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Have you ever met someone who is perfect in every way ? Well groomed, taller than you ( difficult for me I am 5 11) looks good, great conversation, fabulous kisser, until it comes time to do the deed, (sex) and found out they are tiny..... is this a deal breaker for you ? 

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Missbehaviour - 12 Sep, 2019 - 07:31PM

Not if they can last and don't come really quickly. Now that IS a deal breaker!

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Dorset guy - 12 Sep, 2019 - 12:08AM

Would be quite nice to even get some terrible sex 🙁

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Hannypenny - 11 Sep, 2019 - 08:43PM

I have had a previous lover who had ED and did not tell me until we were naked. But it mattered not a jot . He was an amazing lover, tender and considerate and we dated for quite a few years.

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funloverkent - 11 Sep, 2019 - 10:18AM

This raises a point about how much info should be written in a profile (male or female). “Curvy” etc, and “5’2”-5’6” don’t tell much. Many men like an idea of breast size, while many women like to know a man’s length/girth. Revealing photos are not tasteful, but since there is one prime reason we are on here, and the current auto profile generator tells amost nothing, should each of us (m or f) think of writing more about our personal attributes in our profile words? Would I get more interest if I wrote that I am long and girthy? Are we (apart from the few who are too blunt in their words) being too coy? I don’t know the answer, but simply pose the question.

Two things are for sure, Attraction matters more than age, size etc, and is only found when one meets. And size in itself doesn’t prove prowess in the bedroom, though maybe it helps!

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1319197-Scheduled For Deletion - 08 Sep, 2019 - 11:58PM

Ladies, the term throwing a sausage up the high street comes to mind; every item highlighted seems to be a man's problem. I agree with the lady who states that a good lover should know their limitations, female or male and learns the techniques that satisfies their partners.

Ladies, I was taught by a younger lady what is required. Don't be shy, tell your partner what it is that you enjoy. If necessary show them. As a young married man I only knew what I thought was right. Learn from each other, nobody has the exclusive know how. As men we sometimes need to be taught; and men we need to be able to say what we require; it's all about honest communication and feedback.

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anonymouse-1 - 08 Sep, 2019 - 10:56PM

Really!? Come on it’s technique and quality not quantity. As a woman size has never bothered me. It’s a fallacy that well endowed men are better lovers .

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Teicu - 08 Sep, 2019 - 11:08AM

Rather small than too big...which from experience is awful.
You can still have great sex with other body parts!

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1320587-Deleted - 07 Sep, 2019 - 04:24PM

Did my message act as an encouragement for other men to let you know how big their fun-size Mars Bars are...?

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Zyphod - 06 Sep, 2019 - 10:38AM

Everybody is a different shape or size be they male or female, and sometimes there is just no sexual chemistry or compatibility. Which is why it baffles me that some people wait until they are Married to do the deed.
But is that not what foreplay is for finding all those hidden parts that make you go "oooo la laaa".

Cerberus 36 - 05 Sep, 2019 - 06:50PM

I think it’s all down to a woman’s preference. Personally I like the “full feeling” that size gives but like others have said maybe what you can do with it is enough for some women.

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Wildeside - 05 Sep, 2019 - 09:40AM

Are you disappointed that he did not warn you before the deed? On the bright side, it's not about the size but what you can do with it..... if life gives you lemon, don't just make lemonade, be creative and innovative.

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cambridge man - 04 Sep, 2019 - 02:35PM

Hi, I'm a man but was interested to read this thread; I did feel sorry for the guy who didn't come up to scratch. I'm fortunate not to have this problem (yes, really!) but ladies, if you do come across this, pleased let the guy down gently to avoid mental scars!

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SecretSt - 04 Sep, 2019 - 12:56PM

I wonder whether there is an element of relativity here? I have encountered women who haven’t been able to accommodate my full length; likewise women who could be penetrated instantly and without stimulation. Isn’t it important that we are a good fit?
On a related matter I wonder if there are women out there who prefer a small penis? I ask this because I prefer small breasts; driven by my male cravings (well ladies we can’t help it), they convey a sense of inadequacy and vulnerability that I find irresistible.
Many years ago a beautiful older woman explained to me (in the context of her diminutive frontage) that ‘anything more than a mouthful was wasted’. I learn’t that she had a very good point (two good points actually). I wonder whether there is/are parallels with women’s take on penis size and their intended destination(s)?

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jan27 - 04 Sep, 2019 - 11:01AM

I agree with HornyButCautious. I would never judge a guy on the size of his manhood. If you click with someone size shouldn't matter. How would you feel if a guy told you you're breasts weren't big enough for him?

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1105479-Deleted - 04 Sep, 2019 - 12:29AM

honestly, yes. This process has to enhance my life as the risk I’m taking having an affair isn’t worth anything disappointing: be that penis size, mismatched expectations, sense of humour, halitosis etc.

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HornyButCautious - 03 Sep, 2019 - 08:49PM

No, it's not the size that matters, it's what he can do to pleasure you, whether it's with his small manhood, fingers, tongue, toys.... part of the fun of sex is also learning what works for each of you and getting passion and fun out of it :)

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Gymfit8 - 03 Sep, 2019 - 08:01PM

I have but it hasn't been too much of a problem. I think it's about quality, not quantity! It's more about the person your with rather than the size. You can stimulate and that helps......if someone isn't satisfying you sexually then there is nothing you can do!

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Iwonderif72? - 03 Sep, 2019 - 07:38PM

Sorry but yes it would be a problem.
If he is that small you can't feel anything.
Basically defeating the object for me.
And yes- you can do different things, use sex toys etc.... but it just isn't the same.

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The Actress - 03 Sep, 2019 - 06:08PM

If a man KNOWS that he's in the smallest percentile, and has learned to be a good lover in other ways, then No! it wouldn't be a deal breaker, not for me!

However, if he thought he was Mr. All That, and took his pleasure regardless of the outcome for me, then I guess it would have to be!

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1320587-Deleted - 03 Sep, 2019 - 05:26PM

My problem is that I'm too big for my wife and for some other girlfriends I've had. I thought I'd come here because it seemed a bit higher-rent than the average dating site and hoped that the tone of discussion and level of understanding might be a bit better too so that women will realise that being bigger is not always a benefit.

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Tantalising - 03 Sep, 2019 - 05:17PM

More than one way to skin a rabbit

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StevieNicks - 03 Sep, 2019 - 04:49PM

OMG yes! I wasn’t yelling that. He couldn’t get it up through guilt & begged me to make it work! I’d written him off. Lay there chit chatting then it suddenly popped up. I’m expecting foreplay but no...he tries to force it in. FFS what a Pratt!

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Iamgoingsupernova - 03 Sep, 2019 - 04:34PM

As a theme, I'd say it's quite common to have great online chemistry, followed by terrible sex! I've had the misfortune of meeting someone who was as frigid as possible. If you observed from a distance, you wouldn't be able to tell the lady and the mattress apart! Guess the occasional baad experience of terrible sex is just a part of the IE experience!

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Cuteness73 - 03 Sep, 2019 - 11:07AM

Yes BUT only because the man in question was so low in self esteem we couldn't connect. He wouldn't open himself up to learning and exploring sexually.
Shame as he was a good man, intelligent, funny and handsome.

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