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Sandypops - 13 Aug, 2023 - 09:17AM

Ladies and gents. HELP
I'm in a loveless marriage of 30 yrs which I've not felt strong enough to leave. Married to a narcissist who has extinguished my spark in my home life (not that you'd know it if you met me I'm told, but my family see it)
Even sex has been taken under duress. Please don't comment on that bit, I know exactly what that constitutes.
I fell big time for a guy from this site. He was open and honest and told me, when we met, that he had a strong connection with another and they were planning to meet to see if they clicked. He met me first and we hit it off. It was full on from the first meeting and we met the Friday for a drink (and then hotel) Saturday at the pub and Sunday for a dog walk. He met this other woman for a drink and told me they had got on and they were going to meet intimately and then he'd decide who he wanted to see as his ie.
I met him to walk his dog every week. The other woman had ill health so their second meet was continually postponed. Cont/...

JimmyG789 - 13 Aug, 2023 - 08:09AM

The first key L for me is Like, if you hit it off as people and fancy each other that's the jackpot

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Funguy77 - 12 Aug, 2023 - 08:11PM

Iv been married twice. First for 13 years and my current marriage for 14 years. I can hand on heart say I do not know if I am or have ever been in love.. may sound odd but that’s part of the reason I started to do this to see if the lightning bolt exists 😞

Xx

Parttimebf - 13 Jul, 2023 - 05:12PM

Indulgence

laugar164 - 13 Jul, 2023 - 02:03PM

Sandypops I had a long affair for several years and it was hard when we separated as you can't spend that much time together with out some feelings

Our saving grade was at the start we both agreed that if either of our feelings were getting to strong or the affair was having an impact on there marriage or family
Then we would part So although it wasn't easy we both understand why it need to stop

ClassyLady77 - 13 Jul, 2023 - 01:17PM

I don’t open up to anyone, unless they open up to me. . My last affair was for 3 years and I never fell in love, we were just friends with benefits and that was the line. No feeling but towards the end I did think he had feelings for me.

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1610286 - 13 Jul, 2023 - 12:52PM

Is not being able to experience love or the emotional feelings associated with it abnormal? Why does it always have to be lust?

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1610286 - 13 Jul, 2023 - 12:28PM

For me the L word is Love. In the younger days it definitely felt more the latter. The trouble with love is that it hurts. The more you get hurt, the more you feel it isn't worth it. Then it dies away and you reach a certain age when you realise nothing is permanent in life.
So all you men and women out there, enjoy what you do but don't hurt someone or get hurt.

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Eliza Boo - 28 Jun, 2023 - 02:10AM

Absofuckinglutely what Paula said. Xx

Been4ever - 23 Jun, 2023 - 09:10PM

Long affair would be nice, so would a first date.