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Distance & IEs

How do you feel about the distance between you and a potential IE? For example, I receive messages from men who live in other parts of the country but travel with work to my area. Personally, it makes me feel like they're looking for a hook up in every port they travel to. Is it better that they live in your county or the next? Can an affair be better and more fulfilling the nearer the person lives?

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Marlen - 25 Jan, 2024 - 02:22AM

Any more than an hour's travel each way is unlikely to work.
That is 2 hours plus 'play' time.
One compromise is a meet in the middle scenario, but depending on this, its still a stress on an IE relationship.

By the same token, don't play in your own garden...Not all affairs end amicably and you really don't want to have to avoid your local amenities

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Paula99 - 02 Jan, 2024 - 08:04PM


Anticipation creates a lot of things ..but travelling long distances puts stress on both parties …it also creates lots of cancellations due to family commitments..
Unless you are both working away for your professions then it could be possible but that scenario is rare as sometime or other you have to go ‘ home ‘

Anticipation just means ‘wet knickers’ / or premature ejaculation when you’re driving …😂😂😂

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Doricles - 02 Jan, 2024 - 01:22PM

Arista - 02 Jan, 2024 - 12:47PM

“Does anticipation create desire...?”

If it doesn’t, then you ought to consider using a PAYG service and not one based on a subscription! 😉

Arista - 02 Jan, 2024 - 12:47PM

Does anticipation create desire...?

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1447655 - 02 Jan, 2024 - 05:45AM

Think twice before you contact a profile that is miles away. Most people here haven't got a clue to begin with, without adding in the complication of distance.

A distance affair is an extreme sport. It massively heightens the desire, but it comes with added risks. Travel adds strain and people don't travel hours just for sex, which increasing the stakes again. The pressure on a first date is increased, infact it puts pressure on every meet to be amazing. Forget meeting up for a quick 'catch-up', spontanaity is impossible, so you better be fabulous at messaging, which most men aren't. You could revert to glorious amounts of sexting, but it's a placebo to the real intimacy of physical connection.

Don't overcomplicated things. It may be an amazing connection you find by clicking on that far flung profile, but if you have to look that far to find a someone it would be better to look in real life for an affair partner than on here.

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Fluffy Sunshine - 23 Dec, 2023 - 09:58AM

Like others have said if your IE is too far, it can then become so infrequent when you see each other, it’s hardly worth it. There again , you don’t want an IE who lives too close as you risk getting caught far more easily.

Everyriver - 22 Dec, 2023 - 05:43PM

In the Scottish highlands ie are never going to be close but at least it not the other end of the uk
Someone in the Highlands would be nice or Moray

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1575033 - 19 Dec, 2023 - 12:47PM

Specific dates are best, up to one hours travel for each party, from experience,
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takidemir - 12 Dec, 2023 - 12:20PM

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1493674 - 12 Dec, 2023 - 10:32AM

There are hardly any ladies within practical meeting distance (40 miles) of me these days, so no IE meets happen anyway.

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