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boav91 - 27 Oct, 2023 - 10:35PM

It is interesting. The person I have connected with and I were talking about this the other day. We both had met people and thought we had got on with them, but it only now with each other that we feel as we have gotten to know each other better that we really get each other. There are so many similarities in what we want on here and in how we see the world and relationships in general. I guess it is a match for each other we were both looking for. A connection, funnily enough.

Initially though it was the ease of the chat, the effortlessness of it all, and finding you have spent 3 hrs talking and it felt like 5 minutes. Then when you meet the time disappears and you think you have just arrived.

WE had both met others before and there was some degree of connection or you wont want to meet up, but as others have said some if it is there from the start, but in many ways it grows also with time. When you find it though , you know.

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LadyDe - 27 Oct, 2023 - 10:30PM

@partimebf
Yep I agree … it just happens and hard to explain

LadyDe - 27 Oct, 2023 - 10:28PM

See I’m a suckers for the crap, moving wallpaper program “Love Is Blind” I find the pre tease, flirt, banter, in texts etc without talking is such a turn on … in fact I’ve met 4 in real life and safe to say we’ve ALL been drawn because of the connection we’ve made and I’m still in touch with them, I have my IE lover out of them too … the mind, the imagination, the senses, the mmm need I say more are the proper connection

Princess0121 - 27 Oct, 2023 - 08:20PM

Becky Sharp

You are quite right in your warning of not making too much of a connection before a meeting. Some people on here are very dishonest about their looks to the point where they have fake pics on the site. So if you build a connection beforehand and think he/she is what you are looking for, you are in for the shock of your life. As much as human beings think looks don't matter that's a white lie. It doesn't matter how much you think you are connected until you meet. The physical attraction, the voice, the eyes, everything just puts the icing on the cake.

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1494077 - 27 Oct, 2023 - 06:42PM

Parttimebf - 27 Oct, 2023 - 05:09PM

I think you’ve articulated this perfectly

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Parttimebf - 27 Oct, 2023 - 05:09PM

my idea of an elusive connection would encompass the following
somehow you just have this trust. you dont neccessarily know the exact moment this happens but its there.
message exchanges seems to scroll up forever and youd say to y ourself, did we really say all that to each other?
the sex was different.it was the best.

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Paula99 - 27 Oct, 2023 - 05:05PM

Hmmmm…

You can have lots of connections in your life through work /family / friends /acquaintances…but the sexual connection/chemistry is as elusive as the scarlet pimpernel…

For me ….to develop a real connection… then it just doesn’t happen over night …I can fancy a guy but do I like him enough to rip his clothes off?
There has to be a mental connection as well as a physical one…as you can have sex with anyone but will it be mind blowing ?

Connection means quality not quantity 😉

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Parttimebf - 27 Oct, 2023 - 03:44PM

What elder Tony Said!

marklondonengland - 27 Oct, 2023 - 02:52PM

You can develop a connection when messaging. It's when you feel very comfortable talking to the person and they are interesting - even if it is just messages. Of course, to develop a stronger and much closer connection you need to meet in person, but it is possible to weed out someone you will find boring in person just by trying to have a conversation online first - if they can't engage and interest you in a chat then they are unlikely to be any better in person!

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1625309 - 27 Oct, 2023 - 02:08PM

I am finding on here there is a variety of exchanges between me and different women. What I have found is the very best connections I’ve made so far (2) are with someone who’s contacted me first. It may be just coincidence of course. In both cases we’ve got on extremely well and soon began to share things in depths, about our lives as well as sexual experiences. So far haven’t met as distance is a bit of a problem but that’s another matter. But the on-line connections were soon recognised by what we talked about and would make it so much easier to develop further if we do meet.

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