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1377030 - 01 May, 2020 - 05:04PM

@cuty0987 - Thank you for the recommendation. And yes.. I have taken to ‘extra cool breeze’ chewing gum and lipbalm travelling everywhere with me these dates. Lol 😂

@flitryfun - I fully empathise with you there.. it’s just pathetic when someone ghosts you like that. It really can shake your confidence. (And I only wish I was closer to Warrington and the other side 👇 of 40 to be even close to being a match for you.. you sound like a keeper. Mwah 😘)

1377030 - 01 May, 2020 - 05:04PM

@cuty0987 - Thank you for the recommendation. And yes.. I have taken to ‘extra cool breeze’ chewing gum and lipbalm travelling everywhere with me these dates. Lol 😂

@flitryfun - I fully empathise with you there.. it’s just pathetic when someone ghosts you like that. It really can shake your confidence. (And I only wish I was closer to Warrington and the other side 👇 of 40 to be even close to being a match for you.. you sound like a keeper. Mwah 😘)

685037 - 01 May, 2020 - 04:57PM

Can I recommend a very, very saucy book I've written called
Before It's Too late by James Scott-Monmouth (my pen name)
It's available on Amazon as a Kindle book and although not autobiographical, it is based on my personal experience and, as you'll discover if you read the book, I've had a lot of fun !!!

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Cutie0987 - 01 May, 2020 - 04:55PM

1377030 - 01 May, 2020 - 04:52PM

@Bedfordbeauty - I just read your profile.. you sound lovely, but you’re not getting the best of ‘you’ across in your wording.. delete the bits about what didn’t work last time (it’s in the past). Now pretend that I (or George Clooney if that floats your boat more) am standing in front of you but I’m blind.... describe how you look, how you wear your hair, what clothes/style you like to wear. You said you’re self-employed, so pragmatically, when are you available to get away for a liaison?.. and what’s a perfect date? And maybe invite more responses by broadening your scope from 60-64 to include maybe 55 - 66 year old guys - you might be surprised by how suitable one might be outside of the norm.
Please please only see my comment as an observation - if I didn’t care, I wouldn’t bother.. I’d LOVE for you to get discovered by that guy who just needs to ‘see’ the real you in absence of a pic. xx

flitryfun - 01 May, 2020 - 04:46PM

My biggest upset on the pics front is when someone asks fir your password and then dusappears guys just be a gent if your not interested just say instead of falling off the face of the earth and leaving someone hanging on

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Cutie0987 - 01 May, 2020 - 04:45PM

Cookielover

I would recommend one of Tom Ford's scents, bloody irresistible oh and make sure your breath is minty fresh for all the kissing you will be doing 😁👍🏽👍🏽

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Lillib - 01 May, 2020 - 04:36PM

This is also my 1st on IE and I thought the 1st day will be the last, I learnt quickly. You connect with someone and they do or so you think. You start exchanging pics, I mean lots of pics ....... and they disappear on you. Guys are you for real. Is one pic not enough to decide. Now I’m taking my time and open. Please don’t say hi if you are not patient after allwith the lockdown it’s only texts and others .....

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1323413 - 01 May, 2020 - 04:34PM

Ok let’s be honest... whose chats have progressed that quickly that the first date was more than just coffee

Comes across as a man thing but a lot of women are the same. The chemistry has to be there of course as for me that’s viral. Get the anticipation going and blood pumping 😈

1377030 - 01 May, 2020 - 04:33PM

My mid-year resolution is to start wearing a scent.. I was struck by the number of ladies on IE who want their ‘ideal partner’ to smell great. And I do like to please 😉🤦‍♂️

Now to clarify, I shower (and groom) at LEAST once a day, so don’t have any issues in that respect, and have always shunned overly-perfumed scents as I really appreciate the taste and aroma of food when I’m cooking (or a woman’s perfume if she’s in my arms.. mwah xx).

So.. does anyone have a recommendation of which scent I should choose?

1377030 - 01 May, 2020 - 04:33PM

My mid-year resolution is to start wearing a scent.. I was struck by the number of ladies on IE who want their ‘ideal partner’ to smell great. And I do like to please 😉🤦‍♂️

Now to clarify, I shower (and groom) at LEAST once a day, so don’t have any issues in that respect, and have always shunned overly-perfumed scents as I really appreciate the taste and aroma of food when I’m cooking (or a woman’s perfume if she’s in my arms.. mwah xx).

So.. does anyone have a recommendation of which scent I should choose?

ExoticOrchid - 01 May, 2020 - 04:27PM

Arabelle / MrsMinxy

I'm 63 and not a perfect 10 … speaking from experience, believe me, there IS hope!!! ;-)

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1328172 - 01 May, 2020 - 04:26PM

I have found lockdown quite difficult to start anything
I prefer to talk to someone for 2 weeks and then meet for a coffee to know it's going to go somewhere.
I know I want a mental connection but also there has to be some sexual chemistry

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1382603 - 01 May, 2020 - 04:22PM

Comes to the point where even locked together there is no sex and then the rows of frustration. Thank God for a Man Cave!!!

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wandering5tar - 01 May, 2020 - 04:17PM

sugarissweet - well in an ideal world yes, we can have lot of different perfect matches. But given these things take time and effort to make work, I would find it very difficult to maintain more than say, 5 or 6 affairs at the same time...

(Just joking before the hate mail starts...)

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1360475 - 01 May, 2020 - 04:15PM

Hi all ...
Why do some people get all the luck or is it just me , maybe mot doing or saying the right thing !!!...
I came here last year , spent a few months trying to find " the one " with no luck even though came very close , and now on deciding to give it another go here I am again , but after 2 months , still nothing ...sp now what ??

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1376887 - 01 May, 2020 - 04:14PM

@MrsMinxy oh dear I’m over 50 and not a size 10. I can’t even jump off a wardrobe and do the splits, so I’ve got no hope. :)

In theory there should be someone here for everyone.

Cutie0987 - 01 May, 2020 - 04:12PM

An affair can be a wonderful and fulfilling way to discover a different version of yourself so I say go for it. 🙂
I would say it's important that you bear in mind that many guys are only into cybersex and erotic chat. As someone who wants a real affair you might find that's not a straightforward ask.
But I suppose that implies that patience as a virtue is imperative.

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1228081 - 01 May, 2020 - 04:09PM

@mrsminxy

Being “perfect 10“ at 50 ? Without the help of plastic surgery is it possible?

We look like we have lived, some people want the looks of a 30 year old and the maturity of a 50 year old.

Always give someone the benefit as people are a compilation of mind and body, not just a face.... I’m comfortable with mine even if it could do with a little bit of an iron.

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Mews0001 - 01 May, 2020 - 04:07PM

Mid year resolution is "keep at it"
I know I am worth it, coz I keep being told, but it seems quite hard to get past that initial barrier.
Hopefully, one day soon!

1222947 - 01 May, 2020 - 04:03PM

Hi all hope you're having a nice afternoon. Just come off a Zoom merting at work to find this place!

I agree with previous comment you can make more than one connection 🙂

1222947 - 01 May, 2020 - 04:02PM

1381713 - 01 May, 2020 - 03:58PM

I think patience is a virtue here - not my 1st time on IE and I've been fortunate to have a couple of affairs wirh really lovely people, however, before finding those elusive connections have had to deal with lots of messaging and rejection once photos are exchanged.

The worst is the hi can I have your password? Happens on both sides but doesn't make it any less rude.

Also the fact that certain people are not completely honest about their age, or shape, I'm no Brad Pitt - and am aware of that, nothing to be ashamed of, as I honestly believe there is a real connection out there for us all.

So my Mid Year resolution is to try and continue to be patient - in the hope that I'll find that connection again.

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Martin.Jay - 01 May, 2020 - 03:57PM

Hey Guys 1st time here. Good afternoon all.

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AAGilfan - 01 May, 2020 - 03:56PM

What is a perfect 10 though Mrs Minxy? Is that referring to a dress size? Anyway, with a sobriquet of Minxy it sounds like you have loads of personality to go with a womanly shape - surely it is the whole package which can make everything up to 10 even if there are a few lumps and bumps which when you look at them (but probably not even noticed by a guy) you feel are in the wrong places or did quite sit right!!

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Ava1Seven - 01 May, 2020 - 03:54PM

wandering - it's about having plenty of perfect people, not just the one ;-) Can't expect everything you need and want from one human being, in fact i would go as far as saying it's selfish to desire that

flitryfun - 01 May, 2020 - 03:54PM

@wandering star i prefercthe phrase if you only ever have vanilla hiw do you know you dont like chocolate

wandering5tar - 01 May, 2020 - 03:48PM

There is some interesting research on the psychology of groups choosing partners. If everyone waits for their perfect match then almost nobody gets a match!

There's a saying, "Great can be the enemy of good"

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1367873 - 01 May, 2020 - 03:41PM

@flirtyfun it's not nice from both males and females cuz eventually you will end up being lonely cuz no one is your type!

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flitryfun - 01 May, 2020 - 03:41PM

My mid year resolution is to find the excitement again im honest in my expectations and am not lookjng for a great live affair just someone to connect with who makes me feel like a desirable woman again not just all the other amazing things i am

ExoticOrchid - 01 May, 2020 - 03:39PM

sweetsinner / Abzeer / Hender74

Not just the women … men has lists just as long, believe me!!!

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tea_coffee_me_ - 01 May, 2020 - 03:37PM

" flitryfun - There are loads of guys on here who are hey how are you can i have your password oh sorry your not my type when if the just took the time to actually have a conversation they might find that there is a connection which is half the attraction"

I have found laughing and chatting with many men great, then they ask for the photo, and no not my type. May be when they do meet it is chemistry wham bam, and bye bye.
None of my relationships have been like that, great communication needed, especially when things do not go the way of a scripted romantic film!

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tea_coffee_me_ - 01 May, 2020 - 03:34PM

Well during house arrest we have just been as busy! (So are a few other families)
Its wonderful not spending 6 hours an evening taxing children to and from all the activities, however as my children have said, how come we are JUST as busy.

Managed to take a few days off over Easter and actually forced the time for a coffee and read a book!! In the sun!!! Just joy! Wine and good adult company would have been better but ...

Yes wish I had a person around the house with time to do all the jobs that keep being put off but ....

Any mid year resolutions would be find other like minded people and live our days as NORMAL, NOT the 'new NORMAL', NORMAL.
(Yes I know that will be disliked by many ... however when you only have a short time left anyway ...)

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flitryfun - 01 May, 2020 - 03:33PM

Sweet sinner i agree but i dont think its just the women on here that are like that.
There are loads of guys on here who are hey how are you can i have your password oh sorry your not my type when if the just took the time to actually have a conversation they might find that there is a connection which is half the attraction

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1374374 - 01 May, 2020 - 03:33PM

@sweetsinner I agree with you. It is more like a tick exercise.

1373861 - 01 May, 2020 - 03:33PM

@sweetsinner ain’t that the truth, you feel pretty bad at home, bad for wanting to improve life and bad cause you can’t tick any boxes to even get a message reply......lol 🤪

Artstudent - 01 May, 2020 - 03:30PM

The coronavirus tracking apps sound somewhat scary. Do I necessarily want the world to know where I was between 3PM and 4PM on Wednesday afternoon?

1262378 - 01 May, 2020 - 03:29PM

Hi all, previously working nights I had my own space to feel lonely in. Now with everyone home, I look forward to that peace I get from being able to work. It also gives me the opportunity to search for whoever she may be. The lady that'll relight the fires and give me the excitement and company I crave. I empathize with people who feel trapped. Good luck to all

1091782 - 01 May, 2020 - 03:28PM

If you're over 50 you'll find it difficult... I certainly do, and not being a perfect 10 doesn't help either 🤦

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1367873 - 01 May, 2020 - 03:27PM

Affairs can be good if it's not just about sexual desires.
From what I noticed that majority of female members have shopping list for men in order to reply back to them
He has to be handsome "obviously", funny, athletic, outgoing, kind, caring, etc etc a long list plus he has to be local cuz they won't travel for an affair.

I am sorry but who will have all these criterias and look for an affair online!!
We have to lower our expectations a bit and be a bit risky cuz that's where all the fun exists.

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Golden Brown446 - 01 May, 2020 - 03:27PM

Stopthebus_ ln part l would agree that there something missing at home if all was good then people wouldn't be here, some people just love the excitement and stimulus plus you can have your cake and eat it without interfering in anyone elses home affairs.

Ava1Seven - 01 May, 2020 - 03:25PM

stopthebus, I agree with u, but also extra things like novelty, and experience. You can't keep things spicy and fresh by trying many new thing at home with the same person, it becomes monotonous, robotic, unexciting.

stopthebus! - 01 May, 2020 - 03:21PM

i think many of us start an affair because of that very loneliness, lockdown has simply amplified it.

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1373861 - 01 May, 2020 - 03:21PM

It’s good to hear people agree with my thoughts, for so long I have felt bad for wanting to feel good

Golden Brown446 - 01 May, 2020 - 03:20PM

LondonOutlier Sounds like a military term, Just be yourself and enjoy this experience whoever will be your other half will appear at some point👍

Golden Brown446 - 01 May, 2020 - 03:17PM

Glyn be yourself and enjoy this experience

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1376887 - 01 May, 2020 - 03:16PM

@hender74 I know exactly what you mean about being lonely even though you aren’t physically alone. It’s an odd concept, but very real.

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Ava1Seven - 01 May, 2020 - 03:16PM

dear anonymous writer.... yes, go for it, an affair is wonderful, lifechanging, bittersweet, but ohhhhh so tasty. Once you have one though, be aware, you'll always want to have one, it brings too much satisfaction. Keeps you on your toes. it's adrenaline i think we all lack sometimes in marriage

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Golden Brown446 - 01 May, 2020 - 03:13PM

Ha l think most of us can, l think we all yearn for tge years when the thought of that person made us excited, having that connection with another certainly energizes you and calms any angry fires you had burning at home. Is it good for a marriage and does it help someone feel alive again.. Honestly l would say it does.

Ava1Seven - 01 May, 2020 - 03:13PM

@Hender74 I can relateeee! Definitly need some more excitement and passion, and with reasonable nice days on and off, I'm dying for some summer drinks on the river with a man that gives me butterflies. Instead, the day to day codundrum of homelife. It is suprisingly more lonely then I'd anticipated. It's good to be able to chat to people in a similar boat.

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Curious_cat - 01 May, 2020 - 03:11PM

Agree with frisky, the first time helps settle any nerves and doubts for you. As does accepting your weaknesses and not beating yourself up about doing this.

1373861 - 01 May, 2020 - 03:10PM

I’m getting out the house through work, but evenings are long and lonely at home with company. I want feel alive again with the excitement of someone new who can turn my world upside down

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SAYSomething x - 01 May, 2020 - 03:07PM

Congrats :-) It's a bit of an ephiphany when you decide you can, and will have that first affair. Liberating.

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LondonOutlier - 01 May, 2020 - 03:03PM

Good afternoon everyone. My name is Glyn and I’ve literally just joined. The site is a bit daunting so any tips gratefully received. 🤷‍♂️🤷‍♂️😬😬

ExoticOrchid - 01 May, 2020 - 03:02PM

If you have made up your mind and you are sure this is what you want/need, then why not … go for it.

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Curious_cat - 01 May, 2020 - 03:02PM

Would love to read your erotica Arabelle

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1373861 - 01 May, 2020 - 03:01PM

Good afternoon everyone.

1272141 - 01 May, 2020 - 02:39PM

It seems we are all finding long lost skills, hobbies. Suddenly we can all knit, make bread, fix the hinges, well the list goes on. But we're just bored and need distracting till normal life resumes.

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1376887 - 01 May, 2020 - 12:38PM

I thoroughly enjoy writing erotica, during lockdown I’ve had the time to get some new ideas. Maybe I’ll try some of them after all this is over.

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Robbieberks - 01 May, 2020 - 11:31AM

The irony is that lockdown totally inhibits any possibility of a reasonably rapid get-together. OK, there’s webcam, picture exchange etc, but it’s not like real physical closeness.

1353301 - 30 Apr, 2020 - 06:10PM

Definitely go for it you only live once !