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SecretSt - 10 Mar, 2021 - 12:48PM

In some senses I married inappropriately; and whilst over the years my wife and I have found areas of our marriage and family life where we do match well, our intimate and romantic life has always been poor. I finally fell truly in love with an affaire many years ago; it was the first time that I had been so. It enhanced my self confidence and self worth in all areas of my life including intimately with my wife. If I am honest, to spend a morning in bed with my lover and then to engage in sex with my wife later that evening was the most sexually fulfilling experience that I have ever had.

My wife was far more willing to engage in sex too. I wonder ladies: was this a hormonal phenomenon?

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Mind mover - 13 Feb, 2021 - 10:47PM

Sexual freedom is the right of everyone and anyone that respects you should rejoice in your liberation and empowered situation. Well done for reclaiming what you deserve.

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Jackswong - 11 Feb, 2021 - 09:21AM

Completely relate - there’s something about the familiar that makes it less desirable right? My wife has gone off sex and I found that incredibly damaging to my self image.

Similarly the lady who I had a brief affair with was (in my opinion) incredibly attractive but her husband wasn’t giving her any attention so we found that mutual desire was very positive for us

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1434661 - 11 Feb, 2021 - 08:51AM

In my case, I'm not here as I'm lacking in affection or attention but I have found that there is a kind of power embodiment and sexual energy that carries over into my home life and enhances what I already have with my husband. I truly believe the more you get the more you want and that staves off the sexual hibernation. The more I initiate sex at home the more he wants it too and he reciprocates. There's no harm in reminding your other half that you are a sexual being.

So, I agree with the OP about the power and energy that is derived from this site but I'm not here because I feel unloved or unattractive to my husband. Unfortunately that scares off most guys who want to play the knight in shining armour and save me from a loveless marriage - haha, oops.

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Colsta - 10 Feb, 2021 - 11:50PM

I've had to shield since last March due to medical issues. Its driving me mad, Not had sex for long time & really hate myself & my body, nobody has seen me naked in that time & it brings out my insecurities

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RealAffair - 10 Feb, 2021 - 11:36PM

I had an Italian friend once. He said it was a well known sign when a middle aged man starts to take an interest in his body again, it's a sure sign of a lover.
😂😂😂😂

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jarden - 10 Feb, 2021 - 11:11PM

Yes I definitely relate. Same story is mine but I am still looking here. Can't see any body in my town. Good luck

1434440 - 10 Feb, 2021 - 11:02PM

Elisiea, you’re probably right. I was in my mid twenties when we met and you don’t realise how little life experience you have then. Don’t get me wrong she is a loving and caring person and I do feel really horrible coming on this site but I just don’t really connect with her any more. I have always had a much higher sex drive than her, which has always been a problem. I guess I’ve gone pretty off topic here.

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Chris 14093 - 10 Feb, 2021 - 10:38PM

Onceawish

I guess you married the wrong person and never found the right balance. Maybe I was lucky in never lacking affection, I gave as much as I received for more than 40yrs, which is probably why I’m now looking on this site as am missing it so much. Good luck.

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Fun+flirty - 10 Feb, 2021 - 09:37PM

Yes I can definitely relate