Comments (21)

VagaVaga - 02 May, 2025 - 10:36PM

Height might be an important asset if you're intending to have a career in basketball but it's not advantageous if you're doing gymnastics. Bottom line: People have different tastes, and what matters to one person might be irrelevant to another.: Emotional connection, trust, and understanding often outweigh physical specifics.

Paula99 - 02 May, 2025 - 10:28PM

If we all stated obviously what we are thinking then IE would end up like one of those God awful cheap chat rooms …thank goodness it’s moderated ….🧐

Stargazer9711 - 02 May, 2025 - 09:46PM

It’s all about time and we don’t have all the time in the world to engage in a meaningful conversation with every man or woman we bump into onto here .. so to help improve our chances of success I don’t see why one can’t be specific about physical traits and it would usually be based on our ex partners.. :-)
The only downside here is that one may miss out on a gem based on a superficial evaluation.. as who knows that person you reject might be a gorgeous soul once you have peeled the layers like and onion.. let’s not forget physical traits can be improved and enhanced .. the soul stays the same!

Cheryl Kim - 02 May, 2025 - 09:20PM

It isn’t difficult to tower over me, however I do draw the line when I, as a petite woman, can see the top of his head without having to tip toe.

Conversely, I have no qualms about answering a man’s questions about my physical stats, if he reciprocates with his.

We can’t all be attracted to the same physical traits. Horses for courses.

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2025maybe - 02 May, 2025 - 07:29PM

I think given what we are all mostly on here it's important to take time to find the right person who fits for you.
Part of this is physical appearance.
I think one of the worst things that could happen is your lower your preferences and then that effects the outcome of your affair.
I think we are all grown ups and likely to have took time out to think before coming on here. I think so long as your polite and respectful it shouldn't be an issue.
I speak to a few guys who I have been honest with and vice versa but its nice to have people to talk to in similar situation x peace ✌️

SirrahNek - 02 May, 2025 - 07:28PM

Emnem

Okay. So the way I look at it (and perhaps, sadly, it does need to be stated), if you’re on the pull then show some respect to the person you’re trying to pull. Even if, as I maintain, the primary attractor is intellectual, any burgeoning romance is going to die very bloody fast if the person has poor personal hygiene and hasn’t made an effort about their appearance.

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EmnEm123 - 02 May, 2025 - 06:43PM

SirraNek

Come on!

Smokers with dirty teeth, people in general who don't visit a dentist?

People who don't eat a reasonable diet or can walk the length of themselves?

Dad bod? Ask the men on here, this place is the only place I've ever seen it, frequently.

I take it to mean, I've let myself go, completely."

SirrahNek - 02 May, 2025 - 05:44PM

Emnem - I mean, that’s fair enough - but shouldn’t good personal hygiene go without saying?

By the way - what is a “dad bod’?

EmnEm123 - 02 May, 2025 - 05:29PM

Mr Bird

Once more I have to dissabuse the men on here that there are millions of men chasing few ladies.

Do you ever look at the number of people logged on?

Preferences? Yes, I have them, for good reason.

I note that a lot of men have 'nothing entered' on the ideal partner section.

To me that screams any old port in a storm.

No chance, I'm tall, I look after myself, I will not meet with short men, fat men, dad bods, smokers, ex smokers, dirty teeth.

I'm no supermodel, but I have always looked after myself. A bit of care for yourself down the years is needed, otherwise, no deal.

I would also say, that it doesn't matter what I state on my profile, I still get men messaging me who are obviously unsuitable.

I haven't met with anyone in ages, I won't until someone suitable comes along.

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Paula99 - 02 May, 2025 - 04:12PM

The important thing is …your write your profile to target the guys that you feel you resonate with ….this should leave all the idiots …wannabes…pen pals …and god knows what else comes out of the woodwork on IE …

There is no need to write a dissipation … you are not applying for a job …it’s natural that you will have some expectations if you have had an affair before …as for those people that have a shopping list …what can I say 😖

My profile is how I like my guys …direct and no nonsense…whether it comes across as ‘dry and emotionless’ as Mr Bird says…the facts remain you do not know anyone until you meet them …and people do surprise you …

Profiles are there for a guide and for most you can read in between the lines ….