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LadyDe - 10 Dec, 2023 - 05:24PM

For me personally I’m greedy.. I meet my IE once a wk.. I don’t want more but I don’t want less … for me I would say no more than 40mins in a car or train to London is fine

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1637462 - 10 Dec, 2023 - 03:08PM

Distance doesn’t bother me, in fact I think it it can help to demonstrate commitment.

I jumped on a train to Swindon for a lunch date earlier this year. Worked on the way down and back so it was a productive day.

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1626541 - 10 Dec, 2023 - 02:09PM

For what it's worth: i am conflicted...I have had both experiences, though admittedly nothing lasting a very long time..but that was not so much proximity nor distance but other reasons. I do think it's a different experience meeting a person miles away. But i found myself more relaxed when away and it was easier to have that excuse..conference, work meet, 'me time'...but it does mean the chance to just meet quickly for a brief afternoon is missed.

I hear some on the thread who are disappointed about distance and travel, but i guess you make IE what you make it. Looking back at the 24 years of marriage I got to IE because it was time to live again but stay married. I realised that even 12 quality meets in a year is better than nothing. However, as I say, each to their own

Having said that I have now embarked on something quite remarkable with a person who lives locally!

MrSurfer - 08 Oct, 2023 - 08:52PM

Surfing is a sport that's very weather dependant, so when conditions are good, it's not unusual for me to get up early and head off for Cornwall, Devon or Wales for a day and a night at quite short notice. I have a "stealth" camper so I can stay at the beach for free (if you google "boot jump" you'll know what I mean)
It means I'm free to travel spontaniously, without suspicion.
That being said, my matchfinder is set quite local for now

Paula99 - 30 Sep, 2023 - 09:42PM

Bobbie100+…

Have you been in a distance affair before ?

Does it not depend on the how ?

1575033 - 29 Sep, 2023 - 09:04PM

Simply...Yes, butdepends what you want.

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laugar164 - 21 Sep, 2023 - 12:38PM

Paula99 fanny flutter not heard that in ages 😂

Paula99 - 20 Sep, 2023 - 02:34PM

I have made many posts about distance and however much spin you put on it …it only works if you have the connection/chemistry and the extra 10 % commitment ..

Lots of factors determine your affair …family ..work ..kids …I have experienced a distance affair and it it’s not easy ..if the person you want to see inspires you/ is a friend/ confidant and makes your Fanny flutter then the mountain comes to Mohammed..

It’s a personal choice .😂😂😂

Be safe ❤️

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1612345 - 20 Sep, 2023 - 08:32AM

I enjoyed a 11-year affair because my inamorata lived 15 minutes away. We could have lunch and make love up to 3 days a week. Evenings out were also possible. She was partnered with another man, but they lived apart, so she could 'host' or 'accommodate' me at her flat.
I don't think our affair would have lasted longer than many marriages had it not been for this - and our proximity. Few middle-aged, middle-class married men with a mortgage to pay and a pension to fund can afford daytime hotel meets, a decent meal out plus movie, drinks and so on more than once or twice a month - if that - and not create a suspicious hole in the family finances. So the relationship becomes a series of brief encounters - maybe 12 per year? Could be enough for some romantics, but surely most would find that situation more frustrating than fulfilling.
Banal but true: one lover's ability to host – and the proximity between both parties – are crucial factors in any successful liaison. And honestly? I suspect that's pretty

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Pink Eiga - 19 Sep, 2023 - 08:19PM

Come back soon Enigma. Love your posts 😘

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