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Forget the 7-year itch: Relationship strain hits after just 3 years, study shows

* 1 in 3 people admit to having an affair in the third year of marriage

* Top reasons for the breakdown of relationships in the first three years include lack of intimacy, having children and boredom.

* Study conducted by IllicitEncounters.com, the UK’s largest extramarital dating site

If you’re married or in a long-term relationship, you’ll almost definitely have heard about the concept of the seven-year itch – that moment when the initial excitement fades and cracks start appearing. Well, it turns out that in this fast-paced world, couples come to a crossroads much sooner, something that the contestants of Married at First Sight UK, might want to keep in mind as the new season begins.

According to research conducted by IllicitEncounters.com, who surveyed 2,000 of its members, 33% of married people turn to cheating in the third year of marriage.

Shockingly, 7% of people start having an affair in the first year as husband or wife, barely leaving time for the confetti to settle.

But, what causes such a strain on relationships so early on that people feel the need to fall back on infidelity? The poll found nearly half (48%) of married people blame a lack of intimacy for the downfall of their marriage. Having children (23%) and boredom (16%) were also cited as major factors in the breakdown of relationships.

Chloe, 36, from Aberdeen, who recently joined the married dating site IllicitEncounters.com, said, “If you asked me three years ago whether I could see myself cheating on my husband, I’d have laughed in your face. I was madly in love, there was so much passion, and I couldn’t have been happier on my wedding day. 

I think it was the routine that zapped away all of the excitement and lust though. The spontaneity at the beginning of our marriage completely died out, and everything just became so predictable: wake up, peck on the cheek, go to work, come home, peck on the cheek, have dinner, watch TV, peck on the cheek, go to sleep. In the third year of being husband and wife, that’s when the cycle just got too much for me and I decided to get my thrills elsewhere.”

Sex and relationships expert at IllicitEncounters.com, Jessica Leoni, commented, “People have always believed in the seven-year itch, but then there was talk of the four-year itch, and now the stats show the restlessness kicks in after just three years.

For the MAFS contestants, it’s really important they’re aware of these figures as they navigate their way through their new marriages: getting married at first sight has its own challenges, but they’ll see fresh ones arise as the years go by. Marriages aren’t easy.

Couples might find that they start taking each other for granted more, and routine can make you feel like you’ve just got your relationship on autopilot. But, it’s during that third year of marriage that a desire for something new creeps in, wondering what life would be like outside of the relationship.

You could try to rediscover the sparks that brought you together in the first place. Having a go at something new together, or even just spicing things up in the bedroom can work wonders for a relationship. Ultimately, though, the itch gets a bit too much to ignore for some, and they’ll only get relief from all that scratching through infidelity.”

Flirty Forties – The best time to have sex!

* The best time to have sex is in your 40’s, even if you’re having less of it!
* Quality trumps quantity over sexual satisfaction, with only 12% of people voting sex in your 20’s as the best – even though it’s the time people have the most sex
* Study conducted by IllicitEncounters.com, the UK’s leading dating website for married people
 

Life truly does begin in your forties, your sex life at least!
 
IllicitEncounters.com, the UK’s leading dating website for married people, surveyed 2000 members and found that 41% of people agree that the best time to have sex is in your forties!
 
Top reasons given for this were, ‘feeling comfortable in your own skin’, ‘knowing exactly what turns me on’ and being ‘open to adventure’ in the bedroom.

Although the public voted their 40’s to be the best time to have sex, they were not having a lot of it, with only 13% of people stating this decade as the one they had the most sexual liaisons. Clearly quality trumps quantity when it comes to sexual satisfaction.
 
The next best age is 30 with 28% of the vote. Followed by the frisky 50’s with an honourable 17%.
 
Sex in your 20s scored shockingly low, with only 12% of respondents agreeing that their 20s were the best age to get busy with it, only 60’s (1.5%)  and over 70’s (0.5%) fared worse.
 
Twenty year olds hit the peak of their sexual liaisons when it comes to the amount of sex they’re having with a whopping (43%) agreeing that their 20s were when they had the most notches on the bedpost.
 
500 members in the sample were also asked what makes a good sexual partner and the top five reasons given were ‘confidence’, ‘communication’, ‘foreplay’, ‘experience’ and ‘open mindedness’. 
 
Jessica Leoni, sex and relationship expert at IllicitEncounters.com, said “People are having mind blowing sex in their 40s! Why? They had their peak of promiscuity in their 20s, often succumbing to substandard sex while learning the ropes, quite literally, experimenting in some bondage play perhaps – before concluding that wow, ropes and whips do not excite me. 

In their 30s they begin to transition from having lots of sexual partners, to having less, but better quality sex – beginning to understand what sort of pleasures delight them.

Then BAM you’ve hit your 40s! You are fully aware of what tickles your fancy and are at a stage where you have stopped caring about what other people think. You’re more confident in yourself and your body and are unabashed when it comes to communicating about your fantasies and fetishes. This confidence partnered with being wiser about who you choose to be intimate with – guarantees for much more satisfying sex.
 
Nobody wants to go back to fooling around in their twenties, it’s awkward, insecure and lacks experience.”

What is the best age to have sex? 
40s 41%
30s 28%
50s 17%
20s 12%
60s 1.5%
70+ 0.5%
 

When did you have the most sex in your life?

20s 43%

30s 35%

40s 13%

50s 6%

60s 2.5%

70+ 0.5%
 

What makes a good sexual partner?
Confidence

Communication

Foreplay

Experience

Open mindedness

NOTES TO EDITOR
IllicitEncounters.com is the UK’s leading dating website for married people and the leading authority on infidelity. With over 1,000,000 genuine UK users since 2004, you’re sure to find your perfect match.

Established in 2004, we have been providing a meeting place for like-minded married and attached people for nearly 12 years. Our members have one thing in common – they are all looking for a little romance outside their current relationship. Whether that’s the occasional bit of flirtatious chat, a regular coffee date, or a full-blown affair, that’s up to them.

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We’re always more than happy to talk about IllicitEncounters.com – please contact Christian Grant through the details below – but we’re not willing to speak publicly about SaraHartley.net at this moment in time.

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How to keep the spark alive in lockdown

* Dirty talk is the best way to keep the spark alive when apart

* Women prioritise honest communication about your feelings

* More men agree not being needy is the key to long lasting passion 

* The results come from a survey of over 1,200 members from IllicitEncounters.com, the UK’s leading dating website for married people 

Is there distance between you and your sexual partner? How will you keep your sex life alive?

IllicitEncounters.com surveyed 1200 of its members and found out their top favorite ways to make long distance love, as well as some useful advice.

The top two favorite ways to keep the spark alive as voted by men and women is dirty talk and sexy pictures, interestingly enough the majority of women prefer dirty talk, whereas men opted for visual stiumulation with more voting for sexy pictures. 

Twice as many women as men prefer honest communication about your feelings.

Just over a quarter more men preferred video calls compared to women.

More men than women (17%) preferred their lover to not be needy when apart.

8 Most Popular Ways to Keep the Spark Alive

Dirty Talk
Samantha, Leeds

“There is literally nothing sexier than a man that knows how to talk dirty. It’s all about using your imagination, setting the scene and being descriptive. I recommend one of you being dominant on the phone, or perhaps take it in turns to be the one in control. To start, talk about what you’d like to do to one another, then move onto sexual requests and fantasies. Put on a husky voice and keep the tone slow and sensual, and if in doubt a little moan and a groan will also go a long way.”
Sexy pictures
Rebecca, London

“I get more gratification from sending dirty photos than from receiving them. You get a real kick out of it, feeling sexy and desirable. You want to dress up – seductive lingerie, stockings, push up bra, high heels – the works. Another handy tip is devil red lipstick and big volumized hair, attention to detail is paramount. Once dolled up you just need to set a timer for your picture. Make sure you’re happy with the background, facial expression, and get ready to pose. One of my top tips is to leave a little to the imagination as well, you want to aim to tease your fella. Sending naughty photos is such a turn on, and truly boosts your confidence. Having a man lust over you really makes you feel a million dollars.”

Video Calls
Trevor, Surrey

“It’s an opportunity to connect and be present. We are actually very lucky that we can do that these days. Firstly, find the time to make the call when you’re going to be alone and not going to be distracted. Secondly, ensure that you’re happy with the image,  you have a good angle and your background isn’t cluttered. Thirdly, relax, catch up and have a little flirt. You may feel a little camera shy at first, but you’ll be a pro at it in no time.”

Sexting 
Claire, Essex

“Sexy messages when apart are such a turn on, making you blush and giggle out loud. Take your time creating your message there’s no rush. I find what works for me is closing my eyes and imagining what I’d like to be doing with that person. Be descriptive, and use language you might be too shy to normally use in bed. For example, calling someone a naughty boy or a naughty girl is super cringy to say out loud, but for some reason totally hot via text. Let your imagination run wild” 

Honest communication about your feelings
Harriet, London

“Open and honest communication is one of the ground rules to any companionship, and even more so when you’re apart. In order to feel connected there has to be openness and a non-judgemental space in which you are able to talk. If I ever feel caught up in my feelings or insecure I always make the effort to discuss these things, so that I know that we’re on the same page. Problems arise when you keep eachother out of the loop. How can you possibly come up with solutions or compromise when feelings are kept hidden?”

Don’t be needy 
Michael, Devon

“Avoid speaking to each other everyday. Let’s not discuss our daily routine, why does anybody want to know about what time you woke up or what you had for breakfast? It’s boring. Let there be a little distance. All great love stories are ones where the lovers are tragically separated – these are tales of inspiration, desperation and eternal longing, it’s the separation that makes it so exciting. I’m not saying don’t talk at all! But don’t just call for no reason or to pass the time. Keep things fresh and exciting, chat a little less often.”

Set goals
Lewis, Manchester

“Having a goal gives you something to look forward to, and discussing plans to meet up with your lover creates anticipation, which is an excellent way to keep the spark alive. Talking about where you’d like to go, and what you’d like to do together when you finally can, makes being apart feel more temporary, and ignites your hopes and dreams about reuniting”

Sending gifts
Stephanie, Newcastle

“My love language is gifts, it always has been. I think if someone adores you they make the effort to surprise you with thoughtful presents. If I mention a perfume I really like, I expect my lover to buy it for me, I’d be offended if they didn’t. When apart I think it’s a good idea to send flowers, presents, anything to remind you that you’re being thought of”

IllicitEncounters.com sex and relationships expert Jessica Leoni said “They say distance makes the heart grow fonder, they missed out the part that distance makes people horny.

Of course if you have a passionate relationship with someone, and all of a sudden you are not able to see them for awhile, it’s going to make you crazy with lust, and crave that person. Wanting to be physical with someone can sometimes be more powerful than the act itself.”

NOTES TO EDITOR
IllicitEncounters.com is the UK’s leading dating website for married people and the leading authority on infidelity. With over 1,000,000 genuine UK users since 2004, you’re sure to find your perfect match.

Established in 2004, we have been providing a meeting place for like-minded married and attached people for nearly 12 years. Our members have one thing in common – they are all looking for a little romance outside their current relationship. Whether that’s the occasional bit of flirtatious chat, a regular coffee date, or a full-blown affair, that’s up to them.

We’re always more than happy to talk about IllicitEncounters.com – please contact Christian Grant through the details below – but we’re not willing to speak publicly about SaraHartley.net at this moment in time.

Email: presspr@illicitencounters.co.uk

Mobile: 07824 353986

Twitter: @cheatsafer

Women who love yoga cheat on their husbands

 

–  More than half of female cheats go to yoga, and it’s not to lose weight
–  Running scores second place for top fitness hobby
–  Women confess that yoga has improved their sex lives
–  Research conducted by married-dating website IllicitEncounters.com, shows that cyclists and
swimmers are the least likely to cheat

Leading dating site for married people IllicitEncounters.com surveyed 2000 of its female members
asking if they took up a sport or hobby for a minimum of 2 hours per week since embarking on an
affair. 1168 polled said yes, and over half of those chose to take up yoga.

78% of women who go to yoga also admit that the hobby has improved their sex life.

Running came second place with 20% and tennis with a respectable 14%.

The findings also indicated that women were far less likely to take up cycling (2%) or swimming (3%).

The research by IllicitEncounters.com found that the most popular reason for taking up a new sport
or hobby was to try something new (26%) and to build confidence (21%).
Stress relief came in at only 6% and getting fit or losing weight came second to last reason with only
8% of the vote.

Saskia a female member on IllicitEncounters.com “I needed more excuses to get out of the house
and spend less time with my husband. One day a work colleague suggested we try yoga, I wasn’t
expecting to enjoy it, least of all become a full-blown yogi. Yoga has changed my life – it promotes
mindfulness, reduces stress, helps strengthen your core and develops your mental and spiritual
growth.

Yoga makes you feel better about yourself. I have a lover; he’s interested in meditation. Sometimes
we go to the park and teach each other breathing techniques and yoga postures. Yoga will make you
stronger and more flexible than you can imagine, and the sex; let’s just say, there’s a whole new
meaning to downward facing dog”

Monica another female member said “I must admit I didn’t realise my affair coincided with me
starting yoga until now. My affair has been life changing, but I was still craving more. I’ve found that
I needed an entire lifestyle overhaul.

I’ve not only just taken up yoga, I’ve also become vegan, and I’ve even started painting again – which
is something I used to really enjoy. My life was so unbalanced. I was giving all of myself to my
husband and family, so much so that I completely lost who I am. It’s a little bit like the change you
seek when you go through a breakup – I don’t know who I am anymore! Then you go through this
metamorphosis and blossom into a whole new person.”

lllicitEncounters.com sex and relationship expert Jessica Leoni said: “An affair gives you that honey-
moon buzz that begins to fade from a long-term marriage. That buzz is the catalyst to self-
improvement; wanting to try new things, build confidence and make new friends. Dating someone
new brings out our adventurous side.

Women are taking up yoga to continue to boost their self-esteem after rebuilding their confidence
through an affair. I’m not at all shocked that swimming and cycling is bottom of the list, these sports
are lonely and not sexy – you would engage in these sports to lose weight only. Whereas yoga and
sex go hand in hand, add a partner into the mix and what do we have? The Kamasutra. Namaste.”

Sport or hobby taken up by female love cheats
Yoga 52%
Running 20%
Tennis 14%
Going Gym 7%
Swimming 3%
Cycling 2%
Other 2%
What is your reason for starting a new sport or hobby?
To try something new 26%
To build confidence 21%
To meet new people 17%
To spend less time with my husband 12%
Influenced by my lover 10%
To get fit or lose weight 8%
Stress relief 6%

 

NOTES TO EDITOR

IllicitEncounters.com is the UK’s leading dating website for married people and the leading authority on infidelity. With over 1,000,000 genuine UK users since 2004, you’re sure to find your perfect match.

Established in 2004, we have been providing a meeting place for like-minded married and attached people for nearly 12 years. Our members have one thing in common – they are all looking for a little romance outside their current relationship. Whether that’s the occasional bit of flirtatious chat, a regular coffee date, or a full-blown affair, that’s up to them.

We’re always more than happy to talk about IllicitEncounters.com – please contact Christian Grant through the details below – but we’re not willing to speak publicly about SaraHartley.net at this moment in time.

Email: presspr@illicitencounters.co.uk

Mobile: 07824 353986

Twitter: @cheatsafer

Two-thirds of people having affairs carry on having sex with their regular partners, according to a new survey

* Four in ten cheats (41%) say they have MORE sex with their spouses because the excitement of the affair heightens their sex drive;
* 74% of adulterers said the sex was better with their lover than their spouse;
* The results are from a new survey of 1,000 adulterers by IllicitEncounters.com, the UK’s leading dating site for married people

Two-thirds of people having affairs carry on having sex with their regular partners, according to a new survey.

Four in ten cheats (41%) say they make love to their spouses more often because the excitement of the affairs heightens their sex drive.

A third (33%) were keen to maintain the regular sexual routine at home so as not to raise suspicion.

Only a fifth of adulterers (22%) tell their lovers that they are continuing to have sex at home.

The results are revealed in a new survey of 1,000 adulterers by IllicitEncounters.com, Britain’s leading dating site for married people.

It found that 64% of adulterers kept up the same sexual routine with their partners at home.

A fifth (21%) had less sex with their spouses because of the affair, but only 15% abstained from sex at home altogether.

Of those 15%, most had stopped having sex with their spouses even before the affair had started.

Women are more likely than men to maintain sexual relations with their spouse to cover up their cheating.

Seven out of ten women (69%) continue to have sex with their husbands while cheating.

Slightly fewer men (63%) still make love to their wives while also sleeping with their lover.  

Three-quarters of respondents (74%) said that sex with their lover was better than with their regular partner.

And two-thirds (62%) said they tried more adventurous sex with their lovers when they went to bed.


IllicitEncounters.com spokesman Christian Grant said:
“What this new research shows is that people start having affairs to add some excitement to their lives. They are almost certainly still having sex with their spouses but it has become a little dull and routine. The excitement of the affairs makes them betters lovers – not just with the person they are cheating with but with their spouse at home.”

“An affair can actually reinvigorate a marriage by making people reassess their behaviour and address long-standing issues with their partners.”


NOTES TO EDITOR

IllicitEncounters.com is the UK’s leading dating website for married people and the leading authority on infidelity. With over 1,000,000 genuine UK users since 2004, you’re sure to find your perfect match.

Established in 2004, we have been providing a meeting place for like-minded married and attached people for nearly 14 years. Our members have one thing in common – they are all looking for a little romance outside their current relationship. Whether that’s the occasional bit of flirtatious chat, a regular coffee date, or a full-blown affair, that’s up to them.

We’re always more than happy to talk about IllicitEncounters.com – please contact Christian Grant through the details below – but we’re not willing to speak publicly about SaraHartley.net at this moment in time.

Email: presspr@illicitencounters.co.uk

Tel: 020 7729 6098

Twitter: @cheatsafer

Scientists Reveal That Chocolate Makes You More Likely to Cheat Than Anything Else

  • Chocolate is the single biggest catalyst for an affair, it’s been revealed
  • 100 people over a period of a year adopted a diet that was heavily based around chocolate
  • Over 85% reported a “significant” increase in their libido, with 78% stating that they would be “likely” or “very likely” to cheat on their partner as a result
  • A natural aphrodisiac, it contains ryptophan, a brain chemical that’s prevalent in sexual arousal, and phenylethylamine, a brain stimulant that’s released when people develop romantic feelings
  • Recent studies have also shown that UK and Germany are the 4th and 2nd biggest consumers of chocolate in the world,  and, as a result, the 9th and 4th most adulterous countries on the planet
  • llicitEncounters.com, the UK’s leading dating website for married people, also surveyed 300 of its members and found that 35% of them used chocolate in an erotic fashion, while over half would like to

Scientists have finally identified the single biggest catalyst that makes someone more likely to have an affair, and it is, in fact, chocolate.

100 people over a period of a year adopted a diet that was heavily based around chocolate, as renowned scientist, Dr Gertcha, explains:

“While we typically think of foods such as oysters to be natural aphrodisiacs, we rarely mention chocolate.

“That’s despite the fact that we’ve known for some years that those that are more hedonistic in their lifestyle also enjoy chocolate.

“Chocolate contains in it chemicals that leave us more prone to an affair: Tryptophan, a brain chemical that’s prevalent in sexual arousal, and phenylethylamine, a brain stimulant that’s often referred to as a ‘love-drug’. The latter is released when people develop romantic feelings and that, along with tryptophan, are both predominately found in chocolate.

“They appear in varying quantities, however. For example, the tests we conducted found that a Mars Bar seemed to have a more potent effect, with people reporting an increased libido twice as much as those who mainly consumed Milky Way, for example.

“The overall findings, however, were clear: over 85% of the 100 case studies reported a “significant” increase in their libido, with 78% stating that they would be ‘likely’ or ‘very likely’ to cheat on their partner as a result.”

Recent studies corroborate with this data, as we know that both the UK and Germany are among the biggest consumers of chocolate in the world – 4th and 2nd respectively – and, unsurprisingly, they’re among the biggest cheats in the world, too, with the UK being the 9th most adulterous and Germany the 4th most adulterous country on the planet.

IllicitEncounters.com, the UK’s leading dating website for married people and the leading authority on infidelity, also notices an alarming spike in the number of people signing up to the site every Easter, the time where we as a nation are more likely to consume chocolate than any other point throughout the year.

The site’s spokesperson, Christian Grant, commented:

“Every year without fail, we see an abnormal amount of people signing up to the site around Easter. While we initially dismissed this as an anomaly, there’s too much evidence that points toward our increased consumption of chocolate around this time of year as the culprit.

“While chocolate is evidently a natural aphrodisiac, it’s also commonly used by those who are looking to experiment in the bedroom, and a lack of an enthralling sex life is one of the main reasons our members are looking to have an affair to begin with.”

In fact, the site surveyed 300 of its members and found that 35% of them used chocolate in an erotic fashion, while over half (53%) would like to.

Of that 35%, over half said that spreading chocolate on their partner’s knee, ear lobe and chest made them more aroused, while a third said that they couldn’t resist licking chocolate off of any body part.

“Who doesn’t love a good knee?” said Grant.

“Spread some Nutella on a bare kneecap and you’ll make any man weak at the, well, knees.”

NOTES TO EDITOR

IllicitEncounters.com is the UK’s leading dating website for married people and the leading authority on infidelity. With over 1,000,000 genuine UK users since 2004, you’re sure to find your perfect match.

Established in 2004, we have been providing a meeting place for like-minded married and attached people for nearly 12 years. Our members have one thing in common – they are all looking for a little romance outside their current relationship. Whether that’s the occasional bit of flirtatious chat, a regular coffee date, or a full-blown affair, that’s up to them.

We’re always more than happy to talk about IllicitEncounters.com – please contact Christian Grant through the details below – but we’re not willing to speak publicly about SaraHartley.net at this moment in time.

Email: presspr@illicitencounters.co.uk
Office: 020 7729 6098
Twitter: @cheatsafer