* It takes an average of four years for adultery to be exposed – most commonly through stray phone messages;

* 86% of people who cheat on their spouses after marriage have already slept with another love before tying the knot;

* Results are from a new survey of 1,000 adulterers by IllicitEncounters.com, the UK’s leading dating site for married people

Most love cheats have three affairs before their cheating is discovered by their partners, according to a new survey.

And it takes an average of four years for their adultery to be exposed – most commonly through their partner reading their phone messages.

The vast majority of people (86%) who cheat on their spouses after marriage have already slept with another lover before tying the knot.

The results are from a new survey of 1,000 adulterers by IllicitEncounters.com, the UK’s leading dating site for married people.

It discovered clear patterns of behaviour suggesting that if a person is unfaithful early on in a relationship they will continue to seek affairs after marriage.

Two-thirds of adulterers (63%) have been caught out by their partners at some point in their marriage.

But this lead to the break-up of the relationship in only 15% of cases.

Most people are prepared to forgive one sexual liaison if other elements of their relationship with their partner are strong.

Cheats tend to be extremely careful not to get caught with a lover straight after they have tied the knot.

Just one in 10 adulterers (11%) were caught during their first affair after matrimony and one in eight (12%) during their second.

The most common time for an affair to be exposed was during the third affair with one in five (21%) saying this was when they were caught out.

The main reason was that adulterers tend to get more brazen the longer they get away with cheating and they are not as careful at covering their tracks.

The most common ways cheats are caught out are – partner reading phone messages (39%), partner reading emails (22%), being caught lying about their whereabouts (20%), being spotted out with a lover (14%), being informed on by a family friend (5%).

IllicitEncounters.com spokesman Christian Grant said: “What this new research shows is that a leopard never changes their spots.

“If your partner is unfaithful to you before tying the knot that pattern of cheating will continue after matrimony.

“Cheats need to be extra careful around the time of their third affair because this is when they are most likely to get caught – probably because they have got over-confident and give too many clues away to their partner who will be getting suspicious.

“It is interesting that an affair leads to a break-up in only 15% of cases.

“Most people are prepared to forgive an affair if the fundamentals of a relationship are strong and we have a lot of members at IllicitEncounters.com who have permission to have affairs because their partner has gone off sex.

“As a nation, we are becoming a lot more like the French who often see an extra-marital affair not as a reason for divorce but the natural reaction to a relationship going stale.”

Every week, around 20,000 people in the UK are having affairs on IllicitEncounters.com.

More than one million people have registered with the site since it started in 2003 and the highest proportion of members are wealthy people in London and the Home Counties.

Top 5 ways affairs are discovered

1 Phone messages to lover discovered by partner (39%)

2 Emails to lover discovered by partner (22%)

3 Caught lying about whereabouts (20%)

4 Being spotted out with lover 14%)

5 informed on by friend of partner (5%)

NOTES TO EDITOR

IllicitEncounters.com is the UK’s leading dating website for married people and the leading authority on infidelity. With over 1,000,000 genuine UK users since 2004, you’re sure to find your perfect match.

Established in 2004, we have been providing a meeting place for like-minded married and attached people for nearly 12 years. Our members have one thing in common – they are all looking for a little romance outside their current relationship. Whether that’s the occasional bit of flirtatious chat, a regular coffee date, or a full-blown affair, that’s up to them.

We’re always more than happy to talk about IllicitEncounters.com – please contact Christian Grant through the details below – but we’re not willing to speak publicly about SaraHartley.net at this moment in time.

Email: presspr@illicitencounters.co.uk

Tel: 020 7729 6098

Twitter: @cheatsafer

* Karin Jones desired sex many times a day after a ‘tsunami’ of events, including separation from her husband of 23 years;

* Jones, relationships editor at Erotic Review magazine, had a series of affairs with married men who wanted sex but didn’t want to disrupt their family lives;

* She says finding married lovers in London was easy – ‘like walking into a sweet shop with a pocket full of cash.’

* Here she writes about the ‘wonderful’ sex she enjoyed meeting men on IllicitEncounters.com – and how some of her lovers had been given permission by their wives to have affairs.

 

At 49, I experienced a tsunami of disrupting events: I separated from my husband of 23 years, began my slide into pre-menopause, and experienced a libido surge so intense I became unhinged if I didn’t get sexual release several times a day. This kind of horniness happens to some of us midlife women, though it’s not getting talked about much. We’re not told by our doctors to expect aching bouts of desire to accompany our hot flashes in the run-up to menopause. Depending upon one’s circumstances, this surge can be a blessing or a burden. If you have someone who is willing to have sex with you three times a day (or more) you might be fine. If not, you’ll need to get creative.  

 

I went through this experience, which lasted over a year, when I lived in the UK. I didn’t want a relationship; I was too wrapped up with grieving my marriage and taking care of my young son. But my body wasn’t letting me off the hook when it came to sex. Fortunately, I lived near London. Finding men to have sex with was like walking into a sweet shop with a pocket full of cash. I set up profiles on Tinder and OKCupid, but as a woman wanting only casual sex, the sheer volume of questionable men on those sites was intimidating. The website that offered me the clearest route to my no-strings requirements was IllicitEncounters.com, a dating site for married people.

 

Unlike other dating websites, I found a “cheaters” site to be populated by men who were more straightforward and unselfconscious about their intent. It was understood that this was about sex, not finding a relationship. It was about companionship for only a few hours. It was almost universally about experiencing a level of intimacy we weren’t getting at home. But all the men I encountered there insisted they didn’t want to disrupt their family lives.

 

Anyone on a site like IllicitEncounters is there because they don’t want to be condemned for seeking out what they need; sex. And anyone who insists we can live without sex is welcome to do so. But I can’t do it. Clearly, a lot of us can’t. Whether we can be honest with our spouses about sex is everyone’s own decision.

 

I learned that dating sites for married people were places to interact with potential partners without the harassment and judgement they received on other sites from those who view the issue of infidelity as black and white. I see the many shades of grey around the topic. And because I was so randy, I couldn’t imagine trying to jump through the hoops of another person’s apprehensions, had I been married. Even so, after I accepted a man’s request for a conversation, I vetted each one to be sure they were still committed to their marriage, even if that commitment didn’t include sexual monogamy. I accepted that by sleeping with me they could be putting their marriage at risk. But I was fairly clear-headed with my choices. I only slept with men who told me they loved their wives and were certainly not about to leave them for me. They almost always said they wanted to have sex with their wives, but their wives wouldn’t have sex with them.

 

What I found about dating married men was how edifying our conversations were around why we were doing what we were doing. They weren’t afraid to talk to me about the reasons they were in my bed instead of their own. I pressed them to explain why they weren’t having this conversation with their wives. Most had tried – many times. But it’s such a painful thing to discuss; why a spouse is no longer interested in sex. It became a topic of silence. Which led to hurt, sorrow and even resentment. Which led to IllicitEncounters.

 

One of my most memorable married lovers lived in the Middle East. He described his wife as lovely and beautiful. They had two teen children and he worked as an engineer in the oil industry. He was Oxford educated, articulate with a sonorous voice. He measured the weight of his words and told me the story of his desires. He wanted to explore kink, group sex, bondage.

 

“Does your wife know how you feel?” I asked over the phone before we met.

 

“Yes.” he said. “She even tried some of these things with me. I was so grateful to her for trying. But she’s not comfortable with it. It’s simply not possible for her to enjoy the kind of sex I do.”

 

“Does your wife know you are looking for this outside your marriage?”

 

“We don’t talk about it.” was all he said. And I didn’t press for more.

 

He flew to London for business and we met at a cafe. He was a beautiful, dark-skinned man who was as gentle-looking as his words. Desire wafted between us like the steam coming off our hot drinks. Back in my flat, we propped the full-length mirror against the wall and watched ourselves having sex; his cocoa body against my ivory.

 

What’s was so wonderful about having sex with an unavailable man was the way it took me out of my thinking head and put me squarely in the moment. Without the possibility of our coupling leading to anything that required attention or emotion, I was able to experience the simple pleasure of the act. Sex that was not fraught by an earlier argument, a difficult child or the shared burdens of the domestic upkeep. Just a few hours of unencumbered, uncomplicated bliss. It’s no wonder married women are on these sites as well.

 

Women, though, have more to lose if found out. We women are still judged more harshly for transgressions against our culture. But a lot of us are out to change that. I say women are in more need than men for an escape valve from the constant requests for our attentions. We care for other people’s needs too much, spend a large chunk of our lives with small humans hanging off our bodies, don’t get enough help around the house (and often find it hard to ask for help). A clandestine affair, I imagine, is easy for a woman to justify. Why not find someone to ravish her? Give her pleasure without expectations. Remind her of her appeal as a sexual being, not simply a mother or a wife.

 

Infidelity is not going away. If anything, it will become more prevalent with so many ways to seek relationships online and sites such as IllicitEncounters. What I think we need to do is not disparage the adulterers. We need to talk about the issues around adultery. My experience tells me the asymmetrical desire for sex is at the root of most cheating. It will take courage and patience to have a conversation about this. But surely that’s easier, in the long run, than divorce and breaking up the family.

NOTES TO EDITOR

IllicitEncounters.com is the UK’s leading dating website for married people and the leading authority on infidelity. With over 1,000,000 genuine UK users since 2004, you’re sure to find your perfect match.

Established in 2004, we have been providing a meeting place for like-minded married and attached people for nearly 12 years. Our members have one thing in common – they are all looking for a little romance outside their current relationship. Whether that’s the occasional bit of flirtatious chat, a regular coffee date, or a full-blown affair, that’s up to them.

We’re always more than happy to talk about IllicitEncounters.com – please contact Christian Grant through the details below – but we’re not willing to speak publicly about SaraHartley.net at this moment in time.

Email: presspr@illicitencounters.co.uk

Tel: 020 7729 6098

Twitter: @cheatsafer

• llicitEncounters.com, the UK’s leading dating website for married people, has seen a dramatic surge in the number of people over the age of 50 signing up to the site
• Over the past 12 months, there has been an increase of 35% in over 50’s joining up
• Women over 50 lead, with a 43% increase in membership and 30% male increase
• Even above age 60, there has been a cumulative 29.5% increase across both genders

 

Perhaps people don’t really mellow with age.  Twelve months of data on new memberships from llicitEncounters.com, the UK’s leading dating website for married people and the leading authority on infidelity, has revealed a 29.5% increase in new members over the age of 60, and a 35% increase in those over 50.  The sample set includes new signups between April 2017 to April 2018.

Women seem to be more interested in cheating on their spouses than men.  Or perhaps they appreciate the discretion the site promises. They lead the surge with a 43% increase in female signups over age 50 compared to a 30% increase in new male users over 50 looking to llicitEncounters.com for their extracurricular activities.

In fact, over a two-year period, there’s been a 49% total increase in registered users over the age of 50.

The site’s spokesman, Christian Grant, explains:

“I think older people who have been married a while, experienced all the ups and downs – and particularly if they’re resolved to stay together – are more pragmatic about marriage.  They’re able to separate the institution of marriage and long-term commitment from a brief, sexually-charged fling.”

“Of course, there’s also the inevitable decline in physical attraction that comes with years of being together.  So many of our clients have come to even realise that the thrill of the new can do wonders to improve conditions at home.”

As one of the  website’s users Lucy, 61 from Durham illustrates:

“It has been a great experience for me, and as a result has actually improved my marriage. I have met four people from the site so far, and have had fun with all of them, even though I was only attracted to two of them. “

NOTES TO EDITOR

IllicitEncounters.com is the UK’s leading dating website for married people and the leading authority on infidelity. With over 1,000,000 genuine UK users since 2004, you’re sure to find your perfect match.

Established in 2004, we have been providing a meeting place for like-minded married and attached people for nearly 12 years. Our members have one thing in common – they are all looking for a little romance outside their current relationship. Whether that’s the occasional bit of flirtatious chat, a regular coffee date, or a full-blown affair, that’s up to them.

We’re always more than happy to talk about IllicitEncounters.com – please contact Christian Grant through the details below – but we’re not willing to speak publicly about SaraHartley.net at this moment in time.

Email: presspr@illicitencounters.co.uk

Tel: 020 7729 6098

Twitter: @cheatsafer

• If you’ve cheated in your marriage, it looks like you may be alright after all
• A hidden rule exists that allows someone to cheat once during their marriage
• The rule was discovered by IllicitEncounters.com, the UK’s leading dating website for married people, and confirmed by Reverend Nicolas Doherty
• Reverend Doherty says that the rule was introduced by the Church of England in 2011, but was kept hidden from the public to avoid encouraging adultery

Struggling with the guilt that comes with adultery? Luckily for you, it seems that all is forgiven in the eyes of God.

IllicitEncounters.com, the UK’s leading dating website for married people and the leading authority on infidelity, can reveal that there is, in fact, a rule in one’s marriage, set by the Church of England,  that allows you to cheat, albeit only once.

The rule states as follows:

‘The sin of adultery is permissible once during one’s marriage, with the person who has committed the act not needed to ask Him for pardon or forgiveness.

‘Multiple transgressions, however, are deemed unacceptable in His eyes and through the eyes of the Church.’

Upon discovering this, IllicitEncounters.com sought to reach out to the Church of England for clarification.

The rule was passed in 2011 by the General Synod – the legislative body of the Church of England – and parliament.

Reverend Nicolas Doherty, an ordained minister for over 25 years, says that the introduction of the rule was purposely kept hidden from the public eye, as the Church fears that public knowledge of said rule would encourage and result in an increase in infidelity.

He says:

“The Church has begrudgingly loosened its hardened stance on infidelity, especially in the last few decades. While we by no means encourage it, there has been a slow acceptance of the ubiquity of adultery.

“This Church Measure, therefore, was introduced by the General Synod, pardoning those who are found guilty of infidelity once during their marriage.

“While a married couple will only swear by their marital vows and Declarations under the eyes of God, with no mention of the Measure, it is considered to be applicable to all marriages since its introduction in 2011.”

NOTES TO EDITOR

IllicitEncounters.com is the UK’s leading dating website for married people and the leading authority on infidelity. With over 1,000,000 genuine UK users since 2004, you’re sure to find your perfect match.

Established in 2004, we have been providing a meeting place for like-minded married and attached people for nearly 12 years. Our members have one thing in common – they are all looking for a little romance outside their current relationship. Whether that’s the occasional bit of flirtatious chat, a regular coffee date, or a full-blown affair, that’s up to them.

We’re always more than happy to talk about IllicitEncounters.com – please contact Christian Grant through the details below – but we’re not willing to speak publicly about SaraHartley.net at this moment in time.

Email: presspr@illicitencounters.co.uk

Tel: 020 7729 6098

Twitter: @cheatsafer

* Stratford-upon-Avon is Britain’s cheating capital with 1,047 men and women having affairs – 3.69% of the population;

* Wigan is the most faithful town – with just 0.14% of residents cheating ;

* Cheating in suburbia has never been more popular with a high proportion of rich commuter towns in the top 10 including Wilmslow, Beaconsfield and Esher;

* Mother-of-two Louise Van Der Velde, 43, is typical of this new generation of sex cheats in middle class suburbia;

* Louise lives in wealthy Harrogate, North Yorks, and has had 80 affairs with married men and she is currently seeing two married businessmen in the town;

* New interactive Infidelity Index lists the number of people having affairs in Britain’s 150 towns leading towns;

* Infidelity Index has been put together by IllicitEncounters.com – Britain’s leading dating website for married people

 

The most adulterous town in the UK is posh Stratford-upon-Avon in Warwickshire, according to a new table of the country’s 150 cheating hotspots which shows a boom in adultery in wealthy areas.

The middle class town – birthplace of William Shakespeare – has been officially named as the place where a husband or wife is most likely to have an affair.

Posh Stratford-upon-Avon has 1,047 people cheating out of a population of 27,455

The interactive Infidelity Index allows users to search a town or postcode to discover how many people are having affairs in any locality.

Click here to find your local figure – http://www.infidelityindex.co.uk.

Stratford-upon-Avon came out highest, with 3.69% of the population cheating.

In second place was another posh commuter town, Wilmslow in Cheshire, with 901 cheats (3.6% of the population) and Beaconsfield in Bucks came third with 408 cheats (3.4% of the population).

Irvine in North Ayrshire, fourth in the overall UK table, was Scotland’s cheating capital. Wrexham, a lowly 64th in the UK table, was Wales’s cheating capital – suggesting that people in the Principality are having fewer affairs than elsewhere in the UK.

Many of the towns with the highest numbers of cheats are wealthy areas in the south of England.

The most faithful town was Wigan in Greater Manchester – just 0.14% of residents are cheating.

Stratford-upon-Avon is one of the UK’s tourism hotspots with 2.5 million visitors a year.

With an average house price of £340,548 – far above the national average of £226,071 – it is one of the most desirable places to live in the UK.

The figures were compiled by IllicitEncounters.com, Britain’s leading dating website for married people.

They are based on its own extensive data on the numbers of Britons cheating.

Since its inception 15 years ago, more than 1 million people have registered with the site.

IllicitEncounters.com has seen a 20% surge in registrations in the last five years because many couples simply cannot afford to divorce due economic pressures and sky high house prices.

Increasing numbers of couples are trapped in unhappy marriages but they are reluctant to divorce because of the cost and upheaval caused to their families

Restless married men and women are using IllicitEncounters.com to inject to some excitement into their lives with like-minded partners who also have no intention of leaving the marital home.

Mother-of-two Louise Van Der Velde, 43, is typical of the new generation of middle class people cheating in suburbia.

She lives in wealthy Harrogate in North Yorkshire – 26th in the Infidelity Index with 1,098 cheats (1.49% of the population).

Sex therapist Louise, 43, has had 80 affairs wth married men since starting online dating with IllicitEncounters.com in the last years of her marriage.

She said: “Sex in the suburbs has never been more popular. We have a whole generation of unhappy couples stuck together because property prices have made it impossible for them to move on and start new lives.

“They are staying in unhappy marriages and getting their kicks elsewhere.

“I moved to Harrogate a few years ago and it is typical of the posh commuter towns where cheating is absolutely rife.

“It is one of the wealthiest towns in Yorkshire and has lots of rich people commuting to big local cities like Leeds and York.

“I had previously lived in Surrey commuter belt where cheating was also popular but it is even easier to meet people in the North.

“The one thing you have to be careful about is not getting caught by your neighbours. Harrogate is still a relatively small place and you can stand out like a sore thumb if you go out to some of the more popular bars and restaurants.

“So a lot of cheats up this way will do their dating in Wetherby, York and Ripon. You have less chance of being spotted that way.

“I tend to find that Northern men are a little bit more up front than Southerners. They make it absolutely clear what they are after in the first 20 minutes of a date.

“That suits me because I’m from Yorkshire and I prefer to call a spade a spade.”

llicitEncounters.com spokesman Christian Grant said: “We are increasingly popular in commuter towns like Stratford-upon-Avon, Harrogate, Wilmslow, Beaconsfield and Esher. Cheating in suburbia has never been more popular.

“IllicitEncounters.com provides an outlet for men and women who would have an affair whether we were there or not. In coming to us, they can be assured of meeting a like-minded partner seeking some added excitement in their life who doesn’t want to upset things at home.”

Every week, around 20,000 people in the UK are having affairs on IllicitEncounters.com.

The average income of the men on the site is £54,000 a year, with most working in professional jobs.

NOTES TO EDITOR

IllicitEncounters.com is the UK’s leading dating website for married people and the leading authority on infidelity. With over 1,000,000 genuine UK users since 2004, you’re sure to find your perfect match.

Established in 2004, we have been providing a meeting place for like-minded married and attached people for nearly 12 years. Our members have one thing in common – they are all looking for a little romance outside their current relationship. Whether that’s the occasional bit of flirtatious chat, a regular coffee date, or a full-blown affair, that’s up to them.

We’re always more than happy to talk about IllicitEncounters.com – please contact Christian Grant through the details below – but we’re not willing to speak publicly about SaraHartley.net at this moment in time.

Email: presspr@illicitencounters.co.uk

Tel: 020 7729 6098

Twitter: @cheatsafer

* Louise Van Der Velde, 43, says the weeks after Valentine’s are the busiest time for sex cheats because it is a ‘wake-up call’ to so many people in ‘dead’ relationships;

* The sex therapist began her affairs when she was married to her doctor husband Stephen and they were looking to add spice to their marriage;

* She sees more than one married man at a time and says their wives are aware they are cheating and turn a blind eye because they have gone off sex;

* She meets her lovers on IllicitEncounters.com – the UK’s leading dating website for married people;

 

A glamorous mother-of-two who has had affairs with 80 married men after the death of her GP husband has admitted: “Life’s too short to stick to sex with only one partner.”

Louise Van Der Velde, 43,  lives every day like it his her last following her bereavement and juggles multiple affairs with various partners.

She says the weeks after Valentine’s are the busiest time of the year for sex cheats because it is a wake-up call to so many people in ‘dead’ relationships.  

The sex therapist says her lovers’ wives are aware they are cheating and turn a blind eye because they have gone off sex.

Louise first started cheating in the last years of her marriage to her GP husband, Stephen McEwen, 34, who died in a tragic accident 14 years ago.

She said: “We decided to embark on an open relationship in the last few years before he died. I have carried on the same way ever since. His death made my realise you have to seize the day and make the most of every day.”

Louise, of Harrogate, North Yorkshire, meets all her lovers on IllicitEncounters.com – the leading dating site for married people.

And this is the busiest time of the year for her with many fresh love cheats emerging following Valentine’s.

Louise said: “Valentine’s Day is a big wake-up for many people in dead relationships.

“We’ve all seen those couples in restaurants on February 14th staring vacantly at each other and realising they have absolutely nothing in common beyond their children and a shared commitment to stay together because that’s what you should do.

“Key dates like Valentine’s, Christmas and summer holidays are a big trigger point for affairs by both sexes.

“It really puts a relationship under the spotlight and makes many unhappy spouses realise that there has got to be more to life than having rubbish sex with the same boring partner for the next 50 years.

“Lots of wives only have themselves to blame when their husbands cheats. They lose interest in sex and effectively abandon them in the bedroom. All their effort goes into their children and running things domestically and they devote no attention to their marriage. It’s no wonder so many men cheat.”

She likes using IllicitEncounters.com because its male members are wealthy and are interested in sex and fun without any lasting attachment.

She said: “I am not looking for another husband and I have no interest in a monogamous relationship. I want to meet sexually driven men who are on the same page is me.”

She has recently been juggling affairs with three married men – one of whom she met after Valentine’s Day when he decided to reassess his life.

Affair number 1

Louise said: “This is with a wealthy international businessmen who has been with his wife for 20 years and has discreet affairs when he is away on business.

“He loves his wife but they have sex twice year – once around Valentine’s and once on his birthday. She lost interest in sex after she turned 40. He pointed out that he was devoted to her and their three children but he needed physical fulfilment. She gave him the green light to cheat as long as it didn’t impact on the family.

“He uses IllicitEncounters.com because most of the women on the site are attached and don’t want to upset the applecart. They are looking for regular casual sex, too, with no strings attached.

After number 2

Louise said: “This a new relationship which has begun very recently. My lover has been rethinking his life after a miserable Christmas and Valentine’s with his wife. He doesn’t want to leave – not least because he cannot afford to. But he feels that all her energies go into bring up their kids and there is no time or emotion left him. He feels neglected.

“He is finance director for an international firm and he hadn’t strayed previously in 20 years of marriage. He is like a new man now and I very much doubt I will be his last affair through IllicitEncounters.com.”

Affair number 3

Louise said: “This is a gorgeous property tycoon I’ve been seeing for few years who has a very high sex drive and is in an open relationship with his wife. He is one of those men who would find it impossible to stay faithful to any woman. He loves his wife and they have a fantastic sex life. It’s so good that he wants to replicate that excitement with other women. His wife also has affairs, too –  it suits them both. The one rule that they have is that they are both upfront with each other and never lie when they are seeing other people.”

Louise has two children aged 17 and 12 who she shields from her affairs.

She believes that experimenting with open relationships is the secret to long-term happiness.

She runs seminars for couples and singles to speak openly about their fantasies and what they want from sex through her company Future Love.

Attendees then have the option of attending events where they can have sex with other partygoers.

She added: “Around 60% of couples will experience cheating in their relationship. If they were more open about sex, there would be much less betrayal. That is the message I am trying to get across in the events that I hold.”

IllicitEncounters.com spokesman Christian Grant said: “Post-Valentine’s is one of the busiest times of the year for us with a 20% rise in registration – we see similar surges after Christmas and the summer holidays.

“Louise is a fairly typical of our female members – sexually drive women who looking to meet wealthy men for passion and excitement.”

NOTES TO EDITOR

IllicitEncounters.com is the UK’s leading dating website for married people and the leading authority on infidelity. With over 1,000,000 genuine UK users since 2004, you’re sure to find your perfect match.

Established in 2004, we have been providing a meeting place for like-minded married and attached people for nearly 12 years. Our members have one thing in common – they are all looking for a little romance outside their current relationship. Whether that’s the occasional bit of flirtatious chat, a regular coffee date, or a full-blown affair, that’s up to them.

We’re always more than happy to talk about IllicitEncounters.com – please contact Christian Grant through the details below – but we’re not willing to speak publicly about SaraHartley.net at this moment in time.

Email: presspr@illicitencounters.co.uk

Tel: 020 7729 6098

Twitter: @cheatsafer

• Red Tuesday, 13th February, is the day you’re most likely to get dumped in 2018
• 35% of married people have broken up with their partner in the week leading up to Valentine’s Day
• Of that 35%, 50% broke up with their partner on the Tuesday before Valentine’s Day, and 6% on the day itself
• 49% broke up face-to-face, 29% over the phone/text, 20% over social media, and 4% got their friends or family to do their dirty work
• The results come from a survey of 1,300 people on IllicitEncounters.com, the UK’s leading dating website for married people

I hope you’ve kept the receipt for that Belgian chocolate and the diamond earrings, because it looks like you might need it

IllicitEncounters.com, the UK’s leading dating website for married people and the leading authority on infidelity, can reveal that you’re more likely to be dumped on the Tuesday before Valentine’s Day than on any other day of the year.

‘Red Tuesday’, as it’s been dubbed, sees couples terminate their relationship on the eve of the most romantic day of the year.

The site surveyed 1,300 of its members, with over a third (35%) stating that they’ve broken up with their partner on or in the week leading up to Valentine’s Day.

Of that 35%, 50% broke up with their partner on the Tuesday before Valentine’s Day, with the 44% ending things in the week leading up to the big day.

That leaves 6% who had the gall to break up with their partner on Valentine’s Day itself.

While the timing might not be ideal, 49% did muster the courage to break up with their partner face-to-face. Unfortunately, that leaves 29% who did the deed by text, over the phone, or an instant messaging service such as WhatsApp.

Somehow, 20% decided that social media was the best way to end things, and 4% left it to a friend or family member to break the bad news to their partner.

The site’s spokesperson, Christian Grant, explains why so many people save the heartbreak on the most romantic day of the year:

“You’ve likely been thinking about it for a while. You don’t wake up on an average Tuesday morning, have an epiphany, and then decide to end things with your significant other – that’s not how life works.

“But, it’s likely you’ve been too scared to pull the trigger, waiting so long for the right moment that it’s been and gone several times.

“In short, the pressure of Valentine’s Day proves to be too much. What if your partner buys you something incredibly expensive? What if they take you on a romantic getaway? What if, God forbid, they propose?

“Letting your partner down is likely to be painful for everyone involved, but all of those scenarios could be much, much worse, and you’ve delayed the decision for so long now that you’ve only got one last chance to end things, and this year, that’s Tuesday 13th – Red Tuesday.”

NOTES TO EDITOR

IllicitEncounters.com is the UK’s leading dating website for married people and the leading authority on infidelity. With over 1,000,000 genuine UK users since 2004, you’re sure to find your perfect match.

Established in 2004, we have been providing a meeting place for like-minded married and attached people for nearly 12 years. Our members have one thing in common – they are all looking for a little romance outside their current relationship. Whether that’s the occasional bit of flirtatious chat, a regular coffee date, or a full-blown affair, that’s up to them.

We’re always more than happy to talk about IllicitEncounters.com – please contact Christian Grant through the details below – but we’re not willing to speak publicly about SaraHartley.net at this moment in time.

Email: presspr@illicitencounters.co.uk

Tel: 020 7729 6098

Twitter: @cheatsafer

• Vegans and vegetarians are more likely to cheat on you than meat-eaters
• The cheating habits of 1,000 veggies/vegans and 1,000 meat eaters on IllicitEncounters.com,  the UK’s leading dating website for married people, were studied, with veggies and vegans surpassing their meat-eating counterparts in every aspect
• Vegans and veggies engage in an average of four affairs a year, lasting roughly 5 months each, and just 55% show remorse or guilt for their actions
• By comparison, meat eaters have just 3 affairs per year, lasting 2 months, with 87% showing guilt or remorse for their actions
• With vegetarians and vegans denying themselves meat, it’s unlikely that they’ll place any further restrictions on their lifestyle, meaning they’re more likely to stray should the opportunity arise

Clean eaters, mean cheaters. While vegans and vegetarians take pride in healthy living, scratching the surface a little reveals that all is not as it seems.

IllicitEncounters.com, the UK’s leading dating website for married people and the leading authority on infidelity, surveyed over 1,000 of their members who are either vegetarian or vegan.

As it turns out, veggies and vegans, on average, engage in four affairs a year, sometimes juggling more than one at a time. Their affairs also tend to last as much as 5 months each time.

They’re startling numbers, but the cheaters themselves aren’t alarmed. In fact, just 55% of veggies/vegans admitted to feeling remorseful or guilty about any of their affairs.

Interestingly, 38% admitted to cheating on their diet on multiple occasions, showing that they’re not necessarily able to resist temptation.

The site also surveyed 1,000 of its members who have no dietary restrictions, and as it turns out, they’re nowhere near as bad as their plant-eating counterparts. To be precise, they engage in just 3 affairs per year, not 5, with the average affair lasting around 2 months, less than half the 5 months for vegetarians and vegans.

To top it off, a whopping 87% of cheating meat eaters are guilt-ridden, compared to the aforementioned 55% of veggies/vegans.

The site’s spokesperson, Christian Grant, explains why this may be:

“The majority of vegetarians and vegans choose not to eat for their love of animals, and less so because of their objection to the taste of meat itself. By refusing themselves a pleasure that, arguably, is a natural human desire, they not only attain a higher level of moral superiority, they’re less likely to allow restrictions in other aspects of their lives.

“Their pent up tensions can’t be contained forever, and there’s only so many restrictions anyone is willing to place upon themselves. Evidently, a monogamous relationship isn’t one of them.”

NOTES TO EDITOR

IllicitEncounters.com is the UK’s leading dating website for married people and the leading authority on infidelity. With over 1,000,000 genuine UK users since 2004, you’re sure to find your perfect match.

Established in 2004, we have been providing a meeting place for like-minded married and attached people for nearly 12 years. Our members have one thing in common – they are all looking for a little romance outside their current relationship. Whether that’s the occasional bit of flirtatious chat, a regular coffee date, or a full-blown affair, that’s up to them.

We’re always more than happy to talk about IllicitEncounters.com – please contact Christian Grant through the details below – but we’re not willing to speak publicly about SaraHartley.net at this moment in time.

Email: presspr@illicitencounters.co.uk

Tel: 020 7729 6098

Twitter: @cheatsafer

 

* Gweneth is bedding an international jeweller, a high-flying stockbroker and a powerful banker at the same time;

* She will see all three separately in the run-up to February 14th but they will be with their wives on Valentine’s Day;

* Gweneth has had 100 affairs with married men in the last decade and shows no signs of slowing down;

* The 47-year-old widow meets her lovers through IllicitEncounters.com, Britain’s leading dating website for married people;

* It boasts lots of wealthy male members with an average income of £52,000

 

Britain’s most prolific mistress Gweneth Lee has told how she is juggling three affairs with married men for Valentine’s Day.

The 47-year-old beauty is bedding an international jeweller, a high-flying stockbroker and a powerful banker at the same time.

She will spend different nights with all three over the next two weeks in the build-up to the most romantic day of the year.

But she will be all alone on February 14th because her three lovers will be with their wives.

Business consultant Gweneth, of Chelsea, West London, said: “Valentine’s is the best time of year to be a mistress because you are lavished with sex and presents.

“Married men may make a fuss of their wives on February 14th but they spend a lot more money on their mistresses.

“In my experience the gift to the mistress tends to cost double whatever they give to the wife, and it is far sexier.

“I’ve been a wife on Valentine’s Day, when I was married to my late oil executive husband, and all I can say is that being a mistress is a lot more fun.”

All three of Gweneth’s lovers are aware that she is seeing them on an ‘non-exclusive’ basis and that they will be sharing her with other married men in the run-up to Valentine’s.

It means she has been busy juggling her diary to make sure that her lovers get the attention they deserve.

She met all three men on IllicitEncounters.com, Britain’s leading dating website for married people.

It attracts a wealthy clientele and the average annual income of male members is £52,000 – around double the national average.

It boasts many high-flying multi-millionaires in its client base.

Affair number 1 – the international jeweller

Gweneth said: “This will probably be the most fun of the three dates because my lover is a real party animal.

“But before we crack open the champagne we’ll head off to Bond Street in London for a shopping trip.

“He is an international jeweller with quite exquisite taste and he obviously has the connections to pick the very finest pieces at the very best prices. I have been seeing him on and off for a few years and in the past he has bought me the most beautiful pearls and a gorgeous necklace from Tiffany. I cannot wait to see what we will choose this year.

“After that, it will be back to one of his favourite hotels – Claridge’s or the Savoy. He is in London about six times a year and I am his girl in the capital. I am pretty sure that he has my equivalents in Paris, Milan, New York and some of the other great capitals of the world where he travels on business.

“He is in his 50s and enjoys a good sex life with his wife. But he is very, very highly sexed and enjoys having discreet affairs when he is away on business. I’ve booked him in for early February – my first Valentine’s treat!”

Affair number 2 – the high-flying stockbroker

Gweneth said: “He is in his 40s and lives in the Home Counties with his wife and three children. The kids are all still at school and his wife’s energies go into bringing them up – leaving little time for passion with her husband. That is where I come in.

“He stays at their flat in the City around three times a week. He loves lingerie so I am looking forward to lots of beautiful Agent Provocateur as a present. The one condition being that I wear every piece while we enjoy oysters, champagne and lots of delicious strawberries. It is going to be an exhausting night.”

Affair number 3 – the powerful banker

Gweneth said: “I don’t know what it is about the City and sex but most of my married lovers have worked around the Square Mile.

“My third Valentine’s lover is the kinkiest of the lot. He is like my very own Christian Grey from Fifty Shades of Grey and likes to set up his own Red Room of Pain just for me with all sorts of floggers, spankers and riding crops. You won’t be surprised to learn that one of his weekend hobbies is hunting. He is so highly sexed that our little trysts often start in the restaurant before we head back to the hotel. He has been in the Mile High Club with several different women and is always look at ways to spice up his high-pressured life.

“He is also married with teenage children. He is devoted to his wife but no woman would be able to keep up with his sex drive. He sees me and several other women in London. We know that we are never going to keep him on an exclusive basis because he is absolutely gorgeous, easily the best-looking of my three lovers.”

Gweneth feels no guilt over her affairs – and says she is helping to keep their marriages together.

She explained: “The sad truth is that monogamy is unnatural. Who decided that it was good idea to commit to one person in your 20s or 30s and then stay with them for the next 50 years? Where is the fun in that? Inevitably the sex is going to go stale.

“Go out on Valentine’s night and you will see thousands of couples staring at each other vacantly over dinner. They have very little in common, sex has become a routine and they have stayed together for the sake of the kids or because it is too expensive to divorce.

“They could get a new lease of life by signing up to a site like IllicitEncounters.com, where like-minded married people can date each other, safe in the knowledge that they will have some fun but no one is going to get hurt and start demanding a divorce.”

llicitEncounters.com spokesman Christian Grant said Gweneth was typical of the women on the site which has a 45-55 female/male split.

He said that Valentine’s was one of the busiest times of the year for IllicitEncounters.com.

“Valentine’s may be the most romantic day of the year but it can also brutally expose the weaknesses in a relationship and the lack of sex, intimacy and fun,” he said.

“Lots of people use Valentine’s to reassess their lives and make a decisive change by signing up to a site like ours.

“We are an outlet for men and women who would have an affair whether we were there or not. In coming to us, they can be assured of meeting a like-minded partner seeking some added excitement in their life who doesn’t want to upset things at home.”

Every week, around 20,000 people in the UK are having affairs on IllicitEncounters.com.

More than one million people have registered with the site since it started in 2003 and the highest proportion of members are wealthy people in London and the Home Counties.

NOTES TO EDITOR

IllicitEncounters.com is the UK’s leading dating website for married people and the leading authority on infidelity. With over 1,000,000 genuine UK users since 2004, you’re sure to find your perfect match.

Established in 2004, we have been providing a meeting place for like-minded married and attached people for nearly 12 years. Our members have one thing in common – they are all looking for a little romance outside their current relationship. Whether that’s the occasional bit of flirtatious chat, a regular coffee date, or a full-blown affair, that’s up to them.

We’re always more than happy to talk about IllicitEncounters.com – please contact Christian Grant through the details below – but we’re not willing to speak publicly about SaraHartley.net at this moment in time.

Email: presspr@illicitencounters.co.uk

Tel: 020 7729 6098

Twitter: @cheatsafer

• If your parents have cheated, you’re significantly more likely to cheat yourself
• 75% of female adulterers and 67% of male adulterers have at least one parent who has had an affair
• If both of your parents have cheated, the likelihood of you cheating soars; 90% of women and 86% of men with two cheating parents are cheaters themselves
• 51% of women and 44% of men said that their parents were happy and successful, even in spite of their affair, so they saw no reason not to do the same
• The results come from a survey of over 1,000 men and women on IllicitEncounters.com, the UK’s leading dating website for married people

We all inherit certain traits and characteristics from our parents, but could cheating be one of them?

IllicitEncounters.com, the UK’s leading dating website for married people and the leading authority on infidelity, can reveal that over 75% of women and 67% of men who use the site have had at least one parent who has had an affair.

The study, which surveyed over 1,000 men and women ranging from 25 – 65 years of age, found that, when both parents have had an affair, the likelihood of their child cheating skyrockets.

Namely, 90% of women and 86% of men who have had both parents cheat are pursuing an affair themselves.

But there’s more to it than being easily impressionable. 51% of women and 44% of men said that their parents were happy and successful, even in spite of their affair, so they saw no reason to not have their cake and eat it, too.

Katie, an accountant from Birmingham, said:

“My mum had an affair when she was married to my dad, and my dad also cheated with his second wife.

“It didn’t hurt me growing up, but it also didn’t impact my parents’ careers, and they always seemed happy pursuing non-monogamous relationships, so I don’t see why I can’t go down the same avenue.”

Meanwhile, a further 30% of women and 35% of men said that growing up around parents who had cheated made them desensitised to affairs, and normalised the idea of a non-monogamous relationship.

Spokesperson for IllicitEncounters.com, Christian Grant, said:

“Everyone’s childhood shapes who they are when they grow up. And when you happen to grow up around infidelity, it ends up normalising it.

“Not only does it make it seem ok, but if one, or both of your cheating parents, your parents had successful careers and seemed emotionally unscathed, it encourages their offspring to do as they see.

“It trickles down from one generation to another and becomes a cycle that’s difficult to break, but, it’s a cycle that adulterers seemingly don’t want broken.

“As far as they’re concerned, their relationships are fulfilling, and the whole situation is normal.”

NOTES TO EDITOR

IllicitEncounters.com is the UK’s leading dating website for married people and the leading authority on infidelity. With over 1,000,000 genuine UK users since 2004, you’re sure to find your perfect match.

Established in 2004, we have been providing a meeting place for like-minded married and attached people for nearly 12 years. Our members have one thing in common – they are all looking for a little romance outside their current relationship. Whether that’s the occasional bit of flirtatious chat, a regular coffee date, or a full-blown affair, that’s up to them.

We’re always more than happy to talk about IllicitEncounters.com – please contact Christian Grant through the details below – but we’re not willing to speak publicly about SaraHartley.net at this moment in time.

Email: presspr@illicitencounters.co.uk

Tel: 020 7729 6098

Twitter: @cheatsafer