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RebelLady - 12 Apr, 2023 - 12:39PM

At least once a day is my preferred. But it seems to be many a day at the start and then slows down to barely a couple a week.
Hard to sustain the fire I suppose.

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secretdinnerdate - 12 Apr, 2023 - 12:29PM

> Everyone is different

They are ... :-)
I guess if people were the same we wouldnt be here - its what makes life fun.

Weeks without contact would be odd for m - but dont need a continual good morning.

1590175 - 12 Apr, 2023 - 12:27PM

Sometimes you might not have much news, alot of days can be like Groundhog day, same old, same old, so there isn't really much to chat about. Then its in danger of just becoming a token "good morning" and "goodnight". To me that indicates we are just "going through the motions" and its starting to get a little stale.

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1529050 - 12 Apr, 2023 - 12:21PM

secretdinnerdate - 12 Apr, 2023 - 10:20AM

I agree ! of course men can multi task....

Sometimes lack of comms is just the other person is busy or some people are just bothered about messages constantly and only feel the need when there is something to say not just chit chat...

Everyone is different

1529050 - 12 Apr, 2023 - 12:13PM

I used to put a lot of emphasis in to messaging - now I don't

It all just depends, my current we can go days without messaging but it is always ok - although did think I might have done something wrong as not heard for over a week, it was just Easter and being busy tho - nothing wrong at all (and I would never bother him or chase or ask if anything was wrong) Life just gets in the way at times and not everyone is a chatter box like me.

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Beckysharp - 12 Apr, 2023 - 12:10PM

I like to have a conversation about once a week. Even just a few messages over several days. I don’t want good morning messages, but something that demonstrates we have a connection, friendship, shared lives and sense of humour.

Don’t need to hear every day. But if it goes more than a week I start getting… 🤨

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FluffyClouds - 12 Apr, 2023 - 11:21AM

Depends on the dynamics you agree between yourselves. One IE, we used to agree and diary the next meet and not message in between until a week before the meet. Another we messaged every couple of days.

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ttam01 - 12 Apr, 2023 - 11:05AM

Bit of a moot point: my IE experience mostly getting ghosted after personal details harvested. It will vary from couple to couple.I try to ascertain when it's inconvenient for someone to receive/reply to messages (esp if they are possibly at work) as well as when is best to meet in person.Personally, I like to check into IE each day & reply to incoming messages promptly, but knowingly won't pester for replies all the time.Some of my 'silent' favs will have received Easter Greetings from me - just to let them know they are on my mind & I'd love to chat online with a view to meeting them

405640 - 12 Apr, 2023 - 10:32AM

It surely depends on person to person. Some people are looking for very casual encounters and others are craving/needing more attention

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secretdinnerdate - 12 Apr, 2023 - 10:20AM

@Jacksonpollock101

> Got to remember a man can't multitask very well so too many things to do and he will give up and go down the pub.

Who says men cant multi-task very well ? Don't think thats true at all.

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