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Should I start something at work?

My colleague smiles at me a lot. We have an obvious attraction to each other. But, she's my colleague. She doesn't have a ring on her finger, which could mean she's single but it could mean she just doesn't wear a ring. My ring is tattooed on. Is this too close to home?
 

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1616715 - 06 Sep, 2023 - 12:21AM

Definitely not. If it goes sideways you still have to see that person every day. Either you'll have to leave or they will.
Working every day with someone when there is a bad atmosphere will be murder.
Keep it away from work.

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Babs willow - 28 Aug, 2023 - 01:22AM

I think it would be exciting to have fun at work x


laugar164 - 17 Aug, 2023 - 08:02PM

Paula all I can say there mustn't of been any vigorous action outer wise the sensors would pick it up

If it was me the lights would be on all the time and any heat sensors would trigger 😂😂😂😂😂😂


Paula99 - 17 Aug, 2023 - 06:01PM

Laugar164…

It’s true the cleaners see everything …I remember one year and there was a couple in the gym and the lights came on automatically in the corridor but it was winter time and darker than usual and the cleaner fell over the couple…the cleaner had to report the accident because the lights didn’t come on in the gym …the couple were investigated but here we are years down the line and it’s still a sensitive subject ..😂😂😂😂😂😂

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laugar164 - 17 Aug, 2023 - 04:59PM

No no no. There is rumours going round my our office about two people getting caught by the cleaners one evening now there's an investigation even if nothing went on the rumours are out there


Politefunandnearlynormal - 17 Aug, 2023 - 01:47PM

As others have said, just no, no, no

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JimmyG789 - 17 Aug, 2023 - 11:39AM

My advice .... no no no no !

Workplace affairs, misunderstandings and unwelcome attention can ruin lives and careers ...just not worth the risk !

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Hedone - 29 Jul, 2023 - 05:47PM

Maybe some on here aspire to be the office bike 🤣

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Paula99 - 29 Jul, 2023 - 05:20PM



Wouldn’t risk my profession for some high maintenance affair that would ruin a career….plus you are only seen as the office bike..

People have long memories when it comes to gossip..😞


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ExoticOrchid - 29 Jul, 2023 - 05:13PM

And when things go wrong, run to HR with "sexual harassment" complaints ... great!!! 🤦🏻‍♀️

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Hedone - 29 Jul, 2023 - 04:38PM

Abbie O
I’m not sure if that’s your attempt at sarcasm or whether you mean what you’ve written, if it’s the latter than the men of IE should be scared

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SeekingThe1 - 28 Jul, 2023 - 08:03PM

Work & pleasure….definitely a no no for me!


1613363 - 28 Jul, 2023 - 11:54AM

I have had a couple of one night stands on work nights out and they were great!!!


AbbieO - 28 Jul, 2023 - 07:32AM

Oh yes. 100 per cent grab her! She seems to be giving you all the signals. And a work fling is always exciting. Whenever I’ve pulled a guy at work it’s been such fun. All the knowing glances to eachother the morning after. And sneaking off to a quiet corner for a quick snog and touch ;-))


Honeybeach75 - 24 Jul, 2023 - 10:11PM

Not worth the risk to be honest, too close to home.

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Smiling49 - 24 Jul, 2023 - 08:35PM

Anyone here from Suffolk?


Monicas55 - 24 Jul, 2023 - 08:20PM

Not at all go for it


1575857 - 24 Jul, 2023 - 08:07PM

At the end of the day no matter where it originates an affair starts to get close to home, so I'm not sure how different it is from something on IE. Definitely brightens up work in my experience.

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Jay122 - 24 Jul, 2023 - 07:31PM

It’s a big no no for me, would end up leading to problems for sure. I did have a fling about 25 years ago but I was in the junior position as it were’!


Elmothelmo - 24 Jul, 2023 - 07:16PM

Wouldn't risk if it you're senior and massively care about your job. If you've got other prospects then you can't beat the thrill of sneaking around the office


Smartypants65 - 24 Jul, 2023 - 06:53PM

My favourite is ‘don’t fish from the company pier’. Love it


Smartypants65 - 24 Jul, 2023 - 06:52PM

The best bits about this topic is the euphemisms : don’t sh*t on your own doorstep, don’t dip your pen in the same ink.. keep them coming!



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Funster77uk - 24 Jul, 2023 - 04:28PM

You only live once!


1612345 - 24 Jul, 2023 - 02:35PM

Sounds like you need to do a little more basic research as to whether or not she is married; whether or not she understands that you're married (if that's what your finger tattoo means) and so on. Once you've established that you have to find out what the office rules are on inter-staff relationships and then ask yourself how much of a risk you're prepared to take with your current marital status for the sake of an office fling (and maybe your job). Unless you have your own executive office with an overnight suite for working late, it usually means a hotel, so…
But honestly? The excitement of an affair is NOT having to see the same person day in, day out.


LonelyFem - 24 Jul, 2023 - 11:48AM

My situation was a little different I met someone on here and ended up working at same company it didn’t last as we never got any time alone. he thought it would be ideal as would spend 5 days a week with each other . I still work there . we are still talking but no longer have a sexual relationship


Dottie1 - 24 Jul, 2023 - 11:11AM

You only live once! I've done it before as it was amazing. Definitely worth the risk. The thrill of it is just something else


1612867 - 24 Jul, 2023 - 09:11AM

Never dip your pen in the office ink...it's too much of a risk. A 60 mile distance is the best rule.

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Smartypants65 - 24 Jul, 2023 - 09:06AM

Next! They might as well ask, ‘Would you have sex with your neighbour’s cat.’

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MaggieMee - 22 Jul, 2023 - 09:23PM

a hard no…ever heard the expression don’t sh*t on your own doorstep? basically people will find out, they will
gossip and some will have fun hinting to your wife / husbands what you’ve been up to because people love to knock others down meh not worth the risk…work is work, okay should be kept away from work and home IMO

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1604745 - 18 Jul, 2023 - 11:39PM

I think if you are at a similar level and you are not very fussed about your career/job then it's probably harmless.

But if you are in a senior position. I am very strictly against it. I have had non physical intimate moments with a couple of my analysts which could easily have gone somewhere but i would never abuse my position, its simply not worth the risk.

In general, it is stupid to risk important aspects of your life for an affair.

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Funguy77 - 17 Jul, 2023 - 10:22PM

Just don’t fish from the company pier simple rule. God could you imagine how awful it would be if it went wrong or even if it went well. None of the above ends well right ?

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Beckysharp - 17 Jul, 2023 - 06:55PM

How do you stop yourself falling in love Han 9010?


Han9010 - 17 Jul, 2023 - 06:36PM

100% do it. Don’t fall in love and be honest with her.


Beckysharp - 17 Jul, 2023 - 12:20PM

Sandypops your posts always make me smile you sound like a very warm person!

Not quite the same but I had an ‘open secret’ work affair in my early 20s (he was married I had a boyfriend) and we were weirdly treated like a couple at work, especially by the boss!

Looking back I’m horrified at my behaviour! We were openly affectionate/flirty and caught snogging a few times (luckily never anything more!!). Would never have a work affair again. Far too risky

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ClassyLady77 - 17 Jul, 2023 - 09:52AM

One of my many rules is don’t do anything with anyone you work with and I’ve only broke that once… 😜 wont do it again..

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laugar164 - 17 Jul, 2023 - 09:49AM

I agree with Paula. An affair it between two people not for office gossip the more people know the more risk of being found out , you only need to upset someone in the office and they may take revenge by spilling the beans

Office affair definitely not for me

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Paula99 - 17 Jul, 2023 - 09:18AM

Sandy pops..

Your posts are always good but I have to disagree with your last one…if your work colleagues have to ‘cover’ it up when her husband comes in I think that’s asking a bit much….it also only takes one person to make a mistake…I guess it can be denied but if her husband isn’t in the ‘right mindset’ and starts to make serious trouble I wouldn’t want to be implicated and I would certainly be pissed off if she upset my work environment ..
It’s frowned upon where I work and it’s a sackable offence I have had affairs in the past and each to their own but when you are expecting others to lie…to get your kicks.. I draw the line under this one …it shouldn’t be encouraged 😕

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Sandypops - 17 Jul, 2023 - 02:31AM

I def type too much 😂
Maybe I'm just a chilled boss though. One of my single employees started and affair with a married client who we saw everyday, twice a day and all weekend). I could sense the chemistry between them and spoke to them individually and told them both to just talk to each other about how they felt and go for it, if they wanted to. They are still having an affair 5 years later and still see each other everyday. But everyone at work knows and helps cover if her husband turns up.
But I appreciate this is not the norm 😂

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Sandypops - 17 Jul, 2023 - 02:26AM

I had initially intended to say, go for it .... until I read the comments here. I'm the boss and I have had a fling with a client's dad and a client's husband (both men were my age) but I didn't work with them EVERYDAY. The nature of my business meant I saw the guys daughter daily, but he came with her only a few times a week. The husband only came once a week with his wife. (And no I'm not a doctor or shrink or anything like that so no legally ethical rules were compromised)
I'm naturally flirty so staff often joke about me liking particular clients anyway and I joke back, so no suspicions were aroused. BUT if I was to have seen them, amongst other people. EVERYDAY, I'm sure the sexual chemistry would have been apparent. It's a very difficult thing to hide continually. Well, it is for me when all I want to do is rip their clothes off.

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Alexander512 - 16 Jul, 2023 - 11:20PM

This has happened at my old work place. I used to work on a helpdesk in a big office.

A girl was hired to do standard first line support job. Turned that she was an ex of one of the guys who was already working there. They had two kids together. She started seeing one of her colleagues. Obviously word got round. Her ex got pissed off and started making a nuisance of himself. Everyone was told to behave by management they have moved them to different floors. The girl found another guy and made sure that everyone knew that they were going out. It looks like she was on mission to piss her ex off.

In the end girl and her 3rd boyfriend were caught shagging in one of the smaller offices instead of working. Both of them were promptly fired.

Just be careful not be pawn in someone else's game.

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1546721 - 16 Jul, 2023 - 02:27PM

Agree its not worth the hassle

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1608086 - 16 Jul, 2023 - 01:47PM

I'd advise against it. 9 times out of 10 this will end badly, both emotionally and professionally. I'd suggest the attraction has only developed because you spend a lot of time together.

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MatureWorcsBBW - 16 Jul, 2023 - 01:43PM

No.
Not worth the potential discovery.


Seeking.something.exciting - 28 May, 2023 - 12:12AM

I had a fling at work, was really really good for a few months and then he started to develop feelings which it was always agreed it would be no strings attached, ended up causing a lot of drama and awkwardness and then colleagues ended up finding out!!

Whilst it can be fun it can be so so risky, I wouldn’t do it again personally but if you do make sure you’re both 100% on the same page!! Good luck :)

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The Joy of Impotence - 27 May, 2023 - 11:16PM

I'm a dairy farmer, so if I have an affair at work I'll end up seeing her for what she is...a cow.
I therefore never mix business and pleasure. I wait until I go and feed the hens before I allow myself any funny business. I'm into hens rather than cockerels, though. After all, I'm not queer.

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Springit - 02 Apr, 2023 - 04:01PM

I did have an affair at work . The plus side is I’ve never loved someone as much as her . The minus is that it’s far too close to home. If it’s an affair , they’ll probably be upset and jealously along the way. I worked with mainly women and she got so jealous it sometimes spilled over. You’ll never be able to hide it completely and people will know or at least start to talk about. It could cost you your job in which case your husband/ wife will know about it. After all’s said and done, I’d say avoid work affairs. Although if there’s attraction it’s a lot harder to just say no of course. Good luck whatever happens

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Sandokan1900 - 20 Mar, 2023 - 05:37PM

At if yuo are discret best place to know someone...


1583652 - 20 Mar, 2023 - 01:04PM

Never at work-trust me 🙈

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Dotty Green - 13 Mar, 2023 - 10:40AM

They should just put this thread out of its misery instead of dragging up every few weeks .....

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Dicknotdastardly - 12 Mar, 2023 - 11:51PM

Are you sure she doesn't have wind. Babies smile at you when they have wind.

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MatureWorcsBBW - 11 Mar, 2023 - 05:10PM

Absolutely not.




Bootycallicious - 11 Mar, 2023 - 01:56PM

Reminds me of the song 'Do you wanna be starting something...' 🤫

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Eliza Boo - 11 Mar, 2023 - 08:25AM

Paula, some people must have a lot less work than others! Amongst spinning the plates, reinventing the wheel and simultaneously painting the fourth bridge, I haven't got time for sexy at work...

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Paula99 - 11 Mar, 2023 - 06:57AM

Note ..

There is no discussion on this topic the answer is plain and simple…No 👎

Please send it to Room 101

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1490598 - 10 Mar, 2023 - 11:35PM

NO


1554570 - 10 Mar, 2023 - 10:43PM

God no, don’t go there. when it goes tits up you will still have to work together

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Hedone - 10 Mar, 2023 - 09:20PM

Just don’t, it’s not worth it and it can extremely messy and dangerous

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1586649 - 10 Mar, 2023 - 04:25PM

Having an affair with a friend or colleague (however fit you find them) is basically shitting on your own doorstep. When it ends, which it will, you'll wonder why you did it.

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1581027 - 10 Mar, 2023 - 03:07PM

Alongside not disclosing that you're having an affair to ANYONE, not having an affair at work or within your social circle are core opsec (operational security) fundamentals!

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Redfirefox - 10 Mar, 2023 - 02:43PM

Well said Cuilleog. I’ve submitted topics also 🤷‍♀️

Anyway I’m only going to repeat what most ppl have said anyways. If you don’t mind the office gossip and the risk of your dirty laundry being aired in public - Go for it.
Hopefully they’ll be no awkwardness when it inevitably finishes. Fingers crossed the other party doesn’t confide in fellow colleagues and then they don’t in turn confide in colleagues. Furthermore let’s hope you don’t lose your job when things come crashing down.
Yeah, can’t see a problem with work affairs. Sounds fun. 🤪

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1546412 - 10 Mar, 2023 - 02:18PM

On the substantive topic: No, no, no and no again. I got away with doing it in my 20s, with another Co worker also in her 20s. But not many of us are at that BS rage on this site, are we?

As to the topics- FFS, Illicit Encounters, please stop being so lazy and consider using the occasional new topic, instead of ENDLESSLY recycling the same ones Flirt Forum topics aren’t going to affect climate change, so you don’t have to re-use them again and again. I’ve submitted potential topics, and I’m sure others here have. I’ve seen the same topics over and over and over. 🙄

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Suzanna Foxwell - 10 Mar, 2023 - 01:30PM

Don't go there. At least one of you if not both will lose your jobs. That's if you're lucky. If you're unlucky you'll be trapped there with everyone saying what a bastard you are when it ends.

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The64Vintage - 10 Mar, 2023 - 01:21PM

No, no, no!!! I tried it once, many years ago. What a disaster.

Unless, it's with the love of your life (which seems unlikely) then I can't see how it can ever end well.


Paula99 - 10 Mar, 2023 - 12:42PM



This subject is doing the rounds ..AGAIN

If you are intelligent ..single ..married ..or living in sin ..then why would you want to get involved with someone at work ?
You are the topic of conversation.. the group dynamics alter and you drive everyone to distraction..it’s got nothing to do with jealousy or attention…just less work gets done..if you have a falling out then that manifests into the workplace ..which means you can cut the atmosphere with a knife ..in turn makes OP generally pissed off ..
Further down the line you get called in the office and told to ‘cool off your affair’ then you are walking around with face like thunder and then you expect your work colleagues to be sympathetic and you wonder if it was all worth the hassle???

Worst case scenario you could have a written warning or the sack for sexual harassment…why would you risk all of that ?😕

This should be in the rule book for cheaters …. Don’t shit on your own doorstep 😂

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HampshireClaret - 10 Mar, 2023 - 12:33PM

My advice...

"Don't shit on your own doorstep".

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Paula99 - 20 Dec, 2022 - 07:18PM

Marlen … . I have to agree with this one.

Don’t risk your company perks for a quick shag 😕

Mipaulac…before you go off on one …no I have never been in this position or do I intend to be .. 😂


Marlen - 20 Dec, 2022 - 02:34PM

Depending on your employer, check your contract. Some insist on being advised if you get into a relationship with a work colleague. For every relationship that works, loads don't. If one of you gets spiteful, if things don't work out it could be difficult at work. However, if you're prepared to change jobs if it doesn't work, go for it!

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SugarCherrylips - 19 Dec, 2022 - 09:37AM

I did too and that’s why I ended up on IE.


midnight_rambler - 28 Nov, 2022 - 08:26PM

Only you can decide , weigh up the risks and the pros and the cons. I did and we had eight wonderful years together off and on (more on than odd). When it came to a conclusion I ended up on IE.

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1565974 - 26 Nov, 2022 - 08:18PM

Oh gosh well certainly learn from others mistakes Paula99 know all about that???

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Paula99 - 26 Nov, 2022 - 07:25PM

Mipaulac….

Human nature will never be prohibited.. but I hope that some may learn from others mistakes..🤔

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mipaulac - 26 Nov, 2022 - 06:11PM

Paula99

On a general, overt fling basis yes but how can you prohibit human nature

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Paula99 - 25 Nov, 2022 - 12:05PM

Mipaulac…

Do you not agree with me?

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Mrsrose 844 - 24 Nov, 2022 - 09:13PM

It's one of those could you still work together if anything ever happened?, would it get back to your partner? It's very risky but also look at the relationship you have


mipaulac - 24 Nov, 2022 - 09:00PM

Paula99

Your dead aginst this one
I'm dying to know if you've been there ??


Paula99 - 24 Nov, 2022 - 07:24PM

As a rule.. it doesn’t work

Don’t go there!!!

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Littlebird361 - 23 Nov, 2022 - 06:31PM

When you mix business and pleasure, as a general rule, when the pleasure stops so does the business.

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Soulman68 - 22 Nov, 2022 - 03:39PM

Been there done it, great whilst it lasted but never again personally, but have seen it work for others.


Paula99 - 19 Nov, 2022 - 08:28PM

Ohhh yea they do 😋

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mipaulac - 19 Nov, 2022 - 07:58PM

Paula99
So your saying colleagues have sexier uniforms than you ha ha ??


Paula99 - 19 Nov, 2022 - 07:30PM

My uniform is bog standard I am afraid … 😁


mipaulac - 19 Nov, 2022 - 07:15PM

Paula99

Just your colleagues ?? Not you :-)


damiana - 18 Nov, 2022 - 08:59PM

What is more arousing than taboo, secret liaisons, forbidden desire? On which story will dine out on in your final moments? ...the one how you played it safe and climbed a few rungs on the career ladder or about the time you shagged in the janitor's closet?? ;p

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Paula99 - 18 Nov, 2022 - 06:30PM

Mipaulac…

Let’s just say they look hot in their uniforms…😋

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mipaulac - 17 Nov, 2022 - 10:00PM

Paula99

I didn't mean yourself rather work collegues


Paula99 - 16 Nov, 2022 - 11:18AM

Mipaulac..

You have got to be joking !!?

I have the intelligence and the common sense not too but it happens at the work place.. yes it could be 2 single people but the outcome is the same in most cases😁

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mipaulac - 16 Nov, 2022 - 01:16AM

Paula99 - 13 Nov, 2022 - 12:27PM
Sounds like your speaking from experiance there ........did you fancy him ?? :-)
Like everything else it depends on the situation. Lets be honest the situation you allude to could occur between two single people or two already attached/ married when the one half finds out the other is cheating on IE !!!!


1533992 - 14 Nov, 2022 - 01:00AM

What would you do if someone at work found out you were on here.
Looking at some profiles that wouldnt be too difficult

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1558991 - 13 Nov, 2022 - 09:20PM

Oh yes certainly end in disaster MsAttitude


MsAttitude - 13 Nov, 2022 - 09:12PM

It’s far too close to home. The potential for things to go wrong or become public knowledge is massive, and things will get very difficult. I’ve made that mistake before and things very nearly ended in disaster.

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1558991 - 13 Nov, 2022 - 06:45PM

Massive NO affair is an affair know exactly what getting into


1558991 - 13 Nov, 2022 - 06:40PM

She gotta penny's worth in Paula99!!!

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Pleasurepole - 13 Nov, 2022 - 06:07PM

It’s a big No I’m afraid. An affair is an affair and at the end of the day you probably won’t leave your wife. Therefore a break up is inevitable which will bound to at least leave an atmosphere and friction at worst be intolerable and May end up one of you have to leave. Find someone on IE at least you’ll be on the same page right from the start.

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Paula99 - 13 Nov, 2022 - 12:27PM

Mipaulac…

Relationships have been (in the past) forged in the work place and have survived.. but people perceive affairs as the norm and treat them like a regular relationship.
The issue I have is how it affects your work colleagues and the behaviour in the work place….some are adult and discreet and you would never guess but others are blatantly obvious and tasks get ignored because the 2 involved are ignorant of their co workers and so the resentment begins then all of a sudden the affair is over …one is crying.. the other gets moved and the ‘team’ goes into meltdown..

Work is work and you should leave your ‘hobbies’ and emotions out of it… the majority of people cannot handle the ‘fallout’ and so everyone else has to suffer the consequences….

We need to be mindful of the people around us 😊

RealAffair… your right no good comes from this 😕

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RealAffair - 12 Nov, 2022 - 10:17PM

Usually no good will come of this.

Of course there are exceptions of marriages, blissful relationships, ...
BUT they are exceptions in my experience


mipaulac - 12 Nov, 2022 - 02:40AM

Red Succubus

maybe not if you keep it in the family ......or team :-) !!??!!


mipaulac - 12 Nov, 2022 - 02:37AM

Paula99 - 10 Nov, 2022 - 04:10PM
It depends who is sitting around the board room table as your getting shagged upon it :-)
Whatever happened to discretion many long term relationships have been forged through work it's a sad indictment of modern employment cuture that people are driven to sordid web site liasons


A Girl Like You - 12 Nov, 2022 - 12:20AM

I’ve never heard of an office affair that ended well .

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1533992 - 11 Nov, 2022 - 11:37PM

Exotic Orchid will know who i refer to! Ha ha


1533992 - 11 Nov, 2022 - 11:22PM

Equally awkward is a where 2 women at a drinks do on another adultery site find out that they are both shagging the same male member and that he has a portfolio of women on the go at the same time. .........Awkward

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Red Succubus - 11 Nov, 2022 - 07:14PM

Leggy Sheila

You must be so proud of that. I’m just thinking one little std could end up going round robin. Keeping it in the workplace and all that !

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ExoticOrchid - 11 Nov, 2022 - 04:26PM

FluffyClouds - 11 Nov, 2022 - 01:39PM

Not just at the workplace ... same thing in social groups ... when it doesn't work out, it is awkward not just for the couple but also the wider circle of friends ... hence my being on IE!

[also same when you get divorced ... very awkward for your circle of friends ... you then get two groups ... those who take sides and those who drop both of you because they don't want to take sides!!! Also of course the "marrieds ie wives" don't want a single female in the group but are happy to have the single male as a "spare male" is always welcome and they can then match him up with their single female friends]

[I also have female friends who have fallen out but I'm still friends with both so it's really awkward when organising something or whether to say what to whom]

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FluffyClouds - 11 Nov, 2022 - 01:39PM

It was bad enough when I dated someone in my office very briefly when we were both single. It's just awkward when it doesn't work out and there's always the office gossip.

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Conradd - 11 Nov, 2022 - 01:30PM

There is no possible right or wrong answer as no two situations are the same.

You need to make a judgment call

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JonP1974 - 11 Nov, 2022 - 10:53AM

No, never get involved with anyone at work. Causes issues if you're trying to be secret, causes issues if things don't work out. Plus if they're single they have nothing to lose.

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mipaulac - 11 Nov, 2022 - 12:25AM

kirstyt39
Sorry, but I know Leggysheila likes to shock, and couldn't resist telling us she wasn't put off by him having done other girls there too, so just wondered if it became a team game :-)

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1533992 - 10 Nov, 2022 - 11:05PM

In my experience when work colleagues are involved with each other it always gets out. The girls are always the first to pick up on it ad they have greater emotional intelligence

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lifestooshort86 - 10 Nov, 2022 - 10:53PM

I think it's worth exploring if you can both be discreet. There is an added level of excitement that comes with the secrecy of hiding it from work colleagues as well as parners. That being said it can all go very wrong very quickly so the risk is very high...many say "don't poop where you eat" lol

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1558991 - 10 Nov, 2022 - 09:17PM

Mipaulac
You naughty guy!!!

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mipaulac - 10 Nov, 2022 - 08:43PM

leggysheila
you naughty girl !!!
Was it at work, in the office with the other girl getting done at the same time :-) :-)

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Smartypants65 - 10 Nov, 2022 - 06:17PM

I might start to work at work


ExoticOrchid - 10 Nov, 2022 - 05:42PM

P99/k39

Especially for the men in this day and age of #metoo when even an innocent compliment can be reported as sexual harassment!

The day is not too far away when men (perhaps women too) will have to start wearing bodycams to protect themselves against false accusations!

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1558991 - 10 Nov, 2022 - 04:28PM

Paula99 totally agree with you certainly not worth taking the risk quicky boss board room certainly hit harassment or fired?


Paula99 - 10 Nov, 2022 - 04:10PM

If you do this at work … you become the topic of all office gossip plus you loose the respect of your co workers..

You might think it’s just jealousy but this kind of thing creates too many distractions plus you may line yourself up for harassment and disciplinarys in the future..

You will always be known as the ‘one that shagged the boss’

I hear it everyday at work and some of the story’s go back years.. somethings are never forgotten.

Is it worth risking your job for a quickie over the boardroom table ? 😕

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leggysheila - 10 Nov, 2022 - 03:33PM

Naughty little me did it with the boss several times and he had done several of the other girls as well XXX

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Paula99 - 10 Nov, 2022 - 03:13PM

NO NO NO NOT EVER

DONT GO THERE 😳

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Zero 55 - 10 Nov, 2022 - 02:45PM

I did it with an older coworker in the big freezer 😸. I was young (19) and dumb 🤣 (so don't question me). well I still am dumb. I say If both of you are ok to risk then go for more discrete place unless you wanna go 🤠.


1546412 - 10 Nov, 2022 - 02:25PM

I did it numerous times in my 20s, with varying results. I worked in media where all the you guns are kind of expected to shag each other, there’s loads of parties with free drink, etc. But even at that stage of life it can make things awkward. It never got that way for me, but I was managing several exes who didn’t want to be on assignments together, for obvious reasons. As a married person? DO NOT DESTROY YOUR LIFE FOR SOME ILLICIT STICKY MICKY! I have two words for you as an example: Matt. Hancock. Do you REALLY want to go through a divorce and work humiliation like him? And no one is going to pay you £400k to go and eat Kangaroo anuses on a reality programme. 🫵

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1483842 - 10 Nov, 2022 - 02:04PM

No.

No.

No.

Business and pleasure. No.

Anonymity. No.

Putting your own needs before family protection when needed at it's highest level is reckless, risky, selfish and you are, quite frankly, answering your own question by questioning it.

That's what IE is for. The safest platform for the needs of my husbands life to stay as it is with as little risk as possible. Even in this situation, I still put the needs and protection of my family life before the needs of what's throbbing in my panties.

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ExoticOrchid - 10 Nov, 2022 - 01:40PM

NOLo - 12 :54PM

Wise words! 👍


NikOLo - 10 Nov, 2022 - 12:54PM

It has far more chance of causing you lasting problems than for providing value to your life.

Like with anything, cutting corners due to proximity and convenience will come to bite you in the behind.

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PecanPie - 10 Nov, 2022 - 11:08AM

Don’t

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1558991 - 10 Nov, 2022 - 10:24AM

Well tricky one alot loose work alongside person but flip side of the coin attractions there why not go for it?


1527012 - 06 Jun, 2022 - 09:39PM

I'd advise don't do it. It's fun at the start then it will make work awkward.

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Paula99 - 06 Jun, 2022 - 09:36PM

Maxiejack...

Don't consider it...it rarely works out..

If he flirts with you at work then others will have noticed..

Be prepared to risk everything....your playing high stakes

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1523551 - 06 Jun, 2022 - 07:22PM

I’m in a similar situation myself, I’m married and he is living with a woman and they have children together, and we flirt outrageously with each other but he hasn’t ever stepped over the mark, however we all went out after work a couple of weeks ago and he walked me home and I think it’s just dawned on him that in that situation we can be alone and do what we want and no one would know, so he said we will get it on real soon🫰


1519510 - 06 Jun, 2022 - 10:15AM

Far too close.

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1513751 - 24 May, 2022 - 10:56AM

Tricky to answer as several questions about working situation. If you do and relationship ends, you still have to work together and could cause issues


ClassyLady77 - 24 May, 2022 - 08:14AM

Don’t go there. I presume your not single and never mess with single women. Only ends one way and never good for you.. 🤦🏼‍♀️


1482875 - 24 May, 2022 - 12:08AM

Yes


1401866 - 24 May, 2022 - 12:03AM

@ Witch 1 😂😂😂


1444888 - 23 May, 2022 - 11:53PM

I did and later married her, so yes go for it


rarity23 - 16 May, 2022 - 01:57PM

I'd stick to keeping it a friendship, too much at stake to risk anything else.
I'm self employed and wouldn't risk getting involved with my clients for the same reason !

IE is such a good platform to find a like-minded person and with no drama, why risk it.

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Anna.K - 14 May, 2022 - 11:55PM

I agree:

Only ever start something with someone at work if:
A) You're prepared to change jobs and
B) You're prepared to leave your wife/husband... and
C) You're prepared to risk your reputation and your next job!

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1482216 - 13 May, 2022 - 01:33PM

*one wife came into the place I work and dumped her hubbys dirty underwear on said affairs desk , and suggested if she wanted to screw her hubby she could wash his pants too*

She should have dumped them on her husband's desk and told him if he wanted to screw around he could wash his own effing pants.

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1117169 - 12 May, 2022 - 10:58PM

@Witch1

You are not meeting the right kind of men then.

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1483184 - 12 May, 2022 - 08:11PM

Sportster , I don’t know any man apart from a mechanic who can fix a car 😂. And it ended in divorce , mistress got the dirty pants and hubby , wife got the house , kids and her respect result . And no it didn’t last

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1117169 - 12 May, 2022 - 08:00PM

@Witch1

That's a great story, but I can't imagine a bloke turning up at his rivals workplace, dumping his tool box on his desk and saying "If you want to screw my wife, you can fix her car too" 😉

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Chezley - 12 May, 2022 - 05:46PM

She's just smiling and professional. It's not enough to assume it's a come on. If she has true burning desire for you she would have instigated something by now to let you know.

So she doesn't really fancy you. Don't be a chump and make a faux Pas.

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truth and logic - 12 May, 2022 - 02:53PM

I have had too work affairs , but my job means im not desk or home bound. so its easier for me . I meet new people often and work with guys from different sectors. But twice is enough, too easy to get a bad name and people are far less relaxed about things than before,,, she might go to HR and you end up branded a sex pest , you can barely say someone looks nice or that you like what they are wearing these days, METOO AND WOKE has changed the work place and so here i am


1354814 - 12 May, 2022 - 02:47PM

Only ever start something with someone at work if:
A) You're prepared to change jobs and
B) You're prepared to leave your wife/husband...


Caroline Red - 11 May, 2022 - 09:11PM

Yes go there if you want insanity to ensue. Everyone will gossip about you so your career will be over and when it ends it will end really badly. Keep with the smiles and find someone with as much to lose as you to play with.

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TheBoredHousewife - 11 May, 2022 - 08:48PM

Witch1
Couldn’t ask for a better script 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼


FluffyClouds - 11 May, 2022 - 08:44PM

Might as well hand your notice in now, because it will just implode if you pursue it. Plus she is single which will make it more complicated if she starts wanting a future with you. Do you really want to take the risk of her threatening to tell your wife?


1483184 - 11 May, 2022 - 08:14PM

I know 👍😂


Paula99 - 11 May, 2022 - 08:11PM

Witch 1...🤣🤣🤣

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1483184 - 11 May, 2022 - 07:58PM

Imagine when someone finds out , they always do , and your work life implodes , about 2 days before your home life does too , someone always says something , one wife came into the place I work and dumped her hubbys dirty underwear on said affairs desk , and suggested if she wanted to screw her hubby she could wash his pants too . Classic she got a standing ovation

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Paula99 - 11 May, 2022 - 06:58PM

At one time my employers used to look the other way if there was anything going on...for years.
Now it's different and I have seen people getting warnings about their behaviour.....its frowned upon at work...
Not worth ruining your career ..pension ..private health care...and much more for the sake of a few hot nights with work colleague.

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DorsetLass89 - 11 May, 2022 - 11:59AM

I have the biggest office crush on my CEO. He’s single but there’s absolutely no way I’d even hint towards something more than a professional relationship. Can’t risk my career, I love it too much.

When I catch a whiff of his incredible aftershave or our eyes meet across a meeting room, I have to be careful he doesn’t notice the blush though! 😳

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1117169 - 10 May, 2022 - 06:57PM

@Ashford Man

It certainly can help If both of the lovers are not permanently employed full time in the same part of the same workplace.

In your case you were just passing through. Its a different matter if the lovers have to face each other and function normally all day every day and try to keep it discreet. If it does go sour, or they get found out, things usually get very difficult and painful and more often than not one or both has to leave.

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1520846 - 10 May, 2022 - 04:00PM

Sorry but I am going to say Yes it can work. I work as a freelance and met someone in the office during an assignment. it was a very secret affair and we continued to see each other after I left for a few more months.


1396951 - 09 May, 2022 - 09:34PM

Tricky.
Some people can make it work, I know a few couples who met at work. Zero dramas whatsoever. Maybe they're the lucky ones.
I've always said it's all well and good as long as there's no problems. When that happens, potential for serious grief.


ClassyLady77 - 09 May, 2022 - 09:29PM

My golden rule is NEVER do anything with anyone at work.. I’ve only broke that once. Was only a kiss but I felt awful after.. To close to home.

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charlottexx - 09 May, 2022 - 07:51PM

Bad idea.
Don't s*** where you eat.
Someone will find out, they always do.
Stick to ie

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1483184 - 09 May, 2022 - 07:23PM

Ladies point of view =Idiotic death wish trouble
Mens view = get your Willie out swing it round office and see who jumps on , what could possibly go wrong

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TheBoredHousewife - 09 May, 2022 - 06:56PM

Maybe if young, free and single. With another who is also young, free and single. Then it’ll be ‘awwww, they look so sweet together 😍😍’

Older and married…..what on earth are you thinking?!

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Paula99 - 09 May, 2022 - 06:47PM

Never ever play away at work...it will all end in tears and you will become the office gossip.

DONT GO THERE..😕

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Hedone - 09 May, 2022 - 06:29PM

Three words…

awkward, stupid, NO

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ExoticOrchid - 09 May, 2022 - 06:12PM

Only if you have a death wish!!!

Apart from anything else, in today's climate, you could even end up with accusations of sexual harassment!!!

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susan104 - 09 May, 2022 - 05:34PM

Yes far to. Close it could end up messy plus other workers notice these things and it becomes gossip stick to here 😂

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1506940 - 09 May, 2022 - 05:01PM

Not a good idea at work. What are her expectations? Flirting can just be friendliness or real flirting because they feel safe and don't expect you to do anything about it coz you're married. If you made a move she might expect you to progress the relationship and leave your wife, if she is single.

Here, we are clear, nsa fun or fun and romance but definitely no life/marriage changing affair. Much safer on IE. Singles here don't expect the married one to leave their spouse, in fact don't even want that at all. Singles are here and not match.com for the reason they understand and like this set up.

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1514809 - 09 May, 2022 - 04:39PM

It’s tricky. Once you talk about it then it’s forever out there. I say do what feels right, but think about how it might feel or be like on the other side, assuming you have a thing with her and then it ends at some point. Is that something you want to be hanging over you at work until either one of you leave?
Listen to your heart and try to ignore your penis - if the risk is worth it go for it.

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1382700 - 09 May, 2022 - 11:53AM

Well you could just ask her!!!

What does it matter anyway. You’re on a cheat site so are you hoping she is or isn’t married


gemini2310 - 09 May, 2022 - 11:06AM

It can be very tricky getting involved with someone you work with I did it years ago.When it ends you also lose them as a colleague and a friend.He became very bitter towards me and people at work do gossip but each to there own that was just my experience so never again for me.

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1490598 - 09 May, 2022 - 10:33AM

Depends on the person I guess. Mine meant we mutually split and I thought we were just friends like we were before then one day out of the blue she just stopped talking to me completely with no explanation.🤷🏽‍♂️

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Blueeyes34 - 09 May, 2022 - 09:34AM

The only way to find out is to make a move. He who hesitates is lost.


Our Day Will Come - 09 May, 2022 - 09:15AM

I used to meet most of my girlfriends at or through work. These days… you’d have to be very careful because an unwelcome comment could land you in a lot of trouble.

Best to stick to online, where just by being here someone is saying they’re open to being chatted up.

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1521008 - 09 May, 2022 - 09:10AM

You probably spend more time with you colleague than you do at home. I always found that if there is an attraction it will show up at a night out. This can be great but also trouble if your in a position of management. Best thing to do is talk to her. You will soon know if she’s into you.

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1117169 - 09 May, 2022 - 08:48AM

From personal experience women colleagues tend to give out subtle signs, and sometimes not so subtle, when they find a colleague attractive. They expect the man to pick up on them and respond in some form, though lots of men are not good at reading them. She may be just being friendly or flirtatious of course, and these days its a potential minefield in the workplace if the man acts on them.

Why don't you choose a discreet moment and tell her she has a lovely smile and ask her what makes her seem so happy. Nobody could take that the wrong way. She will either clam up with embarrassment or give you a stronger hint about what she has in mind with you, if anything.

You can then play it by ear but bear in mind that workplace affairs / romances can turn out very sour and damaging very quickly and other colleagues will pick up on it very quickly too. They can also turn into wonderful relationships but if one or both of you are married, and I assume you are, it will have major long term costs and consequences

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