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Sandypops - 17 May, 2023 - 02:41AM

I'm not actually bothered about a username. It's the initial message that will either intrigue me, make me laugh or not. As to the pictures, there does need to be something that that appeals to me. I've come across some 'interesting' pics that wouldn't look out of place on a crimewatch 'most wanted' display 😂 I've put up loads of 'photos, trying to show different aspects of my personality and my figure. I'm going by the assumption that if we get on and meet, they're going to see me, so don't want them getting any nasty surprises 😂
Interestingly though, the guys I have got on the best with, had very few 'photos and they intrigued me. There was something about the photos (not necessarily an immediate animalistic physical attraction) that made me want to talk to them. And it was the chat that got me hooked.

Attractive lips - 17 May, 2023 - 02:10AM

I wish more men knew how to care for women

1598075 - 16 May, 2023 - 11:54PM

Well said 13556427

Cheesypuff - 06 Feb, 2023 - 12:50AM

No offence taken my lovely

Cheesypuff - 01 Jan, 2023 - 11:03PM

I'm only Cheesy by name 🧀

Marlen - 20 Dec, 2022 - 07:38PM

Never judge a book by its cover.

As regards the profile name, i prefer the term nom d'amour...I appreciate if the name is crude, it may not appeal, but if it got your attention? It did its job.
For those that aren't rude / tacky, it should be different to be memorable.

On the profile picture...everyone has their eye candy preference, so no right or wrong in that regard...with one exception filters!
Ladies & Gents, bin the filters...they're so obviously fake.

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Red Succubus - 10 Oct, 2022 - 05:31PM

Profile names mean a lot…some will turn me off completely and I will bin them off without any discussion.
And the ones with 69 or pussy in their name, instant reject

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Kris4177 - 10 Oct, 2022 - 05:30PM

Iv just put my name?

1352614 - 10 Oct, 2022 - 04:59PM

Ha women are as bad as men on here 🤣😜

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53789 - 10 Oct, 2022 - 04:43PM

Although I'm not a real Lord,I find it creates enough curiosity to invite the ladies to enquire 😁

1550452 - 10 Oct, 2022 - 03:56PM

And why do guys think the first pic should be of there private parts really

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Sexy Senorita xo - 16 Jul, 2022 - 09:45PM

I don't know, I've had some messages from some men with very imaginative profile names. So much so you know exactly what it is that they're looking for/or names their talents😂

3rdAge - 24 Jun, 2020 - 03:33PM

Sorry, as a nosy fella I could not resist taking a peak at this! It is all about the privacy bit and Im speaking as one who's other half would probably not be phased if she knew but I see no point in upsetting anybodys apple cart especially my own if its not necessary. However, I would be very interested indeed to hear alternative suggestions etc (I have tried to be as straightforward as possible in my profile) but must admit picture is perhaps a bit errr Iffy if you catch my drift.

Gormlessoaf - 21 Jun, 2020 - 07:42PM

Appealing names are for women who are looking through a paint chart.

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Golden Brown446 - 21 Jun, 2020 - 07:18PM

Whats in a name? Sometimes the very thing that defines you doesn't appeal to others but in some way or other you have to standout as it may appeal to some, it's a difficult one, it also in part depends which type of lady you;re trying to attract. A name such as King of Opera may appeal to the classic type of lady or Mr Bad boy may attract the more adventurous types.
If difficult to know at times what a lady wants as there are a lot of standard profiles and God knows how many times I've seen by day I'm in the office and at night I'm Batman... . As for enticing I'm in agreement about effort but on the other hand ladies rejection is normal here but politely please. :-)

246345 - 11 Jun, 2020 - 07:27PM

I've designed my own avatar, but it's a wasted endeavor as very few notice it. And I don't feel comfortable using my own picture. As to my name, it could lend itself to a sexual meaning, but that is totally unintended as I find those type of names off putting.

1344628 - 16 May, 2020 - 04:00PM

I'm with you on this one. Once I commented about a guy's photos that they were not quite visible. His explanation was, oh I really shouldn't be on here, that's why my photos are of that quality. I just lost interest because I thought, so why are you on IE

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1366459 - 10 May, 2020 - 01:34PM

Totally agree with you..

1382941 - 07 May, 2020 - 05:22PM

What I don't comprehend are the number of single/divorced women on here who will not put up a pic.. or two.. preferably not 10yrs old! Kudos to those of you who do but, as a single guy I have my pics public and recent. Being forced to beg for a look is demeaning and a little power game! Shame on you!

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1377030 - 29 Apr, 2020 - 04:06PM

Pista and Teicu... tell me what you need to make that happen! xx 👏😍😘

1377030 - 29 Apr, 2020 - 04:02PM

Here’s how I see it in terms of risk around displaying your own pic. For me...
• blokes I know aren’t searching for other blokes, so they won’t see it
• my wife is not on here.. and if she was and found me then maybe a VK and a virtual gift might rekindle that magic 😝😎
• (female) mates of my wife may see me on here and either be intrigued enough to tell, but more likely be sensible enough to protect their own discretion and not say anything..or send a VK to surprise me 😜
- Hiding in plain sight you might say.

All I would say is that even a pixelated image showing body shape, dress sense, hair style, lifestyle etc is going to be far more authentic and attractive to a potential suitor.

What follows depends on your typing ability before you can get together of course.. 😉😘🥰

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ExoticOrchid - 29 Apr, 2020 - 03:58PM

I think some of the very [sexually] crude names are click baits!

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Golly.1k - 29 Apr, 2020 - 03:51PM

New here, sorry ladies have a non enticing profile but will change it

MatureWorcsBBW - 29 Apr, 2020 - 03:50PM

I'm not keen on overly sexualized usernames. It does put me off I'm afraid.

I'm not even a prude, I just think that there's a time and place for erotic conversion and for me, that is only going to happen during in the flesh meetings.

It reminds me of those hormonal teenage boys who indulged in inappropriate conversations that he almost certainly has no actual experience of. It's all way too much fantasy for me.

I'm only here for a meet to be reality.

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1353301 - 29 Apr, 2020 - 03:43PM

Well that topic went down well today I actually changed my profile pic last night and the response was a lot of profile views
Just shows what a bit of flesh or glimpse of a face can achieve 🤣

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Lillib - 29 Apr, 2020 - 03:36PM

Names really is no big deal although profile pic can be.
The personal information is the best attractions for me yes. You get so many messages and it can be tasking to respond to all for someone who try as much to respond to all messages. There are lots of time wasting conversation here. Offensive ones also not all though. I have suspended my account many times. I have made a friend here which is okay but what I really want I’ve not found yet..

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851951 - 29 Apr, 2020 - 03:21PM

Pista. Read my profile it may interest you

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851951 - 29 Apr, 2020 - 03:16PM

CookieLover you are exactly the type I stay away from...too much of a risk taker will always get you in trouble at some point

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AAGilfan - 29 Apr, 2020 - 03:15PM

Arabelle, is that because ginger nuts might have been exactly what you were facing if you had accepted that offer....!!! They are not everyones cup of tea - or even ones teabagging in that situation - but I guess chacun a son goute (as the French would say with some accents thrown in).....😂😂😂

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851951 - 29 Apr, 2020 - 03:15PM

Drew4444 I do but I don’t spend every minute on here so I do what works for me. If I’m not interested I don’t reply, end of

1364794 - 29 Apr, 2020 - 03:15PM

Exoticorchid - 🤣😂

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ExoticOrchid - 29 Apr, 2020 - 03:09PM

Pistachiotiger - 29 Apr, 2020 - 02:43PM

Surely there are specialist sites if that's how you swing [no pun intended, haha].

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1364794 - 29 Apr, 2020 - 03:08PM

AA Gilfan, thanks for your advice. I indeed avoid talking to men with short profiles myself but surprisingly I’ve been doing pretty well. Chemistry is a different matter but indeed I’ve been lucky enough to have met some decent people. After all you don’t find much about someone by reading a long detailed profile. You need to start to communicate and it just takes one message. 😉

I guess I could indicate in my profile that I’m looking for ladies too but i think in reality it would be just men who see that, as I am officially “a female looking for a male”!

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1377030 - 29 Apr, 2020 - 03:04PM

I’ve shared my pics publicly. Since having an affair is a risk anyway, so it’s all part of the thrill. Not recommended, I know.. but it means that a few gorgeous ladies have messaged me who may not otherwise.


Many (lady) profiles are quite combative (‘if you don’t like x, jog on’ etc) or so vague (love Whitney Houston, but not Madonna.. really?), that it’s hard to imagine what being with that person would be like.

The best profiles are pragmatic (meeting time availability), a little informative (casual vs dressy etc), a little provocative.. and maybe what she likes - or doesn’t! - in a guy.. now that you can put a response to..

And please please reply to say not interested.. we’re not all monsters. Maybe even feeling a little vulnerable and would appreciate the feedback to learn from.

Thanks for listening to my

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1376887 - 29 Apr, 2020 - 03:02PM

@AAGilfan that might have been his next move , it put me off my ginger nut biscuit!

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removalizer - 29 Apr, 2020 - 02:59PM

I always put my photo up in public then hopefully if any Ladies are interested then they will message me, not working so far I'm afraid

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1364794 - 29 Apr, 2020 - 02:57PM

Oooh three people liked my comment below. Suppose this is where girls read what girls write... please hit me if you’d be interested in talking to me after checking out my profile, although there isn’t much I must admit... but am ready to answer questions x

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AAGilfan - 29 Apr, 2020 - 02:55PM

Arabelle - at least he didn't suggest that you could use it as a chin rest.....

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AAGilfan - 29 Apr, 2020 - 02:54PM

PistachioTiger, you can. You just haven't put it in your profile. In reality a one line profile which does not say much about yourself is less likely to attract a more serious response. Indeed generally I avoid those that are so brief or just rely on the set profiles as I always have concerns as to what might lie behind them. Your profile is a shop window for you. That's not to say that a shop window can't be effective by being relatively minimalist but it does have to give some clue as to what lies behind it and what might be found on the inside. Set profiles or overly brief profiles are likely to attract the chancers and the persons who are just interested in the physical side because on the basis that you give nothing else away, why else would you be on the site? Go on PistachioTiger, put your best foot forward and drive the guys nuts with some further details as to who you are, rather than just potentially attract the nutters….. :-)

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1368132 - 29 Apr, 2020 - 02:53PM

And today I had a lovely chat with a lady who's profile really made me laugh out loud, I never anticipated from the content that we would be a match (age) but actually she was very open, we had a decent conversation and I am not broken by rejection... 😂🤣😭

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851951 - 29 Apr, 2020 - 02:52PM

Pista....
Me too, IE would be a better place if females could message females

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1367118 - 29 Apr, 2020 - 02:50PM

@ArnoldB I tend to try to find some common ground the interests always helps to discuss first. Try putting something in the title which relates to what the lady is looking for or a comment you can bounce off. I try not to be looking too try to hard sometimes a cheeky comment but never too naughty sometimes you can gauge a girls response from what they've already written in their profile but remember it could be interpreted in a different way you mean it to be

1376887 - 29 Apr, 2020 - 02:50PM

@pistachiotiger I wish we had that option as well.

SAYSomething x - 29 Apr, 2020 - 02:47PM

Arabelle - :'D oh dear....

1376887 - 29 Apr, 2020 - 02:46PM

I think it’s all a case of perspective, I had a message asking if I wanted to stroke his perineum. I think hello would have been a better start.

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SAYSomething x - 29 Apr, 2020 - 02:46PM

H4ppyg0luck1 - I would be too, take no notice!! Seems that person wasn't worth your while anyway.... better to find out sooner rather than later

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SAYSomething x - 29 Apr, 2020 - 02:43PM

@ ArnoldB - anything but 'hi there' or 'hello' so boring..
I've had some men message me with a joke, I tend to take kindly to those kind of ice breakers. Men can afterall laugh a lady into bed! One minute you're laughing next minute you're knickers are off hahaha opps.

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1364794 - 29 Apr, 2020 - 02:43PM

why can’t I indicate that I’m looking for ladies as well as men? Some people swing both ways...

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MatureWorcsBBW - 29 Apr, 2020 - 02:35PM

I disagree.
A no reply is definitely a sign of no interest and it saves all manner of unpleasantness.

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1367118 - 29 Apr, 2020 - 02:35PM

So I messaged a new member yesterday she actually shared her photo pw straight away which I dont recommend obligingly I shared mine heard nothing back so just messaged her back to see if yes or no and got a message saying I was blocked! Now i dont consider myself a model but I was offended by that response:(

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AAGilfan - 29 Apr, 2020 - 02:26PM

With regard to the profile pic, you do have to be careful if you are being discreet so pasting your pic all over the place is not always sensible. Its nice to have at least a bit of chat with each other before someone launches in for a request for a pw. I accept that people might not want to waste time if they think the lack of physical chemistry would overcome the conversational chemistry. But pictures often don't do people justice - they are 2 dimensional whereas conversation will give you a more all round feel.

As regards names, one v funny much older ex-IE of mine had a particular suffix to her name. She actually used that suffix on different profiles she had on here & u could tell it was her as her profile barely changed - alth0 her age did! :-) But that was all part of her being a great character, funny, loads of fun both in & out of bed & great company. We are still in touch text regularly meet now and again for a drink (and a little kiss). That's the beauty of this site. You get to meet great peop

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1380712 - 29 Apr, 2020 - 02:24PM

And no a “ no reply “ isn’t the best way to deal with it. Just be honest, it goes a long way.

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1260412 - 29 Apr, 2020 - 02:23PM

I can't decide if this site has gone downhill in the last ten years, or if it is actually me who has gone downhill in the last ten years... I definitely got more interest years ago.

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1382125 - 29 Apr, 2020 - 02:22PM

Just joined, will update mine in time.

1380712 - 29 Apr, 2020 - 02:22PM

I get blown out by 99% of the ladies on here but I never take offence. I thank them for their honesty and wish them all the best.......their loss I reckon 😂😂😂

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1378738 - 29 Apr, 2020 - 02:21PM

What are some really good message headers that have made you go straight to that message rather than any other?

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1358651 - 29 Apr, 2020 - 02:20PM

Hi!
I personally believe that names don’t matter that much but photos may be the key to start the conversation.
It’s better to clarify the vision and then start getting into conversation as there could be the case that you start the conversation and start liking the other side and then u don’t like the picture! That could be the awkward situation to put someone off due to the looks, could feel offensive,specially when u r getting to know each other.
But again, everyone has a different priority!
When I say the pictures, preferably the face or the overall picture than the private parts!!

ExoticOrchid - 29 Apr, 2020 - 02:17PM

Travel bug - 29 Apr, 2020 - 02:04PM

Agree with Arabelle … swap pics ASAP!

1363477 - 29 Apr, 2020 - 02:17PM

Teicu. Thanks but id rather know where i stand. If certain men are abusive im sorry but you should be reporting and blocking anyone being rude

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ExoticOrchid - 29 Apr, 2020 - 02:15PM

morning0605 - 29 Apr, 2020 - 02:05PM
" Guys looking to send “d**k pics” on first message"

There are also women who actually ask for those pics and refuse to chat until they are sent!!!
Takes all kinds folks … as I have always said, both sexes are capable of bad behaviour.

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1382160 - 29 Apr, 2020 - 02:12PM

how many of you lot have met someone from here?

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1367873 - 29 Apr, 2020 - 02:12PM

I don't give a damn thing about how your profile looks like what is your IE name you've chosen it doesn't mean anything!!

Some people are really genuine but can't Express themselves properly but in fact they are the most amazing ones to find.

On the other hand some people really make a long speech of their "demands and partner criterias" but eventually they won't be worth talking to.
Always get to know someone before being judgemental cuz the best affairs would be where you least expect them.

After all it's only my opinion 👍🙂

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1376887 - 29 Apr, 2020 - 02:09PM

@travel bug swap pics, you don’t want to get too invested then find you have no mutual attraction.

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MatureWorcsBBW - 29 Apr, 2020 - 02:08PM

It can be quite difficult deciding which language to use when you need to decline someone's interest.

I don't think that anyone deliberately wants to cause offence but it's also quite disheartening to receive further replies that either promise you that they're different in the flesh or get quiet angry and hit out in a negative and retaliatory way.

I tend to think that a no reply is a far more pleasant way to receive a rejection.

1376887 - 29 Apr, 2020 - 02:08PM

Some men do have very odd user names, like one letter and a few random numbers or their username is purely sexual which puts me right off. I like photos that show their face and a whole body shot, but that’s maybe just my preference. I also hope it’s a recent pic and not ten years out of date :)

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851951 - 29 Apr, 2020 - 02:06PM

Drew4444
If I’m not interset r I don’t reply... reason being when I do reply and say that I get abuse so silence is a must for me

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1323413 - 29 Apr, 2020 - 02:05PM

I’ve heard some right horror stories. Guys looking to send “d**k pics” on first message lol

Blimey... we are all looking for fun but surely there has to be chemistry, conversation there no?

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1370413 - 29 Apr, 2020 - 02:04PM

I’ve been chatting to a guy for about a week, we’re getting on well but I don’t know what he looks like. I’m worried if I see a photo of him or he sees one of me, we will be put off each other. Should we carry on in ignorant bliss or swap photos?

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JSBach - 29 Apr, 2020 - 02:02PM

You want to see names and pics that are what? - More saucy/explcit/fanciful?

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1363477 - 29 Apr, 2020 - 01:54PM

I tell you what. Why don't some of you so called women actually reply to messages sent to you. Even if youre not interested. Do you have any idea how annoying it is to spend ages reading and writing introductions just to be ignored.

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1262378 - 29 Apr, 2020 - 11:08AM

One for the girls? This works both sides of the table.

If people really want these affairs, wouldn't location be the game changer?

If you were to meet and you didn't like their real name, would you want them to change it?

We can (mostly) all manage to flirt or chat up, but if the IE is in Timbuktu, there's not a lot likely to happen.

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Bugwithone - 28 Apr, 2020 - 10:59PM

Wait until you get a load of mine...🔥

...you won’t stop laughing! 🤣

1368132 - 28 Apr, 2020 - 02:39PM

Not just for the girls my dear... 😂

Bog standard and lazy profile wizard details abound for both men and ladies... 😁

So I made an effort to see what responses there might be... Here's a selection...

Too posh
Too intellectual
Lovely
So honest
Charming man
Twinkly blue eyed lover
Not for me, but you sound lovely
You are too nice, do you really want an affair?

So a mixed bag. I am convinced there must be a lot of really hot guys out there and perhaps I should change sides... 😂🤣😇

My serious point is that a profile is just like a cv - if the reader likes it it may go further, if not it is all about rejection and bounce back ability...

It is no different to real dating life even with the supposedly willingness of all members/participants to enter into the "affair".

All you can do is make an effort and continue to be kind and polite 😇

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