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Silvertone - 29 Apr, 2025 - 10:26PM

You never want to be bumping trollies in the same Tesco (that's not a euphemism) but at the same time, unless you want to only meet occasionally anything where you have to each drive more than 30 mins can be such a time suck - if you have a window of 4 hours to escape a quarter of that is driving back and forth

A long lasting affair needs a healthy dose of pragmatism, and logistics are a big part of that

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Northernadveturer!? - 29 Apr, 2025 - 06:43PM

I have think an hour radius is maximum how can it work otherwise

Cheryl Kim - 29 Apr, 2025 - 04:24PM

Sometimes when the other party says no, it is a no. Be it distance, age, or other reasons they feel there is a mismatch. No need to try and change minds. We all know what works for us.

Paula99 - 29 Apr, 2025 - 03:53PM

Location is very important….


It’s wear and tear on your vehicles as well as tyres/fuel and mileage …

The major factor is …if I had an accident/broke down how do I explain where I was ..

For those who drive for their profession …all over the uk it’s seems simple but ….

Journey time cuts down on your time spent in bed….why have a dog and bark yourself ?

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MutualFun99 - 29 Apr, 2025 - 03:46PM

Realistically I don’t think a large geographical distance works for a successful IE situation. However some distance - say 30 to 60 mins travel time - may help keep things more discreet.

If you are getting approaches from IEs from other parts of the country then it’s likely they are looking for a hook up rather than a longer term affair.

Davidnormal - 29 Apr, 2025 - 03:01PM

Maybe it's me but I often find that ladies seem to prefer something quite local eg don't message me if you live more than 20 minutes away. It rather reduces the options, plus more likely to be spotted by someone one of you knows. Maybe because I'm used to driving a lot for work, and I have very flexible hours (own business) it doesn't bother me at all to drive a couple of hours to meet someone. But I've been turned down flat as being too far away when I could be there in less than an hour and would be happy to be the one who travels furthest. Is this a male/female difference thing?

James1955 - 02 Apr, 2025 - 05:27PM

Well several years ago, I met a lady though fab swingers who lived in the Cotswolds. Her house was about 70 miles from mine in Slough. She couldnt accomodate, (no problem,) but we couldnt be seen in the local villages either, so I met her in a quiet local area and took off to either Cheltenham or Gloucester, On my quite quick motorbike I could get to her village in an hour, but with additional travelling it made about 1.5hours before we could settle down, in a cafe or wherever. So when we met, about 3 hours out of the day was taken in traveling. (would be more like 5-6 hours in my car) Luckily she loved biking so I even did the trip in sub zero temperatures. We Usually met twice a month. Really put the miles on my bikes. We met for 10 years though. Was great but took serious planning. Sadly she is no longer with us. TBH I Would love a lady who drives and withing say 20 miles, Would enable those impromptue meets. and half way. Where are you Mrs 20 miles away? lol

blackindulgence - 16 Mar, 2025 - 06:05PM

Needs to be min 30 mins to 2 hours away (Subject to attraction and compatibility)

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budgie817 - 16 Mar, 2025 - 04:38PM

Needs to be within practical bounds, miles and miles is less likely to work for people. A little distance is probably a good thing though, saves likelihood of awkward clash of outside lives intersecting and provides a bit of anticipation on the way to meet too. A little distance to me would be a 20 to 45 minute drive away.

ExoticOrchid - 15 Mar, 2025 - 05:00PM

Location Location Location!!!

Distance absolutely matters ... even as a single, I can't just meet up when it suits the man ... singles have lives outside of IE too ... no matter what marrieds think!!!

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