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1768358 - 16 Apr, 2025 - 09:46PM

From a woman’s point of you … just be you.
Show you have read their profile and just encourage them to visit yours without anything ott
A generic message that’s used for all is obvious and off putting. Short and sweet is best

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Man_Alive_2025 - 16 Apr, 2025 - 01:06PM

I tend not to ask any questions in my first message other than to say something like why not take a look at me?

But before that I’ll have read their profile carefully and will only message if I think I suit them and they suit me. And in my message I’ll make it obvious I’ve read their profile and I’m making contact because I think we’re looking for similar things.

So what I think I’m saying is don’t be generic, and tailor your message to the person you’re writing to

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SirrahNek - 16 Apr, 2025 - 12:40PM

I think that the first thing to accept is that you are just another guy in the queue. We all are.

The next thing to accept is that all women are different, with different needs and different dreams. There may be questions that one person wants to be asked that are absolutely out of the question for another. One size does not fit all.

Read the profiles carefully. Read between the lines. Ask questions accordingly. But don’t expect that you’ll magically jump any queues - that’s not your decision to make!

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