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Paula99 - 21 May, 2023 - 04:03PM

Prickly pears…

There has to be some communication otherwise you won’t get a feel for the OP ..I do agree you can’t just go on for weeks chatting without a thought about meeting as it rarely happens….you get in the ‘friend zone ‘

Maybe you are a little too prickly 😊

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Johnnylondon - 21 May, 2023 - 07:01AM

@picklepear - I'm rubbish at writting and much better in person but I do agree with Dotty what else would you like the to say? It would be odd (and a little wreckless) if someone messaged me saying don't tell me anything let's just meet.
And even if that did happen, you might turn up and find out you don't like them. Which would be more of a waste of time no?

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1529050 - 18 May, 2023 - 02:26PM

PricklyPears - 18 May, 2023 - 01:15PM

What do you want their messages to say then ?

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PricklyPears - 18 May, 2023 - 01:15PM

Too many chat about their life stories. Sex scenarios. Ridiculous poetic, romantic crap. Days and days chatting. Droning on. Save that for the meet, if you do intend to meet. Arrange a meet. If you don't, stop wasting people's time.

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1582640 - 17 May, 2023 - 02:11PM

I struggle with small-talk such as about how one is or plans for the weekend so if it feels right I’ll seek to skip all that and go deep but it’s not easy. I’m naturally cheeky, daring I suppose but with a stranger it can come over badly.

Does anyone else get regular messages from the same people (unprompted) as if they are actively interested yet the messages don’t really relate to past convos? I get this a bit and cant make out if they are just messing me about.

Got to a point with one I told her I’d made a short vid so she can really ‘get’ me but she messaged saying she was decorating and what am I drinking??

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Baltibob - 17 May, 2023 - 12:20PM

be nice to have a chat. one member told me they wanted to chat, tried to reply and she barred me. Some people are really queer!

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SecretSt - 16 May, 2023 - 11:30AM

The most enjoyable chat that I have experienced (not on IE and which continued for hours over a number of days) occurred because the lady politely stopped me when I overstepped the mark and wrote something that she did not agree with or that was just too rude (sexually).

She had understood that we are all rather in the dark when lines of communication are restricted to text alone and gave me a break when necessary. All I had to do was lock my ego away and apologise and then we were good to go again.

It was all great fun and we quickly built mutual respect and it lead to a very pleasant meeting, although sadly nothing more.

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MrUnfunny - 16 May, 2023 - 10:51AM

Descriptive and intellectual sometimes but banter has its place too

Enigma.. - 16 May, 2023 - 07:07AM

I usually find the best and most interesting first messages often come from male members south of the border.
Unfortunately it always ends the same way.
Me having to apologise and point out that they are not within reasonable travelling distance and that I’m not looking for a pen pal… (Sighs).

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Pink Eiga - 15 May, 2023 - 07:14PM

Sandypops - 15 May, 2023 - 01:07PM

There is definitely a lot in your profile that can be referenced to in the first message. If they don’t, then it’s a no-brainer for a no.

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