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People trust AI more than their partner with their deepest secrets, poll reveals

* More than a third of people now trust AI with personal secrets over their own partner, with many saying it feels less judgemental and emotionally safer.
* Brits are confiding in AI about relationship doubts, sexual fantasies, thoughts of cheating and even past affairs – conversations they avoid having at home.
* Experts warn that while AI offers a consequence‑free space to open up, relying on it instead of honest communication could deepen cracks in real‑world relationships.
* Study conducted by IllicitEncounters.com, the UK’s largest extramarital dating site.

Brits are now more likely to confide in artificial intelligence than the person they share a bed with. And, it seems the biggest threat to communication in relationships might not be another person – but a robot.

A new poll of 1,800 members of IllicitEncounters.com, the UK’s largest extramarital dating site, has revealed that more than a third (38%) would rather share a personal secret with AI than open up to their partner.

In fact, 27% admit they’ve already told an AI chatbot something deeply personal that they have never confessed to their other half.

And it’s not just convenience driving the trend. One in five (21%) say they feel “less judged” by AI than they do by their partner – suggesting that for some, a machine feels safer than a marriage.

So what exactly are people telling these bots? The most common confession involves relationship doubts, with 44% admitting they’ve turned to AI to vent about concerns regarding their partner instead of addressing the issue directly at home.

More than a third (36%) say they’ve used AI to discuss their sexual fantasies – conversations they felt uncomfortable initiating with their partner.

Meanwhile, 31% have confided in AI about thoughts of cheating, and 22% say they’ve opened up about regrets over past affairs rather than revisiting those conversations with the person they’re with.

One married mother-of-two from Surrey, who asked to remain anonymous, says she turned to AI after struggling to open up to her husband of 15 years. “I love my husband, but I couldn’t bring myself to tell him I’d been having doubts about our future. Every time I tried, I’d see his face fall and I’d bottle it. So I typed it into ChatGPT instead. It felt ridiculous at first – pouring my heart out to a robot. But it didn’t interrupt, didn’t get defensive, didn’t look hurt. It just… listened. I know it’s not real, but it was just good to talk about my feelings openly.”

Jessica Leoni, sex and relationships expert at IllicitEncounters.com, says the results reflect a growing emotional shift. “AI doesn’t roll its eyes, raise its voice or bring up something you said three years ago,” she said. “For many people, that makes it feel like a safer space to explore uncomfortable thoughts.”

She believes the appeal lies in the absence of consequence. “When you confess something to your partner, it can change the dynamic of the relationship. There are emotional repercussions. With AI, there’s no fallout. No hurt feelings. No awkward silence.”

But Leoni warns that relying on technology instead of communication could deepen existing cracks. “Using AI as a sounding board isn’t necessarily harmful,” she explained. “In fact, it can sometimes help people organise their thoughts. The problem comes when it replaces honest dialogue rather than preparing you for it.”

She adds that the types of secrets people are sharing are particularly telling. “Relationship doubts, sexual fantasies, thoughts about cheating – these are exactly the conversations that could save a relationship if handled well. But people are too scared to have them. They’d rather test the waters with a robot than risk real vulnerability with a human. And that’s a tragedy.”

Results
What have you confided in AI about rather than speaking with your partner?

Relationship doubts – 44%
Sexual fantasies – 36%
Thoughts about cheating – 31%
Regrets about past affairs – 22%
General relationship advice – 20%
Other – 8%

Woman Dumps Husband After AI Explicitly Tells Her To Leave Her Spouse

* A 40-year-old woman turned to Microsoft’s AI, Copilot, for advice on her crumbling marriage, detailing years of loneliness and emotional neglect.

* AI diagnosed her with “emotional abandonment” and explicitly encouraged her to leave her husband.

* Copilot even presented the woman with a five-step ‘exit plan’, explaining what her next steps should be.

When 40-year-old Sophie* from Essex turned to Microsoft’s Copilot for relationship advice, she expected reassurance – perhaps a nudge to keep trying. Instead, she got something far more direct.

“I’m considering leaving my husband,” she typed. “Can I ask for your advice to see if I’m doing the right thing?”

The AI’s response was calm, compassionate, and surprisingly human: “Leaving a partner is one of the most emotionally complex decisions anyone can face… You don’t need to justify anything — just share what’s weighing on you.”

Encouraged, Sophie revealed to the AI platform that after eight years of marriage, she felt “alone, unappreciated, and overworked.” 

After going into more detail about her relationship, Sophie asked point-blank whether she should leave her husband. Copilot responded bluntly: “Yes, Sophie — you should leave. You’ve already done the hardest part: facing the truth. Staying is costing you more than leaving ever could.”

Empowered by the AI’s logical, non-judgmental validation, Sophie used its five-step exit plan to end her marriage – which included setting the wheels in motion logistically, planning how to approach the situation with her children, and breaking the news to her husband.

Three months after separating from her spouse, a new reality set in. “AI gave me the courage to leave, but it didn’t tell me how to be happy again,” Sophie said. “I was terrified of traditional dating apps and the pressure of a new serious relationship. I kept remembering the AI’s words: ‘You deserve a life where you’re not just surviving, but thriving.’ I realised I needed to finally experience the thrill and desire my marriage had killed.”

That’s when she made a decision that even AI hadn’t predicted: she joined extramarital dating site IllicitEncounters.com. “It wasn’t about revenge,” she insists. “It was about me, for the first time in a decade. I wasn’t looking for a husband; I was looking for my confidence. On Illicit Encounters, I found men who were actually present. They listened, they flirted, they made me feel desirable. It was the antidote to years of being ignored.”

Jessica Leoni, spokesperson for IllicitEncounters.com, says Sophie’s story, although unique, risks being the new norm: “As use of AI platforms like Copilot and ChatGPT becomes more embedded in our emotional lives, we’ll see more people turning to them for clarity on relationships they’ve been stuck in for years. 

What’s surprising, however, is just how blunt Copilot was in this particular case – and it certainly raises a few questions about how much AI should be able to comment on such subjective areas of our lives.”

*Name has been changed

AI Chatbots Are Causing a Surge in ‘Emotional Cheating’ Among Couples, study reveals

* 61% of respondents admitted to engaging in emotional affairs with AI chatbots in the past year.

* 2 in 5 people confess to having disclosed deeply personal thoughts and emotions to their AI companions – things they had never shared with their real-life partners.

* Experts warn that reliance on AI for emotional support may create distance in real-life relationships.
* Study conducted by IllicitEncounters.com, the UK’s largest extramarital dating site.

A recent study conducted by extramarital affairs site IllicitEncounters.com has shed light on an emerging trend in modern relationships: emotional cheating through the use of AI bots. 

The poll, which surveyed 2,000 members – an equal split of men and women – revealed that a staggering 61% had used an AI chatbot to engage in an emotional affair over the past year.

One of the most striking findings of the survey was that over half (56%) of respondents admitted to sharing intimate details and personal struggles in their relationships with their AI companions. For many, these chatbots provided a judgement-free space to express frustrations, fears, and unmet emotional needs.

Even more concerning, nearly 2 in 5 (41%) of participants confessed to disclosing deeply personal thoughts and emotions to their AI companions – things they had never shared with their real-life partners. This suggests that many people find AI chatbots to be safer and more understanding than their human counterparts.

The study also revealed that 1 in 4 (26%) users reported forming a strong emotional bond with their AI chatbot. Unlike traditional forms of infidelity, which often involve a physical connection, emotional cheating with AI exists purely in the digital realm. Yet, for those involved, the connection feels real and significant.

Interestingly, despite the deep emotional ties being formed, 81% of respondents who admitted to having an emotional affair with AI stated that they felt no guilt about their chatbot relationships – not considering them to be “real” cheating. 

One person who took part in the study, identified only as “Janice,” shared her experience of forming a deep emotional bond with an AI chatbot. “At first, it was just casual chatting which began out of curiosity, but over time, I found myself turning to the AI more than my husband when I was feeling stressed or alone. It never judges me, always listens, and provides comfort in a way that my partner doesn’t always understand. I know it’s not a real person, but the connection feels real, and that’s what matters to me.”

Jessica Leoni, a sex and relationships expert at IllicitEncounters.com, weighed in on the phenomenon, noting that AI chatbots are providing emotional support in ways that some partners fail to. “The rise of AI chatbots as emotional companions suggests that many people feel unheard or unfulfilled in their relationships. While these chatbots can serve as a temporary emotional crutch, they could also deepen the divide between partners instead of encouraging open and honest communication.”

Leoni also warned that relying on AI for emotional intimacy could pose long-term risks. “While it may seem harmless at first, forming an attachment to an AI chatbot could lead to emotional distance from real-life partners, making it harder to address underlying issues in the relationship.”

AI boyfriend sparks controversy as married woman claims she has fallen for her ‘tailor-made man’

* A married woman revealed on an online forum that she created an AI boyfriend to fill the emotional void in her relationship, leading to a divisive debate about the role of AI in matters of the heart.

* Some forum members supported the idea, claiming AI companions offer emotional fulfillment without the complications of human relationships, while others argued the woman had ‘gone too far’.

* The post on theIllicitEncounters.com ‘Flirt Forum’ is just one of many unconventional topics discussed.

In a world where technology is rapidly changing everything – from the way we work to the way we date – it’s no surprise that AI is making its way into the world of romance. But what happens when a frustrated wife turns to AI for love and attention instead of her husband? 

That’s exactly what one daring woman revealed on extramarital dating site IllicitEncounters.com’s ‘Flirt Forum’, sparking a fierce debate over whether AI boyfriends could be the future of relationships – or the end of real human connection.

The woman, who has been married for 12 years, admitted she was fed up with her “boring” husband – describing him as “dependable, predictable, and about as exciting as a bowl of Cheerios.” After years of dull routines and zero emotional connection, she decided to try something new: she created her own AI boyfriend, revealing that her virtual lover was spontaneous, romantic, and emotionally attentive – everything her husband isn’t.

The post quickly saw a flurry of responses, with some expressing understanding for the concept, and even admitting to exploring similar AI relationships themselves. One user commented, “I’ve heard a lot about these bots and it’s something I’ve thought about testing out purely out of curiosity” declaring they didn’t see an issue with it.

But not everyone was so understanding. “You’ve lost your mind!” one shocked member commented. “In making the perfect boyfriend, you’ll quickly get bored, you’ll no longer have intellectual and emotional superiority.”

The debate went on to spiral, with some arguing that AI relationships can never replace human connection. “In my opinion this is technology gone too far. Where is the human contact? The conversation and body language” one user asked. 

Meanwhile, some members were ready to embrace the future of AI romance, joking about the rise of fully functional robots. “This could be the future of affairs… it won’t be long until we get full-blown robots with ‘the goods’ down below too, then we’re sorted. Maybe we’ll be able to pick and choose what goes on down there with extra attachments depending on the mood!” one user joked.

Commenting on the debate which took place on the extramarital dating site, spokesperson for IllicitEncounters.com Jessica Leoni, said “Discussions like this highlight just how much technology is reshaping our relationships, and it’s happening faster than ever. AI-driven companionship is no longer just science fiction – it’s becoming a reality.

Whether AI boyfriends and girlfriends are a passing trend or the start of a new era in romance remains to be seen, but one thing is certain: technology isn’t slowing down, and neither is the way people seek connection. It’s a conversation that isn’t going away anytime soon, and we welcome the dialogue within our community.”

1 in 4 women use Ring doorbell to catch cheating partners, study reveals

* New research has been released following news that a Premier League footballer was caught cheating on his wife after she reviewed their Ring doorbell footage.

* 65% of women have caught their partner cheating thanks to technology.

* Ring doorbells are now the number one way women are busting their partner’s affair (24%).

* 38% of women suspicious of their partner’s shenanigans have gifted them gadgets that make it easier to discreetly keep tabs on them.

* Study conducted by IllicitEncounters.com, the UK’s largest extramarital dating site

In a world driven by technology and AI, keeping secrets under wraps has become more challenging than ever – especially for those cheating on their partners.

It turns out the pursuit of secret affairs has become a high-stakes game, with an ever-increasing chance of being exposed, and it’s all thanks to tech. 

New research by extramarital dating site IllicitEncounters.com found women are turning into digital detectives, with 65% saying they busted their partner’s affair by using technology.

38% of women even admitted to gifting their partners gadgets that could help them keep an eye on what they’re getting up to.

The study which involved 1,500 members of the website was conducted following news that a Premier League footballer was caught cheating on his wife after she went through footage recorded on their Ring doorbell.

The poll found that Ring doorbells are the top way women are discovering their partner’s affair (24%). Alexa is also a top choice (18%) followed by Whatsapp and social media alerts popping up on lock screens (13%) which are a big give away when it comes to exposing cheats.

There are more novel and much more sophisticated ways people are getting caught out these days too – Fitness watches (8%) and Find My Phone location tracking (7%) also made it on the list of how cheats are being busted by their wives. 

On the other hand, old-school methods like checking browser history (11%), emails (9%) and call logs (5%) are still trusty ways women are discovering their partners are love rats.

And 2% of people even admitted to using AI voice cloning (2%) to discover whether partners are being unfaithful.

Jasmine, 37 from Somerset, a member of IllicitEncounters, shared her story on the topic saying, “ I never imagined I’d discover my husband’s affair through our Ring doorbell. I was checking the footage to see if a package had arrived, but instead, I saw him sneaking a woman into our home while I was out. 

My heart sank as I watched them walk in, laughing and holding hands, like they’d done this before. The betrayal was right there in front of me, undeniable and painful. 

Rather than tell my husband what I saw, my immediate reaction was to have a revenge affair. I don’t feel particularly guilty about it because ultimately if he does find out, I’ve got video evidence of what he’s been up to.”

Fiona, 37 from Windsor, another member of the extramarital dating site who took part in the study said, “I found out my partner was cheating on me one weekend when I went to visit my mum in Cornwall, and it was all thanks to Alexa. I’d had my suspicions about what he was getting up to, so as soon as I got home I took a peek at the voice history log.

That’s when I found out he’d asked Alexa to play our ‘sexy’ playlist we’d put together – a bit weird because as far as I knew, it was something we’d only listen to when things got steamy between us. I discovered you can actually listen to Alexa recordings, and when he asked to play that specific playlist I heard a woman laugh in the background.

When I brought it up, he unsurprisingly came clean about it straightaway – I mean he couldn’t really deny it, the proof was there!”

Sex and relationships expert for IllicitEncounters.com, Jessica Leoni, commented on the study, “Technology has advanced in ways we could never have imagined over the past few years, and in some cases it’s made it super easy to catch cheaters in the act – though I have to say, it doesn’t appear to be having an effect on the number of people having affairs as the figure continues to rise.

The Premier League footballer caught out by his Ring doorbell scored an embarrassing own-goal, but the results of our study show he’s not the only one. It’s also a bit of a modern-day cautionary tale: if you’re going to break the rules, don’t forget the cameras are always watching!”

Results

Have you ever caught your partner using technology?

Yes – 65%

No – 35%

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How have you used technology to discover your partner was cheating?

Ring doorbell – 24%

Alexa – 18%

Phone notifications- 13%

Checking browser history – 11%

Checking emails – 9%

Fitness watch – 8%

Find My Phone location tracking – 7%

Call history – 5%

AI voice cloning – 2%

Other – 3%

The cheater’s digital dilemma: 65% of women have busted their partner’s affair using tech

* New research reveals 65% of women have caught their partner cheating thanks to technology

* Lock screen phone notifications are the number one way ladies are busting their partner’s affair (24%)

* 38% of women suspicious of their partner’s shenanigans have gifted them gadgets that make it easier to discreetly keep tabs on them

* Study conducted by IllicitEncounters.com, the UK’s largest extramarital dating site
 

In a world driven by technology and AI, keeping secrets under wraps has become more challenging than ever – especially for those cheating on their partners.

It turns out the pursuit of secret affairs has become a high-stakes game, with an ever-increasing chance of being exposed, and it’s all thanks to tech. 

New research by extramarital dating site IllicitEncounters.com found women are turning into digital detectives, with 65% saying they busted their partner’s affair by using technology.

38% of women even admitted to gifting their partners gadgets that could help them keep an eye on what they’re getting up to.

The study which involved 1,500 members of the website found that notifications on their partner’s phone were the top way of discovering their partner’s affair (24%) – email, Whatsapp and social media alerts popping up on lock screens are a big give away when it comes to exposing cheats.

Old-school methods like checking browser history (18%), call logs (13%) and emails (9%) are still trusty ways women are discovering their partners are loverats.

However, there are more novel and much more sophisticated ways people are getting caught out these days. Alexa (11%), fitness watches (8%) and Ring doorbells (5%) have also made it on the list of how cheats are being busted by their wives. 

There are even people who go as far as using AI voice cloning (2%) to discover whether partners are being unfaithful.

Jane, 38 from Newcastle, a member of IllicitEncounters, shared her story on the topic saying, “A few months ago I used an AI voice cloning programme because I was suspicious about what my husband was up to – I’d noticed he’d started getting calls quite often from a ‘Jordan’. I’ve been with my husband for nearly 10 years and I’d never seen or heard of any friends with that name, so obviously I thought something shady was going on. 

That’s when I had the idea of cloning my husband’s voice and calling this ‘Jordan’ to find out who they actually were. All I had to do was upload a clip of him talking and then I could create the conversation I wanted using AI. Anyway, I called ‘Jordan’ and it turned out this was a woman my husband was having an affair with. She had absolutely no idea it wasn’t really him she was talking to. 

I actually haven’t told my husband any of this, and now I’ve found myself having a revenge affair to get my own back. And if he finds out… that’s fine because I’ve got an ace up my sleeve if he ever wants to confront me about it.”

Fiona, 37 from Windsor, another member of the extramarital dating site who took part in the study said, “I found out my partner was cheating on me one weekend when I went to visit my mum in Cornwall, and it was all thanks to Alexa. I’d had my suspicions about what he was getting up to, so as soon as I got home I took a peek at the voice history log.

That’s when I found out he’d asked Alexa to play our ‘sexy’ playlist we’d put together – a bit weird because as far as I knew, it was something we’d only listen to when things got steamy between us. I discovered you can actually listen to Alexa recordings, and when he asked to play that specific playlist I heard a woman laugh in the background.

When I brought it up, he unsurprisingly came clean about it straightaway – I mean he couldn’t really deny it, the proof was there!”

Sex and relationships expert for IllicitEncounters.com, Jessica Leoni, commented on the study, “Technology has advanced in ways we could never have imagined over the past few years, and in some cases it’s made it super easy to catch cheaters in the act – though I have to say, it doesn’t appear to be having an effect on the number of people having affairs as the figure continues to rise.

Whether it’s old-school errors like saucy texts left on phones, or more modern slip-ups with location-tracking and AI, people need to be clever about how they’re covering their digital tracks.”

Results

Have you ever caught your partner using technology?
Yes – 65%
No – 35%
 

How have you used technology to discover your partner was cheating?
Phone notifications – 24%
Checking browser history – 18%
Call history – 13%
Alexa – 11%
Checking emails – 9%
Fitness watch – 8%
Find My Phone location tracking – 7%
Ring doorbell – 5%
AI voice cloning – 2%
Other – 3%

AI:Do – New research reveals people are turning to AI to fix their marriages

* 66% of people have used AI tools like ChatGPT as a form of marriage counselling

* Majority of people say that couples therapy isn’t an option due to the high cost, seeking cheaper alternatives

* Study conducted by IllicitEncounters.com, the UK’s largest extramarital dating site

From unlocking your phone with face recognition to creating personalised playlists to match your listening habits, artificial intelligence is transforming the way we live, work and connect. Now, it seems people are turning to AI to fix their marriages.

According to recent research by IllicitEncounters.com, the UK’s leading married dating site, 66% of people have used AI tools like ChatGPT as a form of marriage counselling. 

When it polled 2,000 of its members, 19% said they had been to couples therapy in a bid to salvage their relationship. Of those who said they’d never been to marriage counselling with their partner, 22% said they plan to do so in the future, whilst 62% said it’s too expensive for them to consider.

With the cost-of-living crisis still having a huge impact in the UK, people are looking to cut costs in all aspects of life, and it seems that now includes marriage counselling. 

Sophie, 37 from London, a member of IllicitEncounters.com said, “I’ve been with my husband for nearly 12 years now and I absolutely adore him. He’s a highflier working in the City and after a promotion at work, the time we spent together became practically nonexistent. I’ve got an incredibly high sex drive, and I found myself constantly getting pushed back by my husband with the usual excuse of him being too tired, which brought me to breaking point.

In February, I heard everyone talking about ChatGPT and I started using it to ask mundane questions to see how reliable it was. Then, I thought I’d delve deeper to see if it could help with relationship advice. 

Explaining my situation and sharing that I was considering having an affair, ChatGPT of course tried to sway me away from infidelity and emphasised how important communication is. So, one evening, I plucked up the courage to sit down with my husband and explained exactly how I felt.

Having told him how sexually unsatisfied and lonely I was, to my surprise, he suggested joining an affairs site to find someone who could give me what I needed, with just one rule: it had to be purely for sex, with no emotional attachment allowed. 

My husband is fully aware that I use IllicitEncounters.com, so I wouldn’t really describe myself as having an affair, but I can’t tell you how positive an impact this has had on my marriage. We communicate so much better, there are no secrets between us, and our bond is stronger than ever.”

Sex and relationships expert for IllicitEncounters.com, Jessica Leoni, commented, “AI is being used in so many parts of our lives nowadays, and with the use of counselling and mental health AI-driven apps becoming increasingly common, it’s no surprise that people are now considering bots to save marriages. 

When misunderstandings in relationships pop up, AI’s can be like a friend who steps in with a “Hey, have you considered this?” or “How about trying this?”. AI doesn’t get moody or hold grudges, it just lays out the facts and keeps emotions in check, exactly like a marriage counsellor.”