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Can attraction not just be physical?

I met a wonderful lady recently. We had been chatting for some time, and finally met up. The connection is definitely there. Things have now progressed to the bedroom. Alas physically I am disappointed. Without going into too much detail, it seems that quite a bit of padding support has been used. I really prefer a ‘good handful’. Much as I really like her, my physical desires for what constitutes a woman are not met. I feel I have been lied to, but do not want to hurt her feelings. How do I let her down gently, or do I stay, as she is very keen and I do love her personality?

Thank you for posting this. I genuinely am in a dilemma!

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EmnEm123 - 15 Mar, 2024 - 09:22PM

No OP, you shouldn't stay, if she knew how you really felt I doubt she would be so keen.

Thinkingwomanshunk
As a tall,thin woman with small boobs I've never had a bra that really makes me look that much bigger. These days I wouldn't even bother.

P99 is correct, perhaps she would have liked a massive dick but how would she know what any man had until seeing/feeling it?

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Eliza Boo - 15 Mar, 2024 - 06:06PM

As a woman with DD cup I can say tits are just bags of fat that get in the way. Its all about the shape and form and small breasts can be perfect. If I could choose I'd much rather a lovely long lean frame with gorgeous legs and a fine rump anyday over my 'jubblies'...and I think most men feel that too. Big boobs just make me think of that giant lactating breast from the Woody Allen film 'Sleeper'.

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Bellab50 - 15 Mar, 2024 - 04:28PM

Honesty without being cruel, or just say it doesn’t work for you, your both consent adults.


Thinkingwomanshunk - 15 Mar, 2024 - 03:35PM

AHH the joys of the wonder bra. Like unwrapping a big box at Christmas only to find it half empty. :0)
However if you've gotten to the bedroom at that point if you truly lust after each other it should really not matter as long as you can truly pleasure each other.

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Paula99 - 15 Mar, 2024 - 01:56PM

I wonder how you would feel if she said you had a small dick when you removed the extra pair of socks …but of course she doesn’t want to hurt your feelings and you are very keen and she does love your personality…

Double edged sword 🗡️…you arsehole 😖

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laugar164 - 15 Mar, 2024 - 01:54PM

Well I find that comment very shallow
For me there has to be a physical attraction and mental attraction to its no good humping a great pair of boobs
If they're is no sort of mental connection

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smooth operator - 15 Mar, 2024 - 01:34PM

I think the author has already said far more than should be stated.
Discretion should be the most important trait that all of us try to utilise.
If this was an exam
I would recommend a significant amount of learning is undertaken prior to a re-sit

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1649649 - 15 Mar, 2024 - 11:45AM

You wrote, 'Alas physically I am disappointed'. I assume you 'finished' and have to continue to do so many times over and over again.

Leave her alone. She deserves better.

Going forward, be unapologetic about your needs and wants. Articulate clearly your desires to attract your ideal person. Be as specific as you dare to vet and hopefully avoid inflicting the disappointment that you've supposedly experienced.

Know thyself and be true in order to navigate these marital dating waters, mindfully.

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Who dares - 15 Mar, 2024 - 08:53AM

I find that if you get on really well then physical attributes fade to insignificance .It is a huge aphrodisiac if a lady finds me attractive .I wonder if the OP had continued with this lady he might have grown to find her as sexy as f*** as he said he loved her personally

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1654877 - 15 Mar, 2024 - 08:49AM

Leave her. You are here to find a sex plus emotional connection. If it is not meet go back to your wife.

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