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Oldboy 74 - 31 Mar, 2024 - 12:43PM

Meeting for the first in a coffee shop is by far the least pressured way to meet. Trying to decide whether you will connect with someone by chatting and exchanging pictures tells you very little. You need to sit down and talk. We pick up so much about a person from their manner, their smile, their response to you. Most people can descide in seconds if that person is right for them. Then after the first meet in public it’s easy to politely walk away or begin the process of really getting to know each other.

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Maasai77 - 30 Mar, 2024 - 11:26AM

Google xxx

Paula99 - 30 Mar, 2024 - 08:20AM

Never ever go to a hotel on a first date …

Coffee shop or pub is perfect and if you don’t like each other then you can part company knowing you have behaved in a civilised manner ..

Simple …🐣🐰

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Life is a beach - 29 Mar, 2024 - 09:47PM

Very old post, however relevant.
I would never do a hotel on first meet!
I always had the first meeting in a public place.
I met couple of people with no spark, met one other who didn't work out. I am always thankful I had that first meet in public.
I met my now IE in a public place first. We did like each other as much as we did chatting. After that, we did meet again in a private place.
You can search day rooms!
Good luck, never have your first meet in a hotel!

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Suzanne1983 - 29 Mar, 2024 - 12:44PM

Is it only me that throws caution to the wind and finds a first meet at a hotel soooo hot!

I guess it depends on what you want. My first prority is good sex and only expect more or a connection and repeat if it was good.

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Viking Barbarian - 11 Mar, 2022 - 06:05PM

There are plenty of hotels up and down the country that will offer their rooms between 9am and 5pm... you'll even find specialist websites where you can book them, and pay on arrival. Google Hotel Dayrooms, for example.

However, I'm with everyone else on here. It is entirely unchivalrous of him to *expect* sex on the first date. If you have long enough, and if you can't keep your hands off each other, then go for it - get a room - but it shouldn't be a given until you've met and talked to each other face-to-face, no decent man will press you for more than that, and besides - if you meet, fancy each other and decide you do want to have sex after all, it makes planning your second date all the more exciting... ;)

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Paula99 - 11 Mar, 2022 - 04:50PM

Coffee or a bar is always good for a first date..you don't know the OP.
I did that once about 10 years ago but I was lucky I made a great friend and we had a fantastic year..😊

Bxx74 - 23 Jun, 2021 - 01:57PM

Hotel??!!! For first meet??? Wow..... what if they are not your type? Nothing accounts for a real meeting to know if you truly like each other...


Besides..... safety first?? What if they're an axe murderer???

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Gallowglass666 - 08 Jun, 2021 - 10:49AM

Seriously? A hotel day room for a first meeting? How insulting to the IE would you like to be, and how unsafe is that as a way of meeting someone who is, after all, a complete stranger. I appreciate the raison d'être of the site, but make an effort!

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1386735 - 06 Jun, 2021 - 11:25AM

There won’t be an update because....the reality did not live up to the fantasy obviously....tail between the legs me thinks