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1509324 - 30 May, 2022 - 12:14PM

Now that's an interesting topic...

It's certainly possible for it to be both, I think. Prior to marriage, I've been in several relationships where infidelity (of both parties) was permitted, within a set of well defined rules, which was pleasurable for all concerned, although difficult emotionally at times. This was a choice made in the mind, and somewhere else which wasn't the heart. Although, was it infidelity?

Post marriage, it's been both. Given the stakes, the mind has to be involved in making a conscious choice and managing the attendant risks. Inevitably, and desirably, the heart must get involved though - I'm not sure many of us are here for just for the mechanics, but more, perhaps, for the passion, the exhileration and the joy, which for me at least require a connection of both the mind and heart.

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Kitten55 - 30 May, 2022 - 11:53AM

Sorry to go off topic, very much a newbie here trying to work things out but I wondered if there are any ladies interested in getting involved with another ladie, alone as one of three or a group. Looking for attractive girl willing to be adventurous- to stay on topic it’s not cheating if it’s same sex surely 😉 ideally would be 20’s 30’s or early 40’s and attractive and well groomed - can offer same and 36FF and a teasing mind

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1525716 - 30 May, 2022 - 11:36AM

*makes us human.
Oops got cut off there! ;)

1525632 - 30 May, 2022 - 11:26AM

Like the taoist view of the Taiji (yin yang) symbol, for your most fulfilling life you should seek to walk that fine line between order and chaos, not straying too far into either.

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1525716 - 30 May, 2022 - 11:16AM

This is a very complex topic and I don't think there is one right answer.

Once upon a time, I thought infidelity is deeply immoral and the ultimate pain one could inflict on a partner. I quickly learned that there are worse things than seeking comfort and solace in someone else.

Is not staying in the relationship a sign of some loyalty? Of commitment? I have seen even the most seemingly 'stuck' in a relationship leave, so excuses like health, money and children can be set aside if we REALLY wanted to leave.

The are always signs even before infidelity takes place. I don't think the other party is as ignorant as presumed. People choose to turn a blind eye, perhaps out of fear or denial... but there would have always been signs. Is the partner not even a little bit accomplice? When they neglect you, overlook the signs? When they chose you knowing what you're like?

The fact we choose to stay and stray to make it bearable, does that really make us so terrible? I don't think so. I think it makes us

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Timonly - 30 May, 2022 - 10:07AM

Blimey..this exciting!

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