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Potty mouths have better sex lives, study finds

* A new study links a filthy mouth to a fiery sex life, with foul-mouthed Brits reporting far more adventurous escapades between the sheets.
* Frequent swearers are more likely to describe their sex life as “adventurous”.
* Scots are the UK’s biggest potty mouths, followed by people in London and the North West.
* Study conducted by IllicitEncounters.com, the UK’s largest extramarital dating site

Forget sweet nothings – it turns out swearing is the real language of love. New research suggests that people with a potty mouth are significantly more passionate and adventurous between the sheets than their more polite counterparts.

A poll of 2,400 people conducted by IllicitEncounters.com found a shocking link between foul language and fiery passion. A whopping 68% of people who swear ‘all the time’ or ‘often’ described their sex life as “adventurous”. Meanwhile, 75% of those who never or rarely swear admitted their bedroom antics were “predictable”.

Scots top the charts for being the biggest potty mouths, with 73% of respondents north of the border saying they swear ‘all the time’ or ‘often’. They were followed by Londoners (59%) and the North West (45%).

Ben*, a 32-year-old project manager from London, agrees with the findings. “I’ve always been blunt and I don’t filter myself, and that definitely carries over into the bedroom,” he says. “Sex is about passion, about letting go of control and being in the moment. If you’re too worried about being proper and polite, how can you ever truly lose yourself? A well-timed expletive is the sound of someone who isn’t overthinking.”

Jessica Leoni, sex and relationships expert for IllicitEncounters.com, explains the psychology behind the link. “Swearing is an act of release,” she explained. “It’s emotional, it’s expressive, and it signals confidence. People who swear freely are usually more in touch with their emotions – and that makes them more attuned to passion.”

“Those who filter themselves constantly, in life and in love, tend to carry that same restraint into the bedroom. The more you suppress your voice, the more you suppress your desires,” Leoni said. “It’s no coincidence that people who let it rip linguistically are also more likely to let go physically.”

*Name has been changed

Results
Regions with the most swearers (swearing regularly or often):
Scotland – 73%

London – 59%

North West – 45%

Northern Ireland – 41%

South East – 37%

North East – 36%

Yorkshire & Humber – 31%

Wales – 26%

West Midlands – 22%

East Midlands – 16%

South West 14%

East of England – 11%

The ‘Kiss Cam Effect’: Affairs Site Reports 31% Spike in CEO Sign-Ups After Coldplay Concert Goes Viral

* Viral Coldplay ‘kiss cam’ moment sparks panic among execs, driving a 31% surge in CEO-level sign-ups

* IllicitEncounters.com saw a sharp uptick in high-profile professionals seeking discreet affairs compared to the same period last year

* Sex and relationships expert calls it a “masterclass in how not to behave when mixing business and pleasure”

In the days following that now-infamous Coldplay concert moment – when now former Astronomer CEO, Andy Byron, and his Chief People Officer, Kristin Cabot, found themselves unwilling stars of the kiss cam – IllicitEncounters.com, the UK’s largest extramarital dating site, has recorded a dramatic 31% increase in high-profile executive sign-ups.

Dubbed the ‘Kiss Cam Effect’, new data from the site reveals this spike came directly after the viral clip exploded across social media, showing the red-faced pair squirming as Coldplay frontman Chris Martin quipped: “Either they’re having an affair or they’re just very shy.”

For executives with reputations to protect, the message couldn’t be clearer: indiscretion in the digital age can be career-ending.

Jessica Leoni, sex and relationships expert at IllicitEncounters.com, explains, “The Coldplay ‘kiss cam’ moment was a masterclass in how not to conduct a discreet relationship in public. It’s gone viral because it’s awkward, juicy, and deeply relatable. But behind the humour is a stark warning – especially for high-powered professionals.

Our data shows a clear panic response from the executive world – from Thursday to Sunday, we saw a huge 31% rise in sign-ups of CEOs compared to the same period last year, and this peaked on Saturday when Byron’s resignation was announced. 

It seems the message is loud and clear: if you’re going to mix business with pleasure, at least do it discreetly. This incident has brutally underscored the absolute necessity of privacy for high-profile individuals, driving them straight to platforms like ours – where discretion is not just encouraged, but built-in.”

One new user, a 45-year-old married CEO from Manchester (who asked to remain anonymous) said, “I watched that Coldplay clip with my stomach in knots. You could see it on their faces – they knew they were caught. I signed up to IllicitEncounters within minutes. I travel a lot with my PA and let’s just say things have got… blurred. There’s no way I’m ending up on TikTok and being forced to resign – so I figured if I want to have an affair, it has to be with someone outside of work and on a platform which guarantees discretion, so here I am.”

The surge in executive sign-ups signals a frantic dash among top professionals to find secure, discreet spaces for their affairs – before they become the next viral video.

IllicitEncounters.com says it’s seen similar sign-up spikes following other high-profile exposure moments, but few have triggered such a sharp, demographic-specific response as the Coldplay incident.

As Leoni puts it, “Discretion isn’t optional when your name’s on the office door. And now, more execs are realising that than ever before.”

Revealed: What Brits Will – and Won’t – Forgive When It Comes to Cheating

* 71% of Brits say they would never fully forgive a partner for cheating.

* Only 12% believe a relationship can recover completely after infidelity.

* A drunken kiss is the most forgivable form of betrayal, with 89% saying they could overlook it.

* Poll conducted by IllicitEncounters.com, the UK’s leading married dating site.

Can someone who cheats on their partner ever be trusted again? That’s the question at the heart of Netflix’s Cheat: Unfinished Business, which reunites eight ex-couples torn apart by infidelity to see if forgiveness – and even love – can be salvaged. But a new poll suggests the odds aren’t good.

A new poll involving 2,500 people (split evenly between men and women) by IllicitEncounters.com, the UK’s leading married dating site, has revealed that 71% of its members would end their relationship immediately if their partner was unfaithful. 

Despite their own involvement in affairs, only 12% of respondents said they believed couples can “fully recover” from cheating once the trust has been broken. Interestingly, the poll found that men were slightly more open to reconciliation than women: 38% of male respondents said they had previously forgiven a cheating partner and stayed together, compared to just 17% of women.

When it came to what kind of cheating people might actually forgive, the results were striking. A drunken kiss was seen as the most forgivable form of betrayal, with 89% saying they could potentially overlook it. Sexting followed at 66%, while just over half (51%) saying they could move past a partner secretly using dating apps. 

More subtle betrayals – like “micro-cheating” (flirty messaging, liking provocative posts, or maintaining ambiguous friendships) – were forgivable for 39%. But forgiveness dropped off sharply when it came to physical or emotional intimacy: only 23% said they could get over a one-night stand, and just 17% said the same for emotional cheating. Full sexual intimacy saw forgiveness plummet to just 9%, while paying for sex was seen as the most unacceptable breach – with only 3% saying they could ever look past it.

The idea of revenge after betrayal proved to be a divisive topic, with one in four people (24%) admitting they would consider “cheating back” if they found out their partner had strayed. 

The results also show a generational divide: Gen Z were the most likely to forgive infidelity (39%), followed by Baby Boomers (25%), Gen X (19%) and Millennials (17%). 

Geography played a role too – the Welsh were revealed as the least forgiving nation (36%), while the Scots topped the charts for being open to giving cheaters another shot (55%).

Jessica Leoni, spokesperson for IllicitEncounters.com, said: “You might expect our members to be more open-minded about infidelity – but the opposite is true. What this poll shows is that even among people who stray, betrayal cuts deep. Trust is complex, and once broken, it’s rarely rebuilt. Netflix’s Cheat: Unfinished Business tackles exactly this issue – and our results show just how unlikely it is for couples to come back from that kind of rupture.”

Types of infidelity people are most likely to forgive:
Drunken kiss – 89%
Sexting – 66%
Secret use of dating apps – 51%
Micro-cheating – 39%
One-night-stand – 23%
Emotional cheating – 17%
Sexual intimacy – 9%
Paying for sex – 3%

Ages most likely to forgive infidelity
Gen Z – 39%
Baby Boomers – 25%
Gen X – 19%
Millennials – 17%

Country most likely to forgive infidelity
Scotland – 45%
England – 27%
Northern Ireland – 18%
Wales – 10%

‘Babygirl effect’ spurs women to break bedroom taboos in record numbers

* Steamy film ‘Babygirl’ has inspired a surge in BDSM-related interest among UK women.

* There has been an uptick in new and existing members of extramarital affairs site, IllicitEncounters.com, adopting usernames featuring BDSM-related terms or references to the film.

* Internal data reveals a 72% rise in the use of the words ‘sub’ and ‘submissive’ within female profiles since the film’s release, and a 33% increase in men identifying themselves as ‘doms’.

Move over ‘Fifty Shades of Grey’ – there’s a new cultural phenomenon inspiring bedroom adventures across the UK. The recent release of ‘Babygirl’, starring Nicole Kidman, has sparked more than just box office buzz.

The hit film, which explores themes of power dynamics and sexual discovery, has ignited a surge in interest in kink. The UK’s largest extramarital dating site, IllicitEncounters.com, has seen a noticeable uptick in new and existing members adopting usernames featuring BDSM-related terms or referencing the raunchy film –  particularly among women over 50.

Terms like “kink,” “bondage,” “cuffs,” and even character names like “Romy” and “Samuel” have spiked in popularity among users. The word “milk,” tied to a now infamous scene in the film, has also found its way into usernames.

Internal data from the platform also reveals a striking 67% increase in the use of the terms “sub” or “submissive” in female profiles since the film’s debut. And it’s not just women – the film has seemingly made an impression on men too, with a 34% rise in profiles openly identifying as ‘doms’ since the 10th January.

“This phenomenon, which we’re calling the ‘Babygirl effect,’ shows how impactful pop culture can be in shaping sexual interests and breaking taboos,” says Jessica Leoni, a sex and relationships expert at IllicitEncounters.com.

According to Leoni, ‘Babygirl’ has played a key role in normalising conversations around BDSM. “People have always been curious about kink, but a film like this helps remove stigma and makes it feel accessible. It encourages individuals to view BDSM as something that’s not just sexy, but safe and consensual when practiced responsibly.”

Leoni adds, “Whether this is a fleeting trend or the start of a larger sexual revolution, one thing is clear: UK bedrooms are about to become a lot more adventurous.”

Revealed: The shocking secrets of office Christmas parties as 1 in 5 workers admit to making a move on their colleague

* With office Christmas parties in full flow, 27% of people admit they’ve cheated at their festive work bash.
* 67% revealed they shared a kiss with a colleague, whilst 11% say they went all the way and slept with a workmate.

* 16% of people admitted to getting frisky with their bosses – the majority being men making a move on their female superiors.

* Study conducted by IllicitEncounters.com, the UK’s largest extramarital dating site

For some, the office Christmas party is a highlight of the year – a chance to unwind, celebrate, and bond with colleagues. But for others, it’s an opportunity to throw caution to the wind, with a surprising 27% of workers admitting to cheating during their festive work bash.

The survey of 1,600 people conducted by extramarital dating site IllicitEncounters.com uncovered that women are more likely than men to give in to temptation at the Christmas party.  Whether it’s the magic of the season or the influence of an open bar, the data shows a pattern of festive work hookups that may leave lasting consequences.

Of the Christmas party cheats, a whopping 67% admitted to locking lips with a colleague. But for some, the holiday heat didn’t stop at a smooch. A saucy 11% confessed to taking things to the next level and hopping into bed with their coworkers.

And while it’s often assumed that these flings are harmless one-offs, the stats suggest otherwise: 24% of the workplace cheaters admitted to continuing their Christmas party affair beyond the festivities. 

Another surprising twist in the findings is the dynamic between bosses and employees. A daring 16% of respondents owned up to getting frisky with their bosses during the party – with men being the primary offenders making moves on female superiors.

One person who took part in the poll and asked to remain anonymous, shared their story: “I didn’t go into the party thinking it would happen. But after a few drinks, one thing led to another, and I ended up kissing a colleague I’d secretly fancied for ages. We’ve kept it going in secret ever since, and honestly, it’s added a spark to my otherwise boring job.”

Sex and relationships expert Jessica Leoni from IllicitEncounters.com offered her take on the results: “The office Christmas party is a perfect storm for infidelity. Alcohol lowers inhibitions, and the festive atmosphere encourages people to let their hair down. Add in the proximity of colleagues who already spend a lot of time together, and it’s no wonder sparks fly. While these encounters might seem exciting in the moment, they can have lasting repercussions on both personal and professional relationships, which is worth keeping in mind.”

REVEALED: 1 in 4 Brits Have Suffered a Sex Injury – But Which Ones Are Most Common?

* New research has revealed that a quarter of Brits have suffered injuries during intimate moments, with 8% needing a trip to A&E.

* Top injuries include pulled muscles (41%), bruises (37%), and carpet burns (31%).

* Women are more likely to suffer from sex-related injuries (36%), compared to men (32%).

* Study conducted by IllicitEncounters.com, the UK’s largest extramarital dating site.

They say love hurts, but for many Brits, that phrase holds a literal – and sometimes painful – truth. 

According to a recent survey of 1,200 people conducted by extra-marital dating site IllicitEncounters.com, one in four Brits has experienced an injury during intimate moments, and for an unlucky 8% of participants, a trip to A&E was needed after a bedroom mishap went too far. 

Pulled muscles topped the list of most common injuries during a passionate romp, with 41% saying over-enthusiastic positioning or awkward angles led to more pain than pleasure. 

Bruises (37%) followed closely behind, with many admitting that late-night passion has sent them crashing into furniture, headboards, and even on to the floor. 

Carpet burns were another top offender for 31% of people polled, proving that while the living room floor might seem like a good idea, rugs are not as forgiving as they look. 

For others, black eyes (21%), back injuries (17%) and cuts (14%) were part of the price of experimentation, often pushing bodies to their limits in the heat of the moment, while an unlucky 7% of people admitted to suffering after having a foreign object stuck in an unfortunate area.

Interestingly, women appear to be more prone to sex injuries than men, with 36% of ladies admitting to having suffered in the name of pleasure, compared to 32% of men.

One anonymous woman who took part in the survey shared, “My partner and I decided to take things to the living room, and let’s just say we didn’t think it through. I ended up with carpet burns so bad on my knees that everyone at work asked why I was walking funny, and I was desperately trying not to blush. Lesson learned: next time, a blanket is a must!”

Jessica Leoni, resident sexpert at IllicitEncounters.com, commented on the results of the study saying, “Sex can be adventurous without ending up in A&E. Sometimes, it’s the spontaneous spots – kitchen counters, floors, or staircases – that add a bit of excitement, but a little preparation can go a long way. Grab a pillow or some blanket if you’re venturing off the bed, and don’t be afraid to take breaks! Nothing kills the mood like an injury.”

Leoni also reminds everyone that confidence is key: “Sex injuries often happen when you’re overreaching – literally. Stick to what feels comfortable and enjoy the fun without the fuss. Remember, it’s not just about the moves; it’s about enjoying the moment!”

Results

Most common sex injuries

Pulled muscle 41%

Bruises 37%

Carpet burn 31%

Black eye 21%

Back injury 17%

Cuts 14%

Twisted/sprained ankle 10%

A stuck foreign object 7%

Other 12%

“I’m a domme – people pay me to make them suffer but my long-term partner has no idea”

* Jennifer, 30 from Brighton, has been in a committed relationship for 11 years, but leads a double life as a dominatrix, fulfilling her clients’ extreme desires without her partner’s knowledge.

* She caters to successful, high-powered men, including doctors and executives she meets on extramarital dating site IllicitEncounters.com. 

* Jennifer’s partner remains completely unaware of her secret life, which she believes is the only way to fulfil her unique sexual needs while maintaining her relationship.

On the surface, Jennifer, 30 from Brighton, seems to have it all – a long-term relationship of 11 years and a stable, normal life. But behind closed doors, she’s living a double life that would shock her partner to the core. By day, she’s just your average girlfriend, but by night, she transforms into a ruthless dominatrix, making powerful men pay to be humiliated and degraded – all while her partner remains blissfully unaware.

Jennifer’s journey into the world of domination started six years ago when she realised her relationship was falling flat in the bedroom. “I figured out that I need a domme/sub dynamic instead of a regular relationship,” she spills. “Right now, I juggle around three regular subs at a time.”

And these aren’t just any men – they’re high-flying professionals with big bank accounts and even bigger secrets. “I’ve never met a submissive on IllicitEncounters.com whose wife has a clue about his kink,” Jennifer reveals, referencing the affair website where she meets her clients. These men, often doctors, lawyers, and financial execs, are desperate to be dominated in ways their wives could never imagine.

For Jennifer, the thrill isn’t just in the whips and chains – it’s in the power play. “The real satisfaction comes from the power exchange, not the physical acts,” she explains. “When we’re in session, these men worship me like a queen. The power rush I get knowing they’ll do anything I say is intoxicating. They love being humiliated, and I love being in control.”

But here’s the kicker – her partner has no idea what she’s really into. “He’d be horrified if he found out about my secret life,” Jennifer admits. “But this is the only way I can satisfy my cravings. My subs and I get to indulge in our twisted dynamic, and it doesn’t interfere with my home life.”

And if you think these men just want a quick thrill, think again. Some are shelling out serious cash to bow down to Jennifer. “I’ve had subs pay as little as £30 just for a chat,” she says. “Others send me ‘tributes’ – that’s cash or gifts to show their appreciation. One guy even offered £300 a month for regular sessions, but I had to turn him down. And when I’m under the weather or on my period? Some of them send money to cheer me up!”

Jennifer’s story exposes a hidden world where powerful men submit to their darkest desires in secret. A recent survey conducted by IllicitEncounters.com found that only 34% of 1,600 people polled feel comfortable discussing their sexual fantasies with their partners. And for those who do, a staggering 29% end up having a negative effect on their relationship.

Sex and relationships expert Jessica Leoni isn’t surprised by the secrecy. “Kink-shaming is clearly a big issue in some relationships. It’s alarming how many people can’t be honest about their desires with their partners. Even worse, when they do open up, it often backfires and hurts the dynamic between two people who should be able to be open about everything.

Stories like Jennifer’s are quite unique, but it’s great to know that people feel like they can be their true selves when using IllicitEncounters.com.”

“HRT Boosted My Sex Drive – Now I’m Having an Affair Behind My Husband’s Back”

* Nikki, 51 from Berkshire, reveals how she feels ‘reborn’ after being prescribed HRT by her doctor, leading to a life-changing libido lift.

* The married woman describes how her sex drive ‘went through the roof’ and led her to join extramarital dating site IllicitEncounters.com

* She explains that the combination of HRT and joining IllicitEncounters.com has transformed her life, and how after 10 years of being celibate she is making up for lost time with a vengeance.

A wife has revealed how HRT had a dramatic impact on her sex drive, leading her to have multiple affairs with married men.

Hormone Replacement Therapy (HRT) is making waves in the UK, not just for alleviating symptoms of the menopause, but for significantly impacting women’s sex lives. According to the Department of Health and Social Care, around 15% of women aged 45-64 in England are currently prescribed HRT, and this figure continues to rise. 

Nikki, a 51-year-old woman from Berkshire, started taking HRT nine months ago and it was at that moment she found herself at a crossroads. Feeling desperately unhappy and trapped in a stagnant marriage, she joined IllicitEncounters.com to shake things up and find some joy. Her loneliness in her marriage was the main driver, but she was also battling classic symptoms of perimenopause like brain fog, insomnia, aches and pains, and an almost non-existent libido.

Her journey with HRT began after a candid conversation with her doctor, who suggested the use of hormone patches which turned out to be a rollercoaster ride. “The dose might have been too high because I felt like a Duracell bunny – constantly energised and with an insatiable libido. It was as if I was high on life, but it was too much,” Nikki recalls. 

This surge in sexual energy is not uncommon; a recent poll of 800 women on IllicitEncounters.com who are currently taking HRT revealed that 86% have seen a libido life since starting the therapy.

After discussing these intense effects with her doctor, Nikki was recommended a Mirena coil combined with oestrogen gel – the results were nothing short of life-changing. She found herself with the perfect amount of energy, her sleep patterns improved, and her libido was through the roof. “For the first time, I genuinely felt alive and intensely sexual. The confidence boost was undeniable; I felt more attractive, lost weight, saw my hormonal skin clear up, and even my hair became thicker,” she says. 

In fact, according to IllicitEncounters’ poll, 68% of women taking HRT reported a significant improvement in self-image and confidence, while 71% felt more sexually satisfied.

Nikki became obsessed with sex, thinking about it constantly. Masturbation became a daily necessity, and she began exploring with toys and watching porn for the first time in her life. After years of a dormant sex life, she was making up for lost time with a vengeance. 

Unfortunately, reviving her sex life with her husband was out of the question. Being much older than her and struggling with erectile dysfunction for years, Nikki’s husband forced the couple to live a celibate life for over a decade. It was only after taking HRT that she realised that she needed more.

Nikki’s experience aligns with findings that 59% of women say their partners couldn’t keep up with their increased sex drive after taking HRT, prompting them to look elsewhere for sexual fulfilment.

Joining IllicitEncounters, Nikki sought not just an emotional connection but physical satisfaction too. “When I met my lover, he turned out to be incredible in bed, giving me sensations I had never experienced before, likely because I was perpetually aroused. We are both eager to explore new things and fantasies together, something neither of us anticipated finding on IE,” she shares. 

This combination of HRT and IllicitEncounters has been a revelation for Nikki, making her deeply question her marriage. “At 51, I feel like I’ve been reborn, and I’m increasingly convinced that I shouldn’t have to stay in a stale and unfulfilling relationship. HRT has given me a new lease on life, and my affair has shown me what I’ve been missing. It’s a complex situation, but one thing is clear: I refuse to go back to feeling lifeless and unfulfilled,” she concludes.

According to Jessica Leoni, sex and relationships expert at IllicitEncounters.com, “Nikki’s story isn’t uncommon. Not only can HRT alleviate the uncomfortable symptoms of menopause for many women, but it can also rejuvenate their sex lives and self-confidence. For some, like Nikki, this newfound vitality has led to significant changes and challenges in their personal relationships.

HRT is not just a remedy for menopause symptoms but a catalyst for transformation, leading women like Nikki to rediscover their desires and redefine their lives.”

Cheaters are happier in their marriages and having more sex with their spouses, study reveals

* 72% of married people say they’re happier in their marriage since starting an affair
* 52% of cheats say they’re having more sex with their other halves than ever before
* 38% of people believe a boost in their mood whilst having an affair has had a positive impact on their sex life at home 
* An increase in self-esteem (26%) and heightened sex drive (22%) when cheating are the other biggest factors that are leading to more action between the sheets for couples
* Study conducted by IllicitEncounters.com, the UK’s largest extramarital dating site
 

More often than not, having an affair is seen in a negative light. However, new research might have you considering the pros, as it turns out playing away not only makes you happier, but you’re more likely to see an improvement in your relationship with your spouse – especially in the bedroom.

IllicitEncounters.com, the UK’s largest extramarital dating site, polled 1,400 married members to see what effect having an affair has had on their relationship at home. 

Shockingly, 72% of married people say they’re happier in their marriage since starting an affair, and of those, 52% said they’re actually having more sex than ever with their spouses.

When asked why they think there’s been an improvement in their sex life with their partners, 38% of love rats said they’re simply happier as a result of cheating, and it’s that mood boost that’s giving them the horn. 

26% of married people having an affair said that they’re having more sex with their husbands and wives because they’ve got more self-esteem.

22% of love rats believe the thrill of cheating has led to a heightened sex drive, saying that’s why they’re seeing sparks fly in the bedroom with their spouses.

One member who took part in the study, Colin, 37 from Exeter said, “Since starting an affair five months ago, I’ve been having more sex than ever – and not just with my lover. 

I’ve definitely noticed that I’ve become more patient with my wife, more able to let the little things that got on my nerves slide. We’re fighting less too – it’s like having this secret escape has brought over a sense of calm in my life and I’m just happier overall. 

Now, I can actually bear going home to my wife and our sex is miles better…and funnily enough, we’ve been at it more in the past five months than in the past five years. It’s a win-win in my eyes!”

Jessica Leoni, IllicitEncounters.com’s sex and relationships expert commented, “It might sound strange, but so many people find that their overall satisfaction in their primary relationships improves when having an affair. 

One thing that’s become clear is the impact that personal happiness has on your sex life, especially for those seeking fun outside of their marriage. They get this newfound surge in happiness, whether that comes from the affair itself or from the escape it provides, and that can spill over into the relationship at home. 

Happier people often approach intimacy with a more positive mindset, making them more tolerant, and in some cases, more appreciative of their partners.”

Results

Have you been happier in your existing relationship since having an affair?
Yes -72%
No – 26%
The same – 2%

Do you continue having sex with your husband/wife whilst having an affair?
Yes – 86%
No – 12%
Not sure – 2%

Would you say you have more or less sex with your other half whilst having an affair?
More – 52%
Less – 23%
The same – 25%

Like Kissing? Don’t get married – 63% of married couples haven’t snogged in the last 3 months!

* 63% of married couples haven’t snogged in the last 3 months
* The key to a perfect kiss is to slow it down
* Big lips and tongue action make for a good kiss, although too much tongue and bad breath will make for a bad kiss
* Poll comes from 1400 married men and women on IllicitEncounters.com the UK’s leading married dating site

Guess what happens when you marry someone? The kissing stops!

In recognition of National Kissing Day, Wednesday 6th of July, IllicitEncounters.com the UK’s leading dating website for married people, surveyed 1400 men and women to discover how much, or how little, married couples kiss and what it is that makes a sensational smooch.

A shocking 63% of married couples haven’t snogged at all in the last 3 months, with 41% of those having not snogged for over 6 months. 

Like Kissing? Don’t get married. Only 37% of married couples have kissed passionately in the last 3 months. Out of those, only a meager 18% have smooched within the last month.

Out of the married couples that haven’t passionately kissed in the last 3 months, 79% said they no longer enjoy snogging their partner even though 87% of them stand by the fact that they love snogging.

The study also got to the bottom of what makes a good or bad kiss. The biggest tip to take away from the results is that the pace of a kiss matters. 

If you’re a slow kisser you’re not going to get any complaints. 51% of the respondents agree that slow kissing is the number one factor in a good kiss. The bulk of the respondents (42%) agree fast kissing is the number one thing that makes a kiss bad.

Many prominent movie scenes include kisses that are slow really honing in on this fact. The upside-down kiss in Spider-Man (2002), the iconic kiss on the bow of the ship in Titanic (1998), and the kiss in the pool in Romeo and Juliet (1996) another DiCaprio classic – the pace of the kissing is slow.

The second most important factor to a good kiss is big lips (23%) followed by some tongue action (14%). 

The last most important thing the respondents said makes a kiss good is eye contact (9%).

The study also found too much tongue action (30%) is a turn-off, followed by bad breath (18%).

The last most important thing to factor in a bad kiss is small lips (6%).

We asked a bunch of our married members, using IllicitEncounters.com, to describe the perfect kiss in their own words.

Case Studies

Nadine, 37, Reading

‘You can’t rush a good kiss. It needs to be slow and sensual.’

Hattie, 44, Newport

‘A good kisser leaves you wanting more, but a great kisser will pull the floor up from beneath you, make you go weak at the knees and make the world around you cease to exist.’

Jeremiah, 33, West London

‘Timing is key. You’ve got to know when to go in for a kiss.’

Susannah, 45, Manchester

‘A kiss that makes the world and all its problems disappear.’

Jessica Leoni, sex and relationships expert at  IllicitEncounters.com, adds ‘A kiss should never be rushed. The tempo is the most important box to tick to satisfy a great kiss. Teasing is pleasing, you have to pace yourself. A fast kiss is awkward and can lead to teeth knocking into eachother and sore lips – what’s the fun in that? Turns out tongue action is also important – but not too much tongue, nobody enjoys a sloppy kiss.

Why aren’t married people kissing anymore? They’ve been there, done that, and quite frankly they don’t enjoy kissing their spouse anymore. Perhaps it’s the realisation, after getting married, that your spouse is the only person you’re ever going to be allowed to snog with again. We need more variety in our lives. No matter how good fish and chips is, you still wouldn’t want to eat it for dinner for the rest of your life.’

Results:

When was the last time you kissed passionately?

Today 2%

In the last week 6%

In the last month 10%

In the last 3 months 19%

In the last 6 months 22%

More than 6 months ago 41%

What makes a good kiss?

Slow kissing 51%

Big lips 23%

Tongue action 14%

Eye contact 9%

Other 3%

What makes a bad kiss?

Fast kissing 42%

Too much tongue action 30%

Bad breath 18%

Small lips 6%

Other 4%

NOTES TO EDITOR
IllicitEncounters.com is the UK’s leading dating website for married people and the leading authority on infidelity. With over 1,000,000 genuine UK users since 2004, you’re sure to find your perfect match.

Established in 2004, we have been providing a meeting place for like-minded married and attached people for nearly 12 years. Our members have one thing in common – they are all looking for a little romance outside their current relationship. Whether that’s the occasional bit of flirtatious chat, a regular coffee date, or a full-blown affair, that’s up to them.

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