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1585013 - 21 Mar, 2023 - 02:37PM

I agree - too close is not great for obvious reasons ..

But as said by an IE member yesterday - it’s more time you can spend together without causing alarm of anyone else is a good thing ..

I do travel for work -so it could be said it’s easier for me .. but would still want a single connection with someone - that has to be explored .. to get truly an understanding of each other and each others needs ..

But an occasional longer distance for reendevous is a nice thing , where you can both enjoy the freedom of not bumping into any estranged relatives or friends - duck and cover isn’t a rewarding experience .. so someone told me once … honest

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1582894 - 21 Mar, 2023 - 02:27PM

I had a long affair with someone 2 hours away, used to meet in the middle a couple of times a month. It was deliberate to make sure there was zero crossover in our real lives. First couple of years was fine, but after a while it became more and more difficult to see eachother. I wouldn’t do that kind of distance again.

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1588499 - 21 Mar, 2023 - 02:21PM

Has anybody actually bumped into an IE whilst out and about? I guess as long as your spouse didn't see your initial surprised reaction you could easily play it cool and walk on by, giving a knowing smile of course.

lovetogo - 21 Mar, 2023 - 02:04PM

I wouldnt go out of the county,but.i wouldnt want them to close either.

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1588499 - 21 Mar, 2023 - 01:49PM

Good timelines, Ferrari. My last IE was about 1:30 away so it was typically 45 mins each for meets. About 30 minutes seems optimum but not too close. Agree with Rff though, if you like them enough you'll do what it takes!

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Redfirefox - 21 Mar, 2023 - 01:40PM

Mine are quite a distance away however they may be worth the inconvenience of it. When there’s a will there’s a way.

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1587581 - 21 Mar, 2023 - 01:35PM

It's time for me rather than distance. Living in Kent just outside the M25 I can get to Brighton quicker than I can get 7-8 miles into London.

up to 30 mins ideal
up to 45 min ok
up to 60 mins or more then your at the sliding scale of hotness and avialability.

When I was younger I once flew to America for a girl.....the things we do when we're young eh?

If you click and the availability is right and you can travel then go with it.

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Amo2021 - 21 Mar, 2023 - 12:47PM

We dont want to be on eachother doorstep, but the closer you are the easier it is to get away, even if for a short time, an gives you more time to spend with eachother rather than travelling miles.

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ClassyLady77 - 21 Mar, 2023 - 11:48AM

The nearer someone is the better and easier to plan meets.. obviously don’t want to near.. a few miles is more than enough min..

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Fidges1 - 21 Mar, 2023 - 09:51AM

Yes 30 would be fine or a little more like every one side do want to bump. Into them unless arranged