Tag: extramarital

Three strikes and you’re out – love cheats typically have three affairs before they are caught out by their partners, according to a new survey

What the numbers show

* It takes an average of four years for adultery to be exposed – most commonly through stray phone messages;

* 86% of people who cheat on their spouses after marriage have already slept with another love before tying the knot;

* Results are from a new survey of 1,000 adulterers by IllicitEncounters.com, the UK’s leading dating site for married people

Most love cheats have three affairs before their cheating is discovered by their partners, according to a new survey.

And it takes an average of four years for their adultery to be exposed – most commonly through their partner reading their phone messages.

The vast majority of people (86%) who cheat on their spouses after marriage have already slept with another lover before tying the knot.

The results are from a new survey of 1,000 adulterers by IllicitEncounters.com, the UK’s leading dating site for married people.

It discovered clear patterns of behaviour suggesting that if a person is unfaithful early on in a relationship they will continue to seek affairs after marriage.

Two-thirds of adulterers (63%) have been caught out by their partners at some point in their marriage.

But this lead to the break-up of the relationship in only 15% of cases.

Most people are prepared to forgive one sexual liaison if other elements of their relationship with their partner are strong.

Cheats tend to be extremely careful not to get caught with a lover straight after they have tied the knot.

Just one in 10 adulterers (11%) were caught during their first affair after matrimony and one in eight (12%) during their second.

The most common time for an affair to be exposed was during the third affair with one in five (21%) saying this was when they were caught out.

The main reason was that adulterers tend to get more brazen the longer they get away with cheating and they are not as careful at covering their tracks.

The most common ways cheats are caught out are – partner reading phone messages (39%), partner reading emails (22%), being caught lying about their whereabouts (20%), being spotted out with a lover (14%), being informed on by a family friend (5%).

Expert comment from Jessica Leoni

IllicitEncounters.com spokesman Christian Grant said: “What this new research shows is that a leopard never changes their spots.

“If your partner is unfaithful to you before tying the knot that pattern of cheating will continue after matrimony.

“Cheats need to be extra careful around the time of their third affair because this is when they are most likely to get caught – probably because they have got over-confident and give too many clues away to their partner who will be getting suspicious.

“It is interesting that an affair leads to a break-up in only 15% of cases.

“Most people are prepared to forgive an affair if the fundamentals of a relationship are strong and we have a lot of members at IllicitEncounters.com who have permission to have affairs because their partner has gone off sex.

“As a nation, we are becoming a lot more like the French who often see an extra-marital affair not as a reason for divorce but the natural reaction to a relationship going stale.”

Every week, around 20,000 people in the UK are having affairs on IllicitEncounters.com.

More than one million people have registered with the site since it started in 2003 and the highest proportion of members are wealthy people in London and the Home Counties.

Top 5 ways affairs are discovered

1 Phone messages to lover discovered by partner (39%)

2 Emails to lover discovered by partner (22%)

3 Caught lying about whereabouts (20%)

4 Being spotted out with lover 14%)

5 informed on by friend of partner (5%)

NOTES TO EDITOR

About the research

IllicitEncounters.com is the UK’s leading dating website for married people and the leading authority on infidelity. With over 1,000,000 genuine UK users since 2004, you’re sure to find your perfect match.

Established in 2004, we have been providing a meeting place for like-minded married and attached people for nearly 12 years. Our members have one thing in common – they are all looking for a little romance outside their current relationship. Whether that’s the occasional bit of flirtatious chat, a regular coffee date, or a full-blown affair, that’s up to them.

We’re always more than happy to talk about IllicitEncounters.com – please contact Christian Grant through the details below – but we’re not willing to speak publicly about SaraHartley.net at this moment in time.

Email: [email protected]

Tel: 020 7729 6098

Twitter: @cheatsafer

A Hidden Marital Rule Exists That Allows You to Cheat Once During Your Marriage

The key findings

  • If you’ve cheated in your marriage, it looks like you may be alright after all
  • A hidden rule exists that allows someone to cheat once during their marriage
  • The rule was discovered by IllicitEncounters.com, the UK’s leading dating website for married people, and confirmed by Reverend Nicolas Doherty
  • Reverend Doherty says that the rule was introduced by the Church of England in 2011, but was kept hidden from the public to avoid encouraging adultery

Struggling with the guilt that comes with adultery? Luckily for you, it seems that all is forgiven in the eyes of God.

What the numbers show

IllicitEncounters.com, the UK’s leading dating website for married people and the leading authority on infidelity, can reveal that there is, in fact, a rule in one’s marriage, set by the Church of England,  that allows you to cheat, albeit only once.

The rule states as follows:

‘The sin of adultery is permissible once during one’s marriage, with the person who has committed the act not needed to ask Him for pardon or forgiveness.

‘Multiple transgressions, however, are deemed unacceptable in His eyes and through the eyes of the Church.’

Upon discovering this, IllicitEncounters.com sought to reach out to the Church of England for clarification.

The rule was passed in 2011 by the General Synod – the legislative body of the Church of England – and parliament.

Reverend Nicolas Doherty, an ordained minister for over 25 years, says that the introduction of the rule was purposely kept hidden from the public eye, as the Church fears that public knowledge of said rule would encourage and result in an increase in infidelity.

He says:

“The Church has begrudgingly loosened its hardened stance on infidelity, especially in the last few decades. While we by no means encourage it, there has been a slow acceptance of the ubiquity of adultery.

“This Church Measure, therefore, was introduced by the General Synod, pardoning those who are found guilty of infidelity once during their marriage.

“While a married couple will only swear by their marital vows and Declarations under the eyes of God, with no mention of the Measure, it is considered to be applicable to all marriages since its introduction in 2011.”

NOTES TO EDITOR

About the research

IllicitEncounters.com is the UK’s leading dating website for married people and the leading authority on infidelity. With over 1,000,000 genuine UK users since 2004, you’re sure to find your perfect match.

Established in 2004, we have been providing a meeting place for like-minded married and attached people for nearly 12 years. Our members have one thing in common – they are all looking for a little romance outside their current relationship. Whether that’s the occasional bit of flirtatious chat, a regular coffee date, or a full-blown affair, that’s up to them.

We’re always more than happy to talk about IllicitEncounters.com – please contact Christian Grant through the details below – but we’re not willing to speak publicly about SaraHartley.net at this moment in time.

Email: [email protected]

Tel: 020 7729 6098

Twitter: @cheatsafer

Britain’s most prolific mistress: how I am juggling three affairs with married men for Valentine’s Day

What the numbers show

* Gweneth is bedding an international jeweller, a high-flying stockbroker and a powerful banker at the same time;

* She will see all three separately in the run-up to February 14th but they will be with their wives on Valentine’s Day;

* Gweneth has had 100 affairs with married men in the last decade and shows no signs of slowing down;

* The 47-year-old widow meets her lovers through IllicitEncounters.com, Britain’s leading dating website for married people;

* It boasts lots of wealthy male members with an average income of £52,000

 

Britain’s most prolific mistress Gweneth Lee has told how she is juggling three affairs with married men for Valentine’s Day.

The 47-year-old beauty is bedding an international jeweller, a high-flying stockbroker and a powerful banker at the same time.

She will spend different nights with all three over the next two weeks in the build-up to the most romantic day of the year.

But she will be all alone on February 14th because her three lovers will be with their wives.

Expert comment from Jessica Leoni

Business consultant Gweneth, of Chelsea, West London, said: “Valentine’s is the best time of year to be a mistress because you are lavished with sex and presents.

“Married men may make a fuss of their wives on February 14th but they spend a lot more money on their mistresses.

“In my experience the gift to the mistress tends to cost double whatever they give to the wife, and it is far sexier.

“I’ve been a wife on Valentine’s Day, when I was married to my late oil executive husband, and all I can say is that being a mistress is a lot more fun.”

All three of Gweneth’s lovers are aware that she is seeing them on an ‘non-exclusive’ basis and that they will be sharing her with other married men in the run-up to Valentine’s.

It means she has been busy juggling her diary to make sure that her lovers get the attention they deserve.

She met all three men on IllicitEncounters.com, Britain’s leading dating website for married people.

It attracts a wealthy clientele and the average annual income of male members is £52,000 – around double the national average.

It boasts many high-flying multi-millionaires in its client base.

Affair number 1 – the international jeweller

Gweneth said: “This will probably be the most fun of the three dates because my lover is a real party animal.

“But before we crack open the champagne we’ll head off to Bond Street in London for a shopping trip.

“He is an international jeweller with quite exquisite taste and he obviously has the connections to pick the very finest pieces at the very best prices. I have been seeing him on and off for a few years and in the past he has bought me the most beautiful pearls and a gorgeous necklace from Tiffany. I cannot wait to see what we will choose this year.

“After that, it will be back to one of his favourite hotels – Claridge’s or the Savoy. He is in London about six times a year and I am his girl in the capital. I am pretty sure that he has my equivalents in Paris, Milan, New York and some of the other great capitals of the world where he travels on business.

“He is in his 50s and enjoys a good sex life with his wife. But he is very, very highly sexed and enjoys having discreet affairs when he is away on business. I’ve booked him in for early February – my first Valentine’s treat!”

Affair number 2 – the high-flying stockbroker

Gweneth said: “He is in his 40s and lives in the Home Counties with his wife and three children. The kids are all still at school and his wife’s energies go into bringing them up – leaving little time for passion with her husband. That is where I come in.

“He stays at their flat in the City around three times a week. He loves lingerie so I am looking forward to lots of beautiful Agent Provocateur as a present. The one condition being that I wear every piece while we enjoy oysters, champagne and lots of delicious strawberries. It is going to be an exhausting night.”

Affair number 3 – the powerful banker

Gweneth said: “I don’t know what it is about the City and sex but most of my married lovers have worked around the Square Mile.

“My third Valentine’s lover is the kinkiest of the lot. He is like my very own Christian Grey from Fifty Shades of Grey and likes to set up his own Red Room of Pain just for me with all sorts of floggers, spankers and riding crops. You won’t be surprised to learn that one of his weekend hobbies is hunting. He is so highly sexed that our little trysts often start in the restaurant before we head back to the hotel. He has been in the Mile High Club with several different women and is always look at ways to spice up his high-pressured life.

“He is also married with teenage children. He is devoted to his wife but no woman would be able to keep up with his sex drive. He sees me and several other women in London. We know that we are never going to keep him on an exclusive basis because he is absolutely gorgeous, easily the best-looking of my three lovers.”

Gweneth feels no guilt over her affairs – and says she is helping to keep their marriages together.

She explained: “The sad truth is that monogamy is unnatural. Who decided that it was good idea to commit to one person in your 20s or 30s and then stay with them for the next 50 years? Where is the fun in that? Inevitably the sex is going to go stale.

“Go out on Valentine’s night and you will see thousands of couples staring at each other vacantly over dinner. They have very little in common, sex has become a routine and they have stayed together for the sake of the kids or because it is too expensive to divorce.

“They could get a new lease of life by signing up to a site like IllicitEncounters.com, where like-minded married people can date each other, safe in the knowledge that they will have some fun but no one is going to get hurt and start demanding a divorce.”

llicitEncounters.com spokesman Christian Grant said Gweneth was typical of the women on the site which has a 45-55 female/male split.

He said that Valentine’s was one of the busiest times of the year for IllicitEncounters.com.

“Valentine’s may be the most romantic day of the year but it can also brutally expose the weaknesses in a relationship and the lack of sex, intimacy and fun,” he said.

“Lots of people use Valentine’s to reassess their lives and make a decisive change by signing up to a site like ours.

“We are an outlet for men and women who would have an affair whether we were there or not. In coming to us, they can be assured of meeting a like-minded partner seeking some added excitement in their life who doesn’t want to upset things at home.”

Every week, around 20,000 people in the UK are having affairs on IllicitEncounters.com.

More than one million people have registered with the site since it started in 2003 and the highest proportion of members are wealthy people in London and the Home Counties.

NOTES TO EDITOR

About the research

IllicitEncounters.com is the UK’s leading dating website for married people and the leading authority on infidelity. With over 1,000,000 genuine UK users since 2004, you’re sure to find your perfect match.

Established in 2004, we have been providing a meeting place for like-minded married and attached people for nearly 12 years. Our members have one thing in common – they are all looking for a little romance outside their current relationship. Whether that’s the occasional bit of flirtatious chat, a regular coffee date, or a full-blown affair, that’s up to them.

We’re always more than happy to talk about IllicitEncounters.com – please contact Christian Grant through the details below – but we’re not willing to speak publicly about SaraHartley.net at this moment in time.

Email: [email protected]

Tel: 020 7729 6098

Twitter: @cheatsafer

If Your Partner Spent Big This Christmas, They Could Be Cheating On You

The key findings

  • IllicitEncounters.com, the UK’s leading dating website for married people can reveal the Christmas gifts that indicate that your partner might be having an affair
  • 85% of men and 89% of women stated that they spent lavishly on their partner because they felt guilty
  • The site surveyed 300 married men and 300 married women to find out the most popular gifts they bought for their partner this Christmas
  • 35% of men spoiled their wife with designer jewellery, and 27% with designer clothing
  • Women bought their husbands designer clothing (24%) and gadgets (20%) such as Smart Watches and Smart Speakers

While your face might have lit up on Christmas morning when you opened the bracelet from Tiffany’s or the Givenchy bag, it could be also sign that your partner is having an affair.

What the numbers show

IllicitEncounters.com, the UK’s leading dating website for married people and the leading authority on infidelity, can reveal the Christmas gifts that indicate that your partner might be having an affair.

The site surveyed 300 married men and 300 married women to find out the most popular gifts they bought for their partner this Christmas.

35% of men spoiled their wife with designer jewellery, with 27% hedging their bets on designer clothing.

Spending on designer goods didn’t stop there, with a further 20% spending big on a designer handbag.

The remaining 18% purchased anything ranging from spa days to shoes.

Women, on the other hand, predominantly bought their husbands designer clothing (24%).

20% went down the tech route, with Smart Watches and Smart Speakers such as the Amazon Echo or Google Home proving a popular gift of choice.

16% decided that a way to a man’s heart was through his stomach, and splashed out on expensive liquor, while 13% purchased came to the realisation that a man is nothing without his beard – they spent big on grooming products.

Critically, where both men and women agreed was on the motivations behind their high-end purchases.

A whopping 85% of men and 89% of women stated that they spent lavishly on their partner this Christmas purely out of guilt for their affair.

The site’s spokesperson, Christian Grant, explains:

“As you get older, and as you spend more and more time in the same relationship, Christmas becomes less about the gifts themselves and more about the act of giving.

“That’s why expensive and lavish gifts might not be a cause of celebration as you’d initially think.

“From the experienced adulterer to the first-timer, there’s an element of guilt, however small, that’s absolutely unavoidable.

“One small way to alleviate that guilt is to shower your significant other with material goods that you wouldn’t otherwise buy them.

“Money can’t buy happiness, but maybe it can buy you some peace of mind until you come to terms with your relationship status.”

NOTES TO EDITOR

About the research

IllicitEncounters.com is the UK’s leading dating website for married people and the leading authority on infidelity. With over 1,000,000 genuine UK users since 2004, you’re sure to find your perfect match.

Established in 2004, we have been providing a meeting place for like-minded married and attached people for nearly 12 years. Our members have one thing in common – they are all looking for a little romance outside their current relationship. Whether that’s the occasional bit of flirtatious chat, a regular coffee date, or a full-blown affair, that’s up to them.

We’re always more than happy to talk about IllicitEncounters.com – please contact Christian Grant through the details below – but we’re not willing to speak publicly about SaraHartley.net at this moment in time.

Email: [email protected]

Tel: 020 7729 6098

Twitter: @cheatsafer

Scientists Reveal That Chocolate Makes You More Likely to Cheat Than Anything Else

  • Chocolate is the single biggest catalyst for an affair, it’s been revealed
  • 100 people over a period of a year adopted a diet that was heavily based around chocolate
  • Over 85% reported a “significant” increase in their libido, with 78% stating that they would be “likely” or “very likely” to cheat on their partner as a result
  • A natural aphrodisiac, it contains ryptophan, a brain chemical that’s prevalent in sexual arousal, and phenylethylamine, a brain stimulant that’s released when people develop romantic feelings
  • Recent studies have also shown that UK and Germany are the 4th and 2nd biggest consumers of chocolate in the world,  and, as a result, the 9th and 4th most adulterous countries on the planet
  • llicitEncounters.com, the UK’s leading dating website for married people, also surveyed 300 of its members and found that 35% of them used chocolate in an erotic fashion, while over half would like to

Scientists have finally identified the single biggest catalyst that makes someone more likely to have an affair, and it is, in fact, chocolate.

100 people over a period of a year adopted a diet that was heavily based around chocolate, as renowned scientist, Dr Gertcha, explains:

“While we typically think of foods such as oysters to be natural aphrodisiacs, we rarely mention chocolate.

“That’s despite the fact that we’ve known for some years that those that are more hedonistic in their lifestyle also enjoy chocolate.

“Chocolate contains in it chemicals that leave us more prone to an affair: Tryptophan, a brain chemical that’s prevalent in sexual arousal, and phenylethylamine, a brain stimulant that’s often referred to as a ‘love-drug’. The latter is released when people develop romantic feelings and that, along with tryptophan, are both predominately found in chocolate.

“They appear in varying quantities, however. For example, the tests we conducted found that a Mars Bar seemed to have a more potent effect, with people reporting an increased libido twice as much as those who mainly consumed Milky Way, for example.

“The overall findings, however, were clear: over 85% of the 100 case studies reported a “significant” increase in their libido, with 78% stating that they would be ‘likely’ or ‘very likely’ to cheat on their partner as a result.”

Recent studies corroborate with this data, as we know that both the UK and Germany are among the biggest consumers of chocolate in the world – 4th and 2nd respectively – and, unsurprisingly, they’re among the biggest cheats in the world, too, with the UK being the 9th most adulterous and Germany the 4th most adulterous country on the planet.

IllicitEncounters.com, the UK’s leading dating website for married people and the leading authority on infidelity, also notices an alarming spike in the number of people signing up to the site every Easter, the time where we as a nation are more likely to consume chocolate than any other point throughout the year.

The site’s spokesperson, Christian Grant, commented:

“Every year without fail, we see an abnormal amount of people signing up to the site around Easter. While we initially dismissed this as an anomaly, there’s too much evidence that points toward our increased consumption of chocolate around this time of year as the culprit.

“While chocolate is evidently a natural aphrodisiac, it’s also commonly used by those who are looking to experiment in the bedroom, and a lack of an enthralling sex life is one of the main reasons our members are looking to have an affair to begin with.”

In fact, the site surveyed 300 of its members and found that 35% of them used chocolate in an erotic fashion, while over half (53%) would like to.

Of that 35%, over half said that spreading chocolate on their partner’s knee, ear lobe and chest made them more aroused, while a third said that they couldn’t resist licking chocolate off of any body part.

“Who doesn’t love a good knee?” said Grant.

“Spread some Nutella on a bare kneecap and you’ll make any man weak at the, well, knees.”

NOTES TO EDITOR

IllicitEncounters.com is the UK’s leading dating website for married people and the leading authority on infidelity. With over 1,000,000 genuine UK users since 2004, you’re sure to find your perfect match.

Established in 2004, we have been providing a meeting place for like-minded married and attached people for nearly 12 years. Our members have one thing in common – they are all looking for a little romance outside their current relationship. Whether that’s the occasional bit of flirtatious chat, a regular coffee date, or a full-blown affair, that’s up to them.

We’re always more than happy to talk about IllicitEncounters.com – please contact Christian Grant through the details below – but we’re not willing to speak publicly about SaraHartley.net at this moment in time.

Email: [email protected]
Office: 020 7729 6098
Twitter: @cheatsafer