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Hi Sara,I have never used a dating site before. I was looking for some decent conversation, discretion and above all, some much needed attention. I joined on Wednesday night, by Thursday morning I had a plethora of messages, only 2 vaguely local to me. 
So I replied to them. To both, i explained I can't message to and fro constantly, I'm married and work full time. 
The first said cool, asked a few open questions, and left me to answer in my own time. When I replied, I asked him a couple back. Throughout the day Thursday, it kept me smiling. 
The second said hi. 8.30amHi 9.00Hi 9.20
U there? 9.30
Then at 10.00am I checked ur profile, I think you're transgender. 
U a male? I blocked him. 
So I met with guy no. 1 on Friday night, and we really hit it off. Looking forward to a long term affair with this one. 
Hint guys- discretion is key. As is a bit of patience. Maybe we're not all after a quick shag in the back of your vauxhall, but more an intellectual stimulation aswell.  
And he does stimulate my intellect. X.

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Comments (29)

1184851-Deleted - 03 Jul, 2018 - 02:02PM

A guy once accused me of masquerading as a man online.

It made me laugh so hard my balls jiggled.. 😄😄

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captain883 - 05 May, 2018 - 04:32PM

Local is the key. One cannot really make much of an affair if one spends half the time "away" travelling. Well done

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1215482-Deleted - 30 Apr, 2018 - 10:25AM

Are these posts fabricated? Can't help but wonder ...

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Daddydom - 29 Apr, 2018 - 05:03PM

You should be so lucky. Today I tried to write to someone with whom I have never had any contact, and who's profile I was viewing for the very first time, to find I had been blocked. Has anyone else had this experience?

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1219506-Deleted - 29 Apr, 2018 - 05:38AM

I enjoyed reading this and it made me smile. The first seemed decent and most importantly, respectful. This is still about building a friendship that may lead to intimacy. As a male we do need to be patient and remember that the other person may not be available when we are... That is the fun bit, anticipation.

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1222785-Deleted - 05 Apr, 2018 - 05:33PM

My giddy aunt , isn't the Letters to Sara column wonderfully entertaining? I'm new here too and the letters page makes it all worthwhile.

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The Actress - 04 Apr, 2018 - 09:10AM

It's been almost a couple of months since this letter first appeared.
Aren't we due an update, by now?
I, for one, am very curious about how things are going? (or went?)
Do tell!

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captain883 - 03 Apr, 2018 - 10:52AM

Well done - as a male who has previously enjoyed this site you are soooo right. One needs to connect and more than just physically.

Be cautious and most of all judge people for who they are not who they might act to be

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1221318-Deleted - 29 Mar, 2018 - 05:45PM

For me its important to be yourself, thats why im here - to have freedom for a moment, passion with a lover...yes I agree you should show respect but everyone is different and all that you see is the profile and picture they show, so why not be straight to the point? It doesnt mean we are bad guys its the opposite we are up front. We are all here for a fun loving affair but I dont know what i want, raw sexual encounters seems safest, NSA regular. Otherwise my fear is that I would fall for my lover, that would make it worse to bear and force a decision we are all avoiding thats why we are on here.

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Alamuese - 19 Mar, 2018 - 01:52PM

Oh dear i have had a few crass messafes which i delete withour reply. 2 guys i am chartingvto seem descent xx

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Alamuese - 18 Mar, 2018 - 11:32AM

I agree had a mixed bag .. 1 predatory rude agrees I’ve one when I declined .. Hopefully I will get as lucky as you :-)

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amber57 - 26 Feb, 2018 - 01:53PM

Hi, there
you , right in some ways some people think we are easy going,, i always block them . i like a friend a lover and a companion, to get away from that was is not existend any more.
to have the closeness, and the friend plus the lover, i found it its now nearly 2 years, i still come here as i also met guys they never go out and meet , they just happy to have a nice conversation, which i like also , but i think lots of them mistaking a dating side , as a easy trophy on the bedpost,
I, wish you luck , not every person is like that , just be as you are treat them as u like yourself to be treated , and if its to bad , just as u said , block them
good luck

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1206332-Deleted - 25 Feb, 2018 - 08:21PM

I asked a women if she was transgender and got blocked! Glad to hear you are doing well.

I am struggling along but keep optimistic there is someone on here for me!

Oh by the way I have a Jaguar lol!!

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Sandalina - 22 Feb, 2018 - 10:57PM

I have an extra large boot in my vauxhall complete with duvet and cushions.......it suits me just fine!
Had no complaints so far!

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1068925-Deleted - 17 Feb, 2018 - 11:43PM

Sounds a bit like a craig David song, met him on Wednesday we were in bed by friday.....lol. Geez what happened to courtship!! X

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SloshPot - 17 Feb, 2018 - 08:12AM

Took her for a drink on Tuesday
We were making love by Wednesday
And on Thursday and Friday and Saturday
We chilled on Sunday
I met this girl on Monday
Took her for a drink on Tuesday
We were making love by Wednesday
And on Thursday and Friday and Saturday
We chilled on Sunday!

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NikViking - 16 Feb, 2018 - 08:36PM

Lucky guy. Did better than I did on three tours here. Tried to be intellectual but maybe I'm not. Hope it goes well.

1203921-Deleted - 16 Feb, 2018 - 05:09PM

My advice is this, if someone sends you their password either -

A) look at their pictures and then ignore them if you don’t like the look.

B) as above but rather than ignore them just block them.

It’s what a lot of women do on here 😄😄

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Gymfit8 - 15 Feb, 2018 - 09:24PM

I was very lucky in the beginning, met a nice guy who was very chatty and we hit it off straight away, saw him for a few months until I moved away but he messaged me a few weeks ago,. Great that we can still talk and have a laugh together after 3 years since we met.

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yorkslass007 - 15 Feb, 2018 - 08:48PM

That Craig David song 7 days springs to mi d lol 😝

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1140830-Deleted - 15 Feb, 2018 - 08:41PM

I would absolutely love to know how this pans out over the next twelve weeks...... to quote Sir John Gielgud in the film 'Arthur' .......I hang in anticipation !

Perfect moments - 14 Feb, 2018 - 01:49PM

Wouldn't you rather get to know this guy better first? Seems to me you are rushing in there with both feet first rather than your head.

1100197-Deleted - 14 Feb, 2018 - 09:35AM

You'd better let him know your ideas then, long term means different things to different people .

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1139876-Deleted - 14 Feb, 2018 - 06:52AM

You joined Wed and by Friday you’d met and were embarking on a long term affair. Yeah.. right...

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Annaverylondon - 14 Feb, 2018 - 12:03AM


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1191975-Deleted - 13 Feb, 2018 - 04:42AM

I think you are incredibly lucky to meet someone so quickly, maybe you are in the right place and both in the right situation. Ignore the one who blocked you, we all get blocked, people get opinions of what they think we are and throw abuse at us, women do it to men as well i’ve had to block a few and got blocked recently for asking someone if they were genuine and wanted to meet as she said she did then disappeared. We have no idea whats going through the other persons minds or how many people they are chatting with. I think you just got lucky all i get is false promises or strung along until recently. Congratulations hope it works and you have fun.

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1134762-Deleted - 12 Feb, 2018 - 11:07PM

You joined on Wednesday. .you met someone on Friday. .and you are looking for a long term relationship with him?..that's whirlwind..discretion is key ..and a bit of patience. ..sounds like a nursery rhyme. Simon Grundy..please take care.

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The Actress - 12 Feb, 2018 - 04:44PM

Dear OP,

I'd have ticked a "like" onto you letter, if I wasn't seething with.......with...... Admiration? Sure. Jealousy? Maybe a twinge in there somewhere, I have to admit. Shock? Probably too strong a word, Awe? Mmmmm.....Astounded? Yes that fits!

I'm astounded that you managed to land on your feet so quickly after joining!

What did you say on your profile;? What magic did you use? Can it be bottled? I'd like to buy a few litres! I'd make a fortune!! LOL

Seriously though; you go girl, and the very best of luck, I hope he turns out to be the man to relight your fire, long term.

(exit stage left, sighing).

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Happy sweet girl - 12 Feb, 2018 - 04:15PM

What’s wrong with a hump in my Vauxhall’
Plenty of room in the back!!!

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