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Why our members keep coming back

A different kind of dating site

For 22 years we've stayed focused on a single thing: helping British people in long-term relationships connect, discreetly, on their own terms.

Genuine privacy

Anonymous messaging, private photo galleries, no social-graph linking, and a Personal Details Guarantee in writing.

Real UK members

Over 1.8 million UK members since 2004, with new profiles reviewed by a UK moderator before they appear.

22 years of stability

Online since 2004, profitable and independent. Not part of a multinational dating conglomerate.

Warning: not everyone is suited to having an affair. They are not an alternative to working on or ending a marriage. Not all affairs have a positive effect on a marriage, some can be very damaging. Always consider other people and if you are going to have an affair, please select your partner wisely.