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My wife is now almost seventyone years old, I am a few years older. Although we have a quite active sex life I can no longer stay erect enough for penetrative  sex.She has recently, and for the first time, indicated that she misses penetrative sex and has suggested she looks for a man who could offer a nsa relationship to provide this. I love my wife, we have been married over fifty years and  I have no objection to her suggestion, but is Illicitencounters the right place to find such a man?I genuinely would value your advice.Regards

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1362652-Deleted - 09 Feb, 2020 - 12:04AM

Go to your gp for help, its not right what she wants to do.

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Iwonderif72? - 08 Feb, 2020 - 04:55PM

Lucky lady- let her have her cake and eat it.
Be nice for her to experience another man. Let her do it with your consent- or you might find she does it anyway or worse still exchanges you for a younger model...….

Poeticman - 05 Feb, 2020 - 09:21PM

Easy peasy, go to your GP and get viagra or cialis prescribed. I'm 59 with Erectile Dysfunction. It's called age, 60% of men of a certain age get it. Your GP will be very understanding.

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E. Edward Grey - 04 Feb, 2020 - 02:44PM

I'd agree with Krystelle, try Bob (the Battery Operated Boyfriend).

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Krystelle - 03 Feb, 2020 - 09:36PM

Tell her she can have a “made in china” penis xx you can use it on her xx

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The Actress - 03 Feb, 2020 - 08:17PM

Sorry guys, but I don't believe a word of this letter!

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Epee - 03 Feb, 2020 - 05:29PM

Sorry Petals
I dident say “watching”
I meant sharing as far as he was able.
There would be more loving feeling I think

Petals - 03 Feb, 2020 - 11:52AM

I think I would struggle in doing what you say Epee...if I had a husband having penetrative sex with another lady, it would probably make me feel very jealous. I guess you could call me selfish, but feelings are strong emotions. I know people can do this anyway just as its a turn on, but I think if I was this lady I wouldn't want my husband sitting there watching me....!

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Epee - 01 Feb, 2020 - 04:42PM

My wife is in early 70s, 11 years older than I.
She finds sex uncomfortable so we do not have penetrative sex,but unfortunately she has now lost all interest in any forms of closeness, peck on the cheek good night is about it.
I am still very active, but am reduced to frequent solitary masturbation as an outlet.
Hence my being on here.
Your wife is very lucky to have such an understanding husband.
And if you wish to see her happy, you may both benefit from inviting another man to join the 2 of you.
That way she would also get the loving ministrations of yourself and the nsa pure sexual of another.
And you would see her enjoying both a loving and a penetrative sex life.
Believe me it can work I’ve been there before.

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1361226-Scheduled For Deletion - 01 Feb, 2020 - 08:28AM

Yes I’d be interested in your scenario

NorfBhoy - 30 Jan, 2020 - 08:25AM

Would love to know what area you are

SunshineForever - 29 Jan, 2020 - 07:06PM

I think here is as good as anywhere. It may take some time, but with the right profile and patience then anything is possible.

I can only wish her luck and happiness. What an understanding husband you are!

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Teicu - 29 Jan, 2020 - 10:39AM

Hmmm just wondering why you are on here . Are you looking for an IE yourself?

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Black Gent - 29 Jan, 2020 - 03:38AM

You have had some great advice. If you decide to go for it here then I would suggest you clearly state what you want and more importantly what you do not want!

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1355430-Deleted - 28 Jan, 2020 - 06:36PM

There are other sites that offer more 'niche' interests and it would be easy there.
I expect you'll find it here, but may take a little more looking, a thick skin and a lot of patience dealing with the 'quality' of responses here - be warned.

TheDawnTreader - 28 Jan, 2020 - 12:40PM

I don't see why not, normal safety rules naturally applying. This is a site for sentient adults with adult appetites and your approach with your wife is to be envied by the majority on here who are required to keep a discreet wall between their needs and their partners. She'll have to do the advertising obviously..

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tea_coffee_me_ - 28 Jan, 2020 - 12:29PM

If genuine, bless your cotton socks!

Too many throw away a marriage as one aspect is not right and do not appreciate ALL the elements that are!

Yes in theory this is the right place for her, know as ethical non-monogamy amongst others...

Some people are lucky and find the right person for them, within days, others it can take months. Patience and being careful and finding the person with the right elements for you (both) can take time even in a place where it should be A LOT easier.

Well done on 50 years and may there be many more :-)

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1358330-Deleted - 28 Jan, 2020 - 10:55AM

Oh yes, quite definitely.

I am nearly 70 and have found a nice chap on here. He was initially found with my oh''s permission though for very different reasons from the one you give for your wife wishing to find someone.

There are some nice men on here though one has to weed out the non genuine.

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