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1633195 - 19 Mar, 2024 - 12:11PM

I have met two women on IE the last time I tried it. Both ok in chat, but face to face, their “issues” quickly came out and their lives were one dead dog short of a Country song. I guess what you have to ask yourself, is this worth it? If it is, jump right in, if not politely and gently move on and hope for the best next time.

Tillymintz - 19 Mar, 2024 - 11:06AM

I just reply with a link to a good therapist and move on... harsh, but saves me the headache further down the line!

DavisJensen - 19 Mar, 2024 - 09:28AM

I have a different question, regarding etiquette on here. I am polite and respectful of every person I contact on here, mindful they may not find me their cup of tea or vice versa. Is it normal that women would just block you early into a conversation after replying to your message. I should be clear, I had said nothing controversial, not even beyond the "how is your day" stage. If you are not interested in someone, do you just BLOCK them so they cannot reply? I find that rude and bit weird, no?

Originalbadboy - 19 Mar, 2024 - 09:14AM

It is indeed a turn off but the fact that someone lets that overspill is also worrying
Let’s face things like not swapping pics after agreeing to are emotionally very difficult to cope with
We are trying to reason the unreasonable
Nobody is going to declare up front that once comfortable here comes my emotional baggage

1575033 - 07 Mar, 2024 - 09:10PM

I cannot imagine why anyone would be interested in any baggage I might have.
Best to have a coffee meet for 5 minutes, addresses all sorts of issues both ways.
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Enigma.. - 06 Mar, 2024 - 09:18AM

I have to admit that I’ve been chatting to a couple of males and things were looking positive.
Yes… finally someone who can chat about more than just the weather lol.
Then a few days down the line it all changes and they have started moaning about their wife, family, friends, work and other situations in their lives.
It really is off putting.
I’m on here to find someone and someone positive at that.
I do not want someone else’s emotional baggage dumped at my door… so to speak.
I apologise for being so blunt but that’s the way I feel.
Like it or not 🤷🏼‍♀️.

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Ssrah 2.1 - 06 Mar, 2024 - 12:50AM

It's never happened to me on here. But if it ever did I'd wrap it up pretty quickly🙂. Who wants to know about the mundane, everyday stuff - this should be about the very opposite.

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Monicas55 - 05 Mar, 2024 - 01:49PM

Yes absolutely feel the same.

Paula99 - 01 Mar, 2024 - 11:47AM

Fluffy and Hope …

I agree with both of you..unfortunately if you have a sixth sense …or as my husband says to the kids …your mum can see around corners…then it’s difficult to be objective take a leap of faith with someone..
Lots of guys seem to fill their lives up with too many elements…work/family/ hobbies/ parents/ sports/ pastimes etc etc ....but as it has been said …we do end up as a support network because they become complacent and then they start searching on IE but have no idea how they will fit another woman in their lives …if they can’t organise their own ..women don’t want pen pals or do they want to be listening to anything work related or the reasons why the marriage has gone tits up..we have enough drama in our lives as it is …😔
IE is escape …..let’s do it 👍

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1575033 - 01 Mar, 2024 - 10:54AM

From my point of view an IE is for additional recreation and comfort and is best used for that, not to make up for inadequacies elsewhere.
Some escapism, being the real you without the baggage that has become you.
Sexually enjoying what you feel you cannot when mixed with "married" life.
Occasional unloading can help but nothing heavy.
An IE can remind you what / who you are and not what you have got used to and assist in a readjustment. ( Advert by me ends)