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Marlen - 24 Feb, 2024 - 04:07AM

It could be argued that there is no cardinal rule?

I mean, if you're 'cheating', you've already broken rules....so why would you follow a Cardinal rule?🤣

Everyone is different, but it makes sense to establish a framework or boundaries that you can enjoy in your 'illicit bubble'

I like the term bubble because it is a perfect shape, appealing, light and goes with the flow. It can flex, slightly, but is delicate... Too much tension or pressure and its gone forever. Quite apt for an affair...😁

Suzanne1983 - 21 Feb, 2024 - 09:30AM

Its amazing how many people say trust, honesty and comunication but many dont do it. There seems to be 2 types of people here, ones that respect we all deserve to have the type of affair we want and hooefully find a like minded partner and the other half say and do whatever they think will get them what they want.

Its frustrustrating.

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1650790 - 21 Feb, 2024 - 08:12AM

I’m reminded of this quote: “The first rule of Fight Club is you do not talk about Fight Club”

Paula99 - 21 Feb, 2024 - 05:27AM

There are no hard n fast rules ..😁

Is there a cardinal rule or are there more than one ?🧐

RichTee540 - 20 Feb, 2024 - 11:14PM

Don’t get caught

Dragonborn - 19 Feb, 2024 - 10:53PM

"Anyone can start an affair. To end one it takes a genius" ... or so I've herd.

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James with the bluest eyes - 16 Feb, 2024 - 11:11AM

Be open, honest, have and agree some ground rules, excellent communication, be kind, discreet and have respect.
It is always good to talk but more so to listen.

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1649595 - 14 Feb, 2024 - 09:57PM

trust 100%
you are both risking so much

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marklondonengland - 13 Feb, 2024 - 12:17PM

Good honest communication is better. Regardless of your marital status, if you are entering into an IE relationship then be open about what you want and what you expect - to ensure that both sides feel the same. If you match on this then there is no reason why it can't last for years. Good honest communication is also important as a lover - you can directly and openly ask what your IE partner likes or wants when you are in a sexy hotel room ... encouraging the type of confession or fantasy that is harder with a married partner who complains about the gas bill being too high...

Marlen - 13 Feb, 2024 - 06:23AM

Surely, the cardinal rule is 'Don't get caught?'

For an affair to be successful, it has to be clandestine, for one if not both unless you have an open relationship.

The second rule has to be honesty in the communication. An affair should be more than just sating physical desires...its far more satisfying and likely to go the distance, if you have a mental connection that comes from communication that is so often missing from legitimate relationships.

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