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boav91 - 21 Oct, 2024 - 08:45AM

As a few people have said here, the best way is fit into what is considered normal life. So if you want to use office meetings as an excuse then it has to be something you would do anyway. If not make it the norm legitimately before you change it to other reasons. I go on trips, conferences with work and go for days in London so I sometimes just say that is what I am doing, jut not what the meeting involves.. These meetings are way more fun than the normal ones. I often tell my wife where I will be in case she looks it up. The closer to the truth you make it the less likely you are to be tripped up by curve balls, e.g. the parking ticket i got recently.

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1704344 - 21 Oct, 2024 - 08:19AM

Most of the comments here are really not addressing the obvious point here.

Even before joining the site and writing your profile, you really need to think about how your life will work with an affair and what reasonable availability (in both time and emotions).

You can’t just meet some for coffee and then wonder how you’re going to proceed. Discussions about general freedom (nights/days/weekday/weekend) should really happen before that first meeting (just in really loose terms).

If your life isn’t ready for an affair, you really shouldn’t be here.

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ExoticOrchid - 20 Oct, 2024 - 11:04PM

Definitely do not underestimate your partner ... I always knew when my (now ex) husband was up to no good. Just because they don't say anything , don't think they don't know.

Paula99 - 20 Oct, 2024 - 09:27PM

PaintedNails …

Nice post

Paula99 - 20 Oct, 2024 - 09:24PM

Painted Nails…

That’s exact what I did …I did attend the gym 3 times a week but I would swap my gym day to see my lover..

The point I am trying to make is you have to have a ‘real’ hobby/pastime to be able to do this on a regular basis ..
Shopping trips/ meeting friends can only last so long…and yes husbands do get more nosey as the time goes on ….like I said before ‘don’t underestimate your partner ‘

Paintednails - 20 Oct, 2024 - 08:56PM

Join a gym and "go to the gym" what I mean is....dress for the gym (your person should understand), have the work out, shower and go back home. This is what I did when I had a lover but didn't want my child to sense anything. I dressed for the gym, went to the gym, had my service done, showered and came home, what I normally do with the REAL gym.

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1704344 - 19 Oct, 2024 - 09:16PM

@LadyAmanda

Yes, men don’t really ask questions about shopping trips or meetings with friends beyond “did you have a good time”. My wife could be getting away with anything!

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1706135 - 19 Oct, 2024 - 08:57PM

Think it is easier for a female as we can go out for a so called shopping trip, meet with friends for lunch.

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1704344 - 19 Oct, 2024 - 07:51PM

This is why I chose a competitive sport as a hobby. Gives me the opportunity to be away from home on any given Sunday. I also go into the office every so often, which is a an early start and late finish - sometimes “out for a meal with colleagues after work”

It does pay to establish a reason to be out of the house on a fairly regular basis.

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Paula99 - 19 Oct, 2024 - 07:43PM

Ladyamanda…

Just starting a new hobby poses questions and you do need to attend your hobby at some time or other …underestimating your partner isn’t a good idea..😕