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Failure to launch

This is something I have encountered in ordinary life and the use of
contact sites. Where a couple somehow manage not to consumate their union.

This becomes apparent, after initial meetings and arrives just when you
think you should have gone sexual. But somehow it's not destined to follow
that route.

The actual mechanics dont get into gear and you go your ways with a set of
mixed thoughts and feelings. In extreme cases the scenario may reoccur more
than once.

I think it happens more than we would want to admit. But I can recall some
occasions when failure to launch occurred. I suppose I could see that it
would have been no more than a one night stand. But in some cases I just
stopped wanting sex and switched to gentleman mode and passed up the offer.

Oddly enough most of the women seemed to accept it and didn't get too
upset. With the odd exception and it was extremely ugly to sit through and
get out of.

So has anyone else experienced this?

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Comments (17)

getfun - 19 Mar, 2019 - 02:42PM

Failure to launch wow... what are you trying to launch a rocket into space, I'm 100% sure you're using the wrong platform.
For the right platform please contact "Baikonur Cosmodrome," they will be happy to advise you and give further help.
This platform is for those who are looking for fun away from home.

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Angel Delight 19 - 19 Mar, 2019 - 01:09PM

The only thing I wanted to launch was myself off a cliff after reading such nonsense.....

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tea_coffee_me_ - 17 Mar, 2019 - 11:01PM

"Failure to launch" is a term that is normally used with regard to adult children who still live off their parents.

My conclusion was that the relationship failed to launch.

The couple had several meetings or so, and both too polite to say, I am, are you ready to take this to somewhere private, or any subtle hints to take it further were not taken up.

Yes "passed up the offer" does confuse the matter.

Dear Sara, clearer letters please.

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tickleyourf***y - 17 Mar, 2019 - 07:56PM

This is one screwed up fella........and I thought I was bad :)

Seductiveyes - 17 Mar, 2019 - 12:50PM

Hi

I couldn’t understand your letter

RebelDomina - 17 Mar, 2019 - 01:13AM

"As long as you both want the same, where’s the harm" by Smiley-Morticia
Couldn't agree more... whatever's the problem, be honest and clear about it with the person or ppl you are meeting, you'll be able to work it out.

smooth operator - 16 Mar, 2019 - 01:04PM

I think many observers are missing the thrust of this letter.

Possibly what is being suggested is

The man in question was on the hunt for sexual satisfaction pure and simple.

But after reflection he finds the ladies whom he has met far better than the short term one night stand encounter that he had originally intended.
Learning to enjoy the company of the ladies in question as a friend and enjoying the rapport that had been established he now holds too much respect for them to go through with the trip to the bedroom.

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SeldomSeen - 15 Mar, 2019 - 09:31PM

Switched to 'gentleman' mode? Surely, you should have been in 'gentleman' mode from the word 'go'?

1235507-Deleted - 15 Mar, 2019 - 02:18PM

Thank you people.
I could only understand this letter after reading your responses.

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Goodkitty - 15 Mar, 2019 - 11:09AM

I am afraid I have no idea what this letter is about . Convoluted lexicography is not my forte. ( my English teacher said !) Hardly surprising nothing is launched if you don’t talk straight . Very odd.

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Bereweeke - 15 Mar, 2019 - 10:37AM

"Failure to launch" is a term that is normally used with regard to adult children who still live off their parents.

However. your letter is ambiguous. Does it refer to meeting a person and not being attracted to them? If so, enjoy the date for the interaction with another person and be honest with regard to your feelings. Or, does it refer to a lack of sexual performance? If so, swallow your pride and visit your GP. If your potential partners have any feelings for you they will understand.

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Master of The Horse - 15 Mar, 2019 - 08:45AM

Your letter is very vague and can be read in 2 different ways:

1: Failure to launch = you decide you don't fancy your partner and want to have sex. If so there is nothing wrong with that and, as long as you convey your feelings in the correct manner, theres no harm done. Its far better to be honest!

2: Failure to launch= your way of saying you wanted to have sex but were unable to achieve an erection. If so it could be that you felt under pressure to 'perform' or were overly eager to please and this had an adverse affect making you anxious?

The way your letter read I'm more inclined to think it was the 2nd reason but you didn't want to actually say it, hence the terminology 'Failure to launch'. If so, and it becomes a problem, I'm sure your doctor could help.

Apologies if I appear overly blunt or to the point....

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Smiley-Morticia - 15 Mar, 2019 - 06:56AM

I’m not really sure what you’re suggesting here, are you saying that you don’t fancy the person enough to go to the next stage, in which case that’s fine; we don’t all fancy everyone. Sometimes people work better just as friends, and I guess with back and forth corespondennce on here it’s easy to move and be moved into the ‘Friend Zone’. I think that’s a drawback to online dating, too much pre-meeting chatting; sometimes the animalistic lust needs to take over to enjoy the first moment. It may then move to something else, or may not. Who are you arranging to meet, do you fancy them from their photos or their messages?

If however you’re saying this scenario happens pretty frequently then I suggest you ask yourself why you’re here; do you want a sexual relationship, or friendship, or (whisper it) simply a bit of attention ..?

I think whatever you’re wanting, be honest with the person you’re with. As long as you both want the same, where’s the harm (apart from not being suppo

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tea_coffee_me_ - 14 Mar, 2019 - 09:00PM

I do not think that I have come across this.

I have first meetings where meeting is all that will happen. Just because you reach a first meeting, there is no guarantee the relationship will continue. Many times one or both parties decide at that meeting or in the proceeding days, not to continue.

How many public meetings prior to taking things further depends on the couple, IF it reaches that point. Meeting needs to take place, to see if you are comfortable with each other, and other elements each party is looking for, are there between you.

Personally I am not looking for one night, I am looking for an affair…

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Iwonderif72? - 14 Mar, 2019 - 06:12PM

Try viagra?

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Redlipsredsoles - 14 Mar, 2019 - 06:08PM

I think failure to Launch is a ridiculous way to describe a change of feelings that result in a change or demise of action or original intention on one or both sides
It happens feelings change circumstances change we get over it and move on
The key is being honest and don't prevaricate
Maybe it got ugly one time as you weren't clear and she didn't understand you were dumping her

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Pintobeans - 14 Mar, 2019 - 02:50PM

So more simply, you met and found you didn't like each other that much.

Do you work for NASA?

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