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Does travelling long distances enhance/suppress an affair?

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macfash - 20 Sep, 2023 - 01:50PM

definitely enhances it

Paula99 - 13 Sep, 2023 - 07:10PM

Logic boy ….

I am sure FWB could be anything you want 😉

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logicboy - 13 Sep, 2023 - 05:23PM

Have I missed something... Is FWB actually Fun Wobbly Bits and how does it relate to an affair... Is it like "a bit on the side", love handles or more like jelly... I'm confused!

Also, had my first meet via IE and although unclear where that will go, time will tell, but it has really helped me clarify what I want / dont want and am willing / not willing to do. I terms of the original question - there was a long distance involved and I'd say it meant I could let my guard down. Saying that I was nervous to a degree but at least not worried about impacting home situation from being seen.

Not sure about distance and it's impact on an affair - still waiting to find out.

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Paula99 - 29 Aug, 2023 - 04:28PM


Fun Wobbly Bits 😂

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Funguy77 - 29 Aug, 2023 - 03:31PM

@ Beckysharp - 29 Aug, 2023 - 03:24PM


Same thing in my book . Think I’m spending too much time with the young team.

I’m sure my profile doesn’t say FWB but is has been creeping in to my vocabulary .

Dose the use of FWB put the ladies off ?

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ExoticOrchid - 29 Aug, 2023 - 03:29PM

I'd say an affair with a FWB? 😉

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Beckysharp - 29 Aug, 2023 - 03:24PM

It’s just interesting. A lot of men (no idea about the women) on here say on their profile they’re looking for a FWB. How does it differ from an affair?

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laugar164 - 29 Aug, 2023 - 02:57PM

Beckysharp. I think any man / woman on the othere end would struggle to say a FWB is not an affair

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Beckysharp - 29 Aug, 2023 - 02:46PM

And do you consider a FWB an affair funguy77?

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Funguy77 - 29 Aug, 2023 - 02:42PM

Just having a bit of banter with colleagues at work
It’s all just hypothetical

Some have same opinions othered are borderline obsessive lol

For me I’m here for fwb to enhance my life not to change it or others..

Thanks for the contribution it’s caused an argument at work pmsl

Beckysharp - 29 Aug, 2023 - 02:32PM

I’d say only one person in that hypothetical (?) scenario wants an affair funguy77!

ExoticOrchid - 29 Aug, 2023 - 02:14PM

L&E - 10:51AM

I totally agree.

I'm single BUT I'm not here to cause hurt/trouble for anyone's spouse/partner and definitely do not want to be part of anyone's situation exploding as you say ... I'm beyond careful on everyone's behalf!

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Dotty Green - 29 Aug, 2023 - 02:00PM

Funguy77 - 29 Aug, 2023 - 01:43PM

For me I am not here for an emotional friendship... however close it might me, I am here for some great unadulterated fun great sex with a like minded person, with someone who I like and respect and am attracted to, I think if I had been "seeing" them for months without finalising the deal ... then I would cancel the deal....

But in answer to your question, I think emotional connection/friendships would still be consider cheating. For example would it be easier to forgive a ONS or say prostitute situation rather than a long term friendship/affair ....??

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Funguy77 - 29 Aug, 2023 - 01:43PM

Guys thanks as always. Having some fun with this at work lol .

Yip I definitely see it as cheating but not an affair seems quite obvious but some people disagree but hay ho each to our own .

But here’s the twist… what about an emotional connection
What if you have been seeing your IE for months maybe longer you travel distance to see each other but haven’t finalised the deal lol but there a emotional attachment??

I think that ricks the box right sex is the only missing part but intent is there

Any way happy Tuesday x

TheBoredHousewife - 29 Aug, 2023 - 01:25PM


Not an affair, and neither would an extramarital ONS be one. It would be cheating though, without a shadow if a doubt. At least I’m sure the spouse would think so!

Sailing well close to home here. Personally I do what I do, not because I want to leave my husband, so PDA where there is even a chance of being spotted is out of the question for me. But each to their own 😊

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Beckysharp - 29 Aug, 2023 - 11:10AM

Funguy77 no I wouldn’t consider that an affair. Is it cheating though? Yes I guess. Would a spouse consider it an affair… possibly. Going on a date and kissing someone is risking divorce if found out imho 🤷‍♀️

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Legs&Eyes - 29 Aug, 2023 - 10:51AM

Sandypops - 29 Aug, 2023 - 02:51AM

Agree with Dotty G, Sandy... you are taking massive risks.... what if she had said it in front of your daughter? What if she did see you in the lift / carpark in kissing-mode? You actually don't know if she did... and the thing is - she'll tell someone else, without a shadow of a doubt... It's good gossip!

And I think this is the guy who was trying out another lady wasnt he... then he picked her?
I know we are all different - your level of risk is clearly high.. so I'd just say I hope your Plan B and Plan C are in place in case it blows up....
it would terrify me, and I'm single! But I dont want someone else's situation to explode, so either way those risks arent for me....
But each to their own...

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ExoticOrchid - 29 Aug, 2023 - 10:25AM

Like Dotty, I never ever do PDAs and it's my IE who makes the 200% effort and travels to my area ... unless it suits me to be down in London to shop or coincide with meeting real life friends either before or after the IE meet.

Dotty Green - 29 Aug, 2023 - 09:37AM

Funguy77 - 29 Aug, 2023 - 09:33AM
Nope - agree with you - it is a kiss - not an affair - could it lead to an affair well yes if it is good!

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Dotty Green - 29 Aug, 2023 - 09:36AM

I was thinking about the long distance meets, another thing why it would not work for me (and I appreciate it does work for some)is that for me it would take so much planning, and would I end up seeing a lover who lived 100 miles away as much as I see a lover who lives/works in the same City. I get messages, lets meet for lunch today or are your free for a drink of the way home,or shall we try and meet next week, for me someone who is London or Home Counties way just works.
Sandypops - wow - that is a huge risk, and one I would not personally take unless you or him were looking for an exit strategy. I think for me the sexy/naughty thing is not being all over each other in public, the little glances, the flirty chat, the odd brush. We bumped into clients of one of my IEs in the pub, we got papers out and poured over them as if we were working together. I always have the excuse of someone I know through work or Politics or old friends depending who we bumped into, but I think I would steer clear of my doorste

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Funguy77 - 29 Aug, 2023 - 09:33AM

Do you consider a date night that ends in a snogging as an affair ?

Having a debate with like minded colleagues some say yes totally where I say no it’s just a kiss ?


Marlen - 29 Aug, 2023 - 05:54AM

@Paula99, you're right long distance relationships do take more effort. They're also easier when your in work, which is not an issue for most of us, including me😁.
So keep searching everyone, it should be worth the effort, but isn't always.

Sandypops - 29 Aug, 2023 - 02:51AM

The furthest I've travelled is an hour and a half. The closest, 5 mins away from where I live and a minute from my business premises 🤦🏻‍♀️
And I did spend the day with a guy (we went shopping for clothes for his holiday during his 'recovery' break 😂) in a town about half an hour from where I live. Due to my business, a lot of people know me and a client came up to me a few weeks later and said 'oh I saw you in Staines the other week'. My mind was racing so I just said 'oh you should have said hi' her reply 'you looked busy' got me thinking where she might have seen me - the kiss in the glass lift, kissing in the car park, holding hands, his arm round me or at the hotel 🤦🏻‍♀️ and thinking thank goodness she didn't say it in front of my daughter (who works with me) especially if she'd assumed I was with my husband who I'm sure she's met a few times.
But the guy is a bit of a risk taker as well. We'd meet 10 mins from his house and I went to his house 🤦🏻‍♀️
I like reg

Esther45 - 28 Aug, 2023 - 09:35PM

Distance cannot, and will not hurt a bond between two people that is based on mutual respect, trust, commitment, and love.Jealousy is not a sign of true love; it's insecurities that comes in the way, 'cause love has just one important ingredient: Trust

ExoticOrchid - 28 Aug, 2023 - 01:05PM

As per my comment from the other week:

[ExoticOrchid - 01 Aug, 2023 - 01:52PM

It can be either or it can be both ... those involved need to make a lot of effort, in fact one
party more than the other with travelling for distance to work.]

In my experience, most men would say "distance is not a problem" when they are super keen at the start and then when the novelty has worn off then "distance becomes a problem" ... however, there are also those who make 200% effort to make it work, not just from another county BUT from another country!!! Go figure!

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Funguy77 - 26 Aug, 2023 - 07:53PM

Scottish get together!!

Who’s up for a informal meet up in Edinburgh or Glasgow guys and girls . We can arrange a venue if we get the numbers and have a laugh at speed dating . You never know might be fun / awkward but fun 🤩

Let’s get it sorted

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tarnished knight - 26 Aug, 2023 - 04:46PM

@ Funguy77 there is truth in that. You also have a much bigger population in and around Edinburgh.

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Funguy77 - 26 Aug, 2023 - 03:31PM

@ tarnished knight - 26 Aug, 2023 - 03:26PM

I’m personally West Lothian but work and play in Edinburgh. Your only 2 hours away but the trouble with Aberdeen is that’s it’s students and oil money. Edinburgh is student truest and the capital 500k people ver 200k
And lots of week day workers from London so just more opportunity

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tarnished knight - 26 Aug, 2023 - 03:26PM

@ Funguy77 which bit of Scotland are you in? Up here in Aberdeenshire it's bleak.

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Funguy77 - 26 Aug, 2023 - 01:53PM

@ Legs&Eyes - 26 Aug, 2023 - 01:02PM

No we had met for coffees has lots of chat over the past few weeks / month got on really well then on the day of the hotel all excited she done a runner but right after I paid for the hotel lol . So had a nice morning watching tv in the hotel 😂.

It’s fine I’m back on it and have a first date on the 7th . I’m onlooking for one but seem to be getting though quite a lot ..

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Legs&Eyes - 26 Aug, 2023 - 01:02PM

Funguy77 - 26 Aug, 2023 - 08:02AM

NO!!!!!!!! Awww FunGuy..... can I ask - had you met her in person before though? This wasnt the first actual meet was it, just the first hotel meet?

As for taking flight - well, a bit like some of the guys I've experienced here - they don't really think through why they are on here! And the meeting in person, being seen, going through with it - it all becomes a reality when they are in front of you...
But if you'd met her before in person then its bad she's done that in that way.... You'd like to believe she'd get the nervous itch before setting off - and before she left home (so she didnt mess you around).....

Back to the drawing board Funguy!!!....

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Goodtimes12345 - 26 Aug, 2023 - 11:09AM

Sometimes it can suppress … but being not to far away sometimes can be a little scary.. so it’s finding someone who is very understanding and fun …then the travelling to me wouldn’t matter x

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Onekissmore - 26 Aug, 2023 - 11:07AM

Up to A two hour travel time is acceptable. It means meeting has to be planned , anticipated and the carelessness of just popping around to see each other is taken away.

Funguy77 - 26 Aug, 2023 - 10:52AM


Iv already lined up a first meet with a lovely lady for the 7th 👍

Upwards and onwards right..is any man from says on here that there’s no action in Scotland there talking out there arse 😜

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Funguy77 - 26 Aug, 2023 - 10:31AM

@ Enigma.. - 26 Aug, 2023 - 09:30AM

It’s all good I would rather she done a runner before hand than get to the room then freak out or totally regret doing something and having to live with the guilt.

But ultimately I think in hindsight more time and chat would have been better .

Anyway it’s a talking point x

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Enigma.. - 26 Aug, 2023 - 09:30AM

Morning people’s of Flirt Forum…

Planes, Trains and Automobiles…. What can I say 🙄.

@Hedone… One of the first questions I now ask, saves wasting both our times is… How often can you meet? And when are you most available?
Daytime, evening’s or other times? 🤔.

Unfortunately, through this forum , I’ve read a lot of the same. Males/females taking flight. Bad behaviours etc…
I know how I feel about “Certain Situations”… 🙄🤷🏼‍♀️

No further comment

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Paula99 - 26 Aug, 2023 - 08:58AM

Dotty Green …

I agree totally..if you are not supposed to be in a certain place and you can’t get home …it does put a strain on your affair and it becomes a drama you don’t need …

I do know that there are some ladies/gents that have had and are still in long term distance relationships and are making it work but it does take a ‘ double ‘ effort..

Distance affair isn’t for everyone but it can be done ..😉

Funguy77 - 26 Aug, 2023 - 08:02AM

@ Legs&Eyes - 25 Aug, 2023 - 08:57PM

Wow where to start . Yes your right I had a first hotel meet on Thursday. Everything was going well we met at the station and decided to go for a drink you know Dutch courage. Has a wee chat about mundane stuff then decides to go to our room ….

Got to the hotel we checked in paid the bill “DayUse” we then proceeded to walk to the elevator………..Boom she then started to freak out panic attack I can’t do this she was saying then bolted out like the road runner

I was totally gob smacked speechless in front of about 10 or so guests left holding the bag 😂🤣😂 I tryed to text her that night but she’s deleted her account

Man I have never had that happen before all I could do was laugh in the lobby and I coyser a couple of guests pissing themselves

So to top it off .. it gets better my f@@ing car broke down on the way home so I had the added joy of that and explaining where I was and why I was so late

Man Thursdays are a bitch right n

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Legs&Eyes - 25 Aug, 2023 - 08:57PM


Am I imagining it or were you having a first meet yesterday??.... If so, how did it go, have you any deets to share?... lol

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Dotty Green - 25 Aug, 2023 - 02:18PM

Enigma and Hedone,

I agree, but again (and I hate to keep saying it), it seems much easier to do this in London. I don't drive to meets, meet in town, half an hour max....

I would be too worried doing something further afield, imagine having to explain why your car broke down, or trains cancelled and you are stuck somewhere miles from where you should be..............

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Hedone - 25 Aug, 2023 - 01:03PM

Completely agree, those that want to dispute it, well I guess they will learn the hard way.

I work long hours, I do not want to spend my affair time commuting, even if he’s Michael Morrone ;-) it won’t work.

It’s the ones that say at the start distance isn’t an issue then it becomes an issue when they’ve been stuck on the m25 for 2 hours plus!

I establish two things before I decide to continue a chat, distance and whether they are a day or evening meeter

Enigma.. - 24 Aug, 2023 - 05:53PM

Distance does not work “affair wise”.
Trust me….

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Needle in a haystack - 24 Aug, 2023 - 05:48PM

Anything 50 miles plus it’s probably unlikely to work.

Funguy77 - 24 Aug, 2023 - 05:34PM

Don’t think I have the heart to write down my day 😩😩😩😩😩😩

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Beckysharp - 24 Aug, 2023 - 05:09PM

That’s hilarious Legs&Eyes! I only do local affairs. Never experienced anything like that though!!

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Legs&Eyes - 24 Aug, 2023 - 03:20PM

Aramis8191 - 16 Aug, 2023 - 09:33PM

I had a first meet with a chap from here about 3 months ago. He was a first timer, and I was his very first meet. We met 30 miles from his home, at a hotel bar he approved of in terms of location.
It was the most unpleasant 75 mins of my life - he was paranoid, jumpy, didn’t maintain eye contact, speaking aloud about ‘what if son sees me here, what if daughter walks in….’ As we left, he walked 3 feet in front of me, no physical contact (my profile expresses how tactile I am) - and shook my hand in the doorway?!?

He followed with a message an hour later to tell me he couldn’t wait to get me alone in a bedroom?!?! 😱

Not. F**king. Likely.

As a result, I won’t now meet any first timer. Or, someone who appears doubtful about been seen.

Everyone on this site is doubtful about being seen!!

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Paula99 - 24 Aug, 2023 - 02:28PM


Do you really think that having an affair is a path you feel you can undertake ?

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boav91 - 23 Aug, 2023 - 10:10AM

It worked both ways for me. The person I did meet, before they went back to the US, and 3000 miles of water is a little far even for me, we arranged to meet in the middle and it worked ok ( she was about 100 miles away). Things had to be planned though. It was fun and the anticipation enhanced the meet. I am with beechmore on that. The day leading up to the meet and the drive there, got nothing done at all but so much fun. Having said that I do hope to meet someone closer this time if I am lucky enough

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jane696935 - 17 Aug, 2023 - 01:33PM

Suppress , driving so tiring

beechmore11 - 16 Aug, 2023 - 11:51PM

i think that being further away would make it hard but also the journey to that person would be so sexy as you'd have time to contemplate what was about to happen (hopefully!)

1616941 - 16 Aug, 2023 - 09:33PM

I’ve only been on here a few days but…It seems to me that the next county makes most sense, if only because if I check into a hotel I don’t want to be looking over my shoulder to see if any of my friends are out for dinner 🤣 and by driving for 40 minutes or so I’d assume there is a smaller possibility of meeting someone with whom I have social connections. Not that I have any experience in that regard but I have spent a long time daydreaming…

JimmyG789 - 16 Aug, 2023 - 03:32PM

Like many have said it all depends upon the details , it's a nuanced reply

If you want to see each other but life circumstances mean once a month is all you can do, well distance is less of an issue isn't it ?

I've has this kind of relationship and how it worked for us was I'd book us into a lovely hotel for an all day extravaganza of fun supplemented with room service.

I've also experienced the "close enough to catch up for a coffee after work" affair.

They were both wonderful ....

It's the details that make it work or not

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4KingGeorge - 16 Aug, 2023 - 01:35PM

I think it’s different for each situation, I’m able to travel quite freely and frequently to certain areas as I travel as part of my job. Midweek meet up is possible for me traveling 2 to 3 hours but for others that’s impossible for a number of reasons.

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1617420 - 16 Aug, 2023 - 12:37PM

Depends on people's situations. Some may not be prepared to travel due to finical, logistical & personal constraints. Others may prefer the distance if it means they can conduct an illicit affair away from home with little to zero chance of being seen or caught.

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Funguy77 - 16 Aug, 2023 - 12:15PM

Makes it a little more difficult but can be worthwhile x

Funguy77 - 08 Aug, 2023 - 04:17PM

Nice one hope you have safe fun

tarnished knight - 08 Aug, 2023 - 01:49PM


I've been on here for a few months and it's not my first time on this pony. I know it takes time and patience and I have also chatted to some lovely ladies.


I know exactly where Ayr is and it's closer to me than London. Still talking about 3-4 hours by road...

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Enigma.. - 07 Aug, 2023 - 07:26AM

Last year I was messaged by several males from down south, especially the London area, who thought it was easy for me to just hop onto a plane and fly to an airport to meet them.
Sure…. An hour’s plane journey in nothing to some.
But trains, taxis and flights all cost money and take up time.
I really wish that some males on the site would Google where Ayr actually is before sending me a message.
Saves wasting both our times 🙄🤷🏼‍♀️.

Funguy77 - 07 Aug, 2023 - 07:22AM

@tarnished knight
It takes time . I have only been on her for 4 weeks and I have had lots of lovely chat and two meets
But what I will say is that 90% of the women on here won’t make the first move

Sandypops - 07 Aug, 2023 - 12:26AM

As I've said before, I love a road trip and am more than happy to travel and I have the time to travel.
My question though to those of you having affairs (or having had affairs) with people a long way away is .... how do you cope with only meeting infrequently? If of course you do only meet infrequently. Do you men end up with one arm looking like pop-eyes forearm and do you ladies have a ridiculously huge electricity bill 😂

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tarnished knight - 06 Aug, 2023 - 11:19PM

Pardon the frustration, but if there was anyone on here within 100 miles I'd be godsmacked. If by the luck of the gods they then read ant message I sent and replied it would truly be a miracle.

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Dotty Green - 04 Aug, 2023 - 12:27PM

I guess being lazy and in London never really had to worry too much about distance, but for me a long distance just would not work, it would be far too complicated to work out excuses and if I got stuck 200 miles from home what would my reason for being there be?

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Arsinoe - 03 Aug, 2023 - 10:11PM

I think it’s perfect to be honest. Keeps it fresh and less likelihood of getting caught as meeting less frequently. It only really works if one party travels for work.

Paula99 - 03 Aug, 2023 - 08:30PM

Secret D…

I had a similar affair a few year back but I was in my early 40.s …it’s not something I would do at my age but it can work as you have shown…😁

Secret_Desires - 03 Aug, 2023 - 07:21PM

I think it can definitely enchance the affair, for the right person the travelling is worth it.
I’ve had 1 long term affair with a man who lives just under 4hrs away and i travelled 200 miles round trip each time.

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ExoticOrchid - 03 Aug, 2023 - 06:49PM

GMJ - 04:11PM

My point exactly ... it can (and does) work but one party needs to put in the extra effort (like you did with the travelling).

Gentle Man Jim - 02 Aug, 2023 - 08:26PM

Thankyou P99
It is good to know that affairs can be cherished and enjoyed without being sordid or nasty and I know it conflicts all morals but it can definitely improve life!

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Paula99 - 02 Aug, 2023 - 08:02PM


Sounds like you had a absolutely fabulous affair…Welsh ladies do put in the effort 😉..clearly you both put in the extra 10 % and yes it can be done with the ‘right ‘ couple 😁

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Gentle Man Jim - 02 Aug, 2023 - 04:14PM

@Enigma, you are very funny! Don’t leave. The world needs your sort of person!!!!

Gentle Man Jim - 02 Aug, 2023 - 04:11PM

Totally agree with you all on long distance being unlikely to work, but….. in my late ‘30’s I had a long and very happy affair with a married lady who was in Wales some 3 hours from me.
I would drive up early. Sometimes stay nearby or even with her if her hubby was away out of the country.
We had five years of a fabulous affair which fizzled naturally and we remained friends secretly for a good while after.
It was a lovely thing and so it can work but I would say not often!!

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laugar164 - 01 Aug, 2023 - 02:15PM

Erotic Orchid
To have a successful affair ther has to be give and take and the realisation that lady have to deal with child care amongst juggling a affair there would be nothing worse than having a meet when one of you is worried about getting back
The time spent together shoul be special and stress free hopefully

Or at least the stress released by the meet 😉😉

ExoticOrchid - 01 Aug, 2023 - 01:52PM

It can be either or it can be both ... those involved need to make a lot of effort, in fact one party more than the other with travelling for distance to work.

1614366 - 01 Aug, 2023 - 12:55PM

@Elegant, but damned naughty I like you, but can you make the distance work? I'm located in SO

Hedone - 01 Aug, 2023 - 08:25AM

Paula 99
Completely agree

Some men just do not understand how this works.
I’ve spent the morning trying to explain to someone how a 2 hr travelling time would just not work and how they are wasting my time even suggesting it.
Then they get all defensive and rude!

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Enigma.. - 01 Aug, 2023 - 08:08AM


Unfortunately the Lothian area is too far out for me to travel to.
To risky to drive that far.
It would take too long on public transport.
Due to home “circumstances” Glasgow is about as far as I can travel these days. Usually by train.
Pity the teleport hasn’t been invented yet… lol 😝

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1604745 - 31 Jul, 2023 - 11:36PM

Enigma.. - 28 Jul, 2023 - 02:10PM

Frodo travelled through some dangerous ork filled lands to have his ring destroyed for a happy ending.

Let me know if you get through Lanarkshire and end up in Lothian...

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takeme69 - 31 Jul, 2023 - 07:25PM

Distance has definitely killed previous affairs

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Kyogo1 - 30 Jul, 2023 - 11:05PM

I'm new on ere and find it crazy women message me from England and as far down as London. No chance I would need to say I was away on a stag do or something. I'm a virgin at this so pls be patient with me 😁

Emerald Dream - 30 Jul, 2023 - 10:30PM

Eliza Boo. Over two years but if it's ninety minutes drive through roadworks it makes it stressful .Smart motorways and time constraints. Now I'm in a relationship with someone twenty five minutes away, which is so much better and we can avoid motorways!

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Paula99 - 30 Jul, 2023 - 03:58PM


Clearly you have no idea of the responsibility and logistics of travelling out of your known areas..
If you work in that area then you have a legitimate reason to be there but for the OP that decides to do that is more difficult….road works …motor accidents.. being in the wrong place at the wrong time ..😬

1614245 - 30 Jul, 2023 - 01:49PM

Is there any woman willing to travel to the midland area to help a young man out 😂

Enigma.. - 28 Jul, 2023 - 02:10PM

I’m extending my areas, geographically wise😏.
You in the corner, yes you, calm down.
I’m thinking…. David Attenborough wise too… geographically wise lol 😃😉😏, of delving into deepest, darkest, Lanarkshire.
Who know’s what I shall come across or even meet 🤔😉.
For those in England… google 😂😉😝.
If you do not hear from me soon dear friends…. Farewell.
This should be interesting..
And yes… I was joking.
Or was I…lol 😂🤔❤️😏

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Beckysharp - 28 Jul, 2023 - 10:31AM

😂😂😂 Enigma

Enigma.. - 28 Jul, 2023 - 10:15AM



Methinks not 😝.

Gave me a laugh if nothing else 😂

laugar164 - 28 Jul, 2023 - 09:42AM

Not out for a quickie then enigma lol

Enigma.. - 28 Jul, 2023 - 08:26AM

Sandy & Becky…

I had an offer from a male, a couple of days ago, to meet halfway.

His halfway was Somerset 🙄😂 🤷🏼‍♀️.

Sure I replied… I’ll be with you in about 8.5 hours 😂.

What a total (insert a few appropriate words)…

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Beckysharp - 27 Jul, 2023 - 09:14PM

I imagine they can’t believe their luck Sandypops!!

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Sandypops - 27 Jul, 2023 - 07:58PM

I love a road trip. And I have lots of flexibility daytime to drive to meet. It seems daft that if I'm meeting someone whilst they're working from home and only have a couple of hours available, they spend some of that time travelling. I'd much rather travel and get more time with them 😊 but men always seem surprised by this.

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Athlete-G - 27 Jul, 2023 - 05:37PM

South = easy
North =hard

Beckysharp - 26 Jul, 2023 - 04:37PM

NP Dotty 😂

Dotty Green - 26 Jul, 2023 - 03:58PM

Beckysharp - 26 Jul, 2023 - 03:52PM


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Beckysharp - 26 Jul, 2023 - 03:52PM

It’s a totally different experience on here for those that can meet in London and those that can’t!!

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midnight_rambler - 26 Jul, 2023 - 03:28PM

Enigma - I totally agree. I used to work in London pre-Covid and it was relatively easy to make a date to see someone after work back then. Not only was it logistically pretty easy but there were lots of members to chat and make plans with. Now that I don't travel for work anymore and spend most of my time in the North West (Merseyside) it's definitely the case that you can go weeks /months before there's anyone remotely suitable to meet up with!
Like yourself, I think I'll immerse myself in Flirt Forum until things change !

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Eliza Boo - 26 Jul, 2023 - 12:12PM

Enigma - I always like your posts! 😂😘

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Enigma.. - 25 Jul, 2023 - 06:33AM

It seems to me that if you don’t live in London, where all the action appears to be taking place 😉, then you can go for weeks even months before someone remotely suitable comes along.

I’m getting messages from males in Northern Ireland, Wales, England and especially Scotland that are way out of reasonable travelling distance.

Most of the messages are from males who live in various counties in England!?!

What’s more…. They are all saying the same thing. No one new joining in their areas. Those who are still active they have already messaged and it hasn’t worked out for various reasons and, it seems, no one is prepared to travel for hours for a meet.

I guess we should all stick with Flirt Forum. It’s certainly the only action I’m getting from the site for now 😉😂😁.

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Dotty Green - 24 Jul, 2023 - 03:02PM

Drummond - 24 Jul, 2023 - 09:24AM

For me a central meet in London West End or City is the best, I would then say neither has to travel more than an hour depending how far on the outskirts one could be.

exiled biker - 24 Jul, 2023 - 11:08AM

I have always been open to travelling distances as long as it reflects the length of the booking, I have in past enjoyed a nice break in Cheltenham, several hours away but enjoyed a lovely overnight and morning!

Anything local is more difficult due to fewer members and need for discretion.

1612345 - 24 Jul, 2023 - 09:24AM

Going from one postcode to another in London by public transport can take up to over two hours. That's four hours out of your blissful encounter. Of course, if you agree to meet half-way, then it's only an hour. But even so, London has its own travel problems, you better believe it. Proximity, proximity and proximity are the three things that matter in a successful affair.

Sideline - 23 Jul, 2023 - 09:46AM

Hi everyone, just joined…
Some interesting comments on here, I’m in the West Country & this can be an issue. Although my lifestyle has fewer limitations than most (early/semi retirement, children grown up etc etc) and tbh I don’t mind driving if the fit is good.

Dotty Green - 22 Jul, 2023 - 04:23PM

I know … London is very easy …

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TheBoredHousewife - 22 Jul, 2023 - 06:31AM

Dotty Green - 21 Jul, 2023 - 05:19PM

This would be my ideal too. Especially if the IE is not a great messager. It’s so convenient for London based people. So many nooks and crannies to disappear into! Here in my rural setup, it is more which tree do we sneak behind? 😜😏😂😂

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Dotty Green - 21 Jul, 2023 - 05:19PM

Jay122 - 21 Jul, 2023 - 03:23PM

😂😂 🏃🏻‍♀️ 🏃‍♂️

I do quite often meet mine for a quick drink on way home - or lunch - which is doable without 100s of miles in between.

Again a perk of being London based I guess

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Jay122 - 21 Jul, 2023 - 03:23PM

I’ve changed my mind on the basis of below comments. My IE partner must be within sprinting distance to allow for exciting impromptu liaisons 😉

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Dotty Green - 21 Jul, 2023 - 12:17PM

For me logistically I would not be interested in a long distance relationship, it would be hard to manage in to my day to day life.

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Purple dreamer - 21 Jul, 2023 - 08:10AM

Distance can work if both parties want it to work

Eliza Boo - 20 Jul, 2023 - 06:26PM

How long was your long term relationship Emerald Dream? Genuinely interested in longevity.

Childcare needs, marriage and work pretty much rule-out spontaneous impromptu meets in my life anyway. Lastminute.com is not possible and inconvenient.

Emerald Dream - 20 Jul, 2023 - 03:56PM

Ruins a relationship eventually as no spontaneity for impromptu encounters and travelling is a bind .

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Eliza Boo - 19 Jul, 2023 - 05:23PM

Good train services and connections determin a lot! A bad day on the trains and your heart is in your mouth. Abject fear! A good day with perfect connections and plain sailing, music and reading and fun messaging (and no kids) and a gloriously insanely sexy lover at the end of the line - not so bad peeps, not so bad!!! 😉😜

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TheBoredHousewife - 19 Jul, 2023 - 05:23PM

CanIBeFrank - 19 Jul, 2023 - 05:19PM
Do you want my full postcode?

1612031 - 19 Jul, 2023 - 05:19PM


Thank you kindly for endorsing my point of view. Where do you live by the way ;-)

TheBoredHousewife - 19 Jul, 2023 - 05:17PM

CanIBeFrank - 18 Jul, 2023 - 09:56PM

You have a point! 😂

Covert Casanova - 19 Jul, 2023 - 01:50PM

I would say long distances can kill an affair. If both of you are married then snatching those times to meet is difficult enough as it is , without spending half the time travelling. I would rather be having fun than listenng to the radio in my car.

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Dotty Green - 19 Jul, 2023 - 09:21AM

CanIBeFrank - 18 Jul, 2023 - 09:56PM

Funny profile!!

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1612031 - 18 Jul, 2023 - 09:56PM

Depends. If you live in Wales, well, I like wales so will happily drive over to see you and do a bit of hiking whilst there. If you live in Burnley, then probably too far for me.

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Paula99 - 18 Jul, 2023 - 06:47PM

Purple dreamer ..

Some distances can be overcome but you can’t sustain it in the long term

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Jessica0303 - 18 Jul, 2023 - 03:42PM

Keeps it safer

TheBoredHousewife - 18 Jul, 2023 - 02:45PM

Purple dreamer - 18 Jul, 2023 - 01:38PM

How far are we talking about here?

Purple dreamer - 18 Jul, 2023 - 01:38PM

I think if the connection and attraction is there distance can be overcome

Chanel No.5 - 16 Jul, 2023 - 05:15PM

Not too close, not too far... but if someone is special enough you would hope they make the effort!

Jay122 - 15 Jul, 2023 - 06:11PM

The Bored Housewife:

Well indeed practicality does need to be considered in terms of distance as does an arrangement within a stone’s throw of your home ( for different reasons). I would widen my reach for sure bearing in mind the journey so far!

TheBoredHousewife - 15 Jul, 2023 - 04:47PM

Jay122 - 15 Jul, 2023 - 03:36PM

How would it be sustained, if you’re happy to plump for anywhere?

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Paula99 - 15 Jul, 2023 - 04:01PM


Half way is always good as long as it within a reasonable distance …if your 200 miles away and that means half way is 100 miles …not on your Nelly😬

Public place is good ..pub ..cafe ..tea rooms

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Jay122 - 15 Jul, 2023 - 03:36PM

I’d go anywhere for the right person, practicality considered of course!

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Funtobe22 - 14 Jul, 2023 - 06:10PM

Would suggest if I actually meet someone on IE meet halfway point in a public place

Sara123 - 14 Jul, 2023 - 04:53PM

Hello there everyone x

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RougeSunrise - 13 Jul, 2023 - 11:20PM

I think you need goldilocks, no, not someone who steals porridge (why?), but, it should be not too close to be noticeable (and perhaps mundane) and not too far that it is incomprehensible of meeting more that once in a blue moon..

Paula99 - 13 Jul, 2023 - 06:58PM

Fluffy …TBH

I am with you in this one …the extra stress of distances ..road works ..cancellations …all and sundry makes the whole process a no go area for me…I speak from experience..

My children are grown up but a lot have school ages and if your children need you ..you HAVE to be there..

If you don’t have off spring then sometimes it could be husband/family issues. For those who travel for their professions then it is slightly easier..you have a bed 😉for the night..

The key to success is planning and 2 people that are willing to put in that extra 10%….It is rare if you find this in one lifetime ….

My previous job allowed me to indulge myself plus I was younger and it was an enlightening time of my life ..😁

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1608086 - 13 Jul, 2023 - 06:00PM

Depends on the individuals. For example, I travel to London/Edinburgh fairly frequently so it would be handy if my 'opposite number' was around in those locations. I think with a lot of people working from home now it makes day-time fun a bit harder to arrange.

PeteDevon - 13 Jul, 2023 - 03:05PM

yes suppress

Billybush69 - 12 Jul, 2023 - 12:45PM

Although long distance is ideal for maintain discretion it most definitely impacts on frequency of meets
I suspect most people want close to enable get together readily
It isn’t easy especially if you are married to have an excuse for being away several hours and definitely to share an overnight with somebody
It is obviously easier if one of the two is separated or di or divorced

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1610286 - 11 Jul, 2023 - 11:21PM

I think it shows a certain amount of commitment between 2 people if they are travelling from far to meet up!

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TheBoredHousewife - 10 Jul, 2023 - 03:58PM

FluffyClouds - 10 Jul, 2023 - 03:53PM

Traffic jams, accidents, public transport issues…..my life is stressful enough without needing the added stress of IE meet logistics. I don’t care how well endowed or how fantastic a lover they say they are 😆

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FluffyClouds - 10 Jul, 2023 - 03:53PM

I personally wouldn't travel further than an hour on the motorway. 2 hours round trip is tiring enough for me. Plus, I wouldn't want to be further than that away from home. Accidents do happen, and that would be tricky to explain if you're somewhere you really would be unlikely to be.

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TheBoredHousewife - 10 Jul, 2023 - 10:20AM

La tua fantasia - 10 Jul, 2023 - 06:27AM

Damned if you remember and ask after the person, and damned if you don’t remember.

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ClassyLady77 - 10 Jul, 2023 - 10:05AM

You don’t want someone on your doorstep but you don’t want someone who lives over 2 hours drive away.. long way to go for the first date/lunch.

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Enigma.. - 10 Jul, 2023 - 07:04AM

A friend of mine came back onto this site last year.
Within 3 weeks she was telling me that most of the men in her chosen areas are the same men that were on the site 5 years before. Hardly any fresh meat.
She was being messaged, like myself, by men from England, Northern Ireland and mainly men from the North East/East coast of Scotland or from The Borders/Dumfries areas.
Not only was she finding distance was an issue but availability and timings were issues as well.
And my friend lives in Glasgow 🤷🏼‍♀️🙄😕.

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Hedone - 10 Jul, 2023 - 06:27AM

I’m impressed you appear to remember everything about me and my IE life 👍

1601355 - 09 Jul, 2023 - 06:55PM

I think quite often having a bit of distance removes the opportunity to make mistakes powered entirely by lust. Plus.... let's be honest folks...nowhere is too far nowadays and guys...if a lady is worth it then travelling shouldn't be an issue.

Sometimes it's about a little more than just a quick drive down the road to a "No Tell Motel" for a quick fumble

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TheBoredHousewife - 09 Jul, 2023 - 05:14PM

La tua fantasia - 09 Jul, 2023 - 07:41AM

That there was enough BS to take a break to an exotic island somewhere? I do hope your life has returned to normality 😊

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1586452 - 09 Jul, 2023 - 04:38PM

Lorelai Gilmore...

Just as well we're all different don't you think? :)

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Eliza Boo - 09 Jul, 2023 - 04:33PM

Bongo Jim

Your ideas are chivalrous and well meaning 😘But it entirely depends in what's at the end of the train line as to whether its worth the journey! It's not always a 'rent a room to fuck in' situation, sometimes it's something more lovely and fabulous than that. Once you've opened this door, it can lead almost anywhere. Not every situation here is the same.

But then, the traditional, conservative ways generally are not a pull to me. Travel and adventure would always be my calling...

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Bobby224 - 09 Jul, 2023 - 02:02PM

I’ve done both types of affair and they have different positives and negatives. They both can work very nicely but both definitely still need careful planing and discretion to work successfully. My longest affair was with a woman in my tiny city!

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Lonewolf203 - 09 Jul, 2023 - 01:18PM

Having an affair is better with distance as your more likely to get caught out closer to home

1586452 - 09 Jul, 2023 - 12:28PM

I find it quite surprising how many ladies jump onto a train to travel for a date. I believe that the only distance a woman should have to travel is far enough away from where she lives so she feels safe enough not to be spotted. It should be the guy doing the travelling. Maybe an old fashioned view but it's mine :)

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Beckysharp - 09 Jul, 2023 - 11:45AM

Agree that’s the other negative with long distance. You can only meet infrequently. What’s the point?!

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Secret_fun2020 - 09 Jul, 2023 - 11:12AM

I think it can enhance it. It's quite likely that distance means you are not meeting very frequently, but that means the anticipation and excitement is high and kept fresh. You need to have good communication though

BoredBBWmum - 09 Jul, 2023 - 10:04AM

I can't do distances because of my circumstances. It would raise to much suspicion if I was to suddenly start staying away

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Culture Lover - 09 Jul, 2023 - 09:46AM

It needn't do. Friend of mine travels up to Manchester to see his lady friend. Seems to keep the relationship fresh while both enjoy their independence.

Hedone - 09 Jul, 2023 - 07:41AM

Not a holiday as such just a rest from the BS

Eliza Boo - 08 Jul, 2023 - 09:21PM

You'll know which one is me on the train. I always have a major problem with my back right stocking clip, and am constantly trying and failing to subtly re-fasten the slippery little sucker. I'm amazed I haven't been thrown off the train in my time!

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TheBoredHousewife - 08 Jul, 2023 - 04:55PM

La tua fantasia - 08 Jul, 2023 - 04:33PM

Welcome back. Did you have a good holiday? 😊

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Hedone - 08 Jul, 2023 - 04:33PM

I have men message me from 1/2 hours away and some up in Scotland, what is the actual point of that?!
My time is precious, I work long hours and don’t want to be putting in a commute to meet my IE

Mine have always been fairly local, works for me every time

Beckysharp - 08 Jul, 2023 - 10:34AM

I always wonder what people are up to when I’m people watching!!

Surely given the choice of perfect lover close by or hours away people would choose NOT to travel?! Realistically it’s s nightmare!

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Parttimebf - 08 Jul, 2023 - 10:00AM

Lorelai. Next time I'm on the train seeing women working and seemingly relaxed... I know to think exciting thoughts for them ;)

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tarnished knight - 08 Jul, 2023 - 07:53AM

Here here LG, a quick shag is nice, but the build up to a long anticipated rendezvous with a lover can be exquisite.

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Eliza Boo - 07 Jul, 2023 - 10:07PM

Like MisQuiet, I use my long train journeys for work and relaxation. I like the thrill of escaping somewhere different. A totally secret life! It's about longing for a person for me, not just a convenient shag.

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David Copperfield - 07 Jul, 2023 - 06:48PM

As a character from a Dickensian novel, is time travel permissible as a long-distance topic on this thread?

I've heard of love beyond the grave before, but didn't realise this might include passionate affairs! Please don't tell Dora! Shush!!!

tarnished knight - 06 Jul, 2023 - 03:31PM

Likewise with Enigma, being in the rural north east of Scotland means distance is one thing you have to be prepared to compromise on. There are plenty of pages of ladies in the what is effectively 3 counties,but very few are active

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MisQuiet - 06 Jul, 2023 - 10:40AM

Reality plays it's part.... What do you want?
If it's a replacement partner or a way out of a bad relationship then local and more regular suits I guess if a quick shag is all that's needed....
Personally I think about a more measured approach... distance alone isn't an issue in itself, but logistics are.... I use the train a lot to go around the country (strikes permitting - which I support by the way as a good socialist, which will put off all the self entitled Tory boys) and am always much more relaxed than if I was driving....
And I don't need to see someone every week if they know how to communicate in between times....

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Racey1321 - 06 Jul, 2023 - 09:05AM

We don't all have enough "free" time when having an affair to spend time travelling long distances to meet someone.
So why waste time travelling for an hours meet when you could meet someone closer to home for an afternoon of frolicking?
Only thing is the closer to home you are it might increase risk of being seen by someone you know. Does that risk turn you on? I love taking risks.

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1604745 - 06 Jul, 2023 - 07:42AM

Long distance can work. Sure its not easy but certainly doable if you have the means.

Even though i travel a lot my Ideal distance is actually within 50miles as i would like to see her more frequently and during my time off.

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QuietLights - 05 Jul, 2023 - 08:33PM

London can be great.... Even if you and your "friend" don't live there....

Let's just say that if you have to take the train and stay over there is a certain romance about meeting regularly near a travel terminal....

Work trips every 6 weeks or so.... Something special to look forward to....

Enigma.. - 05 Jul, 2023 - 04:37PM

@Dotty Green

I don’t think London is quite ready for me…. Yet lol 😂😉.

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Dotty Green - 05 Jul, 2023 - 03:55PM

Enigma.. - 05 Jul, 2023 - 02:09PM

You'd be welcomed with open arms here in London - c'mon down !

laugar164 - 05 Jul, 2023 - 03:38PM

Ha ha yes I'm am I work
In Warwickshire

Beckysharp - 05 Jul, 2023 - 03:32PM

Ha ha no you’re not!!

And I don’t compromise 😉

laugar164 - 05 Jul, 2023 - 03:30PM

Hey Becky I'm only 20 minutes away 😉

Beckysharp - 05 Jul, 2023 - 03:22PM

I don’t travel and both my current IE and my ‘ex’ were under 20 mins from me. It does take longer to find without any compromises but I wouldn’t do long distance.

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Enigma.. - 05 Jul, 2023 - 02:09PM

Where I live, South West Scotland, it’s becoming increasingly difficult to actually find someone who is active on the site within reasonable travelling distance to me.

I’m now finding myself having to spread my net further to look for (coughs lol) fresh bait. The East coast, further North and further South.

At this rate I’ll be searching over the border and in the London area soon lol.

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AdorableOne - 05 Jul, 2023 - 02:06PM

I'm semi-rural in Hampshire and have been lucky to have (until recently) lovers that are within 30mins, meeting at a half-way point. Its the sweet spot of being far enough away but close enough to meet weekly.

I think anything over 60mins is pushing the boundary of do ability unless you are lucky enough to have all day or night. Plus you need to know them well enough that there is confidence they are actually going to turn up!

Eliza Boo - 05 Jul, 2023 - 12:39PM

Cue 700 people say they don't want distance - far enough fir safety, near enough for ease. Yeah we know...its alright if you live in or around London but that's an alternative reality to the rest of the British Isles.

As I've said before - convenience doesn't really fire up my loins... I need more.

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Maria Jones - 05 Jul, 2023 - 11:56AM

Travelling is a nightmare. If you have an emergency at home it's very difficult trying to explain how during a shpping trip to the west end you've ended up in a Travelodge in Norwich. Keep it local.

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Dotty Green - 05 Jul, 2023 - 11:56AM

For me I choose people who live or commute to London, never considered anyone further afield as I could not make it work. It is hard enough trying to juggle someone in London.

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TJJ89_fun - 05 Jul, 2023 - 11:46AM

I guess the biggest issue with travelling is availability due to the amount of time taken if it’s a long distance.

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nearLondon - 05 Jul, 2023 - 08:55AM

distance of more than 2 hours becomes a big issue i think.

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