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Paula99 - 01 Apr, 2024 - 03:13PM

Legs and Eyes…

I agree with your statement for the most part about women being a kind of second class citizen and had to be provided for ….but for my parents who both worked and shared everything …there were 2 providers in my house but even then my mum didn’t pay a full stamp( National Insurance) in modern terms…but she was lucky to have a career …so yes women were held back in those days.
In my time I have done exactly the same as my parents and we both have provided for our children..
Life is different now and we do live like pack animals … we get support from more than one person and we are programmed to ‘love’ more than one person..I am not sure I have convinced myself that it’s better this way or back when….I never thought about any other guy than my husband….all I know it’s made my marriage more focused and life less stressful…😊

Delicious Chaos - 01 Apr, 2024 - 02:08PM

I stick by my old comments, an IE is just an IE that can finish at any times, don’t put your eggs in one basket would be my current advice

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Legs&Eyes - 01 Apr, 2024 - 12:59PM

So I guess I have a quite a different view of this...I think this subject (infidelity) is over-analysed, usually by married people - but I think its different for singletons.
For me, I've never been married and believe the reasons females married in eg the 1950's, is not how society is today. As recently as 1974 a female could not get her own mortgage in the UK! Marriage for females was about been provided for, having a roof put over her head, and raising children..

Now its so different. I have a career, my own house, my own choices, I dont need to marry a man for him to provide for me - and I certainly wont provide for someone else! Society now is more accepting of people needing different things from relationships - a confidante, a companion, a lover, a parent to children, a provider.. but I think we now take those qualities from more than 1 person - I think many now feel we are more able to make a choice that in 1950 was just not open to us.

Not speaking for everyone, just me..

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Suzanne1983 - 01 Apr, 2024 - 12:12PM

Marriages are more than one dimention. I think you can love, lust and miss multiple people but that doesnt mean you can live with them.
It takes some maturity to allow yourself to have an emotional and physical relationship with someone ourside of your marriage but still want to stay married. Thats esp true when children are involed. But if you can life can be be very forfilling in that area

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1651038 - 01 Apr, 2024 - 11:57AM

Always best to avoid profiles that are looking for" Romance "...avoid " needy " at all costs ...all of those can only get messy !!
Far better just to find someone you like enough to enjoy a good romp in the hay with them every now and then ....but thats it :-)

NinaOakley - 01 Apr, 2024 - 10:37AM

In all honesty try the loins! Head and heart love my husband of more than two decades. Head knows I am never going to get what I need from him, physically or emotionally, again, (in our case that’s due to disease processes.) I don’t do intimacy without a level of emotional connection, the conversation that progressed did so because of a level of respect emerged. I don’t expect to be the priority though.

1529050 - 25 Jun, 2022 - 06:53PM

Sexy lady 123

I had my ie ghost me after a year - no idea why - assume found out - I was angry/hurt … then realised it would always end - just this was crappy end - shows More about his behaviour than mine.

I moved on - latest affair ended out of the blue as he’s going to be a good husband- possible BS …. But it’s over

As close as you maybe with your ie - they will always choose their spouse/partner - you are never they’d priority just an interlude.

Either you move on to some more fun … try not let feelings or emotions take over or give up on affairs ….

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1382700 - 25 Jun, 2022 - 03:57PM

EO

Think you could be right

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Delicious Chaos - 25 Jun, 2022 - 02:59PM

Sexy lady


Still?
Come on girl time to pull up your big girl pants and find the next one 🤭🙄

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Sexylady123 - 25 Jun, 2022 - 02:13PM

gosh this is hard