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1529050 - 15 May, 2023 - 01:20PM

Sandypops - 15 May, 2023 - 01:07PM

I agree about referencing your profile ! You then actually know they are not doing a cut and paste approach

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Sandypops - 15 May, 2023 - 01:07PM

I'm reading this as chatting, after the first message but I can see that a lot of you are referring to the first message.
When it's a first message it has to grab my attention and have some reference to my profile so I know they actually want to message me. Maybe something funny, or genuinely nice, showing me something about their character.
And I'll always reply, ghosting is so rude.
With regards to general chatting, for me I like the chat to just be natural and chat about whatever we feel like. We'll either click or we won't.

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Beckysharp - 15 May, 2023 - 08:45AM

I agree Sally- I actually prefer a quick hello message, than a copy and paste to everyone. I always ignore those!

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bad_sally - 15 May, 2023 - 07:43AM

Big thing for me is chats need to start off with something related to my profile. A generic message that has clearly been sent to everyone will be ignored

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1598020 - 12 May, 2023 - 10:08PM

Paula99…

Revision notes

1. Sprinkles of innuendo
2. Don’t fight against the tide
3. Following the flow = winner winner chicken dinner

Honestly I really should have gotten into this social media malarkey by now. Obliged x

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Paula99 - 12 May, 2023 - 04:41PM

MartiPellow…

Chat can be constructive with a little innuendo and it should flow …not forced .
If the chat is easy then chances are your into a winner😊

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1598742 - 12 May, 2023 - 04:29PM

I do like more detailed chats - it's a good opportunity to test the temperature of the water before diving in.

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1598020 - 12 May, 2023 - 12:16PM

Firstly, just like to say these forums are very interesting! So many great points of view and I’m growing as a person just reading them (no pun intended).

I do just find it hard to keep the cheeky chat going back and forth. I’ve always been used to dum dum duuuurrrrrm just talking to people. Im keeping notes though so hopefully I’ll be a whip crack a way wit, banter, and cheeky chat chappie in no time

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1598765 - 12 May, 2023 - 12:02PM

I'm very new to this site. Joined this week, already deleted and restarted account - mainly because I am not sure I could have an affair with a married man. However the chat on here is far better than the three words + 5 emojis that you get on a standard dating site.
I don't want war and peace, but I do want to think they are interesting and interested in me. For that, you need a few sentences at least.

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idealies - 12 May, 2023 - 11:32AM

I think the best messages come from the heart , passion and thoughtfulness. If they don't have that it feels one way or flat.

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