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So many men view my profile. .and add me as a favourite? .. but don't contact me..the one's that do say they don't believe i am the age I say I am.
I feel saddened by this..I am a genuine, honest person..and I would never put pics on here that weren't genuine. .what would be the point?..meeting someone then they run a mile.
The point I am making is that some of us take care of our appearance. .don't look our age..etc. don't disbelieve.

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1358330-Deleted - 22 Jan, 2020 - 04:51AM

I have a similar problem in that neither I nor my pics look my age (in fact I am reliably informed that I appear 20 years younger than I am)
Discerning gents take the view that age is only a number. Let's hope that you soon find one of them!

Joyoflove - 13 Oct, 2019 - 12:21PM

The favourites thing....I have to say I'm guilty of the list building, and that's because there are so many ladies on here with great profiles, some genuine, some who mess about and just suddenly stop talking to you and disappear for no reason with no goodbye or a courteous " sorry you're not for me", manners cost nothing!, So you're waiting like a lemon for ....nothing!, and that's before arranging a meet! so it starts all over again, another week of pleasant hello's swapping pictures more chat... all good...hello? hello anyone there?, lol...... two weeks later, you've only spoken to two or three people, by now your favourites list is 7 pages long and you're thinking this is going to take years to get through all these just to have your time wasted, so the add favourites/ no contact thing, from my perspective anyway, is because, I don't want to miss out on a lovely genuine lady like yourself that doesn't want to play games, so hang on for us genuine ones out there, it just takes ages to trawl through x

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1326292-Deleted - 03 Oct, 2019 - 09:03AM

I met a lovely lady (widow) on here who said she was 66 only to find out when we met she was a lot older 76, she didn’t want to exchange photos but I was happy with that, and when I met her although she was obviously a lot older we seemed to hit it off. So I persevered we’ve had some nice lunches and coffees, and really good conversations, but where she talks about taking the next step and becoming more intimate she seems to lead me on then make excuses. So to me age isn’t really a problem as long as they are honest to a point from the beginning and mean what they say!

kensingtoncharme - 20 Sep, 2019 - 11:28AM

i think endless messages have no sense, frankly, it is all chemistry and the first meeting. Spark or no spark.
pics could be very nice but then if there is no spark on first date then.....

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Black Gent - 13 Sep, 2019 - 09:25PM

Well don't let it know your confidence as that would be an epic FAIL! If they don't believe your age then shame on them.

Onwards and upwards!!

tea_coffee_me_ - 12 Sep, 2019 - 05:07PM

" Mannersmaketh Before you learn to read the subliminal messages on the profiles?"

Please please provide the key as I still struggle with those ...

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Mannersmaketh - 11 Sep, 2019 - 10:22AM

When you first sign up properly it is like being a kid set loose in a sweet shop. All these wonderful people whose profiles exactly match yours and are all here for the same thing and are all open-minded. I will put them on my favourite list, and them, and them and.... I will get round to writing to them later.

Isn't that sort of how it works? A wave of enthusiasm before you begin to learn how the site really does work? Before you learn to read the subliminal messages on the profiles?

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Black Gent - 07 Sep, 2019 - 08:04AM


Sorry you feel a bit down. I know that I do not feel like taking perpetual paid membership so after my paid membership has expired I will still browse the ladies and perhaps make a few favourites. Whenever I choose to take up membership again then I go to my favourites first.

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duritz - 06 Sep, 2019 - 05:39PM

I used to add people as favourites when I wasn't a member so I could say hi when I am subscribed (which makes me sound like a right player but I am not!)

age is just a number to me, I find older ladies far better kissers in general and to be honest I prefer someone older as they are generally more intelligent

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SeldomSeen - 05 Sep, 2019 - 02:02PM

The only age of any importance is the year in which the wine was produced; all other ages are irrelevant

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tea_coffee_me_ - 05 Sep, 2019 - 08:25AM

99.9% of those that have added me as a favourite have never contacted me.
Of those that have one messed me around A LOT and I do not think I have ever met any of the others.

Please try not to be saddened by a person who has nothing better to do than to send a message to a person they have NO intention to ever meet with and just wish to send a negative message.
There are many, I receive them all the time. Maybe if they spent IE money and time on their wives, they would not be here ...
Such negative messages save us TIME, that they are not the person for us.

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1321759-Deleted - 04 Sep, 2019 - 03:06PM

If a man hasn't paid or is between subscriptions its a way to mark a profile to go back to it. I didn't know people are notified!

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1326868-Scheduled For Deletion - 04 Sep, 2019 - 12:22PM

I am not sure its an age thing. It may be that they are outside of your specified age range but want to say a gentle hello or, as mentioned, want to remind themselves to keep an eye on you (sounds creepier than intended). I have had many women add me as a favourite but never message...it seems to be the frustrating expectation on this site that men do all the chasing. Saying hello doesn't mean you are a desperate **ut and more than a gut saying hello means anything more than just that he is reaching out a little

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Complicitly_Yours - 03 Sep, 2019 - 10:26PM

I would say that (for me anyway) profiles are added as "favourites" for a number of reasons..one is to act as a reminder to come back and send a message when circumstances permit and another reason is simply to see if there's any interest generated by the "fave".
To the lady's point though, I also don't understand why someone would fave a profile simply because they didn't think the profile was accurate. I'm sure all the genuine people on the site post genuine photos, I mean if you want to meet someone it's pointless posting a fake photo - it will be obvious if/when you meet won't it!

Blossom Reborn - 03 Sep, 2019 - 05:51PM

I don't look my age, either; so I set mine at 99.

Oh sure, I left clues in my profile, and anyone who reads it properly, can come up with a fair idea.

I'll come clean come after I meet someone, if there seems to be a connection developing, but, I refuse to be defined by chronology, and neither should you!

Here's an example.....My Mother used to take an old lady out for a Pub meal every Friday, in her 3L Capri, with the tinted windows, (are you getting a picture here?). Afterwards, she would take her friend home, and tuck her into bed with a cocoa, after checking under all the beds for burglars. The "old lady died, when she was 65; my lovely Mother was 82 at the time! I rest my case!

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Iamgoingsupernova - 03 Sep, 2019 - 03:13PM

Those that view your profile and add as a favourite might not be paid members. Don't worry about those that don't believe you. Could be frustration or they might have had a previous bad experience. It's not uncommon here. If you are genuine, keep doing what you are doing and you'll eventually meet someone who's worth the effort.

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