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IE Etiquette

Dear Sara

I keep reading across several letters, that there is an ‘etiquette’ and there are ‘rules’ related to contact on IE. What are these rules? I had assumed that women should make the first contact (as I dont want to add to their bombardment ! and they can choose themselves) but it seems I have been extremely naive.

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1268231-Scheduled For Deletion - 07 Nov, 2018 - 04:56PM

Do women contact men first here? My impression is that with an over-supply of men, they don't need to make an effort and can wait to be contacted first. On the rare occasions they do initiate contact they are surprised, baffled or annoyed if you're not interested.

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Organic Basket of Plums - 07 Nov, 2018 - 12:53PM

Re Sexybexy

Maybe it's irony on your part but your expectation that men should make the initial advance and offer up their pictures upon their first message for your benefit..

Is both highly shallow upon your part
and a smack around the chops to all of those confident and savvy women who realise that this is 2018 not 1958

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tea_coffee_me_ - 07 Nov, 2018 - 11:42AM

Sexybexy - 06 Nov, 2018 - 04:59PM

I WISH men would say Hi and SEND THEIR PIC PASSWORD on first contact. This would save an awful lot of time...
- Then request it on your profile, I do.
- I do not respond to a VK
- Depending on time or tone of message etc I MAY not respond if the password is not sent as requested, sometimes a prompt is given and all flows from there.

One person had NO intention of providing a photo EVER no idea how he felt that was going to work on here.

So ask on profile, prompt, else move on :-)

Lasttimecaller? - 07 Nov, 2018 - 07:47AM

The only etiquette that makes any sense to me is:
Male or female, if you see a profile you like, and which stirs something in you, why not say 'hi'?
What have you got to lose?

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1264503-Deleted - 06 Nov, 2018 - 10:25PM

You may be waiting awhile for a women to contact you.
If a women has looked at your profile a polite "I saw you looking " is a good starting point if you get no reply you no they've checked you out and are not interested.
Good luck.

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Bereweeke - 06 Nov, 2018 - 07:25PM

To quote and amend a very old saying - "Manners maketh man and woman!." I am a woman and have never made first contact (sounds like "First Encounters" film) but I do appreciate when a gentleman sends me a message and I always respond. I think it is kindly that you do not want to approach a woman but times have changed with regard to internet dating so be bold,. take care and good luck.

Sexyannie1 - 06 Nov, 2018 - 05:51PM

I have mentioned before my awful experience of contacting a certain male on here first . I had the most dreadful response from him , sarcastic. And rude saying ladies should never make the first contact . I note he says he has been on here years , so his etiquette is working to his disadvantage if he hasn’t secured someone yet . There is no etiquette except to be polite .

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Sexybexy - 06 Nov, 2018 - 04:59PM

No, no, no! I always wait for men to contact me unless IE have told me a guy has made me their favourite and their profile looks reasonable. I don't know what the rules are, but I WISH men would say Hi and SEND THEIR PIC PASSWORD on first contact. This would save an awful lot of time...

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