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Autumn meets

Is anyone else enjoying the freedom of kids back to school and the chance to start arranging meets again? The frustration built up over the summer is about to explode :)

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GoodTimes2022 - 31 Oct, 2022 - 10:33AM

There are genuine people on here.

It’s just a case of waiting and finding them. It does happen.

Recently I’ve had loads of spam messages ones that blatantly ask you to go to a paid site that says I’ve got too many messages here, can we chat on this site. Or sometimes it will be normal chat then it says can we go to the other site after a few messages have been exchanged.

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Dotty Green - 12 Oct, 2022 - 11:43AM

FeralFawning - 12 Oct, 2022 - 09:08AM

Why not ask a guy out?

TheBoredHousewife - 12 Oct, 2022 - 09:31AM

ExoticOrchid - 12 Oct, 2022 - 08:34AM

This belongs to one of the other threads that made me split my sides laughing when it first got posts. All sorts of reasons from both sides, some truly ridiculous. I had one who within the course of a week, had to go miles away for work, then fell ill, then was well enough again, then better and back to being ill.

I didn’t know where I was coming or going with him, and I guess neither did he! 😜

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FeralFawning - 12 Oct, 2022 - 09:08AM

I can't remember the last time a man asked me out on this site!

ExoticOrchid - 12 Oct, 2022 - 08:34AM

That's very true for BOTH sexes ... I've been told some of the ridiculous excuses given by women AFTER agreeing to meet ... like they dont "drive on motorways" ... "don't know how to get there" ... at least be honest FFS!!! 🤷🏻‍♀️

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leggysheila - 12 Oct, 2022 - 08:25AM

I'm a grand mother and I have to take my grandkids to school and do other things for my kids so time to enjoy a autumn meet is very limited XXX

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Sun_Beach&S.... - 11 Oct, 2022 - 09:54PM

Oh please....Hardly anyone on here arranges anything lol 🤣
They usually have cold feet,or too many options to choose

naughtynathan96 - 10 Oct, 2022 - 12:26PM

I have plenty of free time this autumn so if you fancy meeting up and satisfying your carnal pleasures then please hit me up :-)

Paula99 - 08 Oct, 2022 - 06:59AM


If you're frustrated and about to give up on finding the 'right' person ...it is possible contrary to what is posted on this forum...
You just need to read in-between the lines and bloody ignore social media.....good luck😁😁

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Conradd - 07 Oct, 2022 - 06:05PM

Who else loves Friday 🍾🍾💖, I’m like a kid

Happy Friday everyone xxx

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1552623 - 06 Oct, 2022 - 11:05PM

Guess only time will tell 🤷

TheBoredHousewife - 06 Oct, 2022 - 11:05PM

Marriedalone - 06 Oct, 2022 - 09:11PM

Lots of real people here. You just need to find them 😊

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Leeds52 - 06 Oct, 2022 - 10:46PM

I joined a few weeks ago. Last night I was talking to a colleague who years ago helped set up a dating site. Flooded it with bots and people paid to answer messages. I’ve looked at one or two conversations I’ve had recently and it’s got me wondering as some of the responses I’ve had have been v generic and slow to respond eg I’ve been cleaning the house this weekend.

ExoticOrchid - 06 Oct, 2022 - 10:15PM

Girl with a 🐈 tattoo - 08:25

That's a profile which has been deleted!

Sparkesmightfly - 06 Oct, 2022 - 09:56PM

So far @marriedalone it’s a fun and intriguing place.

Eliza Boo - 06 Oct, 2022 - 09:36PM

Yes Marriedalone!!! 🤣

1549698 - 06 Oct, 2022 - 07:35PM

There's an awful lot of comments on this thread that don't seem to have anything to do with organising the school run or am I missing the point altogether?
For me, it's less a problem of kids being around as not living in or travelling to London every week as it's location that's the issue. The married ladies of London and the Home Counties are (it appears by seeing where everyone comes from) far more likely to have affairs or at least be present on IE, than the ladies of Merseyside and Cheshire, sadly!

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Eliza Boo - 06 Oct, 2022 - 05:16PM

Distance takes nerve, or madness. The world conspires to make it perilous, unless you're there for work. If you enjoy feeling like you're in an Indiana Jones or Bond adventure, then in might be for you. Returning home late, hoping your cover story held, knowing you've been miles snd miles away from where you were supposed to be, it really is the 'extreme sport' of this life.

Think very carefully before cultivating a connection that's further away than convienient. Logistics are difficult and the potential for things to go wrong, unthinkable. And if you're just after a happy bonk there will almost certainly be the an opportunity nearer if you wait. Which means, if you're going that far for someone they mean a lot more. But occasionally there might be a connection that is so compelling and so electric, that you'll do it. But you have to accept you probably won't be able to make it happen often. Then youre choosing between regular shags, or occasional exquisite ecstacy.

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Dotty Green - 06 Oct, 2022 - 04:06PM

secretflirt68 - 06 Oct, 2022 - 02:17PM

I do agree with you, London and/or other larger cities do make things easier. For me it is easier to find gentlemen who say live in the suburbs or home counties but maybe commute into town for work (not as easy as pre- Covid). I have also met those who live in London but not anywhere near my area.

Big Cities are easy to get dayuse hotels - and so many choices.

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secretflirt68 - 06 Oct, 2022 - 02:17PM

Secretsquirrel999 - 06 Oct, 2022 - 12:53PM

I think it depends. The problem is, many people say they can travel, but the practicalities of life often mean they can't travel as much as their IE would like. That or they say they can travel until they've got their leg over, and then suddenly decide they can't. So it puts people on their guard. The scene around London gets a lot easier, as so many people travel to and from London for work, and can therefore work around things easier. Outside of the London commute, I would expect it to be difficult if the travel is a major thing. Also remember that an intimate meeting involves finding somewhere to meet, so unless you're like blueboy and can persuade ladies into a van, you're going to find opportunities a bit more difficult to come by. Just my opinion...

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Secretsquirrel999 - 06 Oct, 2022 - 12:53PM

Is living at a distance really a problem as my address seems to restrict attention although I’m willing to travel often

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WarmBodyxx - 26 Sep, 2022 - 12:29AM

Anybody else not able to sleep…?

secretflirt68 - 25 Sep, 2022 - 04:35PM

Fidges1 - 25 Sep, 2022 - 04:17PM

You don’t, basically.

Fidges1 - 25 Sep, 2022 - 04:17PM

How do guys chat to ladies if not a full member ?

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Mistee - 25 Sep, 2022 - 12:05AM

Yes for sure

1542317 - 20 Sep, 2022 - 09:31PM


Nothing against the forum or its members

My point was to Bobb, that I don’t care that I’m not impressing any ladies on the forum, as I say it’s only a few of you active regular and I couldn’t careless what anyone thinks anyway

That is not a pop at any of you either before I get jumped on

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FluffyClouds - 20 Sep, 2022 - 08:36PM

Blueboy -

Its just a forum to chat, so what?

Bobb20 - 20 Sep, 2022 - 08:13PM

Blue boy

You may think I am playing a card on a couple of these topics; but I’m actually not.

I’m just different to the likes of both yourself and Conradd.

Personally, I don’t see either of you as ‘competition’, for the likelihood is that we would each appeal to a very different target market, hence the reason I have no desire for male ‘in-fighting’ or belittling each other.

I am being as honest in my views as you are. In this scenario, for instance, I really don’t give a flying toot if women get more messages - and they get free membership. It was my decision to sign up and will be my decision to leave if I’m not happy with the site or my interaction here.

Make no mistake, I am no wall flower, I will have to feel that IE is providing value to me.

I can understand your frustration, but the milk is split, so my view is I don’t cry, I simply mop it up and make the most of it.

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1542317 - 20 Sep, 2022 - 08:01PM

I don’t impress anyone with good eyesight let alone bad 😂

And no fks are given either way

Paula99 - 20 Sep, 2022 - 07:35PM


If the world was blind ....who would you impress..😎?

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1542317 - 20 Sep, 2022 - 07:11PM


Have you not noticed yet, it’s literally only the same handful of ladies on the forum, trying to impress them is very low on my to do list

1542317 - 20 Sep, 2022 - 06:17PM

And here comes my stalker

I can always hear your footsteps…..

Who bloody couldn’t 😂

Bobb20 - 20 Sep, 2022 - 06:13PM


If you can only see doom in your life, then you have no hope!

You cannot change the fact women get more messages, so what’s the point in crying over it!

So, you have three genuine options:
1. Go and set up your own dating website that somehow attracts far more women than men (you’ll make a fortune and get the pick of women to boot - all of the men on here would be impressed with your success and women would fall at your feet)
2. Go and join another website that you think gives you better odds
3. Get on with it, and try to find a positive (which is the option I have chosen

Of course the 4th option is to moan and complian that life is not fair - which you seem be doing here - now I’m not a women, but I doubt many will find that an attractive trait.

The (male) crowd shout - go for option 1 !!!

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Paula99 - 20 Sep, 2022 - 06:02PM


What makes you think Bobb20 is being dishonest?...he is entitled to his opinion as you are...

Just because he doesn't share your dreams doesn't mean he can't have his own..

You are being honest and so is he..

The only rubbish here is the gobshite that comes from your mouth...🤭

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1542317 - 20 Sep, 2022 - 05:15PM

Bobb, no offence but you are talking rubbish

You honestly think having too many messages is a problem.?

Come on, the old nice guy act is getting very boring now

So are you saying you really prefer getting next to no messages or reply’s in favour of having your pick of any lady you want??

Say what you want about me, but at least I’m being honest on here

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Bobb20 - 20 Sep, 2022 - 04:18PM

Look on the bright side of life!

There are upsides and downsides to every situation.

As a guy, I could say women have it rough by getting so many messages (if this is true, and women really are inundated) - it means they have to spend a large amount of time sorting though, and will have to carefully sift the wheat from the chaff, for they may otherwise pick wrong, or may indeed miss a golden nugget. They also have to deal with either ignoring guys messaging, or ‘disappointing’ them! And some guys may not take this too well and unfortunately see it as rejection!

So chaps, would you really want that?

If you are a guy, be thankful, rather than complain (it is what is it and we have a bright side). Also gives you time to read through female profiles, and select carefully who you wish to contact, plus tweak your own profile if it doesn’t quite reflect you or sell your strengths well enough.

Good luck whichever side of the fence you are, to men or women :-)

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Skype2u - 20 Sep, 2022 - 02:50PM

I noticed something.

Why girls flying so higher..
Dont get...

Dotty Green - 20 Sep, 2022 - 10:57AM

Fuzzy and Blueboy

It really does depend who you connect with. Some of us ladies do respond and do not ghost and do go out and meet guys and have had success - and not always with guys 6ft and above.

It does work - it may take time - but give it a chance.

I am not excusing rudeness - and I have always made the effort to respond to message there would have to be a very good reason that I did not. Ladies also do get ignored and yes ghosted ... We are not all the same and I cannot comment how other women behave and obv we are not all looking for the same thing.

I feel we all here to take the chance and unless you actually meet - what is the point of being here .......

achilliesj - 19 Sep, 2022 - 11:12PM

Aye - all this pent up frustration needs unloading!

1542317 - 19 Sep, 2022 - 09:14PM


I’ll get in before the forum witches get in

It’s an extremely challenging place for guys, you will need to accept that your messages will get ignored a lot, if & when you get chatting to someone it’s highly likely they will just ghost you out of nowhere

That’s not to say you won’t or can’t meet anyone, just be prepared to have your patience tested a lot

Put whatever you want in your profile as it will make no difference either way to the outcome, most ladies here are very unrealistic, so just be you and if you are not over 6ft…. Pray you grow a few inches over night

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Fuzzylogic - 19 Sep, 2022 - 08:20PM

Really excited about this but just plucking up the courage to give this a go. But not convinced it will work based on some of the comments about men not getting anywhere. Should I give it a go?

Paula99 - 19 Sep, 2022 - 06:29PM


My name is Paula...but talking about animals you remind me of a character from.a famous book by Goorge Orwell...(not 1984) and yes I have read both but I don't think you have the intelligence to read....

Napoleon always blames Snowball when anything goes wrong...

You protest about how difficult it is for guys but you don't have anything of substance/serious opinion....you just quote from other websites..🤔

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Sparkesmightfly - 19 Sep, 2022 - 05:56PM

It’s utterly frustrating to not find someone local though! I would like a guy who can meet up without too much hassle and not feel like a hussy for wanting that connection x

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1542317 - 19 Sep, 2022 - 01:56PM


Just so triggered by what I want from this place

It’s great how it bothers you so much

Rs00oo - 19 Sep, 2022 - 12:22PM


1548913 - 19 Sep, 2022 - 12:20PM

I’m new on here but this sums up exactly how I feel (apart from arranging more meet ups as haven’t done that yet! )

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Icarus-1 - 19 Sep, 2022 - 12:20PM

Still looking for that elusive match

Breakfastinbed - 14 Sep, 2022 - 12:24PM

Kids, jobs, finding a match, free time, geography all go to making it sometimes difficult. Perseverance and patience are required. Keep looking, keep trying. The right person may be the next person

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Paula99 - 11 Sep, 2022 - 08:50PM


If you copy B1981 stratagy ....you will end up with a load of one night stands...probably 9/10s....but you won't keep a long term lover ...but who cares because he thinks that's how it works..good luck..😊😊😊😊

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Bukowski69 - 11 Sep, 2022 - 07:06PM

Still awaiting my first date whether a coffee, dinner or ridiculously good sex.

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1542317 - 07 Sep, 2022 - 02:13PM

Fidges you got this….!👍🏻

I believe in you

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Fidges1 - 07 Sep, 2022 - 12:03PM

Hi Eminem I new and a little shy😆😆 married from Leeds a nice ladies want to chat ??
Would love to get to no some1 in the same 🛶

EmnEm123 - 06 Sep, 2022 - 09:22PM

Fidges 1

You'll be waiting a long time.

Put some effort in!!!

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Fidges1 - 06 Sep, 2022 - 07:21PM

I’m here ready and waiting

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Beckysharp - 05 Sep, 2022 - 09:26AM

Yes!! Although think he’s flaked on me. Men 🙄

Someone mentioned Uber eats but with men. If only 😂😂

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EmnEm123 - 03 Sep, 2022 - 02:38PM


You're right there!😁

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Chadrian - 03 Sep, 2022 - 01:32PM

I would certainly hope so!!! Well, I would if I could actually get any replies to messages!! My messages are always polite, hopefully having an element of humour within them and are generally reflective of their profile - it shows that I have bothered to read their profile.

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ExoticOrchid - 03 Sep, 2022 - 12:56PM

Lorelai Gilmore - 03 Sep, 2022 - 07:32AM

Looks like Mr Stats chose the wrong martini then! ;-)

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Eliza Boo - 03 Sep, 2022 - 07:32AM

In response to the original question...HELL YES!!! My extra curricular life is what keeps me a sane, attentive parent and a still present partner and I cant wait for normal service to resume...and I'm a bloody teacher myself!!! 🤣 But as a working person those windows of opportunity open up, which are possible but very much harder to find when you're full time parenting. Bring on that 'season of mist and mellow fruitfulness', i want my secret life back!

Martini Cinzano Bianco = dry
Martini Rosso = Sweet

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Paula99 - 03 Sep, 2022 - 06:43AM

Its like watching paint dry...🥱

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Naughtymilf - 03 Sep, 2022 - 12:04AM

I'm still stuck with my children as my brother booked aour holiday not realising they started this week

Dotty Green - 02 Sep, 2022 - 09:17PM

Mr Starman - 02 Sep, 2022 - 09:06PM


Sir Duke - 02 Sep, 2022 - 09:06PM

Great statistical analysis lads. The ladies are loving this!

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1542000 - 02 Sep, 2022 - 07:41PM

Hoping to get some form of meeting at some point, school holidays or not! Dating sites are never as easy as you think!

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Paula99 - 02 Sep, 2022 - 07:31PM

Le grande fromage...

Martini and Cinzano...? Same dog different collar 😁

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1541695 - 02 Sep, 2022 - 06:28PM

Fromage - yup, they are spoiled for choice. . It's like Uber Eats but with men 🤣

I think that Martini and Cinzano are pretty much the same thing

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Mad World - 02 Sep, 2022 - 06:05PM

@Martini Rosso

Good analysis on the stats hit rates. I tend to agree with you…women here say they are quote ‘inundated’ unquote with messages which I imagine is their get out for not replying quickly if at all. The burning question I have though is ..

What’s the difference between Martini and Cinzano? Are they different sides of the same coin? Or totally distinct alcoholic beverages?


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1432599 - 02 Sep, 2022 - 05:59PM

@ Martini Rosso - 02 Sep, 2022 - 05:35PM

Absolutely right there .. no argument at all with any of that ...

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1541695 - 02 Sep, 2022 - 05:35PM

Xperia, the stats for any ordinary bloke (the lower 95%) are a 1% response rate. That's even before you get ghosted 🤣.
Any woman typically get a 70%plus response rate.

It is what it is.

There is zero equivalency in what men and women experience on sites like this.

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Alexsofia - 02 Sep, 2022 - 04:50PM


1528387 - 02 Sep, 2022 - 03:58PM

God yes time for fun again

1432599 - 02 Sep, 2022 - 03:32PM

@RedBaron1970 - 02 Sep, 2022 - 12:39PM
@Martini Rosso - 02 Sep, 2022 - 02:40PM

Maybe its the case that some men aren't interested in 75% of the women on here .. maybe they are looking for just that more exclusiv,e and special, 5% -and maybe the same goes for women - in which case a 95% rejection rate (that is not been contacted/replied to) is perfectly acceptable to them ...

Taste and standards ... each to their own...

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Mad World - 02 Sep, 2022 - 03:15PM


You are completely right but one has to consider that women here need Mr Jolly Rodger to be in tip top shape and good working order. Hence the older we get, the more chance of letdown at that vital moment.

I can hear all the girls as one nodding in complete agreement. It’s a tricky one I admit.

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1541695 - 02 Sep, 2022 - 02:40PM

Sorry Ted, but that takes Fake It Til Ya Make It to a whole new level.

No dude gets a 75% hit rate unless they are Brad Pitt's better looking brother

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1504076 - 02 Sep, 2022 - 02:27PM

RedBaron... 75% response to to short, cuddly body from Aberdeen?


Cool story, bro

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Paula99 - 02 Sep, 2022 - 02:02PM

The Big cheese....

You're correct about not being clear cut...!

My kids are grown up ...I didn't have the time or the bandwidth to think about another guy....it never crossed my mind...
I don't think you can 'commit' to an affair until your children are much older....children always come first and they bring other needs to the table...homework...after-school clubs...etc..I was absolutely shattered and I had good parents that helped out.....😊

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Mad World - 02 Sep, 2022 - 01:40PM

The kids are asking
‘How come you’re going out a lot more Dad?’
‘Does Mum know you’re out again tomorrow?’
‘Who will make my dinner if you’re not here? Mum is rubbish in the kitchen as you know ..’

It’s really not such a clear cut thing you see


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3rdAge - 02 Sep, 2022 - 12:55PM

Hi don’t know about kids going back to school these days but I am enjoying the freedoms associated with - at last - full retirement and good health but unfortunately not achieving many responses on her🥲

1294092 - 02 Sep, 2022 - 12:39PM

I must be one of the odd ones out. At least a 75% response to messages. Met some lovely ladies, of all ages, shapes and sizes, over the years.

Summer was no hindrance and I recently met a very wonderful woman, whilst still early days it is developing into something special.

I’m by no means an attractive guy, but if I can successfully meet women through this site, any bloke with a pulse should be able to.

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Romeo_Abz - 02 Sep, 2022 - 12:32PM

I think kids going back to school gives more chance to meet up, as most of the time there is no one to look after the kids so makes it difficult to meet but how would I know, ain't found anyone on IE yet 😂

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1543178 - 02 Sep, 2022 - 11:55AM

Whilst the kids are back at school, it also often means both parents are back at work, so guess it cuts both ways.

For people serious about developing and following through on an affair, kids being home is never insurmountable 😉

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1542317 - 02 Sep, 2022 - 11:48AM


If you ain’t 6ft tall minimum you will fall at the 1st hurdle I’m afraid

laugar164 - 02 Sep, 2022 - 11:14AM

I love to arrange some daytime Meeting s just need to find a lady willing lol

1540093 - 02 Sep, 2022 - 10:51AM

Returning to the comments that there are singles on this site, is there a valid point as to why they shouldn't be?
We all have our reasons for being on this site.

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1544829 - 02 Sep, 2022 - 10:45AM

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 exotic orchid 👍👍👍

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Dotty Green - 02 Sep, 2022 - 10:21AM

Bobb20 - 01 Sep, 2022 - 09:13PM

I don't think I would use a dating coach either....

The way it has worked for me - chatty messages getting to know each other, pw exchange, then meet up for an initial drink, if there is a spark take it from there, if not say goodbye no hard feelings.

I don't think I have met I'VEGOTLOADSOFCASH :) hahahaha

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ExoticOrchid - 02 Sep, 2022 - 09:48AM

P99 - 05:40AM

He's on the wrong site. 🤔

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1544829 - 02 Sep, 2022 - 06:58AM

Even better if the female is up for some daytime fun while the kids are at school & hubbys at work 👅

Paula99 - 02 Sep, 2022 - 05:40AM


We all know you like to 'shock ' people with your statements...

The key thing is here ..you get off on the 'darkside'...your looking for a niche pleasure..

Fluffy...totally agree with you😊
His wife won't do what he wants......good on her for sticking to her principles.😈

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1504076 - 01 Sep, 2022 - 11:39PM

Bobb, some topics seem to be almost designed to rile up men
"Anyone Else Getting Tired Of Too Much Sex With Super Hot Guys?"

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ExoticOrchid - 01 Sep, 2022 - 10:36PM

FC - 10:24PM

Hear, Hear! 👏

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FluffyClouds - 01 Sep, 2022 - 10:24PM

Conradd -

You know, you really are full of it aren't you? Yes, you've got the physique. You've apparently got the stunning wife. Why don't you ask your wife to do the things you hope to find from an ie? Clearly, she won't. Or you dare not ask. Not surprising really considering. And I'm not surprised. So stop having a go at other men on here with your arrogance. You've become quite cocksure since you first graced this forum. Don't spoil it.

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Bobb20 - 01 Sep, 2022 - 09:13PM

Are we not way off the topic of Autumn meets now school is back :-)
Love how these threads grow legs and by the end everyone has forgotten what we started out talking about, so have to look at the title again as a reminder.
Anyway, to continue the throw off of topic, i think I’ll give YouTube dating coaches a miss, and just be myself (i ‘may’ fail with that approach, but I’d ‘certainly’ fail trying to be something I’m not).
Interesting that on a site like this the only real way to ‘initially’ get noticed is a pic or a username (age and location just being factual). Someone mentions attributes women dating coaches state as a ‘high value man’, but how can you tell those from a user name alone? (Surely it takes contact and a few messages to suss those things out, even if you are correct?) Or are people shallow enough to be attracted by a user name of ‘I have loads of Cash’ or similar? This would be an interesting experiment wouldn’t it! I wonder if one has been done on YouTube b

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1504076 - 01 Sep, 2022 - 06:32PM

Conradd - I think you may be reading a little too much into these YouTube coaches.

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Conradd - 01 Sep, 2022 - 05:57PM

Naughty Jason

Dating coaches on YouTube (yes plenty of them are legit) define a high value person on the dating scene to be those who attract the most positive attention.

So females coaches bracket h v men as being solvent, successful, confident, decent, tall, handsome and fit

These are not my terms and I find it fairly shallow and lacking.

For a man wanting to maximise his chances there are things he can do in this regard such as training with weights ( not skinny man sports).

Biggest mistake a guy can make is placing all his stall on being compassionate and pleading. I’ve heard progressive liberal women moaning too many men in their circle lack raw sex appeal.

Most middle aged couples we know have little or no sex but it’s usually the women declining

They want a hot confident guy to grab thier hair, not a wimpy lamb chop telling them what a strong independent woman they are

Naughty Jason - 01 Sep, 2022 - 04:43PM

Conradd what's your definition of a high value man and a high value woman?

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1541695 - 01 Sep, 2022 - 03:26PM

EmnEm, are you only basing your info on numbers of men and women here on what IE tells you?? 🤣🤣

If so, I have a bridge you may be interested in purchasing.

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Conradd - 01 Sep, 2022 - 02:50PM

My wife is hot and fun but that doesn’t mean one isn’t partial to a bit of pic n mix

My worry is I could end up falling for a new minx😱

Paula99 - 01 Sep, 2022 - 11:32AM

Don't believe everything you read?

According to some guys you think they had fantastic lifestyles and hot wives...

...why are they here if it's so good ?

Curvybrunette...I have said this before alot of guys are single......wonder why...🤣🤣🤣

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1541744 - 01 Sep, 2022 - 09:13AM


Reading some.of the profiles and comments on here I am less than surprised

1541744 - 01 Sep, 2022 - 09:09AM

While I am looking forward to the routine of the.kids being back at.school I.am also going to miss the.little beggars being around and doing things with them.

Conradd - 01 Sep, 2022 - 07:50AM


High value men prefer a nice, easy going, feminine submissive 7.5 out of 10 to any one of the conceited, haughty, ‘exquisite’ princesses with their exacting demands.

I can’t imagine why any man would be bothered with such tedious, egotistical snobbery, jog on love, you’re extremely obnoxious.

some of us men already have stunning low maintenance wives who we have brilliant sex with , so the last thing we need is some high maintenance Diva who in all probability has plenty of floors such as kangaroo feet and is nothing like the bed prize she thinks she is.

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Curvy brunette45 - 01 Sep, 2022 - 07:45AM

I’m finding that more & more guys on here are single

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1541744 - 01 Sep, 2022 - 02:27AM

Getting back into a routine with the kids out at school will be nice but at the same time I will miss the little beggars being around as much to get under my feet and make me do things with them.
As for other comments about the women on here being incredibly fussy well I think that it is only fair.
Based on the female profiles that I have read on here it seems that the overwhelming reason for a woman to be here is because the spark has gone out of the relationship at home.
In my mind this doesn't mean that they just want a bloke to bend them over the kitchen table and give them a good seeing to but that they also want those compliments and conversations that make them feel special. That they may want a bit of romance and a bit of courting and maybe someone to ask how their day was or how they are feeling and maybe make them feel like they are the most incredible creature on the planet even if only for a short while.
I suspect that only then would the kitchen table become an option.
But I may be wrong.

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RosePetal0007 - 01 Sep, 2022 - 01:40AM


Naughty Jason - 31 Aug, 2022 - 11:56PM

@fFluffyClouds, Marilyn Monroe would have been the perfect role model for this site, after all she was married whilst having an affair with the president who was also married.
I think we should all tap ourselves on our back and revel in the fact that we'er in good company.

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1541861 - 31 Aug, 2022 - 11:10PM

Yes...I have more time to arrange meeting now . message me ladies 😘😘

FluffyClouds - 31 Aug, 2022 - 09:46PM

Smilewithyoureyes -

It's not odd at all in fact. It's called normal curiosity.

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1542317 - 31 Aug, 2022 - 09:44PM

Reading some of the ladies profiles on this site is the gift that keeps giving 😂😂😂😂😂

Disillusioned or what, but extremely entertaining none the less

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1501574 - 31 Aug, 2022 - 09:27PM

i’m not going to rise to the bait, it’s very odd indeed that you felt the need to look at my profile! say what you like i don’t care 🤷‍♀️

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Bukowski69 - 31 Aug, 2022 - 07:46PM

Hopefully my kids will not have to go back to school given they are over 21.

Just been stood up again. No message, so sat here. Would not mine but was the 3rd date after intimacy. So Here I am awaiting the moderator to approve this posting or reject.

And Man City are planning so the traffic was really bad. Plus I support Man Utd and the counsellor charges extra for that !

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FluffyClouds - 31 Aug, 2022 - 07:36PM

Smileinyoureyes -

I get fed up of women reckoning they are 'bang on what Marilyn Monroe was' when they're not. I mean, you even mention her in your profile.

What difference does it make that he has a preference for petite women, you said yourself, you didn't click.

I'm amazed the mentioning of being bought gifts didn't make him run for hills in the first place.

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Conradd - 31 Aug, 2022 - 07:23PM

Blueboy it doesn’t bother me , I’m quite lucky but its a shame in a society where we constantly reminded to be kind that people don’t want to empathise with how it must make men feel to endure relentless rejection due to big male/ female imbalance on dating apps.

All the studies show around 10% of men get 90% of the action

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EmnEm123 - 31 Aug, 2022 - 05:50PM


He knew how tall you were, he just didn't fancy you, he sounded like he was trying to let you down gently.

I know that rejection can make anyone feel bad, but crying yourself to sleep over a complete stranger, get out of here, you are not mentally unequipped to be here.

Do yourself a favour, this is not a love affair site!!

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1542317 - 31 Aug, 2022 - 05:49PM


Mate, please don’t waste your time

It’s all the man’s fault that it’s hard work here for us, nothing to with anything else at all

Conradd - 31 Aug, 2022 - 05:40PM


Do a search for men in your preferred category

Then the same for women

When I did this it was 4/1 men to wonen

1501574 - 31 Aug, 2022 - 05:37PM

my point is i cannot help my height and i made that clear from the off and i’m not obese by a far stretch! why can’t people just think before they speak 🤷‍♀️ we didn’t click that’s all i needed to know!

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EmnEm123 - 31 Aug, 2022 - 05:34PM


Hit a nerve???😁

FluffyClouds - 31 Aug, 2022 - 05:07PM

And she was 5ft6

FluffyClouds - 31 Aug, 2022 - 05:06PM

Smithwithyoureyes -

It's a myth MM was a 12-14.

She was a 6-8 US size. That's a 10-12 UK size. That was for her bust and hips. Her waists were taken in. She had a 24 inch waist.

1542317 - 31 Aug, 2022 - 04:59PM


Talking rubbish as always

1501574 - 31 Aug, 2022 - 04:54PM

Anytime is a good time to meet as far as i’m concerned it won’t matter whether the kids are back at school or not, if you really wanted to see someone you would find the time!

i met someone yesterday, he seemed nice we had a coffee and a chat but although chatting online was great, face time face we had no connection…sometimes it’s just not there 🤷‍♀️ he did upset me slightly by saying he preferred petite women (i’m 5ft 10.5) he knew that already so maybe he thought i was fat 😂 i’m a size 12/14 bang in what Marilyn Munroe would have been kinda cried myself to sleep :( but woke up this morning realising if that was the reason what a shallow person he was and i dodged a bullet really :)

and yes i hope he reads this, you know who you are!

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EmnEm123 - 31 Aug, 2022 - 04:37PM

Bob a Job

Best username ever, made me smile!😁

EmnEm123 - 31 Aug, 2022 - 04:36PM


Again, there is no disparity between the numbers of men and women.

You say that women are ultra picky and fussy, get real!

Did you really expect to come on here and have women falling at your feet, in desperation for your attention.

What do you have to offer that we ALL want, obviously nothing.

Everyone has their own taste, you have just proven that for men like you, it's just a hole to stick it in.

Get real!

As Bobb20 (sounds like a really decent guy, hope he meets someone fantastic) said, women can smell the desperation and the lack of care who they stick it too!

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1542317 - 31 Aug, 2022 - 04:11PM


You do make a good point

However I think it’s really just a case of the numbers disparity between men & women the fact women don’t pay & of course what us men really want from here compared to what ladies want or are expecting I should say

Meaning their attitude to this place is very different, there are no time constraints, they can play the long game, be ultra picky and fussy, where’s us guys, the clock is ticking

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Bobb20 - 31 Aug, 2022 - 03:58PM

Curious but keen
As another man, like you, commenting, I do wonder whether women can smell desperation in some men, and it is rather off putting?
Personally I’m not into throwing ‘mud at a wall hoping some of it will stick’ (well not yet anyway as I’m pretty new to site :-)).
I liken it to walking up to every woman in a bar on a singles night and handing over your photocopied phone number, hoping one, anyone, will ring you.
I made a similar comment about face photos on another thread, I’m just of the view that I would rather only message those that catch my attention and appeal, and pen a half decent note to them. If no reply, then so be it. However, if someone likes my messages then it may go a bit further!

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Curiousbutkeen - 31 Aug, 2022 - 02:40PM

As a male I don’t believe it makes a difference…. This site and many others are like going into a casino…. You buy your chips and have a limited time to try and get the jackpot…. The more messages you send the greater the chance of a response before your money runs out and you buy some more or walk away back to reality. For the ladies, it must be like a visit to the sweetly shop with a gift token for as much as you like , or shopping for fruit and carefully picking every item up but buying none.
I have been on here 12 months sent hundreds of messages, can count the replies on two hands , and had one lovely lady stay in touch for 9 months , but she lives 5 1/2 hours away….
We all have busy lives and we all want that hidden gem…. But I wouldn’t be commenting here if only half the people I messaged could have bothered to reply….. this is just how I see it anyway !!!

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1541695 - 31 Aug, 2022 - 01:41PM

Poole, if I makes you feel any better, this site is one of the absolute worst from a man's perspective. Not only are married ladies SUPER picky with who they want to engage with, this forum also comes with a small band of very vocal women who enjoy telling you to "get over yourself" etc.

You have to make sure that you are in a good place mentally before stepping into this particular bear pit.

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1544443 - 31 Aug, 2022 - 01:06PM

My son is grown up so I don't have that problem but I guess it'll free some of the ladies on here... :-)

JamScones - 31 Aug, 2022 - 12:53PM

I don’t have kids so it’s less about that, and more that I now have to deal with the traffic going into work each morning again 😅

Conradd - 31 Aug, 2022 - 08:55AM


So what is it about what you bring to the table that isn’t tempting?

It’s good to be kind and virtuous but understand that alone isn’t going to get pulses racing. Nice is not enough and sounds like a wholewheat cracker

Bob a Job - 31 Aug, 2022 - 07:50AM

Mine are young adults but its finding a partner to begin with, lots of time wasters and fibers lol

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Dotty Green - 31 Aug, 2022 - 07:35AM

I don’t have the tie of kids…. So definitely had fun over the summer …. Just had to squeeze our meets in around holidays

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Sammi1975 - 31 Aug, 2022 - 12:55AM


Justawhile - 30 Aug, 2022 - 11:33PM

Frustration exploding. Oxymoron?

Justawhile - 30 Aug, 2022 - 11:30PM

Time to put the toys away. Yippee

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EmnEm123 - 30 Aug, 2022 - 08:03PM


There was absolutely no need to bring the C word into it!!!

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Stec65 - 30 Aug, 2022 - 08:00PM

Soon be Christmas lol

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1536788 - 30 Aug, 2022 - 07:43PM

I’m certainly hoping the school holidays have been to blame for a pretty fruitless summer.
You certainly get introduced to a new level of rejection here - just a wall of silence.
I actually look forward to a message saying‘thanks but you’re not my type’. At least it’s something !!

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1543688 - 30 Aug, 2022 - 06:07PM

Frustration caused by kids?

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happynrg - 30 Aug, 2022 - 05:36PM

Keen to explore the local countryside in west Scotland.

1352614 - 30 Aug, 2022 - 05:30PM

That given if you find someone actually who meets up 🤣👌
Excuses,excuses,excuses lol
My cats dog three times removed aunty died lol🤣🤣🤣

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1490598 - 30 Aug, 2022 - 04:52PM

I can think of bigger issues like actually having someone to meet!!!

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Paula99 - 30 Aug, 2022 - 03:09PM

Naughty Jason....

I wouldn't be so sure....there are a few single women on here...as there are single guys

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Naughty Jason - 30 Aug, 2022 - 02:30PM

When my kids were young my biggest worry was making sure their homework was completed, now my biggest worry is bumping into them on a dating site. I think that's one of the reasons why I chose IE. At least we know that almost everyone else on here is also married

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PassionateSeeker82 - 30 Aug, 2022 - 02:25PM

I'm also looking forward to September onwards and also the opportunity of getting back into the office. Gives me a few extra opportunities for dates and things etc 😉

1540704 - 30 Aug, 2022 - 01:22PM

It's been a few years since I've needed to worry about childcare for the school holidays. The freedom of having independent adult kids, who have grown up & left home :-)

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1540093 - 30 Aug, 2022 - 12:12PM

Kids? I'm onto grandkids now so it's not an issue for me.
More of a problem is leaves on the line and the wrong type of snow. Maybe I need to relocate!

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