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Archiman - 10 May, 2023 - 09:59PM

The trust and Parry of a bit of witty repartee keeps one on one toes and keeps the mind focused

Happy2BHere1 - 10 May, 2023 - 07:12PM

I'm a man so I like chats that are 99% about you..

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1594530 - 10 May, 2023 - 05:30PM

I’m with enigma and Becky!

I like a bit of fun or flirtatious banter to begin with … confidence and humour are much more likely to peak my interest than the awkward ‘hi, how are you?’ Or the very obvious copy and paste jobs! 🫣

Always serves you well to show you’ve read the profile first!

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Beckysharp - 10 May, 2023 - 03:00PM

I like someone whose communication style matches mine. And funny. Someone who can make me smile. And I look for communication to be matched. I don’t want to feel inundated or like I’m waiting hours or days for a reply

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1598020 - 10 May, 2023 - 02:59PM

I luuurve an essay. Letter writing style with plenty to pick apart and go through. Ridiculous stories, over exaggerated claims, minutiae of mundane occurrences. Lists of questions that need an answer, and taking a while to come up with some witty response

But banter seems a way to grab the attention…

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boav91 - 10 May, 2023 - 01:48PM

What is really interesting from the few comments so far is it is all so dependent on the person. What I think people are really bad at is telling others what they do and don’t want. We presume and infer and expect them to read your mind which is just bloody hard with no signs other than text which can be interpreted so many ways. It is why in real life if it iakes more than two emails to explain something you talk.

Personally I like the banter, the fun, the flirting, the getting to know about the person too but trying to work that all out is hell, just a nightmare. If you are going to be intimate with someone I want to know a little about them and I cannot help the curiosity. Life overlaps, things are not so easily compartmentalised

This so reminds me of being a teenager with no idea what to say to the opposite sex and fumbling around and then crashing and burning. I am nearly 50 and it still seems to be happening. You would have though I had learnt !

I think good communication is key

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MatureWorcsBBW - 10 May, 2023 - 01:01PM

I'm maybe in the minority here but I like interesting and deep conversations.
I love to learn so someone who I can learn something new from, appeals to me.

I'm not looking for a full on comedian, so irritating and pointless banter isn't for me.

If they want sexy chat, there are endless phone sex chatlines who do it so much better than I ever will. I'm not a prude, I just find it boring.

I'm turned on by intellectuals.
I'm turned on by geeks.

If they mention the wife/partner, children, job, golf or their very important job, I'm already hovering over the block button.

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CaptureMe - 10 May, 2023 - 12:35PM

Personally I like both... depends on the other people you're talking to?
Some people can be bloody hard work though and what generally happens to I give up !
Banter works well initially and generally then leads to something deeper

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Pink Eiga - 10 May, 2023 - 11:44AM

Short, sharp banter that reveals the depth of the person, sexual or otherwise. I find myself panting at his feet, to every syllable that comes from him.

As opposed to:

How was your day?
What do you like in bed?
How are you finding this site/any luck yet?
What are you looking for?
Etc etc. No no no no no 🥱

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DriveHarder - 10 May, 2023 - 10:45AM

Diving straight in to intellectual topics straight away is a bit too full on for me, better to have some lighter chat and get to know each other and how each other communicates first is better I think.

Also purely sexual chat is a bit much imo, it’s better to mix it up a little.

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