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laugar164 - 28 Jul, 2025 - 04:30PM

You should know by how the lady responds to your touch and what you are doing ,asking how was that would put a bit of a damp squib on the situation. Hopefully you get an idea what she is into. By the chats you have already had
Or you could always. Ask her to put it on a post it note And put it on her forehead 😂

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Amandi1712 - 28 Jul, 2025 - 03:51PM

I always ask how was that, what can I do to make it better for you. The key thing is keep it new and exciting, whether that’s quicky or something where you have more time. Don’t fall into the trap of making it routine, try new things, open your mind a bit.

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James Brooke - 28 Jul, 2025 - 10:58AM

I don’t think it would be well received that I’m unhappy about zero sex by my wife as she’s going go through menopause and sex doesn’t even register on her radar…

Bikerbaddboy25 - 28 Jul, 2025 - 10:25AM

Just tell the truth. No point in beating around the bush. Yes and I think everyone does it or why would we be on here . 😊

Doubleohseven - 28 Jul, 2025 - 09:30AM

Everyone at some point mentally compares his lover to the one(s) before. I don't mentally "rank" them, but I do note and compare. Why I like Abc so much? Is it because she's more open, more affectionate, less manipulative than Xyz? And if she's more shy in bed than Xyz, is there anything I can do to gradually build the trust that will reduce that shyness?
The crass element of these comparisons is taking them outside of your mind and communicating them to someone else. Unless that's part of the whole setup, as on FabSwingers (where it is really like on Amazon, with formal ratings) - not judging, but not for me.
An affair is a strange animal. You always strive to find the person who's got it all, both the things you love in your partner and the ones your partner lost, or never had. One affair after another, you get closer and closer to perfection....and when you find your perfect partner, you must be careful not to fall in love or it will vanish it from your hands.

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87athleticbrown7size - 28 Jul, 2025 - 08:57AM

Got to speak to each other clearly. Without it there is no connection..

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boav91 - 28 Jul, 2025 - 08:53AM

For me this is so short termist. If you are having a series of ONS then compare away. You are then ranking your notches. If you want to develop a real connection then over time with the right person you get to know each other, you talk about what was great and what you could try next time, how to improve it for both of you. If anyone thinks they are perfect and know the person straight off and what makes each person have a perfect time they are deluded. Sorry but you can have as much technique as you like and you make the other person climax but my experience is everyone is different and needs different things to arouse them to their peak. 10/10 only comes when you have got to know the person so well you know those boxes to tick and what each other like and don’t like and communicate what you want to try next and do more . That comes from not having ONS and actually developing a connection over a bit of time, it only then gets better and better and better with the right person at least,

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MurphysLaw - 22 Aug, 2024 - 07:33PM

Sex should be a steady flow of communication. Both giving information and recieving it.
If you communicate it's always 10/10

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Abs Olute Newbie - 17 Aug, 2024 - 07:50PM

Im just thinking …
You get intimate
You finish the session
You go drive hime
You park in your drive and you get a customer survey text.
Rate our session…. Yuk

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1680841 - 04 Aug, 2024 - 09:55PM

Is it not bad enough we have to work to KPIs at work, that we now have to do the same with our affairs?? 🤣🤣🤣

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