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1515202 - 12 May, 2022 - 06:20AM

@Sportster
It’s only a meet. I frequently chat to men who tell me they are talking to someone else and might have a date with the other party. Nobody is exclusive at this early stage.

What is not respectful is if he says I’m the only one when clearly I’m not

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1117169 - 11 May, 2022 - 11:15PM

@UKFemme

Yes why not keep off here for a few days until you meet. Its respectful to your date and it will be appreciated. Ladies are better placed to play the long game anyway.

FluffyClouds - 11 May, 2022 - 09:22PM

Witch1 -

I don't like constant messaging, and there wasn't a booty call either. People are just different in what they expect with texting and calls. I'll talk to them in depth when I see them again.

1515202 - 11 May, 2022 - 07:34PM

We need to be mindful that attention spans are short on IE. Not talk to anybody else prior to a meet? Do men ever do that?

Eggs. Basket.

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1117169 - 11 May, 2022 - 11:06AM

@Bored Houswife764

"Ghosting" is completely unacceptable in my mind. You are not "Ghosting" anyone if you dont log in here at all for the few days it takes until you have been on the date that you already have lined up. The other men that you have been talking to will assume that you have not been able to reply to them because you have been offline and should not take offence. What can be offensive is when they dont get a reply when you are clearly talking to others.

There are other ways to keep in touch with your date meanwhile.

Paula99 - 11 May, 2022 - 11:00AM

BHW764...and Sportster...

You are both correct in many ways but as we all know we are not clones and you could very chatting to 2 different people and the same 'tactic' ( I say that tongue in cheek) doesn't work

One guy I chatted to would just contact me at random times and I explained I work shifts then his message was 'what he was going to do to me'..🙄

He knew nothing about me or wanted to know..so I asked him if he would have a conversation...he blocked me..

You can't win either way but being mindful of others is a nice trait..

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1494077 - 11 May, 2022 - 10:09AM

@Sportster
If I read you correctly, that implies ghosting people until after I’ve gone on a meet. Surely that creates another kind of impression. Besides, typical questions are ‘how are you finding IE’, or ‘have you met anybody yet’? So I take it that people do want to know, even if they might not like the answer. I’ve often told new enquiries on first contact that I have something booked in, and if they wish to continue chatting, it’s fine, but for me, it just helps to manage each other’s expectations. We’ve all been played before, and I would never intentionally want to do that to anybody. 😊

1117169 - 11 May, 2022 - 09:15AM

@BoredHousewife764

Yes it can be a communication minefield, but if you already have a meet lined up, why not see how that goes first before talking to other men on here, or if you do talk to others to hedge your bet and are interested in meeting them why not pencil in a date after the first meeting? You dont have to tell them you already have a date lined up.

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1494077 - 11 May, 2022 - 08:47AM

@Sportster
Tough one. Sometimes we need a little more time. Or perhaps already have another meet lined up and want to see how that goes first.

Personally, I am honest about my meets. Some men don’t seem to take well to that level of disclosure. And I am also upfront if I like someone. Strangely, some men seem to shy away from that too, if the woman is upfront with her feelings. So it’s not a bed of roses for us either.

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1117169 - 11 May, 2022 - 06:13AM

This is really not difficult at all. If the lady is interested she should say so. Men are not telepathic and they get pissed off trying to get meaningful replies. Passivity is the enemy of passion and life is too short for reticence.

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