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Pink Eiga - 31 May, 2022 - 05:55PM

I love my husband but…….

My IE encounters have stimulated my buttons a lot more than he ever has or will.

Happy woman, happy family 😉

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1511987 - 31 May, 2022 - 10:30AM

I agree, monogamy is a social construct that isn’t meant for all. I had intended to stay monogamous, I did for a very long time, but I was unhappy. If my husnand doesn’t know what I’m doing and it keeps my family together, we are all happier, it doesn’t feel like having something separate to that is wrong.

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discerningfitfun - 31 May, 2022 - 09:19AM

Infidelity is a word derived from the stigmatisation of sex, wider relationships and free will by thousands of years of church and patriarchy.

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Dejavous - 30 May, 2022 - 10:44PM

Infidelity is the betrayal of a trust with your partner which most people on this site are uncomfortable in doing. Reasons for this vary but not wishing to hurt someone you have had a long relationship with is one of them. This is why sites like IE are valuable as it allows you to seek like-minded people who want to be discreet to ensure Infidelity remains a word in the dictionary and not in their home-life.

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Paula99 - 30 May, 2022 - 06:23PM

Your heart is saying stay with your partner because you have a 'stable' relationship ..grown up children..you don't want to change and you have a comfortable life...'infidelity' is in your mind but you crave the feelings that you buried long ago and whatever the reason that forced you to rethink...your status has changed ..love is unconditional and we are programmed to love more than one person...
I have said this in reply to other questions...it is rare to find a couple who have a great marriage/partnership and are compatible in bed..
The cracks show when you have had a lifetime of experiences.. no mortgage...kids have grown up because those were the important reasons that held you together at the time..sex was put on the back burner...
Now you have more time to 'think' about your needs and the sex becomes a priority.
Infidelity IS still in the mind until you develop feelings for your IE then your heart kicks in..
More Mandy Rice-Davies than Christine Keeler.

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1524604 - 30 May, 2022 - 05:53PM

In both ,cause it's the way things were ,but now we all want more and it's at our finger tips thanks to technology. Sex is talk openly now and we dont want second best . We want our cake and eat it

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1236566 - 30 May, 2022 - 04:50PM

Anyone from cumbria in here ?

1490598 - 30 May, 2022 - 02:51PM

Kitten55

There really are much better sites for what you are looking for.

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Tlhwhsos - 30 May, 2022 - 02:43PM

I think we are all complex people and we grow and change over the years and what we liked and tolerated at the beginning may not be as easily tolerable later down the line.

Similarly with billions of people in the world, thinking there is just one person for you is ridiculous, especially as time goes by what you want will change to.

If you have everything you want in a relationship but one part isn't connecting should you just give up. If your partner doesn't like going to the cinema but you love it, do you end the relationship or find a film buddy to see the film. Sex, while more intimate, you could day is no different. If the sex is not there then why not find it somewhere else. If it can be done in a way that hurts no-one but leads you to be happier in your main relationship and therefore improves it, is it a bad thing.

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Salamacis404 - 30 May, 2022 - 12:33PM

Newbie here

I’ve been monogamous for my entire married life, until now. Having tried many ways to re/invigorate my sex life at home, I have finally managed to overcome my guilt and look elsewhere. Infidelity is a very personal choice and individual to every situation. Mind you, I’ve not done it yet!

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