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Sandypops - 21 Apr, 2023 - 05:20PM

I was up all night with a friend who needed my help, so definitely think the lack of sleep had me overthinking things. I want the mental connection first and foremost, it makes the physical intimacy so much more.
Had a sleep, read all your great messages, and feel much more positive about everything.
Damn being a Libran, I struggle to choose what to have for dinner 😂😂
Woke up to some lovely messages that gave me butterflies, so just going to embrace the experience and enjoy the journey.
😘

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Max_master - 21 Apr, 2023 - 04:45PM

Isn’t it a bit dependent on the people involved and the inherent chatty-ness quotient of both, without disturbing the life of the other one… once or twice between dates, would that ever get any kind of chemistry going? Am curious …. Not for me

1587581 - 21 Apr, 2023 - 04:42PM

Sandypops,

Like the other replies on here, when you know you'll know.

You will just click with someone and everything falls into place. It's a package though, distance, spark, attraction, personality and great intimacy. The whole works.

I found as I got older the mind became as important as the physical attraction. I need to be attracted to someone metally as well as physically, without both it doesn't work. Sex just becomes a physical function without an intellectual and emotional connection - and whilst the Intellectual and emotional connection can work without intimacy, that just sounds like a marriage to me, and I'm not here for that. I want it all!

I quite quickly figured out I can't see more than one person at once. But others are very different and you may be different again. You may well go the full Carol Vorderman with half a dozen "special friends".

So just do what feels right and accept you might not quite get it right first time.

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Redfirefox - 21 Apr, 2023 - 04:36PM

@WillKr
watch out you’ll be bombarded with messages with offers of coffee in bed Phwoarr

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1582640 - 21 Apr, 2023 - 03:00PM

I think a hundred messages a day, burgeoning with steam and passion

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Pink Eiga - 21 Apr, 2023 - 02:53PM

Sandypops - 21 Apr, 2023 - 12:21PM

You meet as many or as few as you wish. When you know, you know 😊 Lorelai Gilmore just summarised it all.

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1582640 - 21 Apr, 2023 - 02:21PM

Does anyone do coffee in bed as a first meet?

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Eliza Boo - 21 Apr, 2023 - 01:09PM

Sandypops

You've just got to play it by ear and see how it goes. Arrange to meet as many as you can. Within the limits of a busy life this actually can take a fair while, and you'll probably chat to other prospects as you go, filling up the dance-card, so to speak, until you find someone with the 'click' (that's usually the sound of the competition being put-down, or the pin falling out if the hand-grenade as the stable of studs is blown up!) And then you have less interest and energy in harvesting prospects.

Or, you might be naturally polygamous or neither of you want exclusivity, or the distance makes it irregular, or the circumstances are unconventional and you might not have 'one person'. Both solutions are fine.

There's no hard and fast rules. But you've just got to embrace the personal adventure of it! It doesn't always lead where you planned...😉

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Sandypops - 21 Apr, 2023 - 12:21PM

Beckysharp

We've agreed to meet again,

Do I meet everyone and then see how I feel?

Feeling a bit overwhelmed as I'm convinced they won't like me or fancy me in person or I won't like them.

Help 🫣

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Beckysharp - 21 Apr, 2023 - 12:10PM

How was it left after first meet? Sounds like all going well so far!!!