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User Stories by Men

"I did indeed meet my perfect partner. It lasted around 6 months and we had an extremely passionate relationship. Unfortunately it was 20 years too late for us both, but our brief time together taught us both the real meaning of true love and what great sex is!"


"Its a good site which helps you find people.Can't say i have my perfect match but lots of people here to get to know...... also a few odd ones.Its like anything easy come easy go if thats what you want.Kept updated daily with messages but be careful of the users.Don't expect as a man to have women banging on your door for sex it just doesn't work that way.Of course it helps if your a lady as you can select.Get a good pic of yourself and be honest in your profile and you'll get on fine.Rather costly to join, but it does work... have fun in your searches. Thats part of the fun"


"Not yet met anybody yet but it is a truly outstanding site to meet genuine and like minded women. I have only been on here for two weeks as a Gold Plus member. The ratio of true to fake profiles is really high. Though I am not sure and you will be better placed to assess this ratio, I suspect fake profiles from women are very unlikely on here and fake profiles from men have next to zero likelihood since they have to pay to participate. Overall, an excellent site."

Tom Caster

"Below is my experience and advice to potential subscribers:
First, if you are thinking of a quick and easy conquest, forget it! This site isn't for you!
Second - Don't expect instant success - What you plant in goodwill will be repaid a thousand times!
Third - Treat ladies as potential friends as well as potential lovers and it will pay dividends!
They will help you, advise you and strangely you may end up with some very good friends! I have!
Fourth - Expect to encounter a jungle culture from some people, shallow and verbally nasty!
You will get bruised, knockbacks and despair! Despite this be considerate of others feelings. Rejection hurts, don't wound people!
Fifth - It takes time, understanding and being a good listener. Men are quoted as being ruled by their genitals, ladies are ruled by their heart. Remember it well!
Sixth - Expect to locate and meet several ladies many will not have the chemistry with you. That is not you or them. It is human nature. No reflection!
Seventh - Photos - Be aware some people will judge you on your picture, some will judge you on your personality. Take your pick!
Eighth - Expect realistically to find, meet and commence your relationship in about three months! I expect many are highly skilled and beat this easily and some give up!
Ninth - Expect to constantly review and adapt your profile. If a lady says no after viewing it ask for feedback!
They do oblige and often it is quite enlightening that what you thought you said isn't what they read!
IE has so far, to me, proved a worthwhile venture and rewards way beyond my expectations.
Seek and ye shall find and sometimes where and when you least expect."


" Two years ago I woke up on a major birthday and realised that I was never going to have sex again. I was very fit and exercising a lot, in order that I could live longer in good health, and as a result my libido was very high.

So I decided to set up a "secret, parallel world" and have an affair with a married woman who might be in a similar situation to me. Unlike a single or separated or divorced or widowed man I needed my affair to be secret and I needed to find a married woman who needed something similar.

After a few false starts I found IE, which turns out to be the best online dating site for married people.

I chatted online with hundreds of married women and met face-to-face with a few of them. It does take a lot of time and effort chatting online and on the phone to find out which women have joined for the stimulation of just an erotic pen-pal and which women really do want to have an affair. I almost feel like a counsellor or therapist because I ask searching questions, to find out what is wrong at home and why they have joined IE, and then have long online discussions with them to explore more details.

But IE is unique in providing a safe forum for like-minded people to share their inner-most secrets and establish connections.

I started by having a brief affair with one woman, who had married early to a much older man and their sex life had ended years ago. This first affair lasted for a few months and then slowly fizzled out.

Then I met a nurse, who also had an older husband but was still sexually active at home. But she felt that things were stale and she wanted variety and excitement.

Over the next year we had a most fantastic affair, where we would meet virtually every week for an afternoon in a hotel room. We would have long, intimate chats and then wild sex.

Unfortunately, her husband took a new job hundreds of miles away and we decided that we would each find new lovers.

Recently I have met another amazing woman, who co-incidentally used to be a nurse, and we have started a new affair. She and her husband sleep in different bedrooms, because he has done some really stupid non-sexual things that have virtually ruined their marriage and she cannot bear to touch him.

But she is an intensely sexual woman and we are having the most amazing time together.

Having an affair has changed my life, since I am now a much kinder, jollier and happier person at home.

So, thanks to IE for making this possible !"


User Stories by Women

"I had a wonderful 3 year relationship with a man met on your site. It was exactly what we needed at the time. Now my life has changed a little and I am back here for different reasons, I am separated but as I still have a young child who already has an excellent father, I do not want to recreate the nuclear family but want someone for me who is happy to fit in with that. On other dating sites I feel a fraud of sorts as I cannot offer all that someone may expect, but with IE I am free to be honest and it is understood and accepted."


"I love this site its most genuine and honest,meaning the guys are usually what they say they are..ive met few wonderful men who ive had long term fun with only stopped because weve mutually agreed it was right thing to do at time..wont be leaving it in hurry,think i be here as long as possible.its def saved my marraige id be lost with out lovely guys ive met on here.;0)thank you."


"I wrote my profile one night and by the next night, had received so many wonderful responses. However, one stood out and we met the very next day. I'm now at the start of the most thrilling, romantic affair with the most amazing gentleman. I can't believe how lucky I've been. I have found exactly what I was looking for and more besides. Thank you. X"

Charlotte Bronte

"I stumbled upon this site more than 4 yrs ago , I wasn't looking for anything in particular just curious.
Chatted to a few blokes but hesitated to meet up as it was a bit scary stepping into the unknown. I started a conversation with a married man who seemed very nice and decided to go for it , this meeting ended up lasting 3yrs and its still ongoing but not as often due to commitments .Im glad I decided to take the plunge and its been a great 3+years. It does what it says on the tin !
Thanks to I E .....\"


"I joined in February 2013 as i was feeling neglected and met my lover after a few failed liaisons with other members. We meet when we can, usually one a week, and I am enjoying a very satisfying affair. It's not just the physical aspect of the affair but just knowing my lover is thinking of me when we are apart lights my day. We keep in touch by text and even those texts are exciting and stimulating. I'm hoping the affair will last as long as it can and whe. It eventually ends I will definitely be back here looking for more. Thank god for IE you've given me the tools to enhance my life and I'm having a ball xx"


"Really like the website. It has been a great experience for me, and as a result has actually improved my marriage. I have met 4 people from the site so far, and have had fun with all of them, even though I was only attracted to two of them. I like this site as, as a woman, I feel confident that the males are genuine and there are no fake profiles. Thanks for a great site Sara! L x"



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