How much is too much?
Does anyone else find it drags you down when you are chatting to someone, it's going well, and then they commence to dump their emotional baggage onto you? Complaining about their life choices, their wife/husband, their problems at home, why their partner isn't giving them sex, their kids, their relatives? Particularly when you've not even met? Turn off?
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Funnyrabbit - 20 May, 2025 - 12:01PM
Yes it’s a turn off, I’m a good listener and maybe that can make things worse?
I think this site should be used as a way to forget those things for a while
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Paula99 - 11 May, 2025 - 08:02AM
You will be surprised how many men ‘list’ their wives faults …
If they think it’s only the other half that’s got the issues then they are delusional…..it’s a two way street here..🙄
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rarity23 - 10 May, 2025 - 11:59PM
Yes that does sound a bit much, especially if you haven't met yet !!
I get that everyone needs that support network for somethings, if you can't necessarily discuss marriage issues with friends or family
jack5830 - 06 May, 2025 - 10:50PM
I couldn't live with that. As others have said, we are here to escape that and build a separate relationship.
If someone starts dumping on me I'll be out pretty quick.
marklondonengland - 06 May, 2025 - 06:36PM
There is no simple answer to this. As you get closer, you will share many of the reasons that led you to IE. However, at the point where it's no longer fun to talk because one is treating the other like a free therapist then you need to say 'time out - remember this is supposed to be fun?' There is nothing wrong in sharing a bit more information than sexual preferences, but who really wants to hear about why your partner isn't interested in oral sex?
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1782517 - 06 May, 2025 - 04:09PM
Surely being here is an escape from home life. So leave home life there?
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MagicMouse321 - 06 May, 2025 - 03:59PM
Without the bitter, the sweet isn’t as sweet!
I have to ask what their issues are in their current situation, it gives you an idea of their context, and whether you can relate.
If they go on too much…change the subject, you can change it to a better subject where you both can enjoy. Perhaps your next meet up?
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Here we go 693 - 06 May, 2025 - 12:24PM
ClassyLadySurrey
I am not suggesting they are, just the one I met. I'm sure the ones like yourself are in the majority. I can see however that having an affair might be just enough of a diversion to make beingarried to someone bearable. I would also say it probably works both ways, male and female.
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ClassyLadySurrey - 06 May, 2025 - 11:03AM
Dave I’m the same.. there has to be a balance and how can my IE know about me and my IF they don’t understand why I’m here… Although I’m a rarity I have sex with my husband still
Here we go. Women on here are not. Always looking for an escape. I have kids and will Never Leave my husband…
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