Should I or shouldn’t I?
Hi, my wife and are still very much in love and are actually still having good sex but we both feel there’s a little something missing. So, we have just recently started an open relationship and we’ve both newly joined IE in the last couple of weeks or so. We’re both looking for quite different things from IE but obviously ultimately it comes down to wanting to get intimate with someone other than each other.
My wife seems to be getting loads of attention but me, not so much.
My question is, do you think the fact that I’ve mentioned in my profile about being in an open relationship is putting a lot of ladies off.
Should I not mention it? Or is it something else?
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1660660 - 05 Jul, 2024 - 12:11AM
Looking at this from a male perspective, @aim to please 48, you are going to end up more of a cuckold than in an open relationship. You need to decide if this is what you want. It might be and if so, good on you. But if this is going to cause you pain, then this is something to discuss with your wife.
None of us know the nuances of your relationship. I wish you the best of luck. For me, if my wife had an affair and she was discreet enough that I didn’t know about it, I would live in blissful ignorance. I would be neither happy nor sad- because I wouldn’t know and I would trust her to be faithful.
A seen thing can’t be unseen. She can’t take up this option now.
Clearly this is not the case for the two accounts who have been posting.
If you want to know, about her affairs, but not be a cuckold perhaps some variation of fetlife is the place for you to find the answers.
But the answers you find might not be what you want to hear.
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ExoticOrchid - 04 Jul, 2024 - 11:13PM
FluffyClouds - 10:34PM
I don't recall that thread either ... did you admit to being the OP as FluffyClouds or as your other profile name of Fourinchheels? I'm confused. 🤔
ExoticOrchid - 04 Jul, 2024 - 11:04PM
sl4m - 09:39PM
Indeed you are correct in what you say. It would appear that those who have never been have certain perceptions about these venues which are obviously wrong.
As for this particular OP's "open relationship" I am with Life is a Beach ... how is it open when it is one sided and the OP is terrified of losing his wife so he's just going along with it. It is obviously not "open" like LadyDe's marriage.
Having first read the thread and going by what was in it, I commented. Then the OP started commenting and totally changed the scenario. 🤷🏻♀️
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FluffyClouds - 04 Jul, 2024 - 10:34PM
EmnEm -
I've admitted to being an OP on the forum. You must have missed that one. You thought the OP for my question 'must be a man'...I did find it amusing though
Life is a beach - 04 Jul, 2024 - 10:14PM
Aim to please48,
Loads of good advice from many of the ladies, Becky, Fluffy, Orchid, Paula, Enigma, who I know are not new to this.
Your wife seems to have her cake and eating it whilst you are left with nothing...
I know it was your idea but you really are not enjoying trying to find someone else in your 'open relationship'
Your decision means she is satisfying her needs. Is it really an open relationship?
Are you interested in finding an IE for yourself? Or, are you just giving into her?
You should be honest in your profile. Do revert back that you are in an open relationship. Personally, like some old hands here, I wouldn't go near a man doing that, but some would. I would appreciate honesty.
I am sorry to say this but this is not looking good for you.
I don't wish it, I will never want it, in my view, an open relationship should be mutual. Yours seems one way.
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LadyDe - 04 Jul, 2024 - 09:58PM
@Aim to please 48
I’m in a very similar situation to you, me and my husband have an Open Marriage, he has his GF and I have my IE and yes we have a great relationship and regular good sex etc etc…
Sorry I left the Forum because there are a lot of females on here, the few that comment all the time, they don’t understand and clearly never will … life is like a box of chocolates ..
Have fun and as long as you both communicate then it’s all great
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