Similar to Dotty Green. Only married men for me. But being married doesn’t mean they are in happy relationships and their status could well change over the course of your IE partnership and could actually get more complicated than being with a singleton.
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Dotty Green - 07 Aug, 2023 - 01:39PM
AdorableOne - 07 Aug, 2023 - 01:28PM
I think you'll also find many women feel the same about single men - I for one def steer clear of anyone separated or divorced, so I see your point.
However, I think it really does depend on the single person, as I know a couple of women on here who are single and are happy that way, totally independent and do not want a full blown 24/7 relationship and are happy with an affair set up as it suits their needs (sure there also some single guys who are in the same boat). For me is is still a definite NO to a singleton.
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AdorableOne - 07 Aug, 2023 - 01:28PM
Each to their own but I would be very careful dating a single woman. They have nothing to lose at the end of the day, so you are opening yourself up to blackmail amongst other things.
Only reason I can see is you want to click your fingers and tell them where to be and when and expect them to come running as they don't have an excuse, as some kind of domination flex?
Paula99 - 05 Aug, 2023 - 08:10AM
Keto 71..
Why would you say that ?
That’s a broad spectrum with nothing no explanation or information to back it up ?
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1612903 - 04 Aug, 2023 - 09:42PM
I think a married guy should have an affair with a single women .....surely this would be more exciting?
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Beckysharp - 04 Aug, 2023 - 08:31PM
When you say no feelings/emotion Classylady77 do you mean none above genuine friendship? I can’t imagine no connection at all with 2 people in an affair for 3 years. Even if not love you both must have felt something?
I think the men I have had affairs with absolutely did genuinely care about me. I don’t think they loved me (well maybe 1)
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Funguy77 - 04 Aug, 2023 - 07:37PM
@ClassyLady77. Wow agree to disagree there . Not all of us a creeps or heartless some of us only want to love and be loved in return 😡
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ClassyLady77 - 04 Aug, 2023 - 07:06PM
@Paula99 I’ve had a 3 year affair and feelings never got in the way… 🤷🏼♀️
I don’t think men have a heart.. it’s a proven biological fact that that men can have sex without emotion.
It would be nice to be proven wrong..
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TheBoredHousewife - 04 Aug, 2023 - 11:05AM
@FunGuy
Sorry your heart is broken…..gotta sweep up the pieces and hopefully you can find some sticky tape on this forum to mend it back a little 😘
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Funguy77 - 04 Aug, 2023 - 09:23AM
@Beacksharp
God I hope so as theses thing’s always are it’s complicated for her
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Beckysharp - 04 Aug, 2023 - 09:16AM
Sounds amazing!! Are you not going to meet again?!
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Funguy77 - 04 Aug, 2023 - 09:14AM
@Sandypops
Trouble with me is I need the emotional connection or it physically doesn’t work I’ll leave that image to you lol
I’m the complete opposite I’m always looking to connect first more and more these days
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Funguy77 - 04 Aug, 2023 - 09:07AM
@beckysharp
Wonderful Amazing Lovely. An amazing time by both of us think I broke her lol about three months building up to that amazing afternoon .
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Funguy77 - 04 Aug, 2023 - 09:01AM
@Theboardhousewife
I have the worst headache of all……. Self inflicted 💔
ExoticOrchid - 04 Aug, 2023 - 08:24AM
CL77 - 11:05PM
Not necessarily and not all men/women are ... as I have always said, my motto is:
"more than sex, less than love"
All depends on the individuals of course ... there is no one size fits all in the "affair" situation (no pun intended! 😄).
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Beckysharp - 04 Aug, 2023 - 07:36AM
It might just be self protection classylady77. Especially if you’ve been hurt before.
I can do emotionless hookups. But they just don’t compare in anyway to there being some feelings and connection (not necessarily love).
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Paula99 - 04 Aug, 2023 - 05:30AM
ClassyC7/Mm34.
It’s too easy to say that you are here for the lust … we have all said that…you think you can detach yourself forever but be be careful what you wish for 😁
The longer the affair the more the ‘feelings’ develop and these things have a habit of creeping up on you…
Funguy77…
Men get broken hearts also 💕
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TJJ89_fun - 04 Aug, 2023 - 12:07AM
This may sound like the absolute obvious, but surely you carry on for as long as you both can AND as long as it’s both fun and enjoyable for you both?
ClassyLady77 - 03 Aug, 2023 - 11:05PM
I’m starting to think I’m a heartless bitch. I don’t open up to anyone unless they open up to me first.. That way no feelings and nobody gets hurst.. for me it’s the little things like affair remembering my birthday that means more..
I found men on here are just emotionless too.. it’s just sex, so it’s just sex for me too.. I don’t care
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Marriedmum34 - 03 Aug, 2023 - 10:46PM
For me affairs are a thing of passion not love I just want sex I’m already married ! That’s for all the feelings and stuff I don’t remember half the people’s names nor do I care to ask ...
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TheBoredHousewife - 03 Aug, 2023 - 10:29PM
Funguy77 - 03 Aug, 2023 - 09:27PM
Oh bloody hell, who broke your heart?
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Beckysharp - 03 Aug, 2023 - 10:18PM
Funguy77 I thought you were having your first hotel meet this week? What happened?! Not sounding positive!
Sandypops - 03 Aug, 2023 - 10:06PM
Wow Funguy77 that's amazing.
I'm desperately trying to keep my feelings and expectations in check, but it's so difficult when you really like someone 🤦🏻♀️
It's like I'm embarking on a journey where I already know I'm going to get hurt and heartbroken.
So I'm just going to enjoy myself for as long as I can, and let my female best friend deal with me being an emotional wreck when I'm heartbroken 😂 I've already forewarned her 😂
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Funguy77 - 03 Aug, 2023 - 09:27PM
I wrote this today feeling d as sorry for myself..I’m guilty for the crime of falling in love too easily and frequently x
In shadows danced our secret flame,
A love concealed, a hidden game.
But now the time has come to part,
A wounded soul, a broken heart.
A tender touch we could not share,
A stolen moment, full of care.
Yet guilt and pain now weigh us down,
As we untangle love's cruel crown.
Through whispered nights and stolen glances,
We found passion's secret dances.
But now the truth must set us free,
To heal the hurt and let it be.
Though parting brings a bitter sting,
Let's cherish memories on the wing.
For in the pain, a lesson learned,
A secret love, too easily burned.
45 and still a fool
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Paula99 - 03 Aug, 2023 - 08:22PM
It’s not always about the person ending the affair ..sometimes it’s circumstances like job changes or moving out of the area..affairs are ‘forced’ to change but that is the nature of the business we are in ..😉
SD/MF/SG321…
To clarify…if you are not looking forward to seeing your IE … and you don’t get that ‘I want to fxxk you ‘ feelings then it’s time to call it a day ..😏
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Secret_Desires - 03 Aug, 2023 - 07:16PM
I would say you should think about ending it when meeting up doesn’t have the same excitement as it once did and when you know he’s messaged but you no longer get those butterflies.
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missingfun - 03 Aug, 2023 - 05:20PM
When you find yourself thinking of reasons to skip the planned meet
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1612031 - 18 Jul, 2023 - 09:57PM
When it starts feeling like a chore.
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Footman64 - 14 Jul, 2023 - 05:40PM
This is my first post so here goes....
A very wise woman once told me that relationships end at the same speed they start. If you go from hello to bed, it is likely your will go from bed to goodbye just as rapidly. I am sure that is what some want and that is fine.
If you desire one single person to become a friend before a lover, you are much more likely to find something that lasts longer. The word that comes to mind is respect.
Just my 2p.
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QuietLights - 06 Jul, 2023 - 09:04AM
If it was worth something for both of you ending it hurts - however plausible/genuine the reason or how sensible and kind to each other you might be.....
That's what relationships do to you....
(get a puppy.... 🤣🤣)
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MatureWorcsBBW - 04 Jul, 2023 - 06:25PM
I'd ask him (gently) why he was sooo needy.
I'd explain that us not being married means that I don't have to listen to his dreary work, car and football conversations, while his kid's current hobbies and academic achievements bore me.
I was joking!
Or was I?? 😂
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Enigma.. - 28 Jun, 2023 - 07:48AM
Just a wee idea….
Why not get out of the bed first.
Make up some reason to leave… Darn it I’m late for my next Ie date.. lol.
Quickly have a wash and make up repair.
Hurriedly get dressed and leave.
Bet his face would be a picture 😂😉.
And before certain sarcastic sources kick in…. I was joking 😏.
Or was I 🤔😏😉.
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masterbatesalot - 27 Jun, 2023 - 05:19PM
I have dealt with both wet and dry cracks, talking of course of walls and the need for plastering, but experiencing a dry crack is a sure fire sign that you are not providing what is required.
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masterbatesalot - 27 Jun, 2023 - 04:08PM
I got to start one first and then I may have some advice to give.
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Bobby224 - 26 Jun, 2023 - 06:35PM
Paula99
Thank you for your positive comments. You are exactly right about the dynamic of a LT affair and to be honest that’s all I’m looking for. Not all men want to bed hop. I really enjoyed the friendship and being her confident and her mine. Obviously I enjoy the physical side too. Tha physical side is always better if you do have that connection and deep friendship and respect. 5 years is a terrific long affair. That must of been special to you. I hope it ended amicably and you have positive thoughts and memories.
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ExoticOrchid - 26 Jun, 2023 - 02:54PM
P99/TBH
They do say time flies when you're enjoying yourself ... ;-)
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TheBoredHousewife - 26 Jun, 2023 - 02:46PM
Paula99 - 26 Jun, 2023 - 01:39PM
Indeed, where does the time go?!
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Paula99 - 26 Jun, 2023 - 01:39PM
Bobby224…
It is common to have more of a closer relationship with your IE ..in terms of being able to converse about every tiny detail in your lives ..communication is the key to longevity of an affair ..I have had a couple of long term affairs 5 years was one and I am not really sure where the time went ..there is a different dynamic with a LT relationship you become friends ..lovers and confidants ..
You have clearly had a fantastic affair and you both put the extra 10 % that is needed..
I hope you find your new IE …🥰
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Kiss_Lover - 26 Jun, 2023 - 11:11AM
End it mutually, like adults and thank each other for the company. … then start looking again.
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laugar164 - 26 Jun, 2023 - 11:05AM
I had an affair for over 5 years not from this site
I definitely say it was long term
Definitely been as time goes on as you get to know each other better and better.
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Enigma.. - 26 Jun, 2023 - 06:44AM
I’ve had two wonderful affairs from the site.
The first lasted a year. The second about 7 months.
I’d say they were both “long term”.
I had another affair, not from this site, that lasted over three years.
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Bobby224 - 25 Jun, 2023 - 08:27PM
Paula
Thank you but it was natural with that person and I know it’s hypocritical but I only want one partner in crime. I’m not interested in bed hopping. It’s that emotional connection that I enjoy .. I actually found it easier to talk about my feelings to my lover than my wife. Is that common do you think?
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Paula99 - 25 Jun, 2023 - 08:11PM
Bobby 224..
10 years is a very long time and if you can do that ..it’s a gold medal 😻…
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Bobby224 - 25 Jun, 2023 - 07:22PM
You can’t put an exact time on it! I think it’s when both parties are firmly happy and they are getting the extra they need from each other physically and emotionally. When they can honestly say they are not looking for anything else and then it will go long term naturally. Do you consider 10 years long term?
TheBoredHousewife - 25 Jun, 2023 - 07:03PM
Enigma.. - 25 Jun, 2023 - 05:45PM
I think there was a bit of a discussion about this when you were away before. Length of time vs. Intensity/frequency of meets. Minimum 6mths perhaps for something deemed substantial, but long term maybe 1 year onwards?
Such a subjective objective though eh? 😊
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Bobby224 - 25 Jun, 2023 - 06:38PM
Can you put a specific time on that? I mean you can’t say after two months exactly that it’s a long term affair. It’s not about time I don’t think. It’s when you both know and have that connection and you feel that what you got is enough and what you want going forward. I suppose it’s when you are content. Is 10 years long term to you?
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Bobby224 - 24 Jun, 2023 - 05:34AM
Becky sharp
How long were you in your affair? How did you feel once it ended? After so many years in an affair I felt a bit lost and thought I’m not doing that again! Even though it really enhanced my life I thought nope.... but here I am looking again! It took about 2 months and I was looking!
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Eliza Boo - 23 Jun, 2023 - 08:39PM
When you're using your car as a mobile crying booth perhaps and haven't seen then for over 3 months...
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Bobby224 - 23 Jun, 2023 - 07:09PM
Haha sorry that comment was more aimed at the conversation going on after! I wasn’t implying you haha. But hey that’s sounds like a positive you can take out of it!
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Beckysharp - 23 Jun, 2023 - 06:55PM
Just to be clear- I didn’t demand sex with him every day 😂😂😂
Wouldn’t have said no either but…. 😉
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Bobby224 - 23 Jun, 2023 - 06:48PM
Beckysharp
Thank you for your comments. I’m very sorry your long term affair didn’t end amicably. I think that’s sad. I hope that you still have taken some positives and have some good memories.
I think it’s unreasonable and unrealistic if when entering an affair you think there will be sex everyday! Well you can certainly find ways to be and feel close through other ways during the days that you don’t meet. My long affair we sometimes we couldn’t meet for sex for a couple weeks but we still had lots of fun in between. Is an affair all about sex? I really enjoyed her company through e mail in the evenings. All I can say was I feel my affair enhanced my life and I understood it had to end.
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Key of Life - 23 Jun, 2023 - 05:37PM
I’m a bit late coming to this , but going back to OP point , I believe the situation described with the once a week , mundane , do-the-business and go is fairly unusual for IE . People on here usually have busy lives and meet ups are eagerly anticipated , dynamic and not boring .
From my experience they tend to end as a result of outside influences : family matters , changed jobs etc - the OP sounds like they already know the answer to the question x
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Beckysharp - 23 Jun, 2023 - 12:32PM
I can only speak from my experience but I think if neither really want it to end but ultimately it is also no longer what (I) wanted… hard to stay completely emotionally detached (for me anyway).
Not that I’m the OP!!
laugar164 - 23 Jun, 2023 - 12:26PM
Becky not good when it ends like that , I don't understand when it ends amicably as you both know what you're entering into and at some point it may end
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Beckysharp - 23 Jun, 2023 - 11:36AM
Thanks for sharing your positive experience Bobby. I have recently ended a long term affair (not 10 years!!) but sadly not as amicably. Onwards and upwards ☺️
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Paula99 - 23 Jun, 2023 - 11:08AM
Confident10…
My my you have made a massive generalisation…in my experience people who make these assumptions have little or no real experience to back it up …so I hope you have the agenda to provide real answers …🧐
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Dotty Green - 23 Jun, 2023 - 09:52AM
Confident10 - 22 Jun, 2023 - 10:40PM
My affairs are def not short term !! I was speaking to the OP who posed the questions, but for me if I felt I was putting in all the effort and getting nothing in return. Also it appears the OP sees their IE once a week, again for me that just is not feasible.
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TheBoredHousewife - 23 Jun, 2023 - 09:05AM
Confident10 - 22 Jun, 2023 - 10:40PM
I think are answering the OP’s question. Nothing to do with what our own IE lives are like!
Enigma.. - 23 Jun, 2023 - 07:03AM
An affair should be fun and exciting with lots of laughter and chatting and, naturally lol, great sex.
But when it becomes a case of meeting up, having sex and then out the door!?!
To me that is no longer an affair. It’s just an act.
If one person is trying hard to keep the other interested… well that says it all.
Personally, if that happened to me, I would bring the affair to an end. Hopefully amicably.
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Bobby224 - 23 Jun, 2023 - 06:39AM
Sorry to waffle on!! In my experience it’s very possible to have a long affair and move on and be happy that it happened and you had such a wonderful experience in your life with nobody getting hurt. Surely that’s what we all want? If you wanted to hurt your partner you would just leave? Us as the the people having an affair have to deal with the hurt (if it does) and find the positives!
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Bobby224 - 23 Jun, 2023 - 06:25AM
Beckysharp
It ended as she moved to another country. Yes ha you are right it was a long time but we clicked and fully understood ea ch other and our situations. It was perfect for both of us but we knew we would never hurt of families. So like I said we still talk and we both have the best memories and to me I was very very luckt to have her in my life. I’m not a big bed hopper. I just want that one extra person to share messages and fun with. I’m not into trying to sleep with a billion whomen. I enjoy the connection with one person similar to me. If you are genuinely honest with each other breaking up shouldn’t be a shock or painful. Yes you will miss the person sometimes very much but you know it’s coming!
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ExoticOrchid - 23 Jun, 2023 - 12:10AM
C10 - 10:40PM
That's a very sweeping and judgemental comment! 🤔
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BristolGuy123 - 22 Jun, 2023 - 10:52PM
Confident10 everyone is different. People look for different things from relationships.
1596777 - 22 Jun, 2023 - 10:40PM
You all seem to be very short termists here.
Are you really so bad at relationships that nothing lasts?
Going from one affair to another sounds soul destroying.
I feel so sorry for many of you.
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Beckysharp - 22 Jun, 2023 - 09:01PM
Why did it end Bobby? 10 years is longer than a lot of relationships!!
Bobby224 - 22 Jun, 2023 - 08:20PM
I’ve not had an affair through this site but I have had affairs before. My last one lasted for 10 years. We both are married so fully understood what we were into. Obviously we developed deep feelings for each other but both never ever considered upsetting our partners. When it came to an end it was hard but it was a different hard to being in a conventional relationship. We knew the day would arrive when we would have to part. We still email each other to this day. What I’m trying to say is for me it hurt but I was expecting it and as it’s a secret I could not whinge and moan in public. You survive and seem to move on. I still think of her daily but just in a happy fond and ha dirty way! All good memories!
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laugar164 - 22 Jun, 2023 - 07:53PM
My last affair ended amicably best way I think instead of ending acrimonious
1601580 - 22 Jun, 2023 - 07:42PM
Ended my IE affair amicably. She wanted to extend her family so no hard feeling at all.. She did suggest rekindling things in a few years. Lol
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Country man 1982 - 22 Jun, 2023 - 07:33PM
Most things in this world have a shelf life , at some point a end will come,but how we chose that is in our hands,be kind .....
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TheBoredHousewife - 22 Jun, 2023 - 07:10PM
An acrimonious ending might well be easier to move on from! 😜
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Paula99 - 22 Jun, 2023 - 07:02PM
Sometimes there isn’t an amicable ending and most of the time it’s a change of circumstances like one person moving away or changing professions..
One thing I do know it at some point IT WILL END..and yes he/she may break your heart especially if it’s a long term affair and you will have an ‘adjustment period’ which is like a bereavement in itself ..but you live and learn and your next affair won’t be in the same league in terms of emotions but you will be able to ‘move on’ with more ease and have another success affair ..
If your ‘affair’ is making excuses then cut your losses and go …the chat forum is a God send for people that need support and who else can you chat about your secret life with…👍
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LifeBalance - 22 Jun, 2023 - 07:01PM
I think it’s quite simple. People aren’t the genuine people they claim to be. After a while, true colours shine.
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The Joy of Impotence - 22 Jun, 2023 - 05:59PM
If she wakes me up during my pre-foreplay nap, I'd end it for sure.
That's a red line for me.
Dotty Green - 22 Jun, 2023 - 03:29PM
tarnished knight - 22 Jun, 2023 - 03:11PM
Not sure where you Love or Live... but I do agree location can play a big part in meeting someone.
But hey there will be someone out there
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tarnished knight - 22 Jun, 2023 - 03:11PM
Bristol guy
Same here, I have been on here a while and even been a gold member, but to know avail. Mind you, I do accept that I love in a rural location that doesn't have a huge population of men and women, let alone ladies looking for extramarital fun.
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BristolGuy123 - 22 Jun, 2023 - 03:03PM
I'd need to start something before I can end it. I need to be in the situation to know. How have other guys got on finding something on here?
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Beckysharp - 22 Jun, 2023 - 02:48PM
Probably just my own prejudices laugar164. I’ve tried the convo route- doesn’t work (for me). Selfish people don’t change… their loss!!
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laugar164 - 22 Jun, 2023 - 02:42PM
Becky. It may of not come across what I meant but
What I was trying to get across is to raise you concerns about the affair and that you're not happy. I might be easily to resolve with a conversation if not then it's time to walk away
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TheBoredHousewife - 22 Jun, 2023 - 02:38PM
I think a few months is only the start of things to be honest, and it is only after the novel stage that you can evaluate whether this is just a fun thing or something potentially substantial.
Looks like the fun aspect has worn off in the OP’s case. Time to move on.
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Beckysharp - 22 Jun, 2023 - 02:05PM
Thank you Dotty
Sometimes best advice is hard to follow 😉 but after a few months and no longer fun… no brainer!!
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Dotty Green - 22 Jun, 2023 - 01:52PM
Beckysharp - 22 Jun, 2023 - 01:40PM
Well said Becky x
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1604745 - 22 Jun, 2023 - 01:47PM
In the menu called life, you are a side dish. Something someone orders regularly because they like the look of it and its tasty but you will never be the main.
There are men/women out ther that enjoy a couple of mains and can handle both without feeling guilty of over eating. Maybe you need someone like that?
...or maybe i am just hungry.
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Beckysharp - 22 Jun, 2023 - 01:40PM
I disagree slightly laugar164
An affair is a purely selfish indulgence. It doesn’t really matter what reasons there are for this behaviour. If someone is walking away immediately after sex that is disrespectful at best and using you at worst.
What would be the benefit of continuing?
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laugar164 - 22 Jun, 2023 - 12:56PM
The partnership/ affair need to be 50/50 once one person is not putting in the effort it will only go one way
I would have a chat with the person to see what's wrong
And to see if you can get back on track it maybe they have other problems in there life and they are more of a priority
Just remembered it's an affair if it's not working you need to re evaluate . Do you really want to put your relationship at risk for something that's not working
1596777 - 22 Jun, 2023 - 12:32PM
Doesn't sound as though you'd met your 'perfect' affair partner after all.
A case of mistaken identity.
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AdorableOne - 22 Jun, 2023 - 12:11PM
If they are trying to get out of the room asap then its become a transactional relationship and if you aren't happy with that, call it a day.
The person may also want to end it but doesn't want to be the one seen to break up, so hoping you will call it.
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Dotty Green - 22 Jun, 2023 - 12:05PM
Also I would be pretty disappointed if the flame had burned out after just a few months too (I guess as the OP saw their IE once a week it could be a probability)
An affair should be fun, sexy, passionate with both of you wanting the best from it - it should be the same on both sides, it should not feel like an effort.
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Dotty Green - 22 Jun, 2023 - 10:30AM
If you feel you have to keep "them interested" then I feel it is over - what about them keeping your interested !!
I think for me, I tend to see the writing is on the wall when the just do not have the time and messages in between fade out, for me then best to bow out gracefully.
Also, if neither of you are putting the effort of the commitment, then it could be time to move all we all know affairs have longevity, and it is the excitement that we crave, once that has gone be brave call it a day.
BTW what is this "once a week" the OP speaks of.... I have no idea how I would fit in a regular once a week liaison......
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Sachkie61 - 22 Jun, 2023 - 10:10AM
Yes I would definitely move on I’m new to this but once the excitement and spark has fizzled then maybe it is time as to be honest that’s why we are on here hope all goes well .
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